Relationship Questions

[Guest padded_husky87]

I Have a questions for those of you who are lucky enough to be in a relationship with another ab/dl rather your an ab, dl, mommy, or daddy in a relationship where both partners are either into tje fetish or one and qnother is understanding... you get the point.

My question are this:

how does your relationship work with your fellow partner?

Are you both imto the same thing or only One partner?

For those who are Ab's and Re lucky enough to have found a partner who is willing or wants to be your mommy or daddy; do they take care of you or treat u like a baby full time or is there a time and place for it? Do you still have an adult relationship with your partner?

As you can tell I am little more interested I'm those who ar an ab and are in Relationship but I'm I'm also curiouse for those who are dl's as well. These are just examples of questions and basically just curious ok how others relationships work. My idea of relationships are warped since my parents had s bad one, and everybody around me had bad relationships and I have also never been I'm one so don't really know what tjere like in gemeral. If this is the wrong place please help me move it to tje apropriate place.

Padded_husky87

[sarah_ab]

I met my boyfriend thru the diapermates.com website back in june of 2006. We met in real life shortly after we began speaking and have been dating for over 4 years now, and living together for over 3 1/2 years of that time.

He is a daddy, and does not wear diapers at all. I am an ab, and like to be the only one wearing the diapers. I knew what i wanted in regards to a daddy, and was very clear about that when i posted in diapermates.

We are not into this 24/7. It is just a sexual fetish role play scenario we both enjoy, so at times we engage in it and at other times we do not. Also, when we engage in this role play it does not always involve the use of diapers, or eve bottles/pacifiers etc... sometimes it is just how he treats me, the way he speaks to me, etc....

So we have a very adult relationship... we both work full time, and I go to graduate school full time, we go out with friends, on vacations etc...etc....etc....

not sure what else you were looking for in regards to information or advice....

[Guest lilme]

My Daddy originally was an AB but lost interest in that aspect of it just before we met online. We met almost 6 years ago and have been living together for the past 5 years. Our relationship is mostly adult, although he often does small things that are daddy/baby... like the way he cuddles me to sleep at night.

At the time, I was heavy into ab/dl. Part of it is sexual for me, and part of it is an emotional need. However and ironically, after I hooked up with Q, my emotional need for it diminished. I think that part of me was fulfilled by Q being in my life

Quite frankly, I don't induldge very often these days as I have little desire to. Don't get me wrong, it's still a part of who I am and always will be and Q is there for me when I feel like being a baby. He's an awesome Daddy and an incredible best friend/mate.

The funny part was, we met online in an AB/DL chatroom, when neither one of us was looking. We spent countless hours chatting about anything and everything. I can't even imagine my life before him now.. seems so long ago.. so distant.

Personally, I couldn't imagine a strictly ab/dl relationship, I want more than that. But that's just me, and these are my experiences. Hope it helped.

~lilme

[curiositykilledthecat]

Well I can thank or blame DailyDiapers for my relationship

how does your relationship work with your fellow partner?

Well I am technically her daddy, however that is pretty much limited to me cleaning up after her and changing her diaper. To be blunt she is very self centered and wants everything her way, however she has mental issues so I can work with that for now.

Are you both imto the same thing or only One partner?

We're both ABDL's and I'm also a switch so I can do the daddy thing. My problem here is I rather be a bit more submissive, however it is what it is.

For those who are Ab's and Re lucky enough to have found a partner who is willing or wants to be your mommy or daddy; do they take care of you or treat u like a baby full time or is there a time and place for it? Do you still have an adult relationship with your partner?

She's not remotely a switch so yeah no baby time here, however we still have an adult relationship, however I wouldn't call it normal. Well I play with her diaper and stuff as I still have my DL side and she well she.....'tries'

[padded_husky]

Well I can thank or blame DailyDiapers for my relationship

how does your relationship work with your fellow partner?

Well I am technically her daddy, however that is pretty much limited to me cleaning up after her and changing her diaper. To be blunt she is very self centered and wants everything her way, however she has mental issues so I can work with that for now.

Are you both imto the same thing or only One partner?

We're both ABDL's and I'm also a switch so I can do the daddy thing. My problem here is I rather be a bit more submissive, however it is what it is.

For those who are Ab's and Re lucky enough to have found a partner who is willing or wants to be your mommy or daddy; do they take care of you or treat u like a baby full time or is there a time and place for it? Do you still have an adult relationship with your partner?

She's not remotely a switch so yeah no baby time here, however we still have an adult relationship, however I wouldn't call it normal. Well I play with her diaper and stuff as I still have my DL side and she well she.....'tries'

I apreciate all the posts, as most of you know by now (I'm sure) that I am just now folding to terms with who i am after a long time of self hatred and attempts to ignore or even make myself thinly i am not who i am. I am am more and more becoming comfortable with who i am as some of Seen my miner antics in chat to help myself open up.

The reason i asked about ab/dl relationships is because everyday I find out more about myself, realizing know that I habe some deep childhood isues witch play a part I'm my abness. I have just pondered to myself sbout my future ad i accept myself and think about what i want out of life and what I like. I realized that I do want to experience a relationship with someome I care for. I want to know what it is like to come home to someone I love. I habe mever been in a relatiomship, help i jabe never been on a date. Ok top of that my image or a relationship is minimal if not warped. I don't know what a normal relationship is like and what kind of relationship I would find myself in. I was just curiouse of what other peoples relationships where like. The only other image of s relationship is from the stories I read on here witch less face it. They are stories for a reason and not what I real one is like. Not that I would want some of them. I guess it just bugs me that I am completly relationship ignorent.

Thanks again for the posts amd look foward to more.

[sarah_ab]

its important to remember everyone's idea of a 'normal' relationship is different, and what you fantasize as being a normal relationship is most likely not.

in normal relationships people fight.

they get sick of each other and need a break

they can go for hours sitting in the same room and not talk to each other

they go out with their friends separately

sometimes they just don't want to hold hands

sometimes they just dont want sex

sometimes they will spend who days apart from each other, and then come home and sit in separate rooms

these are normal things... not to say this is how your entire relationship should be... but if this isn't in your idea of a 'normal relationship' than you idea is not normal.

by boyfriend and i don't share every waking thought with each other, we have separate lives, separate friends, separate thoughts, we even go to separate ab websites.

he looks at porn without me. i look at porn without him.

my boyfriend and I love to 'play fight' where we will be 'rude' and 'mean' to each other and say things that others construe as horrible, but we both know we are completely joking. The other day in the grocery store I said "i think i want something chocolatey" and he says "why you are already fat enough".... we both cracked up about this, the lady near us looked like she was going to slap him.

For other people, the idea of saying these things, even jokingly, with their partner is appalling. A normal relationship is one where BOTH people are happy and both are cared for by the other, and where both are respsected and loved and free to enjoy their lives and both parties are completely comfortable, happy, and accepting of their relationship.

There is no one normal model.

[babyvr6]

My wife and I have been married for just about 1 month now. We've been together for alost 6 years, and were ingaged for 3 of those years.

I'll get all the corny sounding(though absolutely true) stuff out of the way first.

I love her as much, if not more, than when we first met. She is the love of my life, my soul mate, and my best friend.

But before I could fully love her, I had to fully love myself.

I had a lot of demons in my past that I had to take care before we could start a life together.

I had to come to terms with myself, my abdl side, and my hatered for my nonexistant father.

So about 2 and a half years ago I came clean to her about my abdl-ness, and she was very receptive. We now are much closer, and freely discuss our desires.

That whole situation helped me, with her help, to come to terms with my desires, and realize how silly it was to hide it from her.

And on my wedding night, she prodded me into going and tracking down my father, whom I've literally never talked to my whole life. That night I was on his doorstep. After talking to him, hearing his side of the story, and effectively closing one chapter of my life, while simultanious opening another, I realized how much baggage I was carring around with me. I could never have loved her fully while thinking my father never did.

So things in my life are tons better than they were by a wide margain now.

[DaStickman]

I have been with my girlfriend near on a year now. I told her upfront and she was as understanding as anyone with no knowledge of ABDL would be. However, she knew it was important to me and she knew how much we cared about each other. She listened, learned and even posted a topic on this very website all in the good faith of understanding.

It was odd for her to see me in a nappy at first and was very awkward for me too. However the nature of our relationship is very mature and she learned to accept this as me. She is now throwing in little comments just to let me know I'm her baby. It's the sweetest feeling, being yourself and having someone who loves and supports you - I'm glad to have her and couldn't imagine myself with anybody else.

It's my birthday on Thursday and for weeks she's been teasing me about a "gift" she would give me. I "gifted" myself some ABU SDK and they arrived yesterday. She knows I bought them and has suggested they be made available to me on the night of my birthday. Me thinks I shall be getting my very first baby time!!

So excited - shall keep you posted!

[wetn'diaper20]

I have never been in a relationship either, I know how you feel.

[LilLila]

What sarah said (Post #7).

I'd just like to add that some people with a particular interest or kink seem to believe that finding a special someone else is far too difficult. This is no different from the whiney teenager who believes that they are so unique that the world (and their parents) could never understand them.

My other half isn't particularly into the whole diaper thing, but she plays along because it makes me happy and I don't ask for it too often. She has her own kinks, and I do my best to make her happy there.

But, as sarah said, making a relationship work is about the boring little things, not the 'I-can-only-have-sex-with-a-statue-of-a-nun-looking-on' type thing.

I try not to complain when my other half watches back-to-back episodes of some god awful cop show. She tries not to nag too often about the fact that I seem to be incapable of putting dirty clothes in the basket in the laundry. (Note that we try not to bitch. We do not always succeed.)

My advice is not to worry about whether or not you'll find the perfect, completely compatible partner. You probably won't. No one else does.

Just look for someone who you get on with, who you want to be with, and who you want to make love to. Everything else will sort itself out in its own sweet time.

[Guest Saturnine]

Relationships aren't a part of my life, or at least a necessity to me. I honestly hate commitment to an extreme degree. I would go out of the way to NOT get wrapped in a money wasting, time consuming relationship. I probably will die alone, but I think there are some people meant to be alone, and I'm one of them. I'm a lone wolf, and do just fine by myself. Sure I have friends and family, but I'm just a lone wolf really and probably not make any mark on society in my entire lifetime.