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Tnx again everyone, especially babyvr6.
I Made my decision and I'm going to ask my moher about him and hopefully meet him. I decided on this because I don't think I can keep going through life without knowing. I definitely don't want to wait to long and something unfortunate happens and then I will never get the chance to meet him.
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Ok let me clarify... i wasn't saying you actually care or have an interest in your genetic background.. i meant that it could be an excuse to bring the topic up to your mother who may otherwise be unwilling to discuss the issue..
Honestly there is nothing wrong with being curious about who your biological father is, but your mother may have her own very personal reasons for not wanting to remember him, or perhaps he was very abusive etc... and that is why she cut any contact between him and his children... there are ohh so many reasons for her actions... and its important to remember when bringing the topic up she may be defensive and refuse to talk about it.... she may also begin to think "what i'm not a good enough parent for her?"... because those thoughts do enter into parents minds..
which is why i suggested asking other family members if your mother is unwilling to give you any information, aunts or uncles or grandparents may have a name for you.
and yes in the USA a woman does not have to put a fathers name on the birth certificate.
I know Sarah, and that whats worries me so much . I don't want her to think she's a bad mother or I want to replace her in any way. I really don't want to harm anypne by doing this, especially if he was abusive to her, and now I starting to quetion is it even worth it .
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Here in the states you are entitled to a copy of your birth certificate if you know the state and/or county you were born in. If you were not adopted the certificate should list both parents. Perhaps there is something similar that is available in Great Britian. I have had real good success tracking people down for genealogical purposes using this method. This way you don't even need your mum.
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I was born in the states and i wasn't adopted. As far as my birth certificate goes only my mothers name is on it. I havn't asked my mother yet I'm trying to muster up enough courage to do it. so, wish me luck.
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Baby Kalie
Us guys can at times be not so different than you. Maybe your father welcomes the opportunity to meet you and get to know you. If you make it about getting to know him, you'll see the best side of him. With a little time, patience and letting him be the focus of attention for awhile, I'm sure that he'll open up and want to know more about you.
You don't know his side of why he's not there and while he could be someone that didn't anything to do with a child, he may have changed and you're not a child anymore.
Yes, there are very important genetic details you need to know from him. There could also be a warm and rewarding relationship there too.
Wishing you success,
Honu
Yea, I think theres more to the story then he just didn't want to be there. My mom told me one time that she had this sports car and some how it got wrecked by her boyfriend. I almost positive she was tlking about him.
Thanks for the advice Honu
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The genetics is a concern for your current & future health! Having a kid and wondering what you may be "passing on" is secondary.
Have you talked privately with your older sister? I would think she might also have genetic concerns.
My friend did "hurt" some of her family when she pressed to find her dad. Kinda fortunately, she was in her late 30's when she found him and we all supported her.
I'm guessing that you still live with mum.(?)
What I'm saying/suggesting is that you may have to wait some years until you're out on your own & self supporting to pursue this further.
Luv ya and wish you the best.
Thanks Rihaana I really appriecate the support and advise. =)
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The genetic background is very important! I have a friend who searched for her "real" dad for years. When she found him, she was pretty much rejected by him and her step siblings. I will give him credit for answering her questions. She still talks to him a couple times a year, but it is a very strained relationship. The step mom has not been told of the situation. lol
@baby kalie, I feel for you & support you. I wish I could do more to help you. As above, you need to press your mom for the info. It may come down to a "heated confrontation" but you really need to get the info.
Th genetics backround is a good ideal but I'm not having any kids anytime soon and my mums knows that.
So, I don;t know if I can get away with that. I have some other concerns to. I have a older sister and she seems to be content on not knowing our father. now I'm worried that I might hurt some of my family if I pursue this.
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Thnx You guys I really apprieciate it.
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So, for about a year now I been really wanting to know my birth father. I don't know his name nor have I every met him. My mother never spoke about him and pretty much pretends that he dosnt exist. I feel kinda silly in away because I feel like if he didn't want to have anything to do with me I should just leave him alone, right? But I can't.
I'm not really expecting anything in return if I meet him, nor will I be disappointed if he turns me away. I just feel it's something I have to do.
I don't know how to go about asking my mother about him. Any ideals on how to ask my mother or do you think I should just drop this?
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K thanks guys
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A young man tries to put his broken family back together which leads to his older brother regressing back to childhood. This is my first story I ever tried to write so it's probably not as good as some on this site. But, I try my best and Thats all I can do .
Family Secrets. 1
Where going to start this story off with a very true statement and that is �no one is perfect’, if only Gabe knew that earlier he may not be in this mess. Yes, Gabe was very handsome and very successful at his career, being the first born he felt he always had to strive be perfect. He always wanted to be viewed as someone that flourished and grew into his own, being as that may have been he felt he may never live up to his fathers standards.
Four years, two months plus extra hours for community services he had completed college and gotten his GED, but had that impressed his father?. No, but it got him to come to his graduation were his dad told him with a grimace of a smile “I’m proud of you son
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Wow, thank you so much you guys especially XyXy . I will take most, if not all your advice .
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I'm 5"5 1/2 and at the moment I weigh 115 and my goal wieght is 110, but some of close friends and relatives are worried. I tell them I'm fine all the time, and I look ok just have to lose the five pounds....
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Thanks so much. And I do exercise, I exercise alot actually . My schedule is a 5 day a week 20 minute jog and 50 sit ups.
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About 3 months ago, I was at 134 lbs, I started a calorie counting diet. This worked great for weight loss and I started exercising and everything was going well. I kept telling myself how happy I was and everyone noticed the change. I have lost 18 lbs to date, and so you would think this is great, right? My problem is that I know I have developed an unhealthy problem with food. My entire day revolves around what I eat. I weigh myself at least every few hours, hoping for any little loss. I feel severe guilt when I see my calories aproach 500. Most days I eat less than 500. I can no longer put food in my mouth without knowing how many calories are in it. If I eat over 500, I get this fat, bloated feeling. I love waking up in the morning after a day of eating so little, and feeling lighter, and my stomach feeling empty.
It is too embarassing for me to talk to anyone, as I am still at a healthy weight. I feel they will think I am just looking for attention, since I am not skinny. I feel so fat everyday of my life, even though people tell me how great I look now, I still see the same overweight girl in the mirror. My metabolism has slowed down, and so has my weight loss, I still want to lose at least 5-7 more lbs. Which means I would have to restrict even more, and that truly scares me. I feel like there are two voices-one telling me to keep it up, you are doing great! and a little voice that tells me stop! you are hurting yourself, this little voice gets smaller everyday.
I don't think I actually have anorexia, since I am at a healthy weight, but I DO have a problem. I don't even think I can stop at this point, even knowing it is bad. Maybe when I finish losing the weight I want, but will it then be too late? I would really just like to talk to anyone.
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heh, I just posted one in the story section here. Don't know if it's your thing.
~ASW
It's so totally my thing . Thanks
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Where can I find slash (gay) diaper stories at. I been looking, but can't seem to find any. So, can someone one please help me out here.
Love you all ,thanks .
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thanks guys.
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Thanks so much everyone
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Ok, it's about that time again were I want to try a different brand of diapers. So, I been wearing Abena Abri-Flex Air Plus Extra Absorbency pull ups (small 20in-30in) And i really enjoyed wearing them but, there just a little to thick for my taste.
I want to know if there's any brand of diapers that are as absorbent as the Abena Abri-Flex Air Plus Extra Absorbency pull ups and are as about the size of a goodnight pull up.
Thanks Guys.
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Please go on . I love this Story!
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i LUV it .
Keep going.
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Welcome and thanks for adding me as a friend .
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Ah, but the British Pound and the Euro are currently both worth more than the US Dollar(The Euro is worth $1.40 and the Pound if worth $1.61) so technically you would end up with more than the sum they say in their e-mail.
I'd gladly accept 6.2 million Pounds. That's just over ten million USD.
No,it's not and pounds she cleared that up by stating that it was 6.2 Million dollars in USD.
What a joke....
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thats kinda sad. I really don't think he should be at a foster home, He's fiffteen and In highschool. Obviously he's smart and can think for his self so, at any time he could have told his mom that he wants to be potty trained.
It's really dumb if you ask me . The mom is a little loco in the head, How "busy" do you have to be to not potty train you son....Realy?
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Should I Ask ?
in The Rest of your Life!
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I recently ask my mother and she told me she'll think about giving me his name and his information. So i'm hoping to get an answer by the end of next week or the begining of the week coming up. =)