Diaper Sightings & Out In Public Fantasies

[Sissy Tami]

Ever wondered what peoples reaction would be to seeing someone in diapers and or baby clothes in public.

You read in AB/DL stories all the time about how we fantasize about being taken out in public wearing diapers and or baby clothing by a loving or domineering mommy-daddy-babysitter or nanny. It’s interesting that we seem to need someone in authority to have around to blame for our diapers and or infant clothing and appearance. It’s much more difficult to justify or explain why we would be out in public if our only reason is that we want too. We would much prefer the laughing and scorn of people because we are being forced to appear that way by an authoritive figure who would insist that we are only being treated that way because of our infantile behavior. Some of us even adore the shame and embarrassment of the accusation of the authority. Then having people they come across ask the athoritive figure what is going on. Then after a long explanation of our abhorrent behavior that has led to our current appearance having the casual observers agree with our dominant authority for treating us that way. Thus insuring further punishment and infantile treatment by our guardian.

I know that it is on a lot of AB/DL’s minds just what the reaction would be to be out in public in a diaper and or infant clothing. Some fantasies would follow the above scenario. Others may fantasize about a motherly – nanny or sisterly figure that would take pity on us and ask us if our diaper needed changing. Or that the may even pat our diapered but to check if we need changing. Some might hope that they would have adoration piled upon them for being so cute.

How many of you have ever fantasized about being out in public with and authoritive figure of some kind?

How may of you have ever fantasized about being out in public and receiving accolades for being cute. Or having someone ask you if you needed to be changed. Or even better having the pat you on the butt and check all the while telling you how cute you look.

I know some of you will have neither. But my guess is that most fantasize about one or the other or both. Years of corresponding with you and reading of AB/DL literature tell me that I am correct in my assumption.

Of course or fear is that it would be nothing like this and that we would receive nothing but scorn and disgust from people we encountered.

Which is more likely to happen? More of one than the other? Or would there be a lot of both?

What would it be worth to you to be able to casually observe this actually happening to someone else in an actual public setting? No risk to your confidentiality.

I would love to hear you thoughts and feelings on this!

[ppbenn]

Nice topic. First I want to state that it is easier to accept something if you feel as if you have no choice in the matter.

In the response to the questions you asked. I have fantasized about being taken out in public by an authorative figure. I have never been in that situation so I don't know for sure if I would prefer the accolades or the humiliation. In my fantasies and my stories there is a mixture of both. However I often use females in that situation. So in short I guess I would have to be in that situation to be sure what I would like to have happen.

As for the last question. I don't know that I would pay to see this happen. If I were then I would have to question how much of it is acting? Although if you like public humiliation. I strongly suggest publicdisgrace.com. No diapers or adult babies on this site. Lots of females forced into sexual acts though.

[Sissy Tami]

Nice topic. First I want to state that it is easier to accept something if you feel as if you have no choice in the matter.

In the response to the questions you asked. I have fantasized about being taken out in public by an authorative figure. I have never been in that situation so I don't know for sure if I would prefer the accolades or the humiliation. In my fantasies and my stories there is a mixture of both. However I often use females in that situation. So in short I guess I would have to be in that situation to be sure what I would like to have happen.

As for the last question. I don't know that I would pay to see this happen. If I were then I would have to question how much of it is acting? Although if you like public humiliation. I strongly suggest publicdisgrace.com. No diapers or adult babies on this site. Lots of females forced into sexual acts though.

I was thinking more along the line of would it be worth your trouble to go and see it than I was actually paying to see it. If you knew when and where someone was going to be out would you go to see it? Would that hold any curiosity for you to see how the public would react.

I agree with you my fantasy would envolve both accolades and humilliation. And definatly a female athority figure for me. But there are all sorts here on the board so I did not want to narrow the field of responses.

Thanks

Tami

[tris]

Without the obvious AB involvement, I go out in public, diapered, often. In fact, I prefer to be, just for consistency's sake. I'm sure at some point it will suck when I wanna get into a fight with someone, or, more likely, get into a car accident. But when C and I go out, she frequently pats my diapered bottom -- well within view of not just the general public, but people we know and work with. I've even been walking around the mall, and come across my stylist, who scolded me (for skipping our morning appointment) with a playful smack. There's quite a distinction between the sound of ass and denim, and diaper-and-denim. For a woman who has like, 7 kids, I'm surprised she couldn't tell. (then again, maybe she did, iunno )

While I still dress to hide, my pants are getting tighter these days. (I'm not getting fat!) Believe it or not, tighter jeans hide thicker diapers better than loose jeans can hide thin diapers. I still obsess over just how visible my diapers are, but, C does reassure me that no one can really tell. I even went into work today to pickup my check -- diapered and wet. More people noticed my outfit, overall, than just my puffy-er bottom. (Well, one of my boys did notice my pants, but, from what I've seen of him, he just might be lurking around here somewhere. . .) What can I say -- I dress to be noticed!

Tami, what are you getting at? Are you trying to tell us that someone, somewhere, might be setup to be filmed while out in public with some type of authority figure you mentioned? Are you trying to gauge interest for a vid, or what? Too bad we're nowhere near each other -- I'd totally be the first to volunteer!

One thing worth noting about public appearances, though: People like Good-looking, confident people. I would venture a guess that many of those who fantasize about what you're describing, would generally fantasize about just being noticed in public. Some people will forever be 'just one of the crowd', no matter what they're wearing. (unfortunately, their attempts to be otherwise generally involve obnoxious colors and/or poor choices of attire, which nets nothing positive.)

In order to gain positive results from one of your said scenarios, one must pick their partners, outfits, gear, and location carefully. If you're super - hairy and generally manly, people will be more likely to meet you with looks of disgust. Add a fat chick to the mix, and you've got a recipe for lewd and lascivious behavior, your exhibition notwithstanding. But s'pose you've shaved --everything-- lost a few pounds, traded the ho for a lady, and picked an appropriate forum -- you might find yourself becoming a local celeb, ala Heidi-stylee.

Remember kids, it's not JUST about the cash, it's also about the carry.

[Yvhuce]

As a more reclusive individual (and one of those harry, not fit people who also happens to be short), I don't have fantasies about being noticed by the public. I prefer to disappear in a crowd, rather than stand out in it. My fantasies tend to revolve around finding a woman who's also into diapers.

[DprDJeff]

The Domme I see on a semi-regular basis once told me a story about a client whose fantasy was to be thickly diapered and crossdressed in completely unpassable drag and taken to a department store to shop. She would pull up his skirt/dress and check his diaper in front of other people.

Personally, I've fantasies about public play, but it's really not something I'm interested in doing for real.

[Aurelius]

I've been thinking about a lot of things like this and one of the things I find interesting is that I think I'm not really either dominant or submissive. I would enjoy being dominated but I'm also finding dominating very liberating too. Not too sure. But diaper fetish is one of the fetishes that can be combined with nearly any other, which makes it versatile.

I'm really not into bringing sexuality overtly into the public sphere. Just isn't on in my opinion. I have no problem with people snogging passionately, or whatever, but anything that is really out of place is too much to add to an already disturbing world. If people do do it, eg. babying each other in a conversation for example, as long as they're showing some subtlety, I'm fine with it, but anything more is unacceptable.

[tris]

I agree with Aurelius! There's not enough class in today's society! Even without the aspect of a thrill, scarce are those who possess the ability to behave appropriately!

[Guest Pizaz]

On Halloween, my town has a pretty crazy street party. While having never seen an AB during one of these parties, I have seen a few guys in leather and restraints being escorted around by (what I presume to be) a domme. I have always felt envious of these fellas, but I honestly don't know how I'd react if I were in their shoes. I do agree that if I had no choice in the matter, it would make it easier. But I don't think I'd ever willfully want that particular fantasy to become reality.

[Sissy Tami]

I have no plans to make a video but that is not a bad idea Tris.

As far as the good looking and confident people being noticed and everyone else being part of the crowd I agree on the whole but there are exceptions. People who are “hairy

[ppbenn]

Very well written and an interesting topic Sissy Tami.

[tris]

Wow, white-knuckle dance much? My grip would be pretty tight if I were standing next to her, too!

I figured much of this had to do with Heidi, and you're right -- She did blaze quite a few trails in her community, for us in our communities to follow. While I understand that much of said actions can be in Tribute to her memory, I cannot stress enough that a calculated, strategic, and phased approach must be rendered before the process can officially begin. Much like a game of chess, every move counts -- good and bad.

[Sissy Tami]

You are so right Tris evey move dose count and any wrong moves can set us way back!!

We get engough unwanted press from things like the astronunt that decided to wear diapers to get accross country without stops to do stupid things.

I am trying desperatly to get the community to think about how we would like to present ourselves and then make efforts to do it. But perhaps more improtant is trying to avoid the bad press that wrong moves could generate

Heidi did an article for a local newspaper where she was pretty open about who and what she was. It was a good article and generated quite a bit of what I thought was good press. When we were out an about town together many people would stop us and ask us about the article and tell her they thought that she was both brave and cool for what she was doing.

The article even generated a spot on one of the network news channels that was very possitive. The even had a therapist on to discuss what she thought about Heidi's decission to be out 24/7 and very public. She was very possitive and the whole spot was very good in my opinoin. I only wish that it had gotten more national exposure.

When I was out and about town on my own people would often ask me if I was "Baby Man" of Heidi. I would always say no but I know her and she is a good friend.

So the question now is do you all think it is appropreate for us to presnent the AB commuinty at venues like Pride, fetish, and Halloween events? Are there any other places or events that we should use to get the word out?

This is the message that I am using for the Parade entrances"We are a group of Adult Babies and Diaper Lovers who are embracing our inner child and having fun." And "Setting aside the pressures, stresses, worries and most of all "prejudices" of adult life. Enjoying the occasional opportunity to put away our trivial worries in exchange for some stress free fun."

Do you have any questions about the reaction we have recived (Heidi, Bri and I) from the public when we are out.

And Would you like a chance to see that reaction from the sidelines just to see for yourself?

Thanks again, Tami

[Bettypooh]

I gotta say that I really like how Tami comes across

But this got to me:

".... the opportunity to visit the Little bighorn and Custer's battlefield and take in that part of history is to much to pass up...."

beacuse it reminded me of this joke

A new museum comissioned a famous Native American to paint a mural relating to this battle. He was very secretive and he kept it well covered so nobody saw it till opening day On unveiling there were 'oohs' and 'ahhhs' at the very well done mural but the local newspaper reporter spoke up and asked "What does this have to do with the battle of Little Big Horn? This is just a cow with a halo over it's head in the center and a bunch of indians having sex!"

The painter put on a wise smile and replied "It's about Custer's last words." The reporter bit and asked what those were. The painter replied that his great great great Grandfather was the closest to Custer in the end, and he passed down the story through the generations of how Custer had said: "Holy cow! Look at all those f@&%ing Indians!"

Bettypooh

[Sissy Tami]

Cover stories and other excuses for being out.

It's true that few of us, myself included have the courage that Heidi had to just point blank say this is who I am when questioned about our being out in baby attire.

And yes being a DL is less compicated that being an AB especially a Sissy AB.

Sometimes I have used a cover story just to avoid confrentaion.. I will most likely continue to do so in the event that I come across the drunk of dissorderly. If you come across people who clearly look like they are closed minded or not currently in a state to comprehend your message you are probably better off with a cover story.

I'm not sure how much of a cover story it is to tell people that you are dressed this way to attend a Fetish and Fantasy Ball though. While I did not just tell them that I liked dressing like this or that I am having fun. It does not take a rocket scientist to figure out that if you are going to a Fetish ball dressed as a baby that it's probably your "thing". Sometimes I think it's best to lead people in the right direction and let them draw a bit of their own conclusions. That way if they have a question they are free to ask it. I felt like telling them I was going to Fetish ball was pretty close to just saying this is who I am or who I would like to be. And as you said Square I was atleast being honest.

I have used cover stories in the past that were not quite as honest or up front as the above mentioned before. I am trying hard not to do that in the future. I feel I can be honest as well as not be in your face at the same time. things like mentioning I am attending a Fetish Ball or going to a Pride Parade is good I think. Most people are not dumb and will understand what you are getting at. If they don't get it I would question if they would be open minded or inteligent enough to acept the message anyway.

Question is what are other good reasons that are honest and strait forward that an AB could use when questioned about their attire or message. Here are some that I have used in the past

"I do it because it's fun and I like to make people laugh" This is probably as honest and strait forward an answer as I can think of. As both statements are factual and are the motivation for my being there in the first place.

"Just my inner child expressing itself"

I have to thank Bri for this one "Because growing up is overrated"

I like to keep it simple and lead them in the right direction and then let the ask questions if they would like to. Many do ask and then you have an open form to discuss the AB/DL lifestyle. These oppertuities do come along regularly and I relish them. A real oppertuinty to inform the open minded and curious. You will find that almost all who ask a follow up question will admire you for your honesty and courage and thank you for sharing.

I nearly jump for joy when this happens!!

It doesn't hurt when groups of cute women and girls come up and want a photo taken either!!

If you have thoughts on how to be honest, up front and informitive to the public when we are out and about I welcome your impute. Inteligent answers to reasonable questions is the goal.

Thanks, Tami

[Sissy Tami]

Thanks Square!

Maybe we could entertain a more private party as well while we are in Vegas say sometime on Saturday. Maybe we could intrest more people if we had a second more private event people would consider coming to join us. Stay on the side lines for the parade and maybe join us after for a party?

If anyone reading this post has an intrest in a more private party please let us know.

It's pretty easy to get lost in the crowd at one of these events as the crowds are very large and encompas quite a diverse cross section of people. You would have no worry about someone linking you to us if you just wanted to watch.. Esp in Vegas because the Freemont St crowd is large even if there is no parade.

Thanks for all your imput and keep them coming.

Tami

[Sissy Tami]

P.S.

Judging from the number of people (mostly women) that come up and pat me on the butt and ask me if I need a change I would conclude that they made the thought leap to that fact that I would be wearing a diaper and that I might actualy use it.. Many more will just ask me without the pat on the butt.

I have even had a couple of brave women stick their fingers inside the band of my bloomers and plasic pants and check if I was wet!! Yea I could not belive my luck!! I guess it is my little reward for braving the public. It's only ever happend in Vegas though maybe it's that "what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas" thing I don't know. Or possibly they were really drunk.

Thanks again, Tami

[Sissy Tami]

She was really cute and I am sure that did not hurt the situation. Then she laughed and walked away so there was no really pushy follow up which am sure would have caused me some discomfort.

Most people here on the board don't know it but I am happily married and striat. I would not do anything to jepordise my marriage. I have had to thow off a couple of advances mostly from very drunk and desperate women. But I got out each situtation with a laugh and a "thanks but no thanks"

So far it's been all in good fun and I don't intend for that to change.

I'm with you on the don't take no for an ansewer thing that would totaly make me mad but it has never happened to me before. But I don't hang out around too many drunks unless I'm in Vegas on Freemont street.

[Sissy Tami]

I know a lot of that, and yo are lucky to have an understanding spouse.....everyone should be so fortunate.

This is still kind of a private thing for me, I don't mind going out, but dealing with the public in such an informal and non-structured way still bugs me a bit, I'm working on it. I just don't want to feel like I am "on display" or something for everyman to paw and ridicule or gawk at. *shrug*.

I am working on being more comfortable, and being with you guys in functions and parades like this is a big leap for me. It is getting easier though. I am still wondering what to wear........being a 'big kid' is kind of tough when it comes to the wardrobe department, not much is out there. Maybe order something from Forever A Kid, or one of the Ebay vendors I use.hmmmm

qwack

Bri said that he was having a Tee shrit made that had a guy in a diaper that says "growing up is over rated" on it. that sounds like a great idea to me. What ever you can find and are comfortable with is most important though.

I have a bunch of large stuffed animals of Whinne the Poo and Tigger and stuff that I thought we could use in the wagon. I am trying to find a Care Bare in honner of Heidi for the wagon and banner at the parade.

Good luck in finding something!

Tami

[clive]

P.S.

Judging from the number of people (mostly women) that come up and pat me on the butt and ask me if I need a change I would conclude that they made the thought leap to that fact that I would be wearing a diaper and that I might actualy use it.. Many more will just ask me without the pat on the butt.

I've had the same thing happen to me, actually. Quite the turn-on, I must say

[Little Matt]

It's hard for me to imagine anybody really finding a diapered adult cute. I think this is why I fantasize about being younger and in diapers. Old enough that it's embarassing, but young enough that it's actually conceivably cute.