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She has a youtube channel.
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I bought a case recently. I am impressed. Very solid diaper and I like the cloth backing even more than the alphagatorz or little kings. The cloth backing is much tougher than the latter.
I would say the Try Agains are comparable to the Tykables Animooz. I haven't done a detailed analysis or anything but having worn both I would say they are identical in all but price and and style. So if you care more about price I would go with the Animooz. If you care about supporting an upstart business and/or the pattern, go with the Try Agains.
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12 hours ago, DailyDi said:
Lately I have grown tired of taking my mental health drugs and struggle to force myself to take them most days. Some days I don't take them at all, other days I literally choke them down. I know it's bad to skip doses and would be worse to stop altogether, but I just don't feel like taking any more pills.
Anyone ever feel like this?
As I am in the process of some major life choices I was left with a thought that I could not shake while taking antidepressants. "Are my thoughts my own, and how much of them is chemical driven?" Was a hard feeling to shake and I almost stopped them cold turkey because of that and a couple other reasons
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@Reddy so when the cath comes out tomorrow are you going to change the name of the thread?
"Got Surgery in Mexico"
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35 minutes ago, Ineedboth1994 said:
Agreed. The mega inspire+ is hands down the best product out there IMO.
Northshore aren’t nearly thick enough or absorbent enough around the waist IMO.
Not trying to distract from @Reddy peeing his pants but since we’re all playing jeopardy music and waiting for Saturday we might as well talk about something.
Going to throw the Str8up and Tighty Whities from Tykables into the fray of premium diapers to consider. If one is going to spend $3 on a MegaMax, the world is their oyster as far as options are concerned. There are not many diapers that are more expensive and none at the case quantity that I know of.
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2 hours ago, cathdiap said:
I really hope that Reddy will soon experience the same incontinence as I do with my stent. Pain free and a complete absence of control. It's the best feeling ever for me and I assume it will be the same for Reddy too.
But if he does, I'll be a little jealous at the same time, because out of the two of us, only he will experience the mental impact of it being irreversible, and not me. Part of me really wants to experience that too, but then I remember all the times I promised myself to wear my stent for months and I just couldn't do it. It's quite a struggle I'm going through right now.
I think Reddy is brave and I wish him all the best.
I think that has been what is so alluring about the surgery for so many people. That choice and on the fencedness of untraining, hypnosis, stents, or even botox feel like temporary and possibly reversable measures. By physically destroying the muscles it is a one way street.
I think that once someone becomes truly incontinent that they will adapt and if you became permanently incontinent that you might get those feelings every once in awhile but they would pass, rather quickly even.
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Currently living vicariously through Reddy until I can gather funds, PTO, and be appropriate BMI for surgery.
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8 minutes ago, Diapered Dave said:
He's probably been "Put under" by now... And when he wakes up.....
I am sure he needs the rest. I can't image he got much sleep last night. I know I wouldn't be able to sleep waiting for something like this.
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Does this person need to stop and listen as well?
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13 minutes ago, Don Incognito said:
There has also been discussion of the idea of injecting Botox into the lower sphincter muscle, which should theoretically be much less expensive. One shot is only temporary, but I had also heard that repeated injections can render a muscle permanently inoperative.
Someone on the DD incontinence only forum posted about Botox for underactive bladder. They did not have a good experience. Apparently the muscles became paralyzed closed and they had to cath to go at all for over 3 months. I was excited about trying Botox before all this and still may try that route but it is not without its risks.
If anyone follows this link please keep in mind that it is a medically incontinence support forum.
https://incont.org/index.php?/topic/210-botox-for-under-active-bladder/
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13 minutes ago, Diapered Dave said:
Reddy... When you're there tomorrow, ask them about a group discount. 😂😁😆 Maybe you could earn a referral commission, like when you get a friend to join your cell phone plan! 😁
If everyone was down there on the same day I could see a legitimate reason to discount it. All the equipment is three and setup. Just need to do a cleaning between procedures.
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16 hours ago, Diapered Dave said:
That would be nice.... But here's the email they sent me:
Yes, we also specialize in incontinence procedures.
Currently, this surgery costs $24,899 USD. This procedure can be done at our location in Guadalajara.
You can return home in about 10-12 days.
Sincerely, Paris (Patient coordinator - MTC
With as much interest as this post has generated we should all get together and see if there is bulk/Groupon pricing 😁
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13 minutes ago, Reddy said:
Got through TSA and boarding now! My diaper did set off the alarm so I had to get patted down but it was fine.
The scanners seem so random. I have heard back and forth about diapers setting them off. I wore a megamax through security and it didn't set it off.
I personally only ever had my powder set off the explosive detectors.
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I am a huge fan of the Tykables Animooz. The cloth backing is tough enough to actually stand up and reasonable in terms of odor control.
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You said your flight is early. What time do leave?
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2 hours ago, spark said:
My question is: what does the surgery give you that you can't get by wearing a diaper and pretending to be incontinent?
I don't like the comparison between gender-affirming surgery and incontinence. I don't think it is an accurate comparison.
To say that my reservations with the incontinence surgery are in any way similar to transphobia and homophobia is a reach and insulting to the LBGTQI community that has to deal with intolerance.
I have had 4 separate conversations, 3 of which were with mental healthcare professionals that compare the desire for incontinence to be similar to being trans only in that there is a part of your body that doesn't feel right. Furthermore all 4 of those people and myself would never try to be part of that community and steal their thunder or co opt their message. However I find it hilariously ironic that you would in the same breath talk about that community and intolerance and simultaneously be sanctimoniously Intolerant to people who may seek surgery to become their authentic selves.
I am also struggling why you would come onto the incontinence DESIRES sub forum and have this argument. Pretend? I said it before, you lack empathy and understanding.
1 hour ago, spark said:Seriously- if you can't draw the line at elective amputation, I don't know what to say.
And yet something tells me you will continue to say things.
19 minutes ago, cathdiap said:Sometimes I wonder if body modification is some kind of last resort that people use to express their desire or even their right to self-determination and bodily autonomy. Even if that means their body will be less able to perform essential tasks. I wouldn't be surprised given the slave system we've found ourselves in over the past few decades. A world where people find it difficult to live a purposeful life and work on self-actualization. Perhaps this is the last chance they have to prove their freedom.
I heard an interesting theory on why mental illness and neuordivergent behavior seem to be on the rise. For most of recorded history and beyond our lives were dictated by pure survival and we have reached a point where we are above basic subsistence. We have the time and energy to think and feel and be in ways that have never been possible
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13 hours ago, spark said:
You've heard the red flags, but you haven't processed through them. It sounds like you're desperate for confirmation that you would be doing the right thing
I don't see how I'm butthurt or in a bad place. First of all, I'm finally in a good place with my level of incontinence/unpotytraining. I perfectly happy to wear a diaper 24/7 and pee in it almost all the time. My potty training is now at the same level as a three-year-old who doesn't want to use the potty, which is what I wanted in the first place. It took a long time to get there but I knew that was what I wanted when I got there.
I'm also not butthurt because I'm far too old to be concerned with the opinions of random anonymous people on the internet. You're an adult, and you choose to disregard the red flags, that's on you.
As for the surgery being unethical: I hope we all can agree there is a line where it goes too far. The culture of this board, and especially this thread, is this is a surgery that is life-affirming and will help somebody feel whole. IMO, and it's just my opinion, I think it crosses that line.
I'm going to show you two absurd examples of examples that cross the line. The first is people with an amputation fetish and seek to have limbs amputated (PS- it a real thing). I would hope we would discourage people from amputating a healthy limb even though they feel that it is required to be fulfilled. I see this surgery as an extension of that surgery.
The other situation happens far too often and doesn't even require you to visit a doctor to do it. It is permanent and destroys multiple lives. I would hope that we would never encourage anybody to do that to themselves. IMO- if we can't draw the line there, we are f-d.
I'm a biological male. If I was trans and sought gender reassignment surgery (the Mexico Transgender Clinic's bread-and-butter by the way) the first thing they would do is amputate my penis. You keep getting hung up on this idea that there are acceptable and unacceptable things that other people can do with their body. And because by your own admission you have achieved your goals you lack the empathy necessary to understand what someone else is going through. And you don't truly understand it either.
Frankly I find your logic pathway disturbing. It is the same logic that leads people to you can't be gay, Trans, or have an abortion because I find it reprehensible. So no, we do not all agree that this is the line too far. And your red flags are not someone else's, full stop.
The reason people are butthurt by your opinion is because it is such a hot take on a forum that is supposed to be for people who are seeking incontinence that you burned their ass.
If someone comes onthis forum and is unsure if they want to be incontinent or on the fence, nay say away and disuuade or point out the bad times. Being incontinent objectively is less fun than being fully continent. It's expensive, embarrassing, and can be limiting. Being diaper dependant sucks. BUT, when someone comes on here with the conviction to know what they need to be their authentic selves and reach the next level of self actualization, I am trying really hard to understand the crab in the bucket attitude some people have.
As to want incontinence, I can't change who I am and will live my best life with the circumstances dealt. And being incontinent by any means necessary, including surger, is the best way to do that. And many people here share that same experience.
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1 hour ago, Reddy said:
Thank you for this post. The diving platform analogy is really helpful somehow. I understand that it's normal to feel that way a little, and why I do, so thank you for that.
I'm pretty certain I'll stick around and provide updates. If anything, I've seen that I really do need this platform to have people who know what I'm doing and understand what my journey is.
Thank you for the well wishes! It's only a few days away. 😁
I really like the diving platform analogy, because after you jump, you'll be all wet!
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I need your address @Reddy! I need to overnight you a shirt to wear during your flights!
How this hasn't become the mascot for this sub-forum is beyond me!
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Just going to leavd this here without context.
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4 minutes ago, Enthusi said:
And you are also right that being diaper dependent 24/7 adds even more hassles. I encourage most people who are interested in 24/7 to try it out, but for me it wasn’t feasible until I was in my 30’s for a number of reasons. That said, you find ways to manage, and it really does get easier with time.
I know I couldn't afford 24/7 until fairly recently and it is still a pretty significant financial burden. It is far less than the mental burden of not wearing though. That is for sure.
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1 hour ago, Reddy said:
I think it's gonna be a long time before I'm brave enough to be "active" in that way after the surgery. I think even getting constipated can be hell on a healing prostate. Probably the first week after the catheter I will try to be very inactive. Flying home will definitely be my most active day.
Did the doc say how long after until you can resume nighttime activities? I was looking online. TURP is saying 3-4 weeks. This surgery is more, is it longer?
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2 hours ago, Reddy said:
No cold feet here!! 😄
You're right that will never feel the same again. Yeah that 5 days is gonna be brutal. I am gonna want that catheter out and it will be tough to wait.
Going to be the worst. None of the benefits, all of the post op problems. Will take some patience and anticipation of that 6th day onwards.
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25 minutes ago, superabsorbantpolymer said:
Do you feel any doubts/nerves as to whether you want to go through at this point?
I can't speak for Reddy but the deposit would be enough for me to go through with it regardless of any doubts, even serious ones. I am too cheap to give up that kind of cash.
But then again I think going through all of the steps to that it took to get to that point would be enough to know that I was ready.
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Getting Surgery in Mexico
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I think over the next several months you will have many firsts and interesting experiences. Should be a fun time relearning who you are.