Teach one to be, I’ve been with my mommy for 7 years and she wasn’t the assertive type. I was her first baby so that didn’t help either, granted that allows someone to learn via your standards. She wanted to be a mommy and that’s what matters, so over time she’s picked up what to do and now I’m in diapers 24/6 (I wear goodnites at work/college) due to her.
you’re better off finding someone your compatible with and accepts you for you. Overtime her love will grow and she will want to indulge this more because of their love for you. Got to remember they are a woman first and mommy second.