Helppp Meeee :'(

[abmike83ita]

How can i explain to one of my friends my situation about my AB side? I'm 20 and she is 43.

Please, help meeeee

P.S: To all the people that answered me and who will answer soon I'm asking how i can tell her this thing, not if I should tell her or not...

[peelover]

Have her try wearing a diaper

[AutieAB]

A better question is why do you want to? If it were my friend, I would think really hard about the possible implications of disclosing that on our friendship. Telling her you're an AB will change your friendship one way or another - and not necessarily in a good way.

[abmike83ita]

A better question is why do you want to? If it were my friend, I would think really hard about the possible implications of disclosing that on our friendship. Telling her you're an AB will change your friendship one way or another - and not necessarily in a good way.

I wanna do it because I wanna that a person that really know me about this thing because it's a thing that is too hided, I wanna talk so someone face to face

[abmike83ita]

Have her try wearing a diaper

Hmm, I don't think that's a good way to tell her :/

[BBB]

There is no good reason to tell your friends about your sex life.

[froggy]

I am careful who I let into my kink world. I see more of a chance of being hurt than helped.

[Guest Baby-Toa]

There is no good reason to tell your friends about your sex life.

remember it's not a sex life for everyone. I don't do it for sex i do it for comfort and relaxation.

To OP: if you really are serious about telling her think hard and long before you even mention it. the changes it can make in your relationship can ruin it or make it better. There is always a chance to stay the same as well.

[timmyc]

Considering her age, I think she would at least be open and not have any high school like drama, outing you or anything. Is she a true friend or some cougar you just met? A true friend should be understanding, doesn't necessarily mean she will love it. Does she have kids of her own? Is she maternal at all? None of us know the dynamics of your relationship, just friends, romantic, mentor? Still the best bet is talk to her, be subtle and beat around the bush a bit to gauge her level of acceptance. If you think she would freak out out over it, let it go, if you get the right vibes bring it up stating how much you value your relationship and how you want to be open and honest.

[Sophie ♥]

I just tell people. Like I just come out and say "I like being treated like a baby."

I'm very reserved about who I tell... like strictly girlfriends/boyfriends. On one occasion my soon to be roommate, because she'll find out one way or another. I'd rather not try to hide it in my own soon to be home.

Basically, what I'm saying is... you're best to just say it. But make sure it's the right person to tell...

-Sophie

[toon]

honestly I would say DONT DO IT! lol

if you want to talk to someone face to face why dont you look in our "meeting places" section and find someone from here IN YOUR AREA!

just because her age doesnt mean she'll be open minded or wont spread drama. We dont know anything about the situation. Does this friend have kids?

is she married? You dont think that a person with a family would look at us differently than someone who were single? A 43 yr old lady with possibly "impressionable" kids

wouldnt react well to her friend needing to talk about his diaper/babyish needs.

You need to actually explain the situation and more about the person you want to tell before you jump into something like that.

P.S. dude...hided isnt a word. Hidden is the correct terminology. I'm not sayin....I'm just sayin.

[Guest Wetnmessy247]

Ask yourself just how important it truly is that this particular individual needs to know of your diapered identity.

DO NOT DO NOT DO NOT make an outsider aware of your ABDLism by asking her randomly one random day to put on a diaper. It's so f*cking random it's just weird all the way through.

I would just try to slowly get her to see little things here and there like maybe a paci, then next day like a used bottle, then next day a set of teething rings, and a onesie, slowly work to diapers and eventally work in something like her finding one of your messies under a pile of clothes in the bathroom. Slowly is the best way.

Don't be "GODD*AMMIT WOMAN PUT ON THIS DIAPER NOW DIAPERS GIVE ME HARDONS".

She will be out the damned door faster than you can say "she will be out the damned door faster than you can say ""she will be out the damned door fatser than you can say....""""

[abmike83ita]

There is no good reason to tell your friends about your sex life.

For me is't a sexual thing, I do it because i feel great in the diaper but I say again that for me is'nt a sexual thing

[abmike83ita]

remember it's not a sex life for everyone. I don't do it for sex i do it for comfort and relaxation.

To OP: if you really are serious about telling her think hard and long before you even mention it. the changes it can make in your relationship can ruin it or make it better. There is always a chance to stay the same as well.

Actually i want to talk to her because she can understand me and because I have a "problem" that i think she can understand, I'm not afraid to talk to her because she is open minded and we are really good friends ^^

[abmike83ita]

Considering her age, I think she would at least be open and not have any high school like drama, outing you or anything. Is she a true friend or some cougar you just met? A true friend should be understanding, doesn't necessarily mean she will love it. Does she have kids of her own? Is she maternal at all? None of us know the dynamics of your relationship, just friends, romantic, mentor? Still the best bet is talk to her, be subtle and beat around the bush a bit to gauge her level of acceptance. If you think she would freak out out over it, let it go, if you get the right vibes bring it up stating how much you value your relationship and how you want to be open and honest.

I answer to your questions: She is a true friends for me and I am for her. She have 2 girl one 15 and oher 18 and yes, she is mathernal. We are just friens but she helped me many times.

[abmike83ita]

I just tell people. Like I just come out and say "I like being treated like a baby."

I'm very reserved about who I tell... like strictly girlfriends/boyfriends. On one occasion my soon to be roommate, because she'll find out one way or another. I'd rather not try to hide it in my own soon to be home.

Basically, what I'm saying is... you're best to just say it. But make sure it's the right person to tell...

-Sophie

Hi Sophie, I know she is the right person but I don't know how to start the conversation :/

[abmike83ita]

honestly I would say DONT DO IT! lol

if you want to talk to someone face to face why dont you look in our "meeting places" section and find someone from here IN YOUR AREA!

just because her age doesnt mean she'll be open minded or wont spread drama. We dont know anything about the situation. Does this friend have kids?

is she married? You dont think that a person with a family would look at us differently than someone who were single? A 43 yr old lady with possibly "impressionable" kids

wouldnt react well to her friend needing to talk about his diaper/babyish needs.

You need to actually explain the situation and more about the person you want to tell before you jump into something like that.

P.S. dude...hided isnt a word. Hidden is the correct terminology. I'm not sayin....I'm just sayin.

I don't know if I already writed, but I need someone that know me in real life so it's better. By the way she has 2 girl one of 15y.o. and other 18y.o., she is separeted but she is like somone trusted.

P.S: If you didn't noticed English isn't my language, I'm italian and I'm trying to write English dude :/

[abmike83ita]

Ask yourself just how important it truly is that this particular individual needs to know of your diapered identity.

DO NOT DO NOT DO NOT make an outsider aware of your ABDLism by asking her randomly one random day to put on a diaper. It's so f*cking random it's just weird all the way through.

I would just try to slowly get her to see little things here and there like maybe a paci, then next day like a used bottle, then next day a set of teething rings, and a onesie, slowly work to diapers and eventally work in something like her finding one of your messies under a pile of clothes in the bathroom. Slowly is the best way.

Don't be "GODD*AMMIT WOMAN PUT ON THIS DIAPER NOW DIAPERS GIVE ME HARDONS".

She will be out the damned door faster than you can say "she will be out the damned door faster than you can say ""she will be out the damned door fatser than you can say....""""

I think she is important for me to telling to someone my real part. Hahahaha, I don't want that she change my nappy, so I don't ask anything similar ^^. By the way I can't let her see the little thing because she don't live whit me (hmmm, if i leave a paci in her hoouse i think may she would think her daughters are in this thing :/) so the paci things, the bottle things, onesie things and the diaper messy under the pile of clothes is nearly impossible ^^

[Bettypooh]

Perhaps you should tell her, perhaps you should not. But since you are going to tell anyway that doesn't matter. Before you get into the "how to tell" part you need to think some things through. First is why must you tell? All people want to be accepted by somebody as they really are, and all people feel the burden of secrets they hold- sharing the secret shares the burden and makes us feel like we did something good. Knowing why you want to tell will help you understand yourself more What kind of relationship do you have with her, do you share deep secrets already? Is she someone you know that you can trust with anything? And most importantly, do you really know what kind of person she is when it comes to how she sees other people? Regardless you can never know how someone will react to anything until it happens, so you have to be prepared for any possibility

The first thing is to have the other person in the right mood before you proceed. You need to be connecting at a deep level when there is no negativity felt over anything. And you need to have plenty of time when you don't expect to be interrupted to do this Next is to go slowly towards the goal- just blurting it out will be a shock. Steer the conversation towards people with odd but harmless habits and see how she feels about them- my guess is that she's seen enough life to be OK with some harmless weirdness Then get more specific. Here is where you need to know who you really are. You say diapers aren't sexual, but are you an "adult baby"? If so you could say something similar to "What would you say if I told you that I like to suck my thumb?" or to do something else babyish such as hug a teddy bear. If you just like diapers and don't feel babyish (my situation) you could mention someone who cross-dresses and let that lead into "I don't like wearing normal underwear" just before you break the news

By this point her reaction will show if you should proceed any further. If her mood changes to hostility you'd better stop If she expresses interest or doesn't seem to mind go ahead. By now she will be ready for the news so just make it plain and say "I know this is odd but I like to wear diapers". She will have many questions about that so have your answers ready ahead of time She may ask why you felt like you had to tell her. Even if she doesn't be sure that you say that you trust her deeply and that you admire how understanding she is towards other people- let her know how valuable she is to you And somewhere along the way, be certain that she understands that this does not involve children and that you do not intend to let it cause her any problems in her life- especially with her children

I hope this goes well for you, but there is always a chance that it won't You may lose her friendship. She may blab the news to everyone she knows. She may even go out of her way to cause you problems- especially if she thinks children are involved. If you suspect that any of this is possible then do not tell her- find someone else to share your secret with I had to tell everyone about my gender situation because I planned to begin changes in my life which everyone would see- my discovery of my love of diapers came later on. Sharing this part of me with the world is not necessary because nobody sees it and nobody knows I share this only online where I have found enough friendship to ease the need to go any further in my real life. I think that most people here are much like that too. We need to share so we share here where we will be accepted by others like ourselves This allows us to end a lot of the pressure we feel about diapers in our real lives so that we can keep from going crazy over this I would recommend to anyone that they do the same unless they are going into a deep relationship with a soulmate- in that case telling is better that deceiving.

I hope I have been of some help to you and I wish you luck with this. No matter how it happens to work out remember that you will always have friends here!

Bettypooh

[abmike83ita]

Hi Bettypooh, thanks for the tips you gived to me ^^, I know that this thing ma should be strange but i need to let her know about my real situation because she trust of me and I trust of her plus I must to talk to her because sometimes I'm really worried about one thing... well, I can say that many times i think about this thing and I stop for a moment...

Thanks again for the tips and for remembering me that I will get some real friends here

Mike

[BriGuy]

Its like a bandage, the slower you pull it off the more it hurts. Just be Frank, honest, and up front. Dont dance around the subject and drop hints, be respectful of her and be open. Most times hints aren't picked up on anyway.

[abmike83ita]

Its like a bandage, the slower you pull it off the more it hurts. Just be Frank, honest, and up front. Dont dance around the subject and drop hints, be respectful of her and be open. Most times hints aren't picked up on anyway.

Well, i will be honest even if i will be not direct. If I say to her dirctly "I love to wear diapers" she would say to me "You're crazy", it's better starting whit let her understand a little bit my situation, don't you think?

[sarah_ab]

considering you are just two years older than her daughter is it possible she sees the relationship more as a maternal one than as a friendship? you have stated she is maternal towards you, so are you wanting to tell her because you want her to 'baby' you in some ways?

if you view the relationship as one of friendship than you will nto tell her simply so she can baby you, for that would be using her.

If you were truely accepting of yourself you wouldn't need to tell her this part of you, so i suggest you first become fully accepting of this in yourself. Just because we have close friends doesn't mean we need to tell them every single little thing about ourselves, some things are best left private to be shared with someone you are intimate with, not just a friend. Perhaps you should not tell her this side of you, until you examine your feelings towards your self, and your reasons for telling such an older woman. Again, you are only two years older than her child, in essence, you could be seen by her as another child.

[abmike83ita]

considering you are just two years older than her daughter is it possible she sees the relationship more as a maternal one than as a friendship? you have stated she is maternal towards you, so are you wanting to tell her because you want her to 'baby' you in some ways?

if you view the relationship as one of friendship than you will nto tell her simply so she can baby you, for that would be using her.

If you were truely accepting of yourself you wouldn't need to tell her this part of you, so i suggest you first become fully accepting of this in yourself. Just because we have close friends doesn't mean we need to tell them every single little thing about ourselves, some things are best left private to be shared with someone you are intimate with, not just a friend. Perhaps you should not tell her this side of you, until you examine your feelings towards your self, and your reasons for telling such an older woman. Again, you are only two years older than her child, in essence, you could be seen by her as another child.

I never say that i want her to 'baby' me in some way, ti would be not good. I say she is materna but it not mean that i wanna her for baby me ^^. I wanna say her about this thing because she is like a second mum for me (not for baby me LOL), I think she understand.

For the second time, I'm asking how to tell her, not if i gotta tell her about this thing -.-"

[sarah_ab]

well theres no real way to tell someone you like to wear diapers and act like a baby.

how about just "so i feel like i need to tell someone and you have always been there for me, and i feel i can trust you. Its osmething i like to do for multiple reasons. I like to wear diapers, dress like and act like a baby. i'm not telling you this so you will participate, i'm not telling you this so you will put diapers on me. i'm just telling you because for some reason i have no way of explaining i feel like i have to tell you. So now, want to get something to eat?"