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this is a little bit of a silly topic but I was filcking through an Argos catolog the other night and saw something any Mommies or Daddies out there that us time outs may be intrested in. It is a pressure seneative pad use to monitor time-outs. http://www.argos.co.uk/webapp/wcs/stores/s...ms=TIME+OUT+PAD

I do, Like on myspace I have two one for AB stuff and one for everything else although I don't use it ether any where near as much as here and Myspace.

Who would really like I cot? who in here would realistikly think of getting a cot who has the space, privacy etc to have one? also who dreams of having a cot but realistcly can't have one and what sort of cot is it you would like, what size etc?

I would like to say from the start that I have not read the full survey (just enough to get a general idea of where it was going) so if anything I say seem like I have not read something on there it is most likely because I haven't. There are a lot of things that are complaining about this survey which seem to me quite understandable, like not using her collage e-mail, I can see why you would want to avoid the questions that may be asked if someone was to read the responses, it is unlikely that she would get in any trouble over it be why go thought the process of getting it ok if you don't have to. Although I do find it odd how the name of the collage and researcher are not anywhere to be seen as this is stand practice for any one conducting proper research also I would be surprised if someone doing their masters was not a member of the APA so some kind of identification would be nice so you are accountable for any miss use of the data. I can see good reason for using such a sketchy survey but if you are truly doing this for research (which I would like to believe you are as it would be a very positive thing if you are) you must have put some thought into what method and analyses you are going to use, for a started is this even going to be quantitative or qualitative research or elements of both. And as I know how hard it is to find anything written about this topic in an academic respected manner I am sure you spent some time searching for background info, could you tell us what you found, just a few authors’ names would do, as I know they are out there. It is clear why Sarah_ab was unhappy with the question about children in diapers but I can see why it was it there, and if anything it only makes me believe that this survey is for what it is claimed to be for as now one in the AB community would ask that but as it is a commonly healed misconception many people outside of it would. However as much as I can see why it was put in I would agree not it should be taken out and not be in the final study in any way as it is not a true or fair reflection of the community

I seeing as my name is up here as going I thought I would just say a quick hello incase any one thinking of going wanted to check out the other people how will be there

Hi there I am visating charlotte, NC at the moment an will be there for the next 4 weeks. It would be really nice to hear from any one in the local area and even better if they wished to meet up. If that is to sort notice in terms of meeting up then still get in tuch as there is a strong chance I will be back in the area quite offten.

Hi all thought I may as well let you know I am in North Carolina for a few weeks.

if it is the same thing that started to effect me today the it is there is no option at the top to open new messages. it also will not let me send messages, not know if it is the same with you?

Hi I was recantly cut off from the Chat room, well I think I was as it will nolonger let me in and today i find that I can no long send or receve private messages on here. I am not sure if I have done something that the support term where offended by (I can't think of anything) or if it is just an error on the site. if any one can help let me know.

Hello and wecome, I am sure you will have fun and it is maybe too easy to make friends on here so you should have no problem

Hi I am going to be spending a fare bit of time in Charlotte very sortly so I have been searching for people to talk to and posably meet (manly on MySpace) and they are out there and mast befiantly in other areas of NC. I Aonly really came on here today to put a post up to see if any one for Charlotte would like to talk and maybe think about meeting up whilest I am out there.....

Two little things, first Ranger I was not so much suggesting that people SHOULD do those things but just givening examples of what they may do to help kick the debate off and give it something to focus on. And DailyDi, there are some advice columns site which are completly user driven so there is no chance of it not getting it accsepted, I know this as I used one once before I found this place (wordofadvice.org).

I know this has been tried before (and did not go to grate) but why not try again Ok then how would be interested in meeting up as a group somewhere in the UK (parable not in London, lol). If you would like to do this in some form then post below saying what sort of thing you would like to happen should anything go ahead from, AB/diaper play, just a little stuff (maybe just wearing nappies) or no actual AB/DL stuff but a chance to meet others. Also suggest place you think it may be good to happen, be it your home or some tourist attraction. And if you like an idea someone else has put full then post to say so, it may just happen that way

This post can sort of go two ways, ether you think that doing little things that sort of make the general public more aware is a good thing, if so why? And feel free to mention any fun ways of doing so (letting people get a glimpse of you with you dummy/pacifier in as you go about, to, writing in to on-line advice pages with AB/DL related problems) Or you think that doing such a thing is silly or wrong, if so... so and why?

I do agree that Ella is one of the sweeties people you could hope to meet, however I am a little worried about how this show may have been maniplated through 'crative' editing, as I have seen a number of such show where it is clear the person is trying to portray a possative image but it does not come across that way, unless you are looking for it. but most of there where quite dated and manly about men (not sure if that will change how people see it) so I do hope that times may have changed a little and they let the show display things just as they are and let people make up there own minds, rather than spinning things in a way that tells them what they should think. also do you know if there is any way to see it in the UK?

I would agree that the ‘need’ to do this for emotional comfort is like, at least in most case, a way of avoiding dealing with a deep lying issue. Personally I have spent some time trying to work out what it was that triggered this so that I could then work on getting over that, however I tend to find doing this intensely up setting and often puts me in a extremely bad (and sometimes a little destructive) mood for a few days. As such I have stopped trying to work it out, or I have tried to stop trying, as I finger as long as the rest of my life is going well and I still enjoy this side of my self why try to stop. Well there still is some reason but on balance I choose not to, or at least I like to think I do. As for it being biological, I am very unsure about that as there does not seem to be any logical way the normal development of the brain and personality would explain this. I guess there is a possibility that the sexual side of it may be, in part, biological liked but the emotional and sexual needs for this are quite possibly largely different in nature so I are not sure how relevant it is to discus them as one. I do think that the absents of (physical) affection, to meet our desired, could like it could be a possible reason behind all of this.

I Have to say I do agree with Eric's dis-like of writen baby talk, but not as strongly or for the same reason. It is just the as some with a low reading age any way it is very hard to work out at times and in live chats I bo find that when people start using it I stop talking just because it takes me so long to work ou what people are saying I don't have a chance to reply. I am in no way saying people should stop and I dolike using spoken baby talk and sort of wish I could use baby talk in text but as it has been said, there are no hard ruls so it is hard to pick up.

I don’t know about you but I think quite a few parents, and especially mums, would actually be a lot more understanding than we seem to assume. I have often considered telling my mum but never have. This is partly because of a fear that she way not tack it as well as I hope but also there is the question of what are the real pretention benefits as well as not wishing the rest of the family to find out, personally I don’t feel it would be fair for me to ask her to keep this secrete.

I have Quite a few, probably about 17 in totle but sum have had to be put away as... well I try to hide my AB side and people would ask questions (although I always hade about 4 of them in/on my bed until I was 15). Most of them have names but of course I have my favurates, some because I have had the from childhood and others because they are really nice, although I have two new favurats thanks to a friend how knows about my AB side and bort them for me

We as many people have said there is a lot that we just don’t know about your situation and motives, some of which you may not wish to share but there you go. First of all fairfaxdl, not sure it is you place to be telling people to move out, there may be many reason him can’t and deepening on your relationship with your parents it is possible to live your own. The question of why you want to tell them and why now seem quite important, have you just started to want to tell them or have you always felt that way? Do you wear for any reason other than need? There is a strong chance they do know and ether don’t wish to bring it up or don’t know how to. Without trying to make you feel bad they may also wish that you did feel you could tell them. What do you think would change if they knew? What do you stand to gain from it, not having to hide things? Do you feel it a weight to dare keeping it from them? And what is the most you really think you could lose, do you think they would lose any respect for you or treat you differently. Is there any risk of you feeling pressure to move out? I am sure those are all things you have most like already thought about. If you think it would be a positive move then it may be wreath doing and I do understand the feeling to tell them, I have been considering telling my Mum for some time now.

It is hard to say why I find them comforting, they give me a feeling of safety and pretty much clear my mind of whatever else is going on, for that reason I do not think they would be good for me all the time but are a great add to relaxing. I am sure I will not be the only one how has spent hours trying to come up with how my mind came to like nappies with being safe in a way most other people don’t seem to but I find this searching up-setting in itself so I try just to accept that that is the way things are. As for the world being a happy more peaceful place if everyone was in nappies... not so sure it would have the same effect on people how do not seek out comfort in that way. In fact I can see how with many people, most likely a lot of guys, would become more aggressive as a way to show they are still ‘adults’. But as this will never happen, nor would I really wish it to as forcing people to wear them would be as bad as trying to make people stop, it is not something that needs thinking about too much.

I have two FB profiles one for my day-to-day public life and one for my AB side. I also have the same on MySpace, you do have to be a little careful on there but if you put on the right privacy setting all should be fine. I have meet some really good friends through there (you know how you are, lol) Also as great as this place is they do allow you to talk to people outside of the community in a safe way so that you have a chance to explain things without risking exposure or physical harm. I find a lot of people to be very nice about it and have had some good friendship with non-AB/DL people without having to hide it this way.

Well as someone how has no real need for diapers, not a physical one at least, I find the clean-up and the fact a poopy diaper is much harder to hide enough of an down side that I rarely choose to poo, but them are something about it I do like so now and again if I know I have the time and freedom to get away with it I do let go. I find the idea of doing it just so you are not ‘wasting’ your diaper a little strange, but I guess it the positives and negative side are quite equally weighted that could swing it.

I have worn in public and have no real reason to, not done it in some time but there is no reason for me stopping. I also put my dummy(pacifier) in when working or cycaling about, but I hide it when I see people. although I may be stopping this as I am trying to crate clear lines between when I am Baby and when I am big boy, and fell that this only muddys the water. although it is fun

Freud had a lot of theorises and many of them contradict each other so I am not too worried about what he say. Pulse there is such variety in the actions and reason with in AB/DLs I do not think one explanation would every cover them all. However there are so more up to data use of the psychodynamic approach which are tailored more to this topic which do carry some weight as you can see at http://www.toddlertime.com/regression/infantilism.htm