Morv

Just a thought... Remember to tell her you love her on a regular basis.

Wow, I take that as a huge compliment. Thanks. Good luck.

I would recommend going without the diapers, unless you actually need them.

I like the "ceiling cat is watching you masturbate." That is fucking hillarious.

Make sure to get over to the appetizer buffet. The stuffed mushrooms are excellent. The ones on the front tray have minced scallops in the stuffing, the ones on the back tray are sea food free.

Unless the chat room has changed a lot since the last time I hung out there, maybe you shouldn't start there. But also, don't lie to her -- make it clear where your interests lie, and that there are people who have different interests that may (or may not) be more extreme than yours. Try and put yourself in her shoes... try pretending for, example, that she likes going to parties where... people swim naked in pools filled with runny oatmeal... or something. Sorry, that image just popped into my head for god knows what reason.

If I were reading a book in public and someone started talking to me about it, I'd probably end up talking to them for hours if they were cool-male or female, attractive or not. When you do things in public... well, you're in public, so there's other people around. If you really want to read a book without being bothered, you could always do it in private. You know, a room without other people, a locked door, drawn shades, and phones turned off. (Thorlof, more punctuation please... your last post was a little hard to follow... I was out of breath by the end of it.) Just because someone would pursue or be interested in a member of the opposite sex does not mean that they "think with there[sic] dicks." Also, usually when "someone is doing someone" they do it in private. Maybe this is just me, and I'd like some input from other people who live in different countries, but your "I don't want to be disturbed when I'm in public" attitude seems very American. I guess I'm as much asking as saying. I've traveled outside the U.S. a bit, and in my conversations with others who have also, I've found people more outgoing in public in general in other countries. Now, I know in this case you were doing something, not just sitting around and obviously open to conversation, but I'm contemplating general trends at the moment.

I'll take a shot at some of these. Yes, I think more men are into the diaper thing, and though I believe that women are under-represented in many online communities, I still think the majority are men. I also believe that this is logical. For many, being an AB or DL is about escaping to a place (mentally) in which they are taken care of, in which they immitate a level of safety and security from earlier in life. It is a place that is free from the necessities of every day life, away from responsibility and expectations. It is a place where one can be protected and cared for. Though our society has done much in the ways of equalizing the roles of men and women (this is a whole different topic of conversation), I believe that men are still brought up, in general, to believe that they have to be the strong, to be protectors that don't have or show weakness. Men don't cry and such what not. I believe that for many men, the AB/DL experience is a way of experiencing the things that protectors and bread-winners don't. Think of the typical movie that our culture produces. How often is it that you see a man break down and cry and it is a woman who wraps her arms around him until he is alright? And how often is it that you've seen the opposite? More or less, I believe that more men are AB/DLs to experience feelings that culture deems atypical for their gender roles than women for the same reason. I am in no way suggesting that this is the only reason that people are AB/DLs. I'm not sure I made my point terribly eloquently, but I hope I got the general idea through. There are fundamental differences between being being a goth and an AB or DL. Some of the more notable ones include the fact that diapers already are used in our society for people that can't control their bowels or bladder, and typically this is something that is associated with the extremely old or young. Hence, there are pre-existing associations, such as "he's wearing a diaper, he is going to pee or poop in it," which may to conclusions such as, "Sometime in the near future, that person might start smelling bad due to human waste in their pants." Goths do not wear clothing that is associated with another stage of life and another place in society. I could say more, and probably will after there's more replies and I have more to contemplate. (There are many other ways in which being a goth and being a AB or DL differ.) Also, quite simply, I'm pretty sure there's more goths than AB/DLs, but I could be wrong.

Rarely, very rarely, would I ever recommend coming out about this to your family. But, you fucked up. You fucked up pretty good. You have no easy choices right now, so take the following into account. Option 1: Lie It doesn't matter what the lie is, there's the possibility that you will get caught. Saying you have had incontinence problems is likely to get your parents very worried, even if you say it is "going away." If it were my parents, even with me being 25, I would expect them to hound me until I went to the doctor. This also presents the possibility of them seeing through the lie, or, figuring it out on their own later. Then when you have to explain it to them for real, they will see you having a deviant interest (which, in their eyes, could be something that will get you in trouble, or something they will ignore), and as a liar. Option 2: Tell the truth Tell them the truth. I suggest you include here an apology, because you are an adult and your mother shouldn't have to take your diapers out; she shouldn't have to be exposed to your diaper wearing, really. Keep it concise, don't go into details. Don't get into causes or reasons or excuses -- it may well only provide fodder for pointless suggestions to rid you of this interest. This conversation by no means has to be with both of your parents, if the situation permits. I would also suggest that you close with something like the Forrest Gump line, "And that's all I have to say about that." Let your parent(s) know that the discussion is over, and that you hope they won't bring it up again as long as you don't do something stupid like, say, wearing a diaper when they are home so they ask you "What's that crinkling noise?" or leaving your bottle and pacifier out where they can find them, or, putting your diapers in a trash receptacle that your parents take out. These are all invitations to have your parents bring the subject up again. To be honest, I also view exposing your parents to your interests as somewhat of a lack of respect for them too.

^No, it seems a bit early to be celebrating Valentines day right now. < Thinking that, scary as it is, I have a remote for my DVD player/recorder that actually has an "any" key, and I had trouble finding it because I wasn't actually looking for a key labeled "any." V What condiment(s) do you like to use on french fries (I believe you folks across the big pond refer to them as chips, yes?).

Masturbators Against Greeting Angry Zionist, Intrusive, Nihilistic Envoys ARHTROSCOPIC

I'm just gonna take a shot in the dark here, but I think most people who are transgendered do understand that there is no going back after the operation. I'd go on to suggest that the "no going back" thing is probably one of the first things that people first discovering their transgendered nature find out when they start doing some research. I guess diaperedragon, I can see what your opinion is, but I really don't see why it is such. IOt is almost as if you think that the transgender community is trying to take something away from intersexuals. I can explain why I think becoming incontinent is a bad idea that I would not support -- it involves a change that creates a disability. An operation to change sex to align with perceived gender does not create a disability. This for me is one of the most important differences.

Felines Instantiate Racial Epithets When One Orders Death COSMOPOLITAN

I used to be that way too (about stupid women), and for a relationship I still am. However, at some point I discovered that "stupid" isn't really all that apparent when it comes to having sex. If it is, either your partner is so beyond stupid that she's the point of no return into the realm of idiocy; or you're not concentrating on having sex enough and simply need to focus more.

I'm gonna take a shot in the dark here... While there are parallels about wanting to change gender and wanting to be incontinent, I think that they are weak parallels and also differ in some very important ways. How are they similar? Both involve an irreversible change (already stated). Both include behavioral changes. Both include an intrusive procedure, i.e. surgery. Both are not by the community at large considered "normal." Both result in the potential of loss of acceptance and potential trouble gaining new acceptance in the general population. Both result in the potential of a greater challenge in finding a partner. Both affect your sex life. I'm taking a guess here, but both are not covered by most (mayhap all) insurance policies. Both have been mentioned or depicted on one of the "Law and Order" shows. Both procedures have websites that are about or involve them and online support communities. Both procedures are (and should be) preceded by multiple therapy sessions. Both are uncommon. Both involve a change for something that in some way was impressed upon us as a young age (gender roles and potty training.) How are they different? One deals with age and one deals with gender. One can have a very definite chromosomal cause, the other is never the immediate and specific cause of a genetic disorder. One deals with a surgery to change, the other a surgery to cause a disfunction. One deals with a change into something that is generally considered the result of a defect or disfunction, either physical or mental (incontinence), and the other deals with a change into something that is considered normal (the other sex). One involves the neccisty of changing clothing not for the sake of fitting the norm of a new role, but rather to allow normal every day functioning--you can walk around naked in your house all day as a transgender and have no ill effect, but if you were incontinent, you'd have problems. One is a change that affects you constantly, the other one that affects you intermittently. One is a common side effect of aging (especially the later years,) the other is not. One is fairly well studied by the medical/psychiatric field, the other much less so (though both are not as well studied as, say, depression). There are others. Personally I feel though there are many similarities, most are very broad statements that fit many different groups. I feel the differences are very specific and very stark and significant differences; they are differences that deal directly of the definitions of what each the each condition really is.

Dill, if you read my previous posts, you will see I went to some effort to say I didn't consider AB/DL a mental illness. In fact, I even posted to clarify earlier statement to make that point. And, as far as association with positive events/memories/feelings, I couldn't agree more. I'm curious about a little more detail than that, personally.

If you're 18, open your own bank account without your parents name on it. I don't know how gutsy you are, so there are several ways you could go. 1) Save up cash to open the new account and don't tell your parents about it. You can have more than one bank account. 2) Withdraw the money from the joint account -- I don't know if you need their signature to withdraw or not. If so that would be a problem. Anyway, withdraw money from old account, and put it into the new account. As far as your parents and your privacy, try the following logic with them: Fairly soon you are going to be moving out, and they will not be able to check in on you. You are at a stage where you are trying to prepare for this change, as you are legally an adult now. When the time comes that you move out, you want to be able to still trust them if you need support and to talk to them about anything, and hopefully, they want you to be prepared for this situation. The inbetween step would be for them to allow you a little more freedom (namely, them not invading your privacy without just cause-- and that being something that they discuss with you before they invade your privacy), but still being in close proximity to you (namely, living in the same house). You need to learn how to live without them peeking into your world without your permission, and you need to be able to trust them enough so that once you move out, if you need to talk to them, you will feel that you can trust them. Stress the fact that if they can't demonstrate enough trust in you to allow you privacy, you may not have enough trust in them after you move out to contact them if you have a problem you have to trust them with to help you solve it. Also consider asking them what they see their job as parents being. Do they see their job as parents to prepare you to be an adult, or to simply try and protect their own interests until you are no longer a liability to them? (A good follow up to this, if they answer in an unsatisfactory manner would be questions such as, "Do you love me and want to help me grow up, or do you want to coddle me so that when I am on my own I won't have a clue what I'm doing and don't trust you enough to come back to you for help? Do you want to set me up for success by giving me experience or set me up for failure by shielding me from reality?") If you want to strengthen your argument, I suggest you consider and be aware of the following. (I work in the human services/mental health business, so I know the following first hand.) If you are institutionalized, even against your will, you have a right to privacy. You have the right to be present and notified if your personal space (dresser, closet, bed, etc.) is being searched, unless the reason for the search is a concern for the safety of yourself or another (and that means an immediate threat -- they think you have a gun, or a knife or something, not that they think you are writing or reading or looking at things that would be bad for your state of mind.) If the reason is a matter of safety, then it must be fully documented, including time, people involved, reasons, results, and specifics of what was searched. Also, institutionalized individuals also have a right to manage their own finances. Said finances may be watched over by those in a position of authority, but the most that can be done is to advise clients to how to spend their money -- they cannot be forced to spend it in one way or another. They can spend it on anything they wish to, which even goes as far as them purchasing pornography with it, as long as they do not display said pornography in a way that exposes others unwillingly. Currently, as your parents search your personal area and control your finances, you have less rights than someone who is schizophrenic, ADHD, bi-polar, and downsyndrome. I hope that it opens your eyes, any of you, who live at home, that people committed by a judge's order have more rights than what your parents are allowing you. Your parents need to trust you, and you need to trust them.

I lost that card when I was sixteen. Had a girlfriend I ended up dating for about a year, and we were like rabbits. I have since come to the conclusion that sex and love are two completely seperate things, and they can be exclusive, though they do go well hand in hand. I also can say that I still have had more sex before I turned 18 than since. Safe sex? Important. Waiting for the right person is the right thing to do for a lifelong commitment. Though there is always the possibility of pregnancy, if you are careful you can keep that very slim (let's see here... get her on birth control, and then still use a condom with spermacide... fairly effective), and therefore reduce the risk of potential unplanned lifelong commitment (i.e. pregnancy). I don't think there's anything wrong with waiting for the "right person," if you choose to do so, but I can only view the moral codes that give rise to the rules of ethical conduct that specify true monogamy as being outdated given today's societal structure and technological levels. Choosing someone to get married to and someone to have children with, aye, you should be picky about that and certainly wait for the right one. Having sex? Well, there is that risk of developing emotional attachment... I suppose it depends on the individual. But, bottom line, there's nothing wrong with being a virgin. I know I'm saying that as someone who isn't one, but I'm also saying it as someone who hasn't been getting any for the past two years or so, and someone who hasn't gotten some on a regular basis for the past five. My life has me busy doing other things these days. There is a season. As far as the not being able to finish the job... I've always worried about not being able to get it up... it seems with all the damn ads for viagra and shit that the pharmacutical industry's advertising campaign is actually intended to raise stress levels to the degree that men become impotent. But, when the time came, it never was a problem. Where I have had the problem was one girlfriend I had that always seemed to get in the mood after a few drinks, and she had a terrible problem of catching me at a point where I hadn't had enough to drink that I couldn't perform, but I couldn't manage to climax. I think it's almost worse to have gotten your partner off several times and not be able to reap any satisfaction yourself. Like any other activity, if you're worried about your performance, all I can say is that, like anything else in life, practice make perfect. And I believe Vince Lombardi once said that practice doesn't make perfect, perfect practice makes perfect. So, there you go. A shining endorcement for whacking off until you're raw. Anyway, I'll end by repeating an earlier statement: there's nothing wrong with beign a virgin. (Well, that is, unless you're a woman who is dating me... j/k)

I recall you seppuku... I liked your old avatar better than the watermellon, though.

Red Hot Chili Peppers, "Cabron"

Oh, tough questions. My music collection is about 90% things I really like, and about 10% random stuff. I don't keep any stuff that I truly dislike, but it is also rare for me to find things that I truly dislike. I don't honestly have a top 10 songs. I mean, I have some that I like a lot, but it changes around. I'm also a big fan of the concept album, not just a collection of singles. I can say that if I had to choose a single album, it would be Dark Side of the Moon by Pink Floyd. Other favorite albums include: Wish You Were Here and Momentary Lapse of Reason by Pink Floyd; Days of Future Passed, On the Threshold of a Dream, In Search of the Lost Chord, To Our Children's Children's Children, Every Good Boy Deserves Favour, A Question of Balance, and Seventh Sojourn by the Moody Blues; Nashville Skyline, Time Out of Mind and Highway 61 Revisited by Bob Dylan; Tommy by The Who; Eldorado by Electric Light Orchestra; By the Way by the Red Hot Chili Peppers; The Beatles, Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band, Revolver, Let it Be, Abbey Road, and The Magical Mystery Tour by The Beatles; The New America by Bad Religion; Led Zeppelin IV by Led Zeppelin; Brain Salad Surgery by Emerson, Lake & Palmer; Desperado by The Eagles; American Idiot by Green Day; Always Never the Same, and Leftoverature by Kansas; Brothers in Arms by Dire Straits; Daylight Again by Crosby, Stills, and Nash; Deja Vu by Crosby, Stills, Nash and Young; Vol. 1 by The Traveling Wilburys; Sublime by Sublime; The Decline by NoFX. That's by no way exhaustive, just what I thought up on a moments notice. Lennon -- the one with the I was the Russian dude. Favorite Beatles songs? Hmmm... "All Across the Universe," "Yesterday," "You've Got To Hide Your Love Away," "Ticket to Ride," "I've Just Seen a Face," "Let it Be," "The Long and Winding Road," "Eleanor Rigby," "Got To Get You Into My Life," "Here, There and Everywhere," "She Said, She Said," "Taxman," "Tomorrow Never Knows," "I'm Only Sleeping," "Fixing a Hole," "Getting Better," "Within You Without You," "She's Leaving Home," "Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band," "A Day in the Life," "Fool on the Hill," "Your Mother Should Know," "I am the Walrus," "Hello, Goodbye," "Strawberry Fields Forever," "Baby You're a Rich Man," "All You Need is Love," "Come Together," "Something," "Here Comes the Sun," "You Never Give Me Your Money">"Sun King">"Mean Mr. Mustard">"Polythene Pam">"She Came In Through the Bathroom Window">Golden Slumbers">"Carry That Weight">"The End", "Glass Onion," "While My Guitar Gently Weeps," "I'm So Tired," "Blackbird," "Mother Nature's Son," "Helter Skelter," "Revolution 1," "Revolution 9," "I Saw Her Standing There," and "Lady Madonna." I'm not sure if that is an exhaustive list, but those are my favorites.

I'm an idiot, nevermind.

"Livin' Thing" - Electric Light Orchestra hey dolly, I hear you on how those vocals can get to you. What do you think of Love? I haven't listened to it enough to form my opinion yet.

Look, a dead horse! Where's my beating stick?

It seems that most of my projects start in the shop and move elsewhere. Right now I'm building a screen (I'm to cheap to buy one) for my new LCD high-def projector.