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I can’t remember any specific time or incident when I suddenly realized I was a DL. From my perspective, I’ve always been a diaper lover. I was toilet trained (meaning I could stay dry if when I wanted to) by 2 ½ years old, but I still preferred using my pants, just because it was more convenient than going home to use the potty chair that was often stinky from earlier deposits. As a result, I was often diapered during the day. At night, I was always diapered because my nighttime wetting continued until I was nearly 10 years old. At around 3 or 4 years old, I was hospitalized to surgically correct a minor genital birth defect. I vividly remember being jealous of other kids in the ward, some much older than I was, who were diapered. I wasn’t diapered because of the location of my surgery. So, my conclusion is that I was a DL by the time I was around 4 years old even though I had no concept of the term at that age.
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I was around 3 or 4 years old. It was around that time that I had surgery on my genitals to correct a minor birth defect. While in the hospital, I remember being jealous of other kids in the ward that were diapered. Because of the location of my surgical incision, the doctor didn’t want me wearing a diaper.
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I virtually never have a diaper rash and I’ve been wearing diapers for a very long time. Getting a rash is not inevitable. If you are just starting out, your skin will likely be sensitive and need the protection provided by zinc oxide creams and anti-fungal lotions. Don’t try to wear wet diapers longer than overnight. Clean yourself thoroughly during a diaper change and then apply your choice of protective ointments. Over time, your skin will become more impervious to irritations.
‘If you have a rash, try Boudreaux’s Butt Paste (Yes, that’s it’s real name and is available in most drug stores and Wal-Mart). It works. I was put on to this stuff by a CNA who was helping me take care of my father when he was having continence issues and needing diapers. Initially, he got a very bad rash, but after using this paste, we quickly got the problem under control.
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What I like is not having a full bladder and urgently needing to go when I wake up. I can take my time stretching, yawning, and just generally have a relaxing time waking up.
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19 hours ago, babykeiff said:
Also, it is very difficult to be a only a bed wetter while diapered. Usually it is bed wetter Or not a bed wetter. I suspect that Craisler, who claims that only wets at night when diapered also has a few accidents or near misses ocaisionally at night if not diapered.
I didn't experience that problem back when I started my journey. I did learn how to wet only when diapered, however, most of the time I was conscious of doing it. A full bladder would wake me during the night; I'd then wet my diaper; and fall back asleep. Sometimes, I was only partially conscious when I wet. There were times that I'd waken during the night with my diaper would already wet and I had no memory of it happening. I never did wet the bed while not diapered. I did experience a gradual loss of bladder volume the longer I wore diapers. My guess is that my bladder was no longer being stretched by holding it in during the night. As a result, my bladder felt full after shorter periods of time and I had to urinate more often both day and night.
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Personal experience says that it is possible to wet when diapered and still retain control when not. It isn't real incontinence. Instead, you know that you're diapered and therefore can empty your bladder with no problem. However, you feel the difference when not diapered and therefore retain control. it's a learned response with the bulk of the diaper vs. being naked providing the subliminal cue. This subliminal cue works whether awake or sleeping. In my case, I don't think I slept as deeply when I was diapered as when I wasn't. It took a very long time to learn how to sleep well while diapered.
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I can only relate my experience. Starting out, I found it difficult to wet my diapers at all. I would wear them at night and occasionally during the day when I figured I would not be caught. Over time, I learned to become comfortable wearing diapers and found it increasingly easy to wet them. Most nights, a full bladder would wake me; I’d pee; and go back to sleep. Subconsciously, I knew I was diapered, even when asleep. I learned the feel of wearing a diaper. So, on nights when I wasn’t diapered, I never had an accident. I did, sometimes, wet while asleep, but only while diapered. I would say that what you’re asking is possible. However, you’re actual results may differ from mine.
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I hope you’ve seen a urologist and had a cystoscopy to verify that there aren’t any serious problems with your bladder.
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I think you’re in shock or disbelief just after the death of a loved one. Then there are a lot of things to be done and no real time for grief. Sometime later, though, when things are quiet it will hit you. A familiar situation or, in my case, I saw a funny movie that I knew she’d find hilarious. She and I had similar senses of humor. I wanted to tell her about it and realized I couldn’t anymore. That’s when the grief comes. I still occasionally have thoughts or come across situations like that and my mother died over 25 years ago.
With my father, it was different. He'd been living with me for the last 25 years and I'd been his caregiver for the last few years. When he died, it was more of a relief for both of us. He hadn't been active at all near the end; spending most of his time in bed asleep. I carried a large load of anxiety in addition to caring for him. As the end approached, I could tell I was gradually losing him. So, when he died, I felt some obvious grief at the time, but also a lot of relief from the pressure of caring for him.
As mentioned above, everyone reacts to the loss of their parents or loved ones in their own way depending on the situation.
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I don’t necessarily like or dislike a messy diaper. That isn’t the point. I like being able to poop in my diaper whenever I need to in order to relieve the discomfort of full bowels. For me, it’s the relief of the discomfort that gives me pleasure.
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5 minutes ago, DiapersOfTheStorm said:
I've hauled lots of stuff on a trailer, more often than not overloaded (shhhh!).
The center of gravity of the load should be a little bit forward of the axle but not by too much.
I'm guessing the trailer axle is suspended on leaf springs, correct? Are there any dampers? If not, try driving around with the trailer unloaded for a while. You may find that at certain speeds the trailer will wobble up and down on its suspension as the springs get in their resonant frequency. You might want to avoid going at that speed with the trailer unloaded. The resonant frequency will decrease as you add load, so the trailer suspension may start to resonate at lower speed (and its integer multiples). This is something to watch out for, if the suspension is undamped and doesn't bottom out even with a significant load, if it starts to wobble at speed it can upset the stability of the trailer and your car.
The car appears to have a good rear visibility and the trailer sideboards are quite high, so backing it up shouldn't be too difficult. What I prefer to do when backing with a trailer is to physically turn around and look back to see where the trailer is going, and the proper way of correcting its path with the steering wheel just comes intuitively, instead of watching where the trailer goes in the mirrors, which can get confusing.
I agree.
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Make sure the diaper fits snuggly around the legs. If there are gaps, leaks are going to happen. Personally, I’d recommend wearing an elastic fixing brief over the diaper. That will hold the diaper close to the body and prevent leaks. Abena fixing briefs are available from XP Medical.
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Here are a couple more thoughts:
Adjust the mirrors so you can see the back end of the trailer and any vehicles that are in that area. If necessary, use extension mirrors to get the necessary views. As a test, park a vehicle within a car length behind the trailer. If you can’t see that vehicle clearly from the driver’s seat of the tow vehicle, you need extension mirrors.
A Suburban is a good tow vehicle and should handle the trailer pictured with no difficulty. It would best if the tow vehicle was equipped with the towing package. That usually includes a larger radiator and transmission cooler.
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You don’t want to balance the load. That will cause the trailer to fishtail. It’s better to have 200-400 pounds of tongue weight.
You have the basic backing technique. Go slow and make constant small corrections. Don’t let it get off course and then have to make large corrections or have to pull forward and try again.
Make sure the trailer is securely fastened to the hitch. Use a pin or lock to make sure the latch doesn’t open accidentally. The chains should be short enough to hold the trailer to the vehicle should the hitch fail, but long enough to allow the smallest turning radius.
Make sure the trailer’s wheel bearings are well lubricated and the brakes are in good condition.
Allow more distance between your vehicle and the car ahead. If the trailer brakes are properly adjusted, the tow vehicle and trailer should stop normally. However, if they are not adjusted properly or fail, you are relying on the tow vehicle’s brakes to stop the combined load and that will take more time/distance.
Signal when changing lanes; don’t forget you’ve got more length behind you to allow for when passing. Don’t take corners too tight or you may drag the trailer over the curb or into a ditch.
These are the basics. Be cautious and get the feel of the rig.
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Which is not a bad thing if it solves your problem.
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I’ve never seen residual urine stains after laundering the items mentioned (except for the mattress, of course). Are you sure you’re using your washer and laundry products correctly?
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I seriously doubt that your sphincter muscles have changed significantly in such a short time. I would guess that you’re mentally changing your behavior due to a form of aversion therapy. You experience discomfort or pain when your sphincters close to hold the wastes in long enough to get to a toilet. By wearing a diaper, you both consciously and subconsciously know that you can avoid the pain and discomfort by relaxing the sphincter muscles and letting your bladder and bowels empty immediately when they contract.
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I agree with the Soggy Bottom. Cloth diapers are far less likely to leak at night than disposables. If you’re having problems with leaks, either the waterproof pants don’t fit right or you’re not wearing a heavy enough diaper. Contour diapers are good for daytime use because they are less bulky. However, at night you need the bulk, especially on the sides to provide enough absorbency. With cloth diapers, bulk and absorbency are closely related.
My recommendation would be to experiment to try and find the combination that provides enough absorbency that will require changes about every 4 hours. That’s long enough to be of minimal inconvenience, but not long enough for the odor to become a problem. 8 hours is as long as I will push it. By that time, the urine will be breaking down, smell will be a problem, and the diaper will be very uncomfortable. Disposables have chemicals that slow that process, cloth diapers do not.
You might try looking at incontinentsupport.org. They have a diaper primer that has a lot of useful information. However, the people that run the site are not tolerant of AB/DLs. So, I’d recommend a great deal of discretion if you decide to interact with anyone there.
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At home, I primarily use cloth diapers. They’re more practical, cheaper, and I prefer the feel of them to disposables. Of course, I grew up wearing cloth diapers. Pampers hadn’t been invented yet.
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That’s good. The Confidry 24/7 diapers expand to nearly 3 inches when they a saturated. I’m betting you’d look like a diapered cartoon character if you wore something like that outside the house. With booster pads the thickness would be even greater.
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Wearing a single diaper for 24 hours is unwise no matter how rash resistant your skin is. The warm damp environment inside a diaper is the perfect breeding ground for all kinds of nasty bugs. I would take bets that most incontinent people change their diapers a minimum of 3 times per day. Put a clean one on in the morning, change at lunch time, and again before going to bed. I would also change in the afternoon after getting home from work. Needless to say, there are also changes necessary anytime you mess a diaper.
I would find wearing a single diaper, no matter how absorbent, for 24 hours very uncomfortable.
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If you need to be diapered for the trip to the doctor’s office, then I see no reason why you need to remove the diaper before the appointment. You can just explain why you’re wearing one during the examination. It seems like you’re overthinking the situation. You need the diaper for the trip. The fact that you like wearing diapers has nothing to do with your problem or the reason for the appointment and should have no effect on his ability to diagnose the problem. I don’t see why your wearing a diaper during the exam would be misleading in any way.
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No argument that a dirty diaper should be changed as soon as possible. However, by using rubber pants over the diaper, “as soon as possible” doesn’t have to mean “immediately.” You have a little more time before everyone in the room knows what has has happened.
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Finding rubber pants can be a problem. Here is one place that has them available.
https://rearz.ca/incontinence/incontinence-washable/adult-waterproof-pants/?sort=bestselling&page=2
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Interesting story. I can relate to some aspects of your life, but you certainly took things to the extreme. I was also slow to get out of diapers, was a bed wetter for a long time, and slow to mature emotionally. I remember that I was still having Gerber’s baby pablum for breakfast when I was 6 years old. However, I never had any desire to be babied, nurse from bottles, or be a sissy. You can read my story by clicking on the link in my profile. Like you, I found it emotionally satisfying to recall, record, and analyze the memories of my childhood.