One Of Those Uncomfortable Moments....

[naughty_baby]

I haven't felt so uncomfortable. I was round my best friends house (who doesnt know about ABism or that I am) and we were chatting to a guy on my MSN who I have been chatting to for years he is gay and I told him adventually about me being AB turns out he was too, just didnt know it. He likes acting childish just didn't know there was a name for it until I told him I was. Anyway, we were chatting to him and we somehow got onto the subject of being little again going back to nursery...all a sudden my friend said "you can actually do that" I was like "What?" she said "be a kid again, theres a place you can go to and play with toys they have little trikes but made big" I was thinking 'oh my god' but said "Oooh right oook" with a confused look on my face lol. Then she started typing this to my friend online and then started typing to him 'you have to wear a giant nappy though' I read it when she was typing and said "ehh?" and laughed, she was like "yeah you got to wear like a big nappy, I dont think you have to do anything in it though" then I was like "ook, where abouts is it then, where did you hear about it?" she said, "there was an advert on telly" I said "when? I never seen that" and she said "It was on at like 2am in the morning...I think it has something to do with porn I dont know". But as she was saying this she was typing to my friend online too coz we were all chatting about going back to little school and I just kept thinking he was gonna say something about it like 'yeah I know about it' or something I just kept getting more uncomfortable, but then luckily my online buddy read my mind and typed "Ok this is getting weird..lets change the subject..so what have you been upto?" lol I was like thank god.

I must have been going red, purposly trying to sound completely clueless about it all like Id never heard of it lol. But I didnt know there were adverts about ABism :s Anyone ever seen it what nursery is it advertising or is it a chatline thing? She didnt seem completely weirded out by it though...

[Loveable_guy]

That could have got ugly. I would recommend you do not invite you real life friends to chat with online friends that are aware of your personal fetishes.

Just think if later in life this online person and you have a falling out and your real life friends continue to chat well you get the ideal.

[turtlepins]

I've always maintained that honesty is the best policy, although practice is another thing altogether. My closest friends (5 couples our age) and my kids and family know about the paraphylic infantilism. Everyone knows I wear cloth diapers instead of disposables. You gotta trust your best friends.

[sarah_ab]

although honestly, its not that bad, you totally could have been like "ohhh man i've read about that. There was an article once in some newspaper... was talking about people who like to wear dapers and act like a baby".... and voila, any knowledge you may accidentally let slip, you gained from reading said article.

[naughty_baby]

Yeah I should have done that Sarah lol would have been easier I think than acting clueless lol.

I do keep it seperate my real friends and online friends its just my friend has spoken to my online friend before ages ago and they had just a one off chat that night. Yes my online buddy was aware of my fetish but he knows only my partner knows about it and he is also AB so would not say anything, there was just that moment I thought he was going to say something about it lol, luckily he didnt.

Honesty IS the best policy but I am not sure how she would take it, I do not want her to feel weird and feel strange when I play with her daughter. Although I dont think she would disown me, I dont want to take that chance.

[babykeiff]

Although it is true that 'honesty is the best policy', there are some people that are as thick as sh1t, and should be treated like mushrooms - that is kept in the dark and fed bull. The reason, those people don't have the mental capability to keep their mouth shut. They think that it is perfectly normal practice to spread rumors and gossip about what is essentially, your private life.

Best friends / partners etc are not supposed to fit into that category, and if they do, I strongly suggest that you seriously consider changing them to someone else that is worth your time and trust. The best definition that I have found of a friend is that of someone that can insult you and that you take as advice. That means that that person really knows you better than you know yourself, and that you not only can trust them with your intimate secrets, you also know theirs and would never even think of betraying them. Also, that person knows stuff about you that you haven't told them, and you feel safe and secure with them.

I could go on and on about the benefits etc, but I think that most people here already know.

Opposing that, is the person - brother / sister etc that has access to your house as a guest, yet you know that as soon as your back is turned, they will root for information about you - be it your YIM contact details / alterior life actions etc. If you have someone like that around, treat them as a guest, AND LOCK YOUR DOOR. Let them know by your actions that you do not trust them, but be prepared to call their bluff. That is if they comment that your door is always locked when they are around, ask them 'why do they wish to go into your room/etc' and then offer them the guided tour.

As I stated, be prepared, so that there is nothing obvious out in the open for them to see / comment about, but also leave a teaser for their curiosity.

Re - your computer / IM address etc, as others have said, if you do have another life (and many here on the site do) have a normal email / YIM etc. What I have is a email address that my computer automatically checks, and forwards to my 'babykeiff' email. Therefore, in business, my normal email is used, but for people that really know the true me, I give them the babykeiff email. It also ensures, due to the constant use, that the normal email is not auto-deleted.

[rockrat]

Sorry to hijack, but I asked Naught_Baby and she doesn't remember, but does anyone know the movie name where the pictures came from in her signature?

Thanks,

Hijack over.