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Thanks Lex, Yeah I only want to bring it up if there's some relevance. My one concern is that he's going to send me for test not just for what is causing the UTI's but the incontinence. I can tell him that I wear diapers but not that I intentional trained myself to wet at night. BTW, do you think it would be funny for a 47 yer old male to just say "so I stated to wear the disposable adult diapers" or should I just refer to them as briefs? Sometimes in the morning I'll be awake laying in bed and I have tendency at times to stop the flow, and then continue to void a few second later. I would think that is a short time to be in the urethra. Thanks, Phil

TornadoRacer, How old is she? If the Dr. wants her to wear a more absorbent diaper did the Dr. mention about a link between diapers and UTI's? Phil

Thanks so far for the replies! I'll report back Tuesday afternoon. Question though, if you were going to tell a Dr. would you say "DIAPERS" or the dreaded B word, "BRIEFS"? The term briefs doesn't make sense on it's own, you need to say absorbent briefs. If I say I'm using briefs, one could respond, "Oh that's nice, I guess you don't care for boxers." So should I say "I'm using Tranquility absorbent briefs" or "I'm using Tranquility diapers" Here's another choice "I'm using Tranquility adult diapers" Thanks for the input! Phil

After posting this I was thinking that I must tell him since there might be a connection because diapers for me aren't just a fetish but a lifestyle. I can't just stop wearing diapers to bed because I'll have accidents. If it were just a fetish I would stop for a period to rule the diaper connection out. And no I don't regret making diapers a lifestyle. I just hope he doesn't make an issue about wearing diapers and wanting to go for expensive tests. I'll be frank with him, I'll tell him I've been using a pad for 10 years, diapers at night for 3 years and I'm okay with that. I can deal with it and I can't afford the tests, what I want is an answer to is the UTI's. But like I originally wrote, if it gets out of hand I'll just go to another Dr. Phil

Next Tuesday I have an appointment with a Urologist. This morning laying in bed I thought I should tell him everything since I'm seeing him about recurring UTI's {Urinary Tract Infection}. Although the conscientious I've received online that diapers shouldn't cause UTI's I don't want to risk him not having all the facts to prevent anymore UTI's, it knocks me out for a full week. It's happened twice in 1 1/2 months. I've worn diapers for most of my life and I'm 47, doesn't make sense why I would have problems with diapers now. The truth is I'm a DL, I've been using a minimum of a Depend Guard for about 10 years because of dripping and spurts after urinating. A previous Urologist knew of the pad and only asked how often I need to change it. Typically now I wear pull-ups if not diapered during the day. At night for over three years now I'm diapered and I trained myself to wet while sleeping. What happen last night happens sometimes, I won't wet while asleep but slightly wake up and wet. So I'll be wearing a pad and tell him about the dripping and spurts. Unfortunately I'll use the B word {diapers might be too strong to use} and tell him that I wear briefs at night. I'll lie and say I sleep heavy and tend to wet while sleeping or find myself waking up while wetting. So wearing briefs help me to get a more complete nights rest. I just hope he doesn't go in to details like how soon to you get out of the wet brief in the morning. I'll be honest and say I wear it through breakfast and while brushing my teeth and shaving. While brushing my teeth and shaving I need to wet all the time. This Urologist was recommended to me by my new Primary Doctor. So if this all backfires I could jump ship and get a new Doctor. When I went to my primary last week I didn't tell him, I was wearing a pad but he didn't examine me there. He did ask if I have urges where I have accidents, I said no which during the day is true. I might just chicken out next Tuesday and not go beyond the pad. But I think I will since it's too important for him not to know because if the dreaded UTI's. Phil

I wear disposable diapers and I use a stuffer {Huggies} so I can wear them for long periods. Typically for a night diaper I'll have it on for 9 to 11 hours. There's been no rashes, so then I'm sure that's not it. Phil

So I'm 47, been into diapers almost my whole life. The fetish is more a lifestyle now since I trained myself to wet at night. I'm now physically dependent on diapers! This past week was my second UTI {Urinary Tract Infection}. At night I was so out of it from all of the symptoms which this time included massive headaches plus being tired. For a few nights I just wish I didn't have to get diapered, obviously the thrill of getting into a diaper wasn't there. But I knew I didn't have a choice and I had to put a diaper on, I did wish I could be diapered by someone because I was simply too sick. Laying there in my diaper I thought maybe after this illness the thrill of being diapered would go away! Luckily I can say that I'm feeling better and no, I still love my diapers! I know every night I will be diapered for the rest of my life. Just makes me realize that someday hopefully some young lady nurse will be diapering me. She won't know how I became dependent on diapers but as we get older it's just assumed. I'm going to a Urologist in a 1 1/2 weeks, I don't want a third attack! Phil

Well I'm dealing with my 2nd UTI in six weeks! This really sucks, what is so frustrating is that just like the first time it's over the weekend. Unless you illegal, you pay through the nose for the emergency room. The medical industry sucks even more, yes I wrote 'industry'! To make matters worse the Doctor's office I'm going to is horrible, no one there knows what the other is doing. I woke up feeling out of it Friday morning. When I started to get the other symptoms I called the Dr.'s office at 1 and was told his nurse would call me right back. 1 1/2 hours later I called again and after that I still didn't get a call back. I went to Walgreen's health clinic on Saturday, they state they treat UTI's right above the computer sign in so I signed in and waited 25 minutes. When the nurse practitioner heard me explain my problem to the lady in the front he said they can't treat male UTI's. I then called the Dr. who runs the office that I go to. He said that my Dr. and his nurse were out last week. He told me to call Monday and that my Dr. had to see me Monday. I called this morning to find out my Dr. was out today too. It turned out I was talking to his nurse, she said she was there last week. This is an office with 5 Doctors, and only one is in today, and my appointment is at the end of the day. So I'm on my 4th day of sweats, chills, aches and pains and a fever. One thing for sure is I need to find a new thief {people that have M.D. after their name}, there are plenty in this industry, maybe one who is a little more organized. Amazing these careless crooks still are exempt from jury duty because they are still considered to be dedicated noble professionals who are dedicated to their patients health, yeah right! I've gone off the subject but I'm in a real crappy physical and mental mood right now but it's the truth! Phil

Thanks for the replies and the help. Where are you from? Tennessee Have you see the post about the Vegas actvity? Yes, would like to go but I lost my job a few months ago so $$$ is tight! I have thought about going in AB gear for Halloween this year, but I don't think it would be a good idea for me. I'm to self conscious for it I think. Me too, They will have about 50 to 75 people I will be really scared! I might be so scared that wearing a diaper, might actually be very practical! May i suggest something on your wrists or ankles (both) that shackles could be hooked to. Great idea, will do! I have a bondage belt but I don't want to use it since it will block part of my diaper. Might consider an adult cloth "overnight" thickness pinned over the disposable,optionally followed by plastic pants. That will give even more bulk, produce a visual of the classic cloth diaper look. Also, should you choose to use the disposable for the intended purpose, it will shield any possible visibility of the indicator. I did think about a cloth diaper on the outside but my fetish is with disposables. Although diapers are my fetish I've extended it as a lifestyle and a physical need, cloth would be part of the lifestyle but disposables remain as the fetish. Sounds like it wouldn't be a bad idea to actually wet it alittle, I mean if the lady's wanna pat your diapered butt and all...who's to say they might wanna say..ohhh..change ya too..just saying. Could get interesting, I mean it is BDSM. Kinda goes with the flow... Well the party will last for hours, there's no alcohol and I drink alot so even though the top diaper will be dry the diaper if patted, will have warmth and heaviness to it! Phil

My local BDSM club is having a Halloween Party. Halloween falls on a Friday this year! I figured this is an opportunity to go in my diaper! I'm looking for ideas. I don't want to go as an AB but for what I am, a DL. However I do like some babyish qualities. First the diaper, I want to wear an adult disposable. A babyish one, by that I mean white plastic, full fit and I want to add a stuffer to add to the fullness. I was thinking of Assurance, my favorite diaper is Tranquility, but that has a lot of writing in the middle by the wetness indicator. The Assurance just has a simple wetness strip but it doesn't have padding on the sides. It's going to be weird wearing a diaper and not being able to wet it, I don't want to freak out or should I write, discourage ladies from patting my diapered butt. I was thinking of doubling up, this would give the fullness plus I then could wet the inner diaper without anyone knowing I'm wet. Besides the diaper I need to figure out what else to wear that is appropriate for a DL. Right now I'm thinking of a baby blue tee shirt and sneakers, maybe white socks. I guess I'll be wearing my collar, maybe I could attach something to the collar. Any thoughts? Phil

For what they do $90 seems to be reasonable compared to the thieves out there that can be identified with a M.D. after their names! Did you hear anything or were you asked in the questions about having this done if you have colon polyps and/or diverticulitis? Phil

how is the condom cath attached? Very simple, rolls on just like a condom with adhesive towards the end so it sticks and makes a seal around your penis. then just attach the tubing to the end. Phil

I really enjoyed reading your story, I found myself picturing your story in my head like a movie. That was clever saying you were incontinent, I never thought of that open approach before for a massage. But as others stated since she knew up front about diapers you should have explanied about your back. Maybe suggesting that if she you wanted you to, you would lower the diaper. Wow, imagine the sound of your diaper crinkling as she massages you! I wonder what she was thinking. I would loved to have sneaked in a camera and videotape a hottie giving me a massage in my diaper! Phil

The review I read says he's reverted back to age 9. So unless he was a bedwetter I guessing no diapers. Phil

Sounds like Post Micturition Dribbling (PMD) - I've seen a Urologist about this. You need to start wearing at least a Depend Guard. Or use the Wal-Mart Version, it still as the plastic backing. ----PMD, or 'After-dribble' means the loss of a few drops of urine after the main stream, when the bladder appears to be empty. The medical term for this condition is 'post micturition dribbling'. It usually happens just as the penis is being replaced and garments rearranged, and ends up with trousers getting wet and stained. Some men find that, despite waiting and shaking, it remains a problem. What is happening is that the urethra (the tube leading from the bladder to the tip of the penis) is not being emptied completely by the muscle surrounding it. A "sump" of urine pools at a low point in the urethra.--- I'm 47 when I was in my early 20's I started to have this problem. When I started to wear diapers on a regular basis I found that I needed to go more often and maybe in your case I'll have spurts after I go, along with the dripping. Before I realized there was a product for minor dripping it was annoying, but as a DL it doesn't bother me at all as long as there's a pad! One urinary problem that I have and I've seen the Dr. about is multi-streams when I urinate. the urologist suggested that I sit when wetting, fine at home but not in a public restroom. Another reason to be diapered! Phil

That's great news! Especially since she washed them, she obviously accepted them. Phil

Just yesterday I wrote about the national drug store chains running Depend sales every few weeks at $10.99. Well in today's Sunday paper I see two of these chains advertising the new sale price at $11.99. Just like everything else, prices are going up! I mentioned I don't use their diapers anymore but I use their underwear. If I lived alone I think I would go with washables even though my desire is for disposables. Phil

So does anyone know if Carlesta, sween cream or bag balm are oil base? I don't want to rot my plastic pants!!! Phil

Absoultey not! That's a big turn on for me too. Your lucky to have a girlfriend like that. My preference is just a disposable with the skirt or dress. I love seeing the curves of the diaper right against the butt without plastic pants blocking these highlights. She's your girlfriend so I can understand why you may not want to do this. But a picture, a close up would be nice to see! Phil

Depends with a Depend booster! I've used both. Yes the Assurance is cheaper, they feel better, fuller cut but they don't hold much. Well let me clarify that, they can absorb a lot but the gel that they are made of or the overall construction leads to a diaper that you can't sit down or squeeze your thighs in that much once you have a significant wetting. The gel is just like a sponge it will just squirt out once it is squeezed. So you need at least a Depend booster. The Depend boosters cost about $5 in Wal-Mart for 20. So if you save money on Assurance diaper and add a booster the cheaper diaper in now more than Depends diaper. This is based on getting Depends diapers for $10.99 which I can get from national drug retailers (Walgreens, Rite Aid & CVS) every few weeks when on sale. Also call Depends (1-800-558-6423) for coupons, anytime I call they always ask if I want some coupons mailed. They come in a regular business size envelop and the return address is Kimberly Clark. Now I'm not much a fan of Depend diapers anymore, they changed them earlier this year, I feel they don't hold much with the change. Yet I'm a big fan of their underwear {pull-up's}, they always make them better with every re-design. I'm in these all the time when I'm not diapered, including while working. Having said that I understand about the money situation, I lost my job 3 months ago and the job market where I'm at is very depressing. Still I will continue with my favorite pricier diaper which is Tranquility. I use them with a Huggies overnight at night time. I use to use Molicare with a Huggies on the weekend but I found that Tranquility is almost as good so I've eliminated the more pricier Molicare. Depends use to be my day time diaper until the recent change. But now I use Tranquility during the day which now makes it my exclusive diaper. I buy the Tranquility ATN (All through the night) from magicmedical.com I buy 2 cases at a time for a 5% savings and get free shipping. So that's 192 diapers for $169. Phil

I came here in 1994 too. My experience is also is the same. I rather have a friend who uses diapers, this way a big part of my life doesn't have to be kept silent. Phil

Not the funniest, maybe most bizarre for me was in a mall's wide open parking lot! I just left my sisters after dinner and I was heading home. Something I ate didn't agree with me and I got major league cramps and I knew diarrhea was immediately coming. I pulled off the road and went to the Mall, it was dark and they just closed, luckily I had a diaper in the trunk. So right there in the lot I pulled off my shoes, pants and diapered myself and just in time. The fact it was diarrhea, I knew the diaper had it's limits, but I was able to relief myself enough in my diaper till I got home. I always come back to this, why doesn't the general public accept diapers or just pull up's for times like this! Phil

Hi, Don't blurt out "hey, I just like diapers!". Instead calmly state that your with recent experience and some of your physical needs you are finding diapers practical and comfortable. Please keep us updated! Phil

Hi, My binge/purge and quilt has long past me, the last time was in my mid 20's. That's why I wrote that it's my lifestyle and not my fetish. Plus I've made myself physically dependent on diapers. You wrote about times have changed. They do and for middle TN it seems that current day is more conservative than the 90's. AB/DL's were coming out and meeting back in the mid & late 90's but now forget about it. The only thing I can figure is these people like yourself have left middle TN or more so people are to contented to just communicate behind a computer. The internet is great for this but it can't replace human contact! At times I think that maybe I'll go to a therapist, at least then I could talk to someone face to face about my lifestyle. That's sad in itself, more so that therapist will likely tell me {like yours} to do what I'm already trying to do, reach out to others. Any AB/DL out there can control their exposure even to fellow AB/DL's. Meet at a mall, use a phony name and don't give out personal info. Maybe after awhile if they feel comfortable they will open up. I think it's reasonable that most will never meet at their homes or even know someone's address. Diaper lover frustrated and lonely in middle TN, Phil

The cat question is easy, I hate cats. But not to upset some, I would say just take if for a long one way drive. So since your wife knows about diapers for your commute and she didn't freak out when she saw you wearing them on the couch, I think you should be somewhat honest with her. I wrote somewhat, why not tell her that since you used them for the commute your have become use to them. Maybe you could use some of my excuses. Besides the fact that I've trained myself to wet at night I also have a real legit excuses. I would need to get up 2 or 3 times a night and when I go I have 3 to 5 streams that makes a mess plus I drip a lot after wetting. So since I've been diapered every night for the past 3 years this thankfully is something from the past. Phil