I Think I'm Going To Tell My Doctor

[PhilDL]

Next Tuesday I have an appointment with a Urologist. This morning laying in bed I thought I should tell him everything since I'm seeing him about recurring UTI's {Urinary Tract Infection}.

Although the conscientious I've received online that diapers shouldn't cause UTI's I don't want to risk him not having all the facts to prevent anymore UTI's, it knocks me out for a full week. It's happened twice in 1 1/2 months.

I've worn diapers for most of my life and I'm 47, doesn't make sense why I would have problems with diapers now.

The truth is I'm a DL, I've been using a minimum of a Depend Guard for about 10 years because of dripping and spurts after urinating. A previous Urologist knew of the pad and only asked how often I need to change it.

Typically now I wear pull-ups if not diapered during the day. At night for over three years now I'm diapered and I trained myself to wet while sleeping. What happen last night happens sometimes, I won't wet while asleep but slightly wake up and wet.

So I'll be wearing a pad and tell him about the dripping and spurts. Unfortunately I'll use the B word {diapers might be too strong to use} and tell him that I wear briefs at night. I'll lie and say I sleep heavy and tend to wet while sleeping or find myself waking up while wetting. So wearing briefs help me to get a more complete nights rest.

I just hope he doesn't go in to details like how soon to you get out of the wet brief in the morning. I'll be honest and say I wear it through breakfast and while brushing my teeth and shaving. While brushing my teeth and shaving I need to wet all the time.

This Urologist was recommended to me by my new Primary Doctor. So if this all backfires I could jump ship and get a new Doctor. When I went to my primary last week I didn't tell him, I was wearing a pad but he didn't examine me there. He did ask if I have urges where I have accidents, I said no which during the day is true. I might just chicken out next Tuesday and not go beyond the pad. But I think I will since it's too important for him not to know because if the dreaded UTI's.

Phil

[Repaid1]

Sounds like you have it all under control. Keep us updated as to how it goes. Never had a UTI, and after reading your posts I'm thankful for that. Hope you get it all straitened out...and can get back to "normal".

[DL88]

When it comes to health I wouldn't mess around with anything, your health is no joke. I understand that when it comes to Doctors, the ab/dl community has to be very careful, however this is a real issue.

Best of luck to ya

[PhilDL]

After posting this I was thinking that I must tell him since there might be a connection because diapers for me aren't just a fetish but a lifestyle. I can't just stop wearing diapers to bed because I'll have accidents. If it were just a fetish I would stop for a period to rule the diaper connection out. And no I don't regret making diapers a lifestyle.

I just hope he doesn't make an issue about wearing diapers and wanting to go for expensive tests. I'll be frank with him, I'll tell him I've been using a pad for 10 years, diapers at night for 3 years and I'm okay with that. I can deal with it and I can't afford the tests, what I want is an answer to is the UTI's.

But like I originally wrote, if it gets out of hand I'll just go to another Dr.

Phil

[diaperpt]

Since you have a true physical need, there doesn't seem to be any reason for you to hold back from telling your doctors that you wear diapers. If there is some issue as to why you wear briefs instead of just a guard or some other measure, you can just say you prefer the security of knowing you have the protection.

It seems they need to know the true physical nature of the problem in order to treat you. There isn't any need to go into anything related to a psychological desire for diapers and it really isn't related to your problems/needs. I do understand it may take some courage on your part at least partly due to the links in your mind between need and desires, partly due to fear of judgment from 'outside the community' - but if this doctor is worth anything at all, I suspect he'll take it in stride.

Good luck with it!!

diaperpt

[naughty_baby]

Well if you think about it you may aswell tell him I mean, doctors have heard it and seen it all whats diapers gonna be to him, nothing most likely he's probably had loads of people come in that wear them Its ya health so I would just go and say, I've had a UTI twice before and they are painful (not whilst I was wearing diapers). Although as you said I doubt its the diapers anyway I can't see how it would start a UTI... Good luck Phil you'll be fine I hope you get it sorted out

[PhilDL]

Thanks so far for the replies!

I'll report back Tuesday afternoon. Question though, if you were going to tell a Dr. would you say "DIAPERS" or the dreaded B word, "BRIEFS"?

The term briefs doesn't make sense on it's own, you need to say absorbent briefs. If I say I'm using briefs, one could respond, "Oh that's nice, I guess you don't care for boxers."

So should I say "I'm using Tranquility absorbent briefs" or "I'm using Tranquility diapers"

Here's another choice "I'm using Tranquility adult diapers"

Thanks for the input!

Phil

[Mr. Sea Otter]

Here is a good rule to live by: Lie to the cops. Don't lie to your doctor. Seriously, being anything but 100% open with your doctor is a really bad idea.

I have gone to a couple of different doctors in the past few years and I went in a diaper. I don't need to wear a diaper, I do so by choice. The visits with the docs were for physicals and to establish a relationship with a primary care person, although one was with a urologist for something that I thought might be testicular cancer (it wasn't and I'm totally fine). The visits were no big deal. We discussed family medical history, and past problems I have had etc etc. After she (I prefer female docs) finished with her questions I said something to this effect (really):

"So, there is one thing I need to mention. I believe you should lie to the cops, not your doctor (she thought that was funny). Anyways, I know its kind of different, but I wear diapers. There is nothing physically wrong with me, its just kind of a life style choice." I was then asked if I used them for everything (no, just wetting occasionally) and if I was sure that there was nothing wrong (I'm totally sure, I've never had an "accident"). After that it was 'Well, OK then. Lets have you take a few deep breaths' and the normal routine.

The thing to keep in mind is that the Dr. is going to respond to the information based on how you convey it. If you are totally freaking out, ashamed, or whatever, they might be a bit alarmed. On the other hand, if you are open and honest about it, and come across as being OK with it, they probably won't even blink. My docs certainly didn't.

So to answer your questions, by all means say the word diaper. Just accept the fact that you are going to be honest with this person because you need to be! They are not going to ridicule you, they are not going to call you a freak or tell people you know (hello lawsuit!).

[Brudda Voodu]

I can guarantee Dr's have heard it all and dont really care about your personal life. An old girlfriend of mine had a nasty UTI from us having kinky sex. She told her Dr she thought she might have gotten it from when I pee'd inside her while we were having sex. He shook his head a little and said matter of factly that it was a good chance it could have been and gave her a perscription for some medicine. I'm pretty sure whether you say briefs or diapers it wont matter, the Dr's not going to be bashful. I think your right to tell him though, I hope he gets your problem figured out, those infections are nasty and painfull.

[diaperedandloving]

Something else to remember also is that the doctor has the patient confidentiality to take into consideration also. So being honest with him makes it that much simpler to keep you in working order and you wont have to worry about your lifestyle being discussed with others. All in all though just be honest and tell them the truth. Remember they are there for your sake not you for theirs.

[curiositykilledthecat]

you'd be amazed at what psychiatrists share to insurance companies though,. I had the oppertunity to read a couple claims that i wish i didn't.

[TornadoRacer]

Hello PhilDl my little one has a uti also we have an appointment tomorrow...we told her doctor before and she {the doctor}treated her and also wrote out a prescription for the more absorbent attends i think she is a abdl also...

[naughty_baby]

I can guarantee Dr's have heard it all and dont really care about your personal life. An old girlfriend of mine had a nasty UTI from us having kinky sex. She told her Dr she thought she might have gotten it from when I pee'd inside her while we were having sex. He shook his head a little and said matter of factly that it was a good chance it could have been and gave her a perscription for some medicine. I'm pretty sure whether you say briefs or diapers it wont matter, the Dr's not going to be bashful. I think your right to tell him though, I hope he gets your problem figured out, those infections are nasty and painfull.

Lol, to be blunt just come out with it to ya doc. Lol, I think that is probably how I got mine actually, come to think of it...

[PhilDL]

TornadoRacer,

How old is she?

If the Dr. wants her to wear a more absorbent diaper did the Dr. mention about a link between diapers and UTI's?

Phil

Hello PhilDl my little one has a uti also we have an appointment tomorrow...we told her doctor before and she {the doctor}treated her and also wrote out a prescription for the more absorbent attends i think she is a abdl also...

[Diapers4Me]

I can guarantee Dr's have heard it all and dont really care about your personal life. An old girlfriend of mine had a nasty UTI from us having kinky sex. She told her Dr she thought she might have gotten it from when I pee'd inside her while we were having sex. He shook his head a little and said matter of factly that it was a good chance it could have been and gave her a perscription for some medicine. I'm pretty sure whether you say briefs or diapers it wont matter, the Dr's not going to be bashful. I think your right to tell him though, I hope he gets your problem figured out, those infections are nasty and painfull.

It would have taken more than urine to give her a UTI as urine (unless you have an infection) is sterile (so is snot!).

I agree....tell your doctor....

I go to the doctor diapered all the time.

[BabyLex]

Phil,

I'm in the process of becoming a doctor and I've spent hundreds of hours shadowing physicians and I can tell you they've seen everything, and they're primary concern is your health and care. Physicians have no interest in judging you. They're primary interest is to give you the best care they can and to help you live your life to the fullest. You can walk in and say you're a chronic alcoholic, smoker, and drug addict, and they'll give you the medical research and data that lets you know that those aspects of your lifestyle can have detrimental results to your long (and short) term well being. The mantra I'm continually told as a student is as doctors we're simply advisors to the patient, it's their body and their life and we're here to help them make informed decisions and do procedures they ask us to. Medical ethics is an integrated part of our training as physicians and confidentially and patient respect are recurrent themes throughout.

Holding things back from your doctor is a natural tendency, some things are embarassing to talk about or admit. Sadly not telling a physician is counter-productive because in many cases they have the knowledge and skills to help and make whatever the problem is go away. Physicians would much rather you told them -everything- and let them decide what is relevant and irrelevant to your healing. In my limited knowledge UTIs wouldn't be related to diapers unless your diaper is worn in a way that blocks your ability to void your bladder and urine was getting stuck in your urethra. (but that's just a guess from a student who isn't yet an MD). But, nevertheless letting your doctors have the most accurate picture of your body and lifestyle is in your own best interest.

Simultaneously, be respectful of their profession. Some people get some kind of pleasure out of making a big deal out of their diapers to their doctor. Physicians have to see a lot of patients and want to give the best care they can given their limited amount of time. It's one thing to tell your physician about your diapers, sleep habits, sexual proclivities, and other lifestyle elements, it's another thing to harp on the topic to try to get a reaction. In your case, it sounds like you're a kind and respectful person who couldn't possibly talk about your diapers in way but the right one. :-)

All the best, and I hope you heal soon! UTIs can be painful! :-(

Take it easy!

--Lex

[PhilDL]

Thanks Lex,

Yeah I only want to bring it up if there's some relevance. My one concern is that he's going to send me for test not just for what is causing the UTI's but the incontinence. I can tell him that I wear diapers but not that I intentional trained myself to wet at night.

BTW, do you think it would be funny for a 47 yer old male to just say "so I stated to wear the disposable adult diapers" or should I just refer to them as briefs?

Sometimes in the morning I'll be awake laying in bed and I have tendency at times to stop the flow, and then continue to void a few second later. I would think that is a short time to be in the urethra.

Thanks,

Phil

Phil,

I'm in the process of becoming a doctor and I've spent hundreds of hours shadowing physicians and I can tell you they've seen everything, and they're primary concern is your health and care. Physicians have no interest in judging you. They're primary interest is to give you the best care they can and to help you live your life to the fullest. You can walk in and say you're a chronic alcoholic, smoker, and drug addict, and they'll give you the medical research and data that lets you know that those aspects of your lifestyle can have detrimental results to your long (and short) term well being. The mantra I'm continually told as a student is as doctors we're simply advisors to the patient, it's their body and their life and we're here to help them make informed decisions and do procedures they ask us to. Medical ethics is an integrated part of our training as physicians and confidentially and patient respect are recurrent themes throughout.

Holding things back from your doctor is a natural tendency, some things are embarassing to talk about or admit. Sadly not telling a physician is counter-productive because in many cases they have the knowledge and skills to help and make whatever the problem is go away. Physicians would much rather you told them -everything- and let them decide what is relevant and irrelevant to your healing. In my limited knowledge UTIs wouldn't be related to diapers unless your diaper is worn in a way that blocks your ability to void your bladder and urine was getting stuck in your urethra. (but that's just a guess from a student who isn't yet an MD). But, nevertheless letting your doctors have the most accurate picture of your body and lifestyle is in your own best interest.

Simultaneously, be respectful of their profession. Some people get some kind of pleasure out of making a big deal out of their diapers to their doctor. Physicians have to see a lot of patients and want to give the best care they can given their limited amount of time. It's one thing to tell your physician about your diapers, sleep habits, sexual proclivities, and other lifestyle elements, it's another thing to harp on the topic to try to get a reaction. In your case, it sounds like you're a kind and respectful person who couldn't possibly talk about your diapers in way but the right one. :-)

All the best, and I hope you heal soon! UTIs can be painful! :-(

Take it easy!

--Lex

[diaperpt]

"BTW, do you think it would be funny for a 47 yer old male to just say "so I stated to wear the disposable adult diapers" or should I just refer to them as briefs?"

I say, Dipes is Dipes... if you say you wear diapers, he'll know what you mean. I you call them 'briefs' unless you are standing there in 'em, would he know? Just go for it...call 'em diapers...

diaperpt (not briefspt)

[TornadoRacer]

Hey phildl sorry it took so long to reply but ive been a very busy daddy...mylittle one is 28{4}in abdl she has been needing alot of attention as u know yes we talked to the dr she said that sometime's it's caused by hard water so maybe it would be a good idea to get one of them water filter thing's for your sink...she does drink alot of water sometimes...hope u get better

[BabyLex]

Thanks Lex,

Yeah I only want to bring it up if there's some relevance. My one concern is that he's going to send me for test not just for what is causing the UTI's but the incontinence. I can tell him that I wear diapers but not that I intentional trained myself to wet at night.

BTW, do you think it would be funny for a 47 yer old male to just say "so I stated to wear the disposable adult diapers" or should I just refer to them as briefs?

Sometimes in the morning I'll be awake laying in bed and I have tendency at times to stop the flow, and then continue to void a few second later. I would think that is a short time to be in the urethra.

Thanks,

Phil

Phil,

No problem. I wouldn't worry about the doctor sending you for additional tests. He may let you know things you already know about the dangers of wearing wet diapers for long periods of time, and other minor health issues surrounding wearing diapers, but any concern or comment he'll have will be directly related to organs, tissues, and cells. In his mind he's thinking about the biochemical reactions between your cells, urine, and any other creams, oils, or powders you're using. He's not going to be making judgments about your lifestyle.

I'd just tell him outright that you enjoy wearing diapers, in fact if he presses the topic be polite and courteous and you could explain that there are a lot of us (including some in the medical field) who enjoy diapers for fun. His goal is going to be to discover if you have a UTI or other medical issue and help you to fix it. That's all, in the scheme of things he'll want to help you as best he can, then see his next patient. I've worked in clinics and seen the 40+ patients in a day where the average wait in the waiting room was over 2 hours... it makes for unhappy patients :-/ Physicians need to balance quantity of patients they see with quality of care, they don't have time to be judgmental nor is it part of their ethos. Much of the basis of medicine is helping and healing, it's why specialists go to 4 year of college, 4 years of medical school, and work 5 years of 80-100 hour weeks making $40K/year and trying to pay off their $250,000 of student loans. They're good people who have their hearts in the right place, especially clinicians.

Take a risk, give him a chance, feel free to tell him a student of medicine who also wears diapers told you this too :-)

All the best Phil, I hope the fix is easy and the pain goes away.

Keep us posted :-)

--Lex

[PhilDL]

Hi Lex,

"No problem. I wouldn't worry about the doctor sending you for additional tests."

I worry about that financially, I don't want to spend money on my co-pays for something that I know isn't a medically problem.

I'll just have to ask him and direct him to only test that are relevant to the UTI's.

"I'd just tell him outright that you enjoy wearing diapers..."

Hmm, I would like too but I don't see me getting enough nerve to say that. What I would say that using diapers is something Ive gotten use to and find helps me get a good night sleep.

Thanks,

Phil

Phil,

No problem. I wouldn't worry about the doctor sending you for additional tests. He may let you know things you already know about the dangers of wearing wet diapers for long periods of time, and other minor health issues surrounding wearing diapers, but any concern or comment he'll have will be directly related to organs, tissues, and cells. In his mind he's thinking about the biochemical reactions between your cells, urine, and any other creams, oils, or powders you're using. He's not going to be making judgments about your lifestyle.

I'd just tell him outright that you enjoy wearing diapers, in fact if he presses the topic be polite and courteous and you could explain that there are a lot of us (including some in the medical field) who enjoy diapers for fun. His goal is going to be to discover if you have a UTI or other medical issue and help you to fix it. That's all, in the scheme of things he'll want to help you as best he can, then see his next patient. I've worked in clinics and seen the 40+ patients in a day where the average wait in the waiting room was over 2 hours... it makes for unhappy patients :-/ Physicians need to balance quantity of patients they see with quality of care, they don't have time to be judgmental nor is it part of their ethos. Much of the basis of medicine is helping and healing, it's why specialists go to 4 year of college, 4 years of medical school, and work 5 years of 80-100 hour weeks making $40K/year and trying to pay off their $250,000 of student loans. They're good people who have their hearts in the right place, especially clinicians.

Take a risk, give him a chance, feel free to tell him a student of medicine who also wears diapers told you this too :-)

All the best Phil, I hope the fix is easy and the pain goes away.

Keep us posted :-)

--Lex

[BabyLex]

Phil,

More than understandable regarding the co-pays, although again, if you come clean and make it clear that your diapers are recreational it'll alleviate a lot of worry and skepticism in your physician's mind. Additionally, once you've let the adrenaline loose, freaked out, and just come out and say 'ILikeToWearDiapersForFunOkay' it'll open a lot of doors for you. You'll have a medical professional you can talk to about it, and I think you'll find they aren't going to pass any judgments on you. If you want, write a note, explaining the situation, try to keep it to less than a paragraph, and just say "I need you to read this" or "I had to write this down to tell you". I've had patients do exactly that with things like hemmroids, irritable bowel syndrome symptoms, and one who had to write "I think I might be pregnant" on a note and hand it to me. Western society for some reason has attached a fair amount of shame to bodily and carnal pleasures, it's actually very sad because patients will edit important details about their lifestyle from their doctors... including embarrassing symptoms, drug use, sexual activity, and depressed feelings.

I totally recognize the potential embarrassment and fear that must be generated, I went through a similar episode when I came out to my lover this past december about my baby self. Phew! My heart was racing and I was worried about having a coronary then and there (and I'm in my 20s and am athletic). But trust me, you'll live, it'll be okay, and in the end, you'll be glad to have done it. Just don't mix alcohol or drugs into the mix, but do whatever it takes to get the message to your doc. It'll help the two of you. I bet you'll leave the place feeling a little off balance, and maybe a little awkward but at the same time amazingly relieved at summing that courage. :-)

You have my best wishes,

I hope it all goes well,

--Lex