momma.bear

what kind of spells would a doctor use?

i think where you messed up, honestly, is not that you got caught, but that you tried to lie about it. you should probably apologize for lying, & remain honest from here on out.

LINK <---- this is an interesting breakdown of male & female ABDLs & ageplayers. it was composed by a guy named bittergrey using an internet survey. obviously, the results could be skewed just by the fact that it was done online, but nonetheless, it's really interesting.

i think this is really unfair of you to say. i have been down right harassed by some men in the ABDL community, & i experience many more men who are willing to be rude/sexual in their first message or IM to me than in any other community. i know that this isn't all men & i don't want it to come across that way. but when i make it clear that i have a boyfriend, that i don't cyber, & that the only babyboy i diaper is the one i'm dating, it doesn't seem to matter at all most of the time. i still get the same messages repeatedly, & still get very rude & very sexual IMs & messages. in real life, do i sometimes get pestered? well yeah, of course. but guys in the bar (or even guys in other online communities) generally don't start the conversation with asking me to cybersex with them. there's a thing called tact, & another called social graces, that the vast majority of guys hitting on me in real life seem to have. that said, i stick around in the community. & i'm always polite to people who message or IM, always willing to be friendly. & i'm not going to pretend that i'm not a mommy to avoid the harassment, because that would be dishonest. i'm not butthurt about the whole thing; it is what it is. but i do think more women would be willing to be involved in this community online if there was less harassment of women in general online.

we tried that & they haven't gotten back to us. ah well.

as a woman who got into the scene when i found out that my partner is an ABDL, i think it's wonderful that you are willing to support him. i think the biggest thing is just to remind him that you love him, with or without diapers. & even if you don't want to participate, or he doesn't want/need your participation, make sure you tell him that you support him and will continue to support him no matter what. when i first start interacting with my partner while he was wearing, it did seem strange at first. there was a definite adjustment period. an important thing to remember for both of you is to take it slow. if he wants the freedom to wear around you, try having him start by putting one on at night UNDER HIS PJs, & just sleeping next to him. that way, you can feel that it's there & hear it, but you won't necessarily see it. then slowly move to seeing him in them, etc. that way the transition will be slow & there will be no sudden, strange shocks about it. that protects you both. & it may be a good way to figure out your own limits. if you ever want someone to talk to who went through something similar-ish, let me know.

it's becoming a more & more common acronym associated with infantilism. as more & more people get online or watch tv shows that talk about, etc, more people find that acronym. sure, not everyone knows it, but a lot of people do.

i am not sure what coal chamber has to do with a cartoon that david firth made, but i was under the impression that this was salad fingers: http://www.fat-pie.com/salad.htm. he likes rusty spoons.

i know a LOT of nondiapered folks who would immediately recognize the acronym ABDL. i would never even consider having that acronym on my person. i have see the ABDL pride symbol out & about before; i like it because it's discreet.

my plush code: P[bun, bea] F[bea, jackalope, cat] B++ BB- C++ E++ FF I+ M >MM N+ O- SP !Sf Tacdikm+osuw fa

thanks for your understanding, moogle. i think that if those of us in fetish communities stop having the "my fetish is less weird than your's" debate, we would end up being able to, as a whole, foster a lot more understanding for fetishism as a whole.

the thing is... plushophiles do love their plushies, but not like children. there are a small minority of them who are also into things like urophilia or rape fantasy or heavy bdsm, or whatever... & yeah, that ends up being quite a few of the people who post pictures or videos or websites online about their plushophilia. but that's really a tiny percentage of plushophiles. babykeiff is right about how most plushophiles view their plushies; for many plushophiles, it's a romantic kind of love, & sexual interaction never happens. i do find your judgements hurtful, however. while it is by no means my primary fetish, plushophilia has played a large part in the development of my sexuality. when i was a young child, i was raped repeatedly. after the abuse, my plushies were the only things i had to go back to that made me feel safe, protected, & loved. as i got older, that continued to remain the case. so when i first started to have sex, the only way i could enjoy it without feeling threatened/unsafe was if i could hold one of my plushies, or have one nearby, while it was happening. i have since learned that i don't need a plushie to feel safe (mostly because of my current partner), but as you can see, there was nothing harmful to any plushies in this scenario. i love my plushies, not as children, but equals - partners that protect me & make me feel safe, loved, protected. plushophilia is just as diverse & complicated as infantilism. yeah, there are people who do things to their plushies that i would consider "rape," but there are just as many of us for whom plushophilia is innocent, an act of love.

i respect your opinion, i was just sayin' that the comparison is a little tough to swallow. many people think that abdl is "as bad as" pedophilia, too. even if you personify your plushies (believing that they "have souls and hearts and personalities", as many plushophiles do), at the end of the day they are OBJECTS. do you ask a dildo or a vibrator for consent? there is no living thing involved, therefore consent is not even an issue. i understand that you see your plushies as "innocents," but much like many abdls struggle to accept their fetish & themselves because of being compared to obviously harmful acts with living beings who are unable to consent, so do many plushophiles who legitimately love their plushies (which again, are OBJECTS) struggle to accept their fetish. as people involved in fetish communities that are nonharmful, we should stand up for & support plushophiles in much the same way that many of them would support those of us involved in the ABDL lifestyle. by saying that plushophilia is "as bad as" bestiality, you do the same thing as the folks who say that ABDL is "as bad as" pedophilia. what right have any of us to judge other (nonharmful) fetishists? i'm not saying you should go hump your plushies now & be happy about it... all i'm saying is that we need to be careful how and about whom we make comparisons, especially when we know all too well what it is like to be on the negative end of that stick.

hey, whoa - that's a rough comparison. that's on par with people comparing ABDL to pedophilia. plushophilia has nothing to do with bestiality. if anything, it's related to fur fetishes as they originated in the 1940s-50s. ya know, fur coats & the like?

there is an ABDL pride symbol already: click here.

oh gawd, plushophile websites are awful... (i don't mean plushophiles are awful, but i mean the sites that end up representing that community are.)

i don't think you should bring up pedophilia at all. if you bring it up insistently like, "oh but this isn't THAT" it comes off like you have something to hide. if you don't even bring it up, it might not even enter her mind. & if she brings it up, you can just act surprised about it, like, "what? no way! gross!!"

oh yes! there is a definite pattern to the plushies i buy/want! i tend to have a lot of bears, bunnies, & dinos. for bears, i usually want them to be some shade of brown. occassionally, i'm okay with a panda, but i'm a sucker for classic teddies. for bunnies, i like them to be white, babyblue, or pink. for dinos, they have to be green. generally, my favourite plushies are at least 24in. as for fur, i'm actually really picky. i like some of the newer textures, but i've noticed that many new plushies are this weird stringy stuff that isn't actually fur. gross! i too don't really care for bean-stuffed plushies. gotta go with the fluffy stuff.

yeah, you're right on one level... but even girls who tell their friends everything basically, still have basic limits in terms of respect for their partners. for instance, when my partner told me, i knew that it was a big deal & not something he would want people knowing. so instead of telling my friends about it to have someone to talk to, i got online & starting talking to ABDLs themselves. so, ya know, it could go either way.

before my boyfriend told me he was an ABDL, i didn't know anything about the community. but i decided to try it because i loved him. see, he waited to tell me until we had built up a level of trust with one another & he knew that i loved him, & that even if i didn't like it, i wouldn't do anything to hurt him or freak out. because if someone really loves you, they won't freak out. so i reccommend giving it a little time.

sassy girl, i think i just found you on diaperspace! lol

good luck & enjoy yourself!

so my baby & i ordered three bags of small secure x pluses & they got here today. the only problem? they're bambino biancos! they look nothing like the pictures of the secure x pluses on the securepersonalcare.com website, & exactly like bambino biancos (which we've had before). the product numbers (BH97211-1) is also the same on the websites for both the secure x plus & the bambino biancos, but not for any other products the two companies sell. we are very confused... does anyone have any insight as to why this is the case? are small secure x pluses the same thing as bambino biancos? we love bambinos, don't get me wrong, but my baby was really excited to try secure x pluses, so he's really disappointed.

thank you all for the kind welcome! i might share some poetry at some point. i might also need people to try on onesies. part of the reason i decided to start making them is that my baby also has a small frame, so many onesies sold in stores on the internet don't fit him well because they tend to be cut for bigger guys. so i am working on a pattern for guys who have smaller frames, & eventually i want to make onesies specifically for women. as for the chat - no problem! it's great to meet people in the community. i haven't been a mommy for very long (only since december), & before that, i wasn't even aware that ABDL existed. i did some minor online ageplay when i was a teenager, but i felt really weird about it & so i quit for a long time (about 8 years!). i got with my current boyfriend (my babyboy ), in october of last year. about two months after we started dating, he confessed to me that he is an AB & has been since he was 12. he explained to me what it meant for him, & told me that i didn't have to participate if i didn't want to. but because i loved him, i wanted to at least try. turns out, i took to it really naturally. i've been a mommy ever since! my baby is not a member. he's been an AB for a long time, but he stopped being involved in online ABDL communities a long time ago. he remembers when there weren't any online communities except dpf!

yeah, it tends to work better with the girl on top. trust me on this.