~Brian~

 2.  I also wish that this crazy stuff with my transportation and Medical Exemption would be approved:  THIS is why I feel so bad - Depression, PLUS Arthritic Neck, plus my brain feeling like scrambled eggs, because of the pressure and pain: causes headaches:  I don't complain much, but this one is really close to my pain tolerance level, and I've dealt with pain before, but having CP, sometimes I can't TELL WHY something hurts, I just KNOW it does   (I have family members who tell me I should "Man UP" when I have pain, and well, I do, but I give my bros a MIDDLE Appendage and try to laugh, cause they say I am a terrible patient, but I do not believe I am

3.  Thank You everyone who has put up with me this week:  I just wish I could use the phone version of chat better, but its a tad challenging:  @DailyDiare their any things that I should know about the differences between the PC/MAC version, and a smartphone?

Love you all

Brian

@Valisia

Looks like we are gonna have to bring in the BIG GUNS (They always say things are BIGGER in Texas - Size wise) so we will have to:

1.  Walk to Val, Pick her UP, give her a HUG, cradle her in my arms, and THEN

2.  I make sure you have a THICK Crinkly Tykables waddlers Diaper on, with white Diaper Cover, so you don't have to worry about any messes either way.  When I am ready, I say

3.   Send in The RABBITS:  "Attention:  Jackie Rabbit and Tiny Rabbits:  Begin Regression Relaxation Protocol"

4.   They say "Yes Daddy:  Shall we show Auntie Valisia How Gentle we can be?" 

5.   I say to the bunnies:  "YES Girls, lets show her what you can do:  REMEMBER:  G-E-N-T-L-E "

6.  The Bunnies hop carefully over and want to Help You, so I tell them, "Just a Moment". I then Gently place you in bed, and the bunnies hop in bed with you and they are so gentle, and they look at me and smile:  I NOD my head, and then they say "Nowwwwww" Really Quietly and you start feeling their soft touch, and they begin lightly TICKLING you, and you, being comfy in bed, goggle and smile as they do that, then they stop tickling, and Hug and Kiss you, then Tickle some more, they repeat until you  are giggling and smiling wide, and this is to let you release all of the stress, as releasing UNCONTROLLABLY is EXACTLY what you need:  The bunnies stay with you and help you, say in
Bunny Language "We Love You @Valisia, always

7.  They hop in so you can snuggle with them, and eventually, they see you may need a bottle and a paci of your choice, so they offer you them   **HUGS**

Depression, and all of that hell, is one of the WORST things I think we fight in our whole lives:  I had a dark patch this week, and my neck is arthritic and stiff and I will have to probably wear my C Collar tomorrow.  I Hate when I am depressed and it SEEMS like those whom you love, offer you something nice, and when I ask for advice, thinks go haywire in 2 hours, when I say "No Thanks". Sucks to INFINITY!! to heck with stupid misunderstandings:  I want to be PAIN free in the one place that makes it hard to:

1.  Want to get UP (I have to FORCE myself to move sometimes, and thank GOD for these:

WEDGE Pillow:

BED RAIL WITH SIDE BAG:

Hopefully, @Valisia, you will be OK, you have friends here, and REMEMBER that

**HUGS**

Brian

When somebody says they failed potty training, that is not always a bad thing! If you are trying to do it, and you can't do it, then it's not really considered a failure, because you've already tried. Taught me from a young age that there are times when you just have to try, and keep trying until you get it, and then there's some things that you just can't get regardless of what you try whether you study really hard or you go and take extra classes or you stay after school for a long time, cause your brain just doesn't get it, and I've learned from experience sometimes the teacher in school cannot tell you or show you what it is that you need to do, because he can show you what it is and he or she can run through what you have to do, but regardless of how many times they try you just don't get it. Is why if you have people that are your own peers that understand it better than the teacher, they might be able to connect with you and make it easier for you to understand. That's one thing that I learned about things like long division. Don't care how many times the teacher would write a division problem on the board and try to tell me how to divide, but I could not get how to do the division and all it is is basics of Edition versus subtraction, when you multiply numbers multiplication requires you add the numbers division requires that you subtract the numbers and then bring your remainder if you have it up and say you have a remainder of something if it doesn't divide equally. Does then you have no remainder and you put an R0.

Regardless of how many times you try, there are certain things that you just don't get or you can't do. Remember having them try to do things for me and I just couldn't do it, because of my disability, or things that would make it very hard. For example I remember in 5th grade had a problem with one of my teachers because she was constantly giving me these type of spelling tests or any type of right and assignments and I'd have to write them in cursive. Nowadays I don't think anyone writes in cursive unless they're doing their signatures, and I don't think it's even taught any more, but at the time they were making people learn curse of writing, and regardless of how hard I tried to do it, I could not do it, and I used to get punished by having to write anywhere between 50 and 300 lower case whatever letter they asked me to comment because they couldn't read my writing, they would mark it wrong, and it was affecting my grades.

I don't know if you've gotten mad at somebody and stood your ground, and you just want to pound your fist into the ground and have a temper tantrum because you're trying to get someone to understand your end of the deal when they can't even hear you. I remember one time I was so mad at the teacher who gave me the homework assignment that I went flying off the handle. I kept arguing and saying that they couldn't do whatever they were doing and every time that I would argue that they couldn't do it under the law, they kept on adding more for me to do. When I finally got to the point where I just got to get out of there, I had earned 300. I went home and I did all 300 of those lower case bees, but I pointed my finger at the teacher and I said you guys will learn in the morning that this is not right according to my IEP, and I don't want any more discussion I don't want any more punishment you will find out in the morning.

The next morning I had a meeting with my case manager Mr Nalley. Mr Nalley asked me what I had done for homework last night because he knew that I was behind, and he wanted to make sure that I was keeping up with my class. Told Mr Nalley that it was not a good night for me, and I'll show you what I did, and I had special permission from my teacher to show him what I had done I slapped it down on the desk and said 300 lower case cursive bees because somebody didn't understand what the heck they were doing and they couldn't read my writing. When Mr Nalley heard about this he goes what the heck are they doing that for? They know better than that or they should?

So long story short Mr Nelly had a discussion with both of my teachers in the 5th grade. 5th and 6th grades were what they call team teaching: where one teacher you have some of your subjects with and then there's a time when you have other subjects with the other teacher. Might have some with teacher number one, then I have to go see teacher number two and I have to get up for my desk and go over to her class and do it over there. Let me tell you, after this fiasco where I had to do that, not only did Mr Nellie say to my teachers that I was disabled and it was against the rules according to the IEP, you can't force a student who is disabled to do something that they can't do, and it's been proven in 4th grade that he was having trouble, and they made him do it because they warned him to learn, but now we're talking about him being able to pass classes, and he can't pass classes effectively if everything that he's writing is being required to be written in cursive, and he can't do it, and you guys mark it wrong.

So in the end I was told by Mr Nalley, that they had a apple 2E computer: that computer would stay in my classroom, and if I had an assignment where I had to do something, then the teachers Sometimes Would be required to give me any type of test, or anything like that in an appropriate way so that I was not being marked wrong for not being able to read the work.

So even if they grumble and have a problem, they were in the wrong, and they apologized to me. I told my teachers that I don’t usually make a scene unless it’s absolutely necessary, and although making a scene is not appropriate in a classroom, sometimes the only way a teacher is going to know that there’s something that is not supposed to happen is if they hear it directly from the case management team. Mr Nalley made it clear that I was never to be asked to write anything in cursive again, and wrote that in my IEP in such a way that it was perfectly clear that I was never to be put through that again. My IEP in high school also had that stipulation, that I was to use the computer for almost everything that I needed to write because that was the acceptable way, and I can type faster than I can write. I’m getting used to the fact that for example if I had to take minutes for a particular meeting, which I did for many years, that I have a good recall and I can almost put myself in this room where some one is talking to me and I can remember the words that I hear them say if I can put myself in a position where I can see the meeting room and I can see in my head the person talking, and that saved my **** on a few occasions.

So as I said, you failed party training: I failed cursive writing, but it’s no matter, because we have an appropriate way to deal with such deficiencies.  It is not really a deficiency to fail something, it just means that you cannot do it, regardless of how much you try, regardless of how much you put in some things just can’t be done. I will probably never be able to walk like you could, but I could when I was younger, and I had a friend of mine that pushed me to learn, and I was lucky that I could do it for many years, but it is not safe any more and I am not as Steady on my feet as I once was, so trying to walk without crutches or without some sort of support device is a fool's errand.

So as you see sometimes it’s a no brainer, because someone can see that you can’t do it, they know you can’t do it, they know you try hard and they try to help you. They tell you that you’ve tried your best, and that’s the best you can do and that’s all we can ask. People like your aunt for example who made that big spectacle before your mom straightened her out, make those types of comments because they don’t understand, well you and I both understand our weaknesses and our strengths, and we use each one of these traits to make it easier for us to be able to function in a world that is so screwed up it makes no sense sometimes, and people are heartless and thoughtless and they don’t understand how we can function where we have our diapers on and we use them, and they have to deal with or they think they have to deal with an objectionable smell or something like that, in this is normal for both you and I cause we know how to deal with it, and I know for example that my mom dealt with it, and it wasn’t very pretty sometimes, but that was part of what happened, you just dealt with it and there wasn’t any real discussion. Was already determined that someone wore diapers, and it was accepted. That’s where people have to understand that they may not be able to understand or they don’t want to understand why we do what we do, and that’s fine. I have a problem with someone who decides that everyone in our position is some sort of {Insert derogatory term here, and any other excuse that makes no sense},

All that does is make a person that does that look as stupid and foolish as the one who they’re trying to make a spectacle of. If there’s one thing I can’t stand it’s someone who picks on someone who can’t advocate for themselves, or they have a difficult time dealing with what they’re dealing with. It’s not someone’s fault that they wear diapers, it’s not someone’s fault that they’re disabled, and it’s not some one’s business to tell some one else like your aunt did that you don’t belong in the position that you do belong in, because it’s none of her business, and if she doesn’t like it, well that’s why they say that’s the door!

I say be yourself like I said before above be yourself be the woman that you want to be and don’t worry about what other people think. For example all of us on daily diapers know that we wear diapers and we use diapers the way we use diapers, because that is a given. I try to do for others is to make them or try to make them understand that the situation that we’re in is not our fault, and we don’t necessarily have to be incontinent, and we don’t necessarily have to be disabled in order to wear diapers, wearing diapers is common, and there’s a lot of people that wear diapers for a myriad of reasons, and it’s not for us to decide why they wear diapers or how they wear diapers or what they wear, because that’s their business. That’s why wearing diapers is something that is considered taboo is because they don’t understand why people wear diapers like that. If people understood that, we wouldn’t have people that were in the minority that think that we’re in the right, and we have the right to do what we do, versus everyone else who is wrong, saying that we don’t have a right to or we shouldn’t be wearing diapers or it somehow socially unacceptable! It’s acceptable, it’s normal, and it is done every day! I bet you money that there are people on daily diapers for example that do it every day and they don’t even think about it, because it’s something they do. Worry about what someone says or what somebody believes or the types of comments they deal with, but they still deal with them, and sometimes I wonder when I read something on Incont Dot Org the other day I ended up helping another user there, but the thing is when you have someone who turned something that is minor into something that makes the person feel emotionally dropped, because their emotional wrecks because of something somebody says, that’s when you have to draw the line. People have to realize that diapers are no different than underwear, just like you keep saying, and that is the important thing.

So as I said You were not a failure simply because you failed a particular skill. You failed potty training I passed it, but I failed the cursive writing test, I couldn’t do it, regardless of how many times someone shoved it down my throat tried to make me do it. Or if somebody makes something for example a vegetable or a food that I can’t stand, regardless of how many times they try it, and I try foods like that at least once, but there are certain ones that I will not touch. It doesn’t matter if somebody forces me to or not I’m just not gonna do it! That is part of the deal: people have to understand that a failure in one thing does not make you a failure in life, you are a well respected individual, and I bet you in the community people are open minded, and deal with that without even thinking twice! That is the type of world that we should be striving for, not one where you have Democrats Republicans independents and whoever else arguing left and right of center and making no sense and then arguing like two year olds in a day care center over a lollipop or a ball or an Apple! If that happened in a daycare center, the two would be separated, they’d be calm down or they’d be sent to the corner for punishment! Part of the problem is is we have people that we put in office for example who are on one side or the other, and they’re not even in the middle, there’s no even moderate stuff anymore it’s just either your 1 side to the left or 1 side to the right and it’s extreme!

As I keep saying it’s no wonder people want to live life as you do, or they want to wear diapers or they want to be able to regress or they want to be able to have soft stuffed animals or pacifiers or bottles or whatever it is that helps them regress! The world the way it is it’s a wonder that we even get anything passed in Congress or if we even get what we need to in the government! I don’t know how we do it, but all I ask is that we have a particular system that works. If there were three people in a room and were all yelling and screaming and hollering, we’re not gonna get anything done, but if we have a mediator we come to a agreement and we take care of it. It’s the same thing with daycare kids or school children, if there’s an issue the teacher helps you deal with it, if there is other problem the principal gets involved, and it keeps on going up the chain until something is taken care of or an agreement is reached. In life, our planet is screwed up, our people argue all the time, so it’s no wonder everyone wants to be able to regress. That’s what it is.

So you don’t worry about being a failure: you are not a failure, you simply failed potty training. Mother is enforcing what she wants to enforce, and you have accepted it, your mother encourages it and helps you, and you’re still able to be an adult on your own level. You are a special individual because you are doing what you want to do what you need to do and you’re not afraid to let people know where you stand. Never change that because the minute that you do, something else can happen, and you end up with people who may not understand.

Brian

The good thing is, my dear, that you don't have to really understand the why, because sometimes it's just normal, to be who you are to enjoy what you enjoy, and to do what makes sense to you, and to enjoy the life that you have.

You have said that your life is a modified version of an adult life, meaning that you live the adult baby lifestyle, and have made modifications to make your life the one that you are living now. It is normal for you, it is normal for you to wear diapers and use them as appropriate, it's appropriate for you to change your diapers and deal with that type of stuff in an appropriate manner, regardless of whether an adult or a big kid or someone who is potty trained agrees with it or not. You are an adult, and you live the life of an adult on a modified scale, so you live as an adult baby, so if you are an adult baby it is expected that you are going to use your diapers, and you are going to be wearing the type of clothing that you wear and doing what you do, so that is normal for you, and it should be normal for many other people, but there are people in this world who don't understand what is going on or why someone may want to be an adult baby or why people would like to wear diapers or anything that has to do with incontinence. People understand that incontinence means you don't have control of either your Bladder bowels are both, so they understand that you wear diapers because of incontinence, but there are people that don't understand the lifestyle change or lifestyle that you choose. In most cases, the life you choose is the one that makes sense to you.

I remember my deceased brother Richard. He was disabled, immobile, and nonverbal, and my mom had to take care him just like you would take care of a baby, and that was normal for him. He never spoke to us, but he could tell us what he needed by making noises, and the noises he made would be something that we'd be able to figure out. My mom was very good at taking care of both of us, and both of us being disabled, there was no instruction manner about how to take care of us, and my mom I consider to be an angel from God because my mom was taken care of me my brother and my father at one point, and I don't know how She did it at certain point, but being disabled, my mom dealt with both of us in the best way that we knew how to do what we did. We both went to handicap children's clinic, and even though my brother was not handicapped that way, the doctors were monitoring both of us, to make sure that we were both healthy and able to do whatever it is that we did, and several surgeries were done by one of our surgeons, and in many cases that surgeon has done differing surgery to my aunt as well, for example her knees. My aunt Julie was disabled and she had Down syndrome, so she was always happy of the golucky person coming she was always a party person and she was down for a party or a celebration at any moment. She was always the type of person that could make friends with whole bunch of people comment and once you met her it was like having an infection, she was very very awesome and she had an infectious laugh my dad and my uncle and my grandfather To "behave" and then you'd know that she was serious, because she'd yell out either my dad's name or my uncle Jack's name or her father's name, and then add the behave at the end of it. She was always awesome and I always respected her, and she was an awesome aunt. We would take care of her, and we all knew that she was disabled, so there was no discussion of how we take care of it, we just figure out a way to do it and we did it. My grandparents would always help my mom with me with Richard and with my dad if there was a problem, and that was pretty awesome.

So as I said, like you said that diapers should be " Normalized"  I think they should be, and I think people are coming around, I just think that there are people who have the stigma that think that babies wear diapers, people that are disabled wear diapers, and people that are incontinent wear diapers, and any one else who wears a diaper well that's a little strange to them, and they are trying to wrap around their heads why people would want to wear diapers, but there's always a reason for people wearing diapers, regardless of whether we may approve of it or not, or whether society wants to approve it or approve of it. Sometimes society is so screwed up, that we have to do what we have to do on our own, we have to make the life that we do live the best that we can and we also have to do it in an appropriate law abiding way and not only that but, you live the life that you live, and you like it, you accept it, and it is enforced or reinforced, and your mom helps you as much as she can, and not only that, but when somebody decides to say that they disapprove, like your aunt I believe you said, Your mom put her in her place, and that was appropriate. Part of the problem is people still have that stigma, and we still have to work hard to make sure that stigma is buried along with other ghosts and goblins and other things from the closet. Wearing diapers should be as normal as normal can be, medical professionals know about what they call briefs, and they know that people wear them, and a nurse should not be shocked by people doing it, and they help you as well with that task, and if it's normal for you to wear diapers, it's normal for me to wear diapers, it was normal for my brother Richard to wear diapers, but we didn't pick on anyone we didn't chastise anyone or make light of it we just said he wears diapers and that's it. There was no weirdness or there was no people who would make fun of it, it was just accepted because of a disability. Family has dealt with disability most of their life, and we have learned so many things from people who have been in our family, and I have learned empathy sympathy and understanding because of the fact that I have dealt with people with disabilities, and I can probably make friends with someone who is disabled and not only that have someone who may be nonverbal, because I know how to do that, and I understand what they may have to go through.

Adults big kids and people that are potty trained may not relate to you because they understand one thing that once they're done with their potty training or their through with all of that, they grow up a little bit here and there, and then they they live their life and they do what theirs gonna do The good thing is that there are people in this world who do understand this situation and they do not pick on you and they do not make fun of you or anything like that. They just accept that if you're disabled you may have to use a walker crutches wheelchair or maybe diapers or something else. It's normal: for me we using a wheelchair as normal, for me using a walker is normal, it's as normal as me taking a drink of water, and it will always be that way from the time I was born until the time that they put me in the ground. People do understand some of it, but some people might forget their manners and not only that they might forget that being disabled has its drawbacks, while sometimes it has The perks, but some people don't understand that there are different Difficulties that people deal with that rare diapers, and we all know what they are, but the thing is adults big kids and people that are potty trained may forget that they were once in that position too, they wore diapers just like you and I do, the differences is they don't have to use them anymore, but we still have to have empathy sympathy and understanding for those that do, because they're no different than anyone else except that they don't wear diapers, but they need to remember that people do wear diapers for a darn good reason, and we need to make sure that those people are respected cherished and loved just like anybody else, because they deal with that and sometimes it can be very hard for them to deal with it or emotionally traumatizing or whatever, but we all try to stick together.

Take care and enjoy yourself and be yourself! That's one thing I've learned be yourself be the man or the woman you want to be, and now that I have my diapers and I have learned a lot from people here who I've known for years, it makes it easier for me to be able to accept it because I have good people who were able to help me understand and accept my situation. Once I was able to do that it's as easy as falling off a log just like getting in and out of my wheelchair. Will continue to wear diapers for the rest of my life, but I always remember that there are people who may not wear diapers and they still may need a good kick in the pants sometimes if they forget that they shouldn't be picking on or making fun of people that do that. A few times having someone pick on someone who did that, and I just gave him some help, I gave them hell telling them that it's not appropriate to do that, and I told them that there are people that are in That position for a good reason, and one day you may be in that position, not be able to move, not be able to get in and out of your wheelchair without assistance, or to be able to do things in the bathroom without help. They realized that they didn't understand that for a while, they didn't do that anymore.

Brian

I am glad that you are under a doctor's care! Sometimes life can get really hard, so I can understand your situation!

Good luck!

Brian

What you need to do is continue to post, and for each post you make you will advance based on the number of posts that have been set for each level. Usually if you get to about 500 or 600 or maybe a little more, you end up hitting the diaper royalty rank and that is the last rank.

" Bedwetter" is just a rank that you earn as you move up the charts. Your rank will increase as you interact with other users and you post and like other people's posts and they like yours. Daily diapers has already adjusted it so that people cannot like their own posts, because that makes the post counts look inflated or it makes it look like people are liking their own content which is not supposed to happen.

What I can say is just keep on interacting with people on the forms and you will be doing very well, just keep talking to people and helping them and doing what you do normally and soon you will move up again in rank.

I must also say that the time that you spend online also can have an effect on the number of postings that you make every day. Became a member here on August of 2019, and during that. I ended up making a few posts a day, some of them about 10 to 12, and then it added up. When the pandemic hit and we were locked in all day long all night long for 6 to 8 to 10 months, I was constantly online almost everyday 24 hours a day seven days a week through the entire pandemic, and I reversed my sleep schedule so I was up until 4 in the morning and went to bed until 4 in the afternoon, so my post count is due to the amount of time that I spent online helping people and doing what I usually do giving people support and encouragement and helping them with questions problems or situations. My friend would always tell me that quality is better than having to worry about your quantity, which basically means that How many posts you have is not as important as what the posts contain. I learned that it's better to have 10 posts that are very informative rather than 1000 post total and then 500 of them are just junk posts. This is because I have been an online internet since 1995, and I helped many people and I was an IRC operator for many years, so I know the drill, and I know that there are people who have differing opinions differing abilities and differing opinions likes and dislikes. Being that I have been on the Internet so long, I've learned a lot of things, and but one of the things that's most important is that post count is not as important as if the quality of the post that you make.

Brian

So have I! I don't even worry about it anymore! I figure by now, I'm big enough to figure out what I need to do and why I want to do it, and there's nothing in the book that says I can't enjoy wearing diapers when I have to, because it deals with my incontinence and also helps me with the feelings and urges, and that way it's dealt with in an appropriate way, and sometimes being able to let it all go and let the stress out is exactly what it is, because stress can be a killer

******HUG******

Brian

I'm getting to the point where it's just normal for me to be wearing diapers all the time! I'm not even worried about it anymore! 😁😁

Brian