I think it would be ridiculous for a guy to dump you bc you are incontinent. That seems absolutely absurd to me, a guy should not take anything like that into consideration when dating someone, he should focus more on what kind of person you are and the things that you have in common and the feelings between you to. Sometimes my gender can just aggravate the hell out of me. I hope that you have better luck finding someone who will treat you right and make you happy.