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http://www.bigsextoystore.com/cgi-bin/edat...logno=DJ0242-07 I promise you that one won't come out until you pull it out screaming. TMI?

I still say AB/DL is an anxiety disorder especially in men. ADD may be a side effect of AB/DL not the other way around. My $0.02

Oooookay.... next!

Hate to say it mate, but sometimes you've just got to suck it up and tell her to her face stone cold sober (or close). I just had the same pleasure myself. I explained a bit of my background, some of the reasons I'm a bit weird, and she said she didn't see the problem. I was forced to look her straight in the eye and tell her that the problem is her boyfriend is still in Pampers. Her jaw hit the floor, but she's dealing with it pretty good. Time will tell... You owe her no less I'm afraid, do it, do it tonight. Or keep your mouth shut forever and accept you're never moving in with her. (Best to tell her and get what will be out of the way methinks)

Diaper Reformatory sticks in my mind. It's a bit twisted, but hey.

It all changes at 4am when you're on your 4th stinky diaper of the night and the little bundle is fussing like crazy and you haven't slept in 3 days. I did worry about it before, but now she's three years old and well past it all. Whole thing, it's kind of like regular sex. Just because I like looking at womens genitals, will I have a problem if I have a little girl? Turns out there's some kind of switch. I understand it works on brothers/sisters too, but I only have brothers so couldn't check. Don't worry about it. But if you do fancy your sister, might want to leave the children thing to someone else

That's a little naive, no offense. Addictions may be controlled. But AB/DL isn't an addiction in the classic sense. An addiction is a mental and/or physical dependence on something brought about by the abuse of that said something. Let's take a look at the common ones: Gambling: Addicted to endorphins from highs and lows, typically assoc. w/ compulsive personalities Alcohol: Addicted to alcohol itself from a pain relief, want to lose control perspective Barbiturates: Addicted to mood improvement (fallacy) and drug itself, etc. Tobacco: Addicted to nicotine, needed for perceived mood improvement. Body Building: Addicted to endorphins, see gambling These all come about because you abuse some chemistry, sometimes even brain chemistry, it forms habit and physical dependency. Diapers look the same, because in detox the body exhibits high anxiety about being deprived of a needed chemical. Diapers, I believe, are actually directly connected to an anxiety disorder started in the sexual formation stage of childhood. To break a classic addiction, you remove the agent, the body panics, you get withdrawal and anxiety, it eventually gets to a manageable point for some, you can get by with your life. To break a diaper addiction which is already an anxiety disorder associated with sexual formation, you can usually forget it. You need to find some way to break the connection but I'm pretty sure, in men anyhow, that sexual imprinting is permanent. It's as someone else said about gay people, pretty much fixed. All this being said, there may be members who picked this up in their late teens and found it 'just feels good', like beer or something, in which case go for it. Personally I think they're full of crap, but hey. If you've ever masturbated in a diaper when you didn't have to, you're done. In closing, anyone may choose to hang up their diapers and never wear again, but if it's a sexually formed anxiety problem, it's going to nag at you every day until your genitals fall off.

I can see it now, Diapers Anonymous. Whole new meaning to being 'dry'.

I'm not sure how it could have been that much better. That relationship is toast. If the DL referred to in the article is reading this, or any other AB/DL is in a similar position, take heart. The woman who suddenly sees you differently after four years because you're honest with her about an issue in your life; she doesn't really love you for who you are and never did. Time to move on.

Reasonably respectful. She did herself a favor by not showing up in full AB gear. We're normal people too, it's just another behind closed doors activity.

All you need now is a bridge and some goats.

Oh great, another guy who should really be arrested and charged with indecent exposure / sexual lewdness / harassment / whatever. Fuck off! You give everyone else who just wants to enjoy their fetish in the privacy of their own domain a bad name. I've got some advice for you, take the diaper off and go and get some therapy. Better yet, take it off and just go get laid. Poor dentist.

Seems pretty simple to me. He intended to gain sexual/fetish satisfaction from exposing himself to a female doctor. He knows it, the doctor knew it. That's flashing where I come from, and gets you locked up for indecent exposure. If I were him I'd seek some very serious mental help.

Personally I think you should be arrested and charged with indecent exposure. What gives you the right to impose your sexual fetish on anyone else? You give the rest of us a bad name. Disgusting.

Give me ten minutes alone in a room with him and a pair of pliers and he'll need those diapers for real. He should volunteer to stay in jail forever, piece of shit scrumbag.

I think what you're trying to say is that sexual compulsions are treated one way, whilst chemical compulsions are treated another. FWIW (not much generally), with enough discipline you can manage a chemical compulsion. Although I hear meth addiction is nearly 95% fatal. Anyhow, I'm in the camp that says you can't ever 'cure' any compulsion. They've been trying for centuries, ask gay people. That doesn't mean you don't have a choice (actually I don't believe in choice either), but any way you look at it, it's possible to 'manage' the so called problem. I hate to break it to you, but you're never going to be 'normal', and you're never going to be able to forget this and just move on. You have to deal with it every day. You're going to have to find creative ways to get around societal bias, and your future partners reactions. You may never have a marriage that works, and you may never have a girlfriend who truly accepts you. Doesn't mean you shouldn't either keep looking, or just change the 'normal' relationship dynamic. What this means to each individual is different. I can only urge you to not panic, take your time, and you will figure it out.

First off, thanks for the thoughtful reply (everyone). Opinions are like diapers around here, everyone's got them, so consider this just another one of those. Listen to what you're saying. Seriously... The only people that like them, like them for what they do mentally, not because human beings are special and are evolving into pampers because they're better. Walk up to a stranger and tell them you like the way diapers feel physically. They'll look at you like I do to people who love the taste of smoke (but a lot worse). At some point in each of our lives, diapers provided some comfort that was otherwise lacking. Bang yer hooked. Some people it's rubber pants, plastic wrap, Velcro, heck whatever was making an emotional impact around the sexual id stage. To your point, being addicted doesn't mean you can't stop wearing when you want, it means you don't want to. Don't confuse emotional substitution for psycho-sexual imprinting. I myself am a sexual DL, that means I use diapers for sexual comfort. You can tell if you're like me because the desire drops after you orgasm (for a whole 5 minutes). I understand, especially for women who don't imprint in the same way, that people do this for different reasons. Let me simply say, if you're like me, there's no such thing as therapy for a cure. Let's go back to something like drugs. The brain is used to junk, so the brain is depressed without it. You get high and feel great. Then you plateau for a good while and feel like everyone else, so called 'normal'. At this point you vow never to do drugs again, you don't need them, you throw them all out, you feel great. Then your liver betrays you, and you feel like crap again. Now the big problem with a psycho-sexual imprinted fetish, is that it's wired into the emotional formation of the brain, doing drugs leaves similar scars (once an alcoholic, always one etc.). Physically it's not like a chemical addition, I agree. But it manifests in the same way through sexual (for me), or other emotions. (Just as well, otherwise cigarettes would need splash proof boxes for a whole different reason. Sorry!)

It typically produces uncontrollable diarrhea in around 2 hours if you've got food in your stomach. Have three good meals without pooping, and even if you need to poop, if you take a full dose of CO you will fill your diaper in 2 hours. Change the diaper quickly, you will get nasty diaper rash quickly from the poop. While it may be TMI for some, I love the cramping. Then again I like the suffering. I hate the taste, and often gag on it, but you can always get capsules. If you take it mid-day, it'll be all done by next morning. Just make sure you're not disturbed. Once the wife dragged me to the park after taking some. By the time I got home again, the diaper was in a sorry state, and so was I.

My ex-wife knows. I suspect my family knows, but would never discuss it. I have a good friend who knows I wear, but not why (got caught). My lawyer and anyone who bothers to read my divorce papers will know because of the ex-wife bit (ooh she was mean). Apart from the ex-wife I've always refused to discuss it with anyone, not that they've asked. It's none of their business and I won't ever discuss it unless I am getting married/seriously dating again.

I respectfully disagree. Nobody 'wants' to wear diapers. At some point something happened to each of us and diapers fill that hole. It's like cigarettes. People who smoke think that it makes them feel better, in fact it fills a hole and makes them feel what everyone else normally feels, normal. Without them, you feel worse than normal. So if the average AB/DL thinks they have control, and do this because they want to, they're _usually_ fooling themselves. You may be the exception. You wear because it fills a hole, makes you feel secure, happy, fulfilled. That's how you're supposed to feel anyhow. This is also why you see so many binge/purge cycles. It's also why you can never be cured. -- You've got to look at it from outside your current perspective. When a smoker says they like smoking, they're not lying, they're just addicted. Inhaling ash and cyanide into your lungs should be something no rational human being should ever enjoy. Same with soiling your pants. Humans deal with damage in strange ways.

I'm 9 months out of a marriage where it was one of many issues. Married nearly 10 years. From the womans point of view it emasculates the man. They have a hard time seeing you as a strong protective alpha hunter whatever role. From your point of view it makes you content, maybe even happy, and you probably understand that the chances of you walking this Earth for the next 60 years without diapering again is not likely. So what do you do? Nothing rash. It all comes down to the meaning of life, being happy. You have to take as much time as you need to simply decide which path will grant you the most happiness. Do you want kids? Do you have to be married to have kids? Do you want a traditional marriage? Can you tolerate a modern live apart life long partner? Can you manage without the diapers? You have to add it all up and make the right compromises for your best chances at a happy life, and trust me, your goals will move so be flexible. Short term, do nothing. Take your time, figure out what means the most to you.

Ooof, that's going to rock some cribs. So much suffering, so much shame. Anyone know anything about the creator?

That shaking sensation, often accompanied by the room seeming to close in on you is a familiar sensation to pretty much everyone here. You don't owe anyone an explanation in exchange for being as discrete as reasonably possible. So you got busted, it happens. I wouldn't even bring it up, and if he mentions it just say you'd rather not discuss it. It'll soon blow over.

The fact it's an 8" uncircumcised dick probably has something to do with it.

It's based on tissue expansion. Same thing as those tribes people with huge lips. Put skin under constant tension and it stretches and actually creates more skin. Ask any woman who's had a child... Anyhow, you don't get the structure back proper, but you can achieve coverage.