[913 Day Unpotty Training Update]

I have enjoyed reading about your journey, as you know I'm on a similar journey. I started wearing 24/7 mid September then stopped around 20th November, then started again on 28th December. In that time from stopping and starting again I haven't lost the ability to remain completely unclench and let it dribble out at the slightest urge. I think for me it's all about repetition, once your muscle memory learns the  new status quo I think you'll notice a decline, I have read that when people keep their sphincters unclenched all the time it becomes second nature and when they are not wearing it feels weird and alien to clench, thats muscle memory. Hopefully I can get my sphincter unclenching into permanent relaxtion mode peeing at the slightest urge so that way my sphincters weaken and diminish over time resulting in true incontinence, but I'm not focusing on that,  I'm just really enjoying wearing at the moment

Mark for you to make progress you need to learn to pee while sitting down, you need to concentrate on that then move onto night time wetting. You will make faster process when you can wet in any position and its second nature to wet in little gushes and dribbles even when sitting. I know its frustrating trying to wet while seated and feeling you pee build in you bladder then when you finally pee you flood your nappy in the front resulting in leaks and wasting the nappy. When you have mastered dribbling you will find that you nappies hold more and its such a lovely feeling when you lying on you back in bed and freely wetting and the warm pee dribbles down your bum soaking into the back of your nappy. Its feels like your truly incontinent.

I think for me my process is better because I have simulated incontinence for 20 years so over that time it has become very easy for me to wet. I didn't start out trying to learn to wet my nappy straight away. 

[Post-void dribbling getting worse from wearing 24/7.]

Do you have to concentrate and relax your sphincter to release me?

[When Kids (of all ages) Love Diapers]

I think my foster parents letting me wear incontinence nappies as a child (at the advice of the child psychologist after star charts and other things failed in stopping me stealing them from my special school) had a very positive effect on me. I have no shame or guilt in wearing. I think the positive experiences with obtaining incontinece nappies and wearing them nightly helped keep me out of trouble because my need for nappies were so strong I would of done anything to get them.

 

One instant of positive reinforcement came two years ago when my psychosis returned and I was involuntary hospitaled. I needed some clothes fetching from my bedroom and it took much courage to ask my community case worker because I knew I had loads of used nappies on my floor, She would diffently see them. The hospital psychiatrist and case worker could see I was hugely anxious and coasted the information out of me so I was honest and told them I have some used incontinence pads on the floor. I will never forget the psychiatrist saying “is that it?”  like she thought I was going disclose something bad,  her voice tone was very reassuring. I then asked my case worker if she would bag them up for me because they would soon start smelling which she very kindly need. Not a word has been spoken about it since. Wearing nappies is no big deal. I now wear freely but am discreet.

[Post-void dribbling getting worse from wearing 24/7.]

I notice a small little trickle when I stand up or sit down, it’s only a little tingle at the end of my penis but it’s noticeable. 

30 minutes ago, MarkSmith said:

You seem to be picking up where you left off.  Today makes 14 weeks in diapers permanently.  My unpotty training has really leveled off.  I still am no where close to wetting in my sleep.  I am dribbling more post void and definately when I cough.  That is about it.

Are you remaining totally unclenched. Can I ask how does that feel to you now? I heard it takes 66 days to learn a new habit. Has your sphincter learned to remain open all the time? 

[Post-void dribbling getting worse from wearing 24/7.]

I'm 9 days into wearing 24/7. I am keeping my sphincter muscle relaxed 90% of the time. I'm just dribbling and gushing out all the time while not excising my sphincter, also keeping my bladder free of urine. Sometimes it spasms when I mess my nappy. I'm eating more fibre so hopefully that goes away soon. I'm also working on my bowels to lose control because I figure losing all my continence at the same time will quicken the process.

 

I can pee very easily sitting down, I just dribble out without much pee building up in my bladder. I have lost the automatic clench relax. When walking I tend top gush pee with each stride and if I stop I just dribble out. I can sit on a moving bus and pee very easily. My steam is weak. Also I have started to feel a urge to pee even though I don't have anything in my bladder, when I dribble out the urge goes away then returns. Its differently notable at night when trying to sleep because I'm focused on the urge, when I do pee just a dribble comes out then some minutes later I feel the urge to pee again. Also I have noticed a weird cramp feeling in my bladder like its dropping. If I continue down this road what would the outcome be? I'm very excited to a little nervous at the same time?

[Are you progressing as a DL?]

I have gone from it being a hugely sexual thing to more comfort. The purge and binge and  guilt after masturbating is gone and I feel quite content wearing 24/7 and being enthusiastic to re-nappy myself after I've orgasmed. I now wear daily and can wet very easily.

[How long does it take to recharge your batteries after masturbating?]

For me my batteries recharge after about 10 minutes, I normally just sit on a chair pad then re-nappy myself. When I was younger I would totally lose interest in wearing. I think since getting over the guilt and becoming more accepting I'm wearing more and more for comfort as well as sexual.

[How long does it take to recharge your batteries after masturbating?]

Do you lose interest in wearing after you’ve released? How long does it take for you to get the interest back. Can you nappy up straight away? 

[How Long To Train Yourself To Bed Wet?]

I know for me my continence has greatly reduced to the point I dribble and drip with a open sphincter that doesn’t clench after peeing. It has taken me about 10 weeks of going 24/7. Plus I can wet in any position now. Then I stopped wearing for about one month and then starting wearing 24/7 on the 24th of December and I have retained my muscle memory and can basically wet very easily. I have a large post dribble where I thought I have stopped peeing but notice a small trickle afterwords, This is also noticeable when I’m pooing, I faint dribble. This is in quite contrast to about one year ago.

Do you think if I continue I will end up more and more incontient? I’m going to continue down this road like a new year revaluation and see where it leads.

 

what do you think is happening to my control. Where does it go from here?

[Informing employer about incontinence.]

Can I ask what was the quoality of incontience products like in 1990 and how do they compare to now?

[Molicare Brand]

Is it true that the plastic backed Molicare Slip Maxi is being discontinued?

[Post-void dribbling getting worse from wearing 24/7.]

Mark - I think it 's sort notice for bedwetting. Perseverance is key.

 

[When Did You Start To Become An Ab/dl?]

From 5 years old.

[What Else Do You Wear To Bed With Your Diapers?]

I hate sleeping in just a nappy. I have to be compressed with pants or a onesie  on.

 

Who do people who sleep with only a nappy on keep it compact?

[How easy is it for you to wet while sitting.]

For me I find it incredibly easy and I can just dribble little bits out without much effect. I remember a time when it was impossible for me to wet while sitting. What is you story about wetting and sitting?

[I feel like I'm regressing in life]

I think I have conditioned myself to remain flaccid when masturbating. I have done this since a kid and now I rarely get erections even when waking up. It takes me ages to climix. I'm not too worried about it personally because I only fantasise about nappies and incontinence. 

[Getting caught wearing by a stranger]

The window cleaner seen my stack of molicare packets that where impossible not to see. i don't care.

[Post-void dribbling getting worse from wearing 24/7.]

I stopped wearing 10 weeks into going 24//7. I have noticed some difference in my wetting abilities. I could wet very easily before I went 24/7 but couldn't wet while lying down or walking. After 10 weeks I have conditioned myself to wet in any position, it's especially noticeable when I'm lying on my side while padded and I pee and only small dribble come outs. When I'm wearing my sphincter is automatically relaxed at all times and I can pee very easily in all activities in dribbles. This is in contrast to before where my pee kinda built up especially when sitting and I wet in more larger amounts, but know I can sit here at my computer and just dribble away in very small dribbles. I have noticed that I continue having after dribble after I've peed. As soon as I put a nappy on I instantly want a pee.

I have noticed the most that after I have orgasmed I have lost the urge not to wear, its strange because for years I would lose total interest in wearing but know I can very happily nappy-up straight after orgasm. Its very comforting and in the 10 weeks wearing it's activated and awakend something more deeper then just the sexual side. I feel a very warm feeling when I'm wearing.

 

I stopped wearing because I want to go to Israel next fall and I think if I'd off continued I would of been severely incontinent by then. Incontinence creeps up on you. it become so easy to pee.

 

I went 24/7 about 10 years ago. Then I was very paranoid about wearing in public. I could only pee while concentrating while standing completely still and would flood my nappy, after I peed my sphincter would clamp shut. It was impossible to pee lying or in any position apart from standing like a statue. I couldn't pee in front of anybody. Now I can dribble anywhere. I'm not afraid of peeing in front of people. My sphincter remains relaxed at all time when wearing. I think incontinence is very obtainable.  

[If I went into psychiatric hospital and was honest with them why I'm wearing?]

I wouldn't want to be changed by medical staff.

[Nottinghamshire DL's]

Newark here.

[bowel incontinence with tunnel butt plugs]

I have always wondering about if you can achieve bowel incontinence through wearing a hollow but plugs 24/7 for months and what effect that would have on your anal sphincter muscle. Would the sphincter lose  elasticity and would that cause permanent incontinence?

[What is some of your fantasies while wearing?]

I fantasise  about winning the lottery then finding my boyfriend/care giver. I would have both my sphincter muscle surgically  severed resulting in complete and permanent incontinence i.e. constantly weeping urine and passively pooping my nappy (means you don't know your doing it) I would be hypnotised to rock back and forth when bored and and head bang when stressed. I want that to be deeply ingrained. I would also have strong Electroconvulsive Therapy that overtime reduces me to a wreck. With the head banging I have to wear a rubber special needs helmet. Then I would like to be put into a very nice group home where I am cared for very well, where I spend the rest of my life without a care in the word, rocking and babbling and totally incontinent and disabled. My boyfriend would come and visit and make sure I'm being looked after/take me home for weekends.

[Bedwetting vs. AB vs. Incontenece diapers]

I would go incontinence nappies. I have tried most AB nappies and they don't feel right, the sap saps all the wetness in the front of the nappy so doesn't distribute to the back of the nappy meaning they leak sooner. I like medical looking nappies anyway.

[Diapers, the Ultimate Nostalgia]

I would like some Tena slip supers from 1999/2000. In the white packets with the blue stripe going down. If I managed to find a packet like them (I thin their was 28 in them) I would pay as much as they cost. I would really like them.

[Which color do you like your diapers to be?]

I like blue or purple incontinence nappies and they are more medical looking.