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Thanks to both of you for the replies. Agree it could be similar to learning a new language and how that works. Regarding Onzl, I could see how it could become so normal that it's not noticed!

Had my first vivid diaper dream last night which went as follows: I was in a hospital admission process (nothing serious) and had my Abena on under my sweatpants. I felt nervousness of having it exposed to staff, so I eventually decided to take it off. Threw it away and put my sweatpants back on. Got an IV in and such. Then I started feeling bladder pressure, and had a good amount of leakage. Sweatpants a bit stained, wanted to hide it from staff. Decided to ask for briefs (less embarrassing and inconvenient than having another accident!) They brought me a number of options, but I just felt like I wanted to get my Abena back for the safety. Wish I had a whiz-bang ending here, but such as how my dreams go. They fade into whatever... Personal background: Have been wearing at night for about 5 years now. Through hypnosis and training I have regular wetting at night. Like many here, the wettings are in several categories. Often totally asleep and unaware, only to awaken with my brief wet and maybe my underpad / sheets / or shirt. Other times I vaguely recall the sensation of going or knowing that I'm going. Recalling "that happening" if I think hard enough about it to remember. Of course, other times where I'm pretty awake and let it go. Over the last few weeks, started wearing during the day. Long work days, they are not only relaxing in a way but also convenient with the many continuous hours of work. Saw the postings here about visiting medical providers, and thinking that's where the dream came from (wild!)

Hello- Curious if anyone has tried any massage tools (IE handheld) in area(s) to massage and release external sphincter? Old tales about people sitting on vibrating equipment having "accidents" afterwards made me think about it (a way to temp. relax the associated muscles) Obviously safety first, to make sure nothing is internal and no external issues, but is there a spot that would get closest to vibrating that sphincter? As a male, plenty of areas close but a lot in the way... not sure which might be worth the best shot. Welcome any thoughts!

It takes time but it can happen.... I have been wearing at night for a few years. More nights than not I awaken wet with no idea when I did it. Like none.

Definitely a journey but well worth it if you really want it. You'll learn a lot about your mind and motivations along the way. Took 6 months to a year to have a real accident (no recollection, woke up wet) Now it is fairly common, although really only early in the night (Probably in the first phase of deep sleep) For those new to the journey, realize that understanding and overcoming your own psychological hurdles will be a big step. Even for me after years of wearing at night. Most often, I'll wake up wet after several hours of sleep. Then, for the rest of the night I may wake up needing to go again and let go. Point being, I'm not yet to the place where I have multiple uncontrolled wettings (or at least I don't think so, how would I know?!?) I think this may be because it's easier to wet in a dry diaper than wet in one that is already soaked (knowing that it might make the sheets super wet) In that sense I still have some psychological hurdles. Looking back on it, understanding and overcoming your personal hurdles is a big step. Journaling helps. Plenty of fluids before bed. Anything that helps you sleep can also be beneficial. I got a lot of help from hypnosis, and that is also a double benefit- the stress reduction and experience of going deep into trance is amazing (even beyond having the bedwetting suggestions in there) Good luck!

Thanks for the suggestion, rusty... didn't even realize there was a BW forum here (New to the site)... will take a look!

You can also pack one as carry on, then put it on after you get through the screening... might be easier.

Solomon, congratulations on taking a big step. I would be stunned if she was anything other than professional about it. I think it is good that you shared. A psychoanalyst is different than a group of coworkers or strangers. She is there to help you sort your thoughts out, and she can't do that as well if you are holding back a big facet of what's on your mind. Good luck!

I've been on a journey to become a bedwetter, and I know many others have the same interest. In thinking it through, I see several key elements that describe the road to becoming a bedwetter. This framework can create a profile of where you are on your journey, and create a profile of where you want to be. This profile may be useful for describing yourself to others, but more importantly can force thought about where you really want to be and the barriers to getting there. Hope this helps, feel free to add or modify. The key elements are the type of wetting, frequency, and ease of wetting. Types: Conscious wetting- Peeing the bed or your diapers either before going asleep or when you awaken in the middle of the night. Situational incontinence*- Peeing the bed or diapers while asleep, but only occurring when the "stage is set" such as having a protected bed and/or having a diaper on Involuntary bedwetting- Peeing the bed no matter what, even without a diaper or protected bed. This includes all situations, even when it's inconvenient (during family vacations, visiting relatives etc) Frequency: 1- Rarely, less than once a month 2- Once every couple of weeks 3- Usually every week 4- Several nights a week 5- Rarely a dry night Ease: Difficult- Results typically require extraordinary measures such as massive fluid intake, hours without restroom before bed, heavy drinking (not advised) Moderate- Results typically require moderate measures such as not going to restroom before bed, reasonable amount of fluids throughout the day, potentially sleep supplements or light drinking Easy- Results occur with no extraordinary efforts, wetting may occur even if you've gone to the restroom right before bed and without any drinking / supplements For anyone who is curious, my current state seems to be Situational Incontinence, several nights a week, moderate to somewhat easy. Like many, I want to be at Involuntary, 4-5 frequency and easy. I'm indicating it "seems" such because I may have some involuntary bedwetting. Since I truly wet in my sleep several nights a week, I always diaper up (even on family vacations) This makes it a little trickier to determine if it's involuntary or not. Several months ago I slept without a diaper and awoke dry which makes me think I may not be involuntary yet (I'm at this contradicting stage where I am happy with wet sheets if it's from overwetting my diaper while asleep, but don't like wetting my sheets when I'm awake. A barrier of sorts for me is that it is hard to release when I awaken in the middle of the night if I know it's going to wet the sheets. This is probably the final barrier to me becoming an involuntary bedwetter, like all of the previous barriers I'm sure I can overcome it if I decide to) Oddly enough I might actually be involuntary now anyways, I don't actually know!

Have been in the same boat... although I've taken it easier on myself more so in recent years. Married an incredible woman. Unfortunately hid the DL thing from her but she found out (happens eventually if you're married!). Good part is that she's accepting. While she's not into it herself, and she doesn't really understand the how / why (do I even really?) she lets me do it with the only request being that it not be visible to her (shorts or pants on top etc)