Ugh, you have my sympathies. I'm happily not incontinent, but I am an occasional bedwetter, which contributed to the train ride from Hell the other day. I was tired, and it was a long journey, and I (stupidly) drifted off to sleep. I woke up hours later, having wet myself, with a huge obvious dark patch on the front of my jeans. I feel bad for whoever had to clean the chair. My jeans were soaked, my pants were soaked, the seat was soaked, the bottom of my sweater was soaked, I smelt of pee - it was AWFUL. And nobody said anything or woke me up, but I was right by the door so a load of people must have seen. They probably thought I was drunk. And I didn't have a change of clothes with me, so I had to sit in my soggy jeans for half an hour til my stop, and then stand around waiting for my next train with my back to the wall and my bag in front of my crotch so the wet patches wouldn't show below the hem of my coat. Wet jeans in the freezing cold are *horrible*. It was a total nightmare