fairfaxdl

What is more importatnt for you? Having sex or playing with diapers? I suggest go for the sex THEN see if the diapers are something she is interested in. Otherwise, you may not get anywhere.

My wife, Mother-in-law, therapist, family doctor, urologist and assorted techs and assistants have seen me in a diaper. I do get a kick out of it but I'm not going out of my way to show it to them. (Except one time with my mother-in-law.) The therapist knew I was an DL and wanted to see if I was into the AB aspect of it. I wasn't but I also didn't have a problem wearing a daiper in front of just her an at another time in front of her and my wife. As for the others, when I filled out my medical info sheet, I did say I was urinary incontinent and that I had no control. Can I control it? I don't know and I don't wish to try. So for all practical reasons, I AM incontinent. One thing I do agree with the therapist about is that I am "functionally incontinent" I may not have a physical problem (though I may have one now), I do have a compuslion that results in the same condition. Either way, I have to wear a diaper at this point. I take steps so that the public does not know I wear diapers. I wouldn't want a customer or potential customer or a competitor to know I wear diapers or am a DL.

No, there ARE some of use who DO want it and quite enjoy it. I have no concious control day or night. I might have some control if I tried but I'm not going to. I don't want to reverse all the progress I've made over the last year. This is what I WANT. I LIKE to wear diapers all the time and wet myself. I ENJOY it. It can be inconvient but its not a problem. With proper planning, you can wet anywhere, anytime without anyone knowing. Its all about how much you really want it or not. If someone just buys some Depends and plays around being an AB/DL they are going to have problems. (I think they WANT to have those probelms so its ok.) If you approach it as though you HAVE to solve the problem because you don't have a choice, you can do it. I have a full time job dealing with customers and in sales. Sure, people in the office know I wear diapers. So what? I can still do my job, give presentations, lectures, the works. I ENJOY wetting myself while I'm talking to a group of people. Its a total kick to be wearing a $1,000 suit and wetting my diaper at the same time. This isn't the incon forum so please don't lecture us about not wanting it. Some of us DO and HAVE DONE IT! THIS IS OUR LIFESTYLE.

I still get a kick out of wetting when in public or around other people. When I wear diapers I don't leak and don't worry about it. But if you have read some of my other posts, there are times when I want to leak a bit. That was good for awhile but got old quick. I'm just happy I can wet wherever and whenever I want. Since I'm nearly always peeing, its easy to do it in front of someone and they will never know.

The cost isn't really that much. I'm pretty much mostly cloth diaprs these days. I have some Abena Abri-Form that I'm holding on to. So except for laundry costs, it isn't so bad. I'd have to check my records but I spent about $300 for a bunch of diapers and plastic pants. The payback if I was using disposable is somethign like less than 3 months. So there isn't much of an expense. It really comes down to being able to handle the committment. It can be done very cheaply. (I now have more than $300 invested in cloth diapers. Now that I know my size and style, I have enough supplies to go about 6 or 7 days without laundry.)

In the early months, I noticed that sometimes I would not realize I had to go but once I did, I would just relax and go. In other words, my body was holding it as usual. This would normally occur around early afternoon so I made it a point to "see" of I had to pee and to do so. What I ended up doing was making myself very sensitive to the fact that I had to pee. Soon I would feel like I had to pee even though I wasn't full. Then I would relax and let myself go. I never forced myself, I just relaxed and focused on the "I need to pee" feeling. At times it would start out as just a few trickles but it would eventually go. Sometimes I would have a full bladder and feel it but it was hard to pee. I would just stay as relaxed as possible and wait for it to happen. It takes work to make sure you are relaxed in different posistions or walking. But the full bladder feeling helps to make you go even if just a lot of frequent trickles. As my sensitivity to a full bladder or even a partially full bladder increased, I would wake up more often when I had to pee. I would stay in whatever posisition I was, (mostly on my back) and relax and pee. Sometime it took a long time to relieve myself but I would just do it. More than once I would fall asleep while peeing. This was a good sign. I made sure I didn't do anythign to "wake up" more than I had to. Just relax and let it go. It didn't matter if I leaked or not. Usually I would wake up near the morning with a full bladder. I would not get up until I was completely empty. I usually drink a lot of water anyway. Sometimes with lemon or lime juice. This is a natural duretic I've found out. But I wasn't doing it on purpose. I would always drink a lot before going to bed to avoid getting thirsty at night. I usually get very thirsty at night. i also always have water by my bed. I never "pushed". I just relaxed and let it happen. The idea is to condition your body to pee the moment it feels urine in the bladder. Make it a "habbit" to pee very often. Thats what my "rules" are all about. The trick is to never, every hold it. And thats harder than it sounds. You just jump out of the shower and are standing naked in the bedroom and you have to pee, you CAN'T hold it. You and put a towel under it or whatever, but you must let it happen. The same for sex, usually I would have to pee shortly after I had sex. We'll you can't hold it then either. Any time you hold it, you are holding yourself back. Remember, when I started, I was faking a physical problem so my wife didn't get mad at me when I would wet the bed after sex. After the first time, we always make sure I was on the waterproof pad or otherwise protected. You really need to consider the situation as thought you CAN'T hold it. No matter what you have to let it go. Leaks or other considerations can't stop you. If you sleep alone, you may want to try a few nights where you can really wet the bed. Put down a waterproof pad and some absorbent cloth on top. Use blankets you can launder and let yourself wet the bed. It isn't easy at all because the wetness can be very COLD. So I would have a few sets of pad and cloth to switch out as needed. This only works if you can do laundry easily. But it is fun to really wet the bed! It really doesn't take long to notice a change in you peeing habits. In just a couple of weeks I was going much more often. We'll I need to get changed and get to bed, its late. Good luck and let me know how it goes.

I think the cake idea was from my Mother-in-law. Thats the sort of thing she would do. About 6 months ago or so, she gave me a NUK 5 pacifier as a joke. It doesn't do anything for me but I still have it somewhere.

My wife and I had this discussion a few months back. Had I told her I was into wetting myself or interested in wearing diapers when we met, she would have dropped me quick AND told everyone she knew how weird I was. But she said that after being married for so long and after all we’ve been through its not the worse thing that can happen. She said she would be able to get over it if I had a physical disability so why not if I had some sort of compulsion to wear a diaper? She said that someone with a compulsion to wear but doesn’t may have more trouble and have more problems as a result of denying the compulsion. And since its not something that causes any harm to myself or others, it is ok to and even important that I do what feels right. The fact that I’ve never been happier is a good sign. She doesn’t like it that I wear diapers and wet myself but he does like the new me even better than before. She even got me a diaper shaped cake with “Happy Diaper Day!” for my one year anniversary of wearing diapers. I hope things can be worked out between you two and she can accept your good points and your faults.

I've been wearing for a year constantly and I’m un-potty trained for peeing. I still use the toiled for #2. But I haven’t tried to control myself for a year and have no idea if I can. I don’t want to try and have had no desire to. After about the first 6 weeks, I didn’t even have any reflex to hold it when awake. I was still holding it at night until about month 10 but now that’s gone. I like it very much. It just feels very, very right. All I did was just “relax” and never every hold it. Even if I wasn’t wearing a diaper. If I was just out of the shower, I peed where I was. There was never a time to hold it. Ever. The thing is, don’t think of it as wetting your diaper but of just plain wetting. Don’t put any conditions on it. Just go.

Well actually its been 366 days because of the leap year. One year wearing diapers, or more accurately, wetting myself. In the last year, I have never held it. I have peed every time I felt like it no matter the circumstances or whatever. In the beginning, there were leaks and other accidents. (I guess you can’t really call them accidents since I let them happen if you know what I mean.) The point is, that I didn’t want to hold myself back and I didn’t. When I started a year ago, I made up the excuse that it was a physical problem. But I told my wife the truth after about 8 weeks or so. There have been a lot of discussions about my choice and my wife has not always been happy about it. But she does accept that this is something that is a part of me. She doesn’t always agree with it but still supports the idea. It sounds strange but that’s her way. I made a comment last week that I was coming up on the one year mark of wearing diapers this Sunday so she and her mom had an ice-cream cake made for the occasion. What kind of a woman gets a cake made in the shape of a diaper with “Happy Diaper Day!” on it? (Just to show how twisted she is, it was a white with a lemon and white inside.) It had one candle on it. No cake on my birthday, but on diaper day, she gets a cake. What a pair. (They wanted to get “Congrats on one year in diapers!” but it wouldn’t fit.) These days I’m now dependent on my diapers. Sometimes I like to sleep in the other bed so I can wet the bed or I wear my sweatpants so I can wet them but those days are not that frequent anymore. I like wearing my diapers. I still do cloth a lot but more often I’m wearing cheaper disposables and baby diapers as inserts. Since I’m almost constantly peeing, I don’t have to worry about flooding a diaper. I’m planning on ordering some cloth pull ups and using baby diapers as inserts. Sort of the best of both. But the main thing is that I’m happy. Really happy. This last year was very different for me. I can’t remember a time when I was this happy all the time. I finally fell like “me.” Sure it can be tedious but I don’t mind at all. This is something that just feels right and is a part of me. There isn’t much to say. Things are routine these days. I don’t know if I have the ability to physically control myself or not. I haven’t tried. I just pee whenever during the day. When I sleep, its the same way so it is now natural for me. If you have the desire, I suggest you go ahead and make the change. I would suggest you discuss it with others in your life and you make sure you are ready for the commitment. Not just emotionally but financially also. I think that if you honestly tell someone about this part of you and they can then see the positive change in you, they will agree it is a good idea. Yea, it may be a huge stretch for everyone but if it isn’t a sexual thing and you make them understand its just a part of you. I think it will work out ok. Maybe you should take it very slow but I think that if do what is in your heart, if you are honest with yourself and others, it will be ok. I’m glad I made the change and was honest with my wife. She doesn’t like it that I wear diapers but she does like the new, happy me. She says it is worth the bother and weirdness. So, its one year down, the rest of my life to go!

I am! I’ve been wearing now for 364 days and I wet all the time now without any control. I wake at night completely soaked. I have not held it once in nearly a year. Everytime I felt like I had to pee I let it go. It got to be a habit and then just automatic. The fact that I wet myself even when I sleep means I’ve succeeded. I have no idea if I could control it because I don’t want to try and ruin anything. Even as I type this I can feel myself peeing a little. So, yes if you are committed, you can make yourself loose all control. No hypno or other weird stuff. Just stop holding you pee. ALWAYS!!!!

I’m a DL only. No sexual issue with it at all. My libido is pretty much at zero these days. I have no desire for anything AB and it creeps me out more than a bit. My diaper use is totally a lifestyle for me. Though it is now quite mandatory. In just 2 days, I’ll have been wearing for a full year. I have no desire to change things. I like wetting myself. From my experience with the head shrinkers, ABDL or Infantilism is just a topic in a book until they get a case where they need to look it up. Creative shrinks can assign all sorts of causes or reasons and can be pretty creative with a diagnosis. But they have no clue. From the outside, I’m a normal hard working guy. You would never know that I like to wet myself and I’m wearing diapers all the time.

I only wet myself but after nearly a year, I pee without any control. Its exactly what I want. No hypno, just me training myself to pee the moment I feel like it. I never hold it. Now I dibble every 15 or 20 minutes. I also wet the bed without waking. Its isn't hard to do at all. You just have to train yourself to "unhold" it. After a while it just becomes routine and then normal. No age play required.

They know. There is no way you can hide it for 10 years. They may know but choose to ignore it but they know. Who cares? You are 27, move out and get a life of your own.

Well it is obvious that she didn't have a problem with you being a DL. She was just trying to make her adultery ok by blameing it on you.

It doesn't get on the floor. Most of the times it doesn't even show through my jeans. Since I pee a very little but very often, my underwear soaks it up and my pants slow absorbs it. If anything, it tends to wet my crotch first. I'm more interested in the thrill than it showing or getting caught. Though I do let it soak my pants when I get in my truck. But then I'm by myself.

Just pee. I wear 24/7, usually cloth but lately I've also been wearing cheap Depends Briefs with a pampers baby diaper as an insert.

Diapers are great but what I’m really into is wetting. I used to wet myself just a little every day. Nearly a year ago I just decided to start constantly wetting myself and I’ve been in diapers all that time. I now pee without any control at all. I trickle a lot and will pee just a little about ever 10-15 minutes. I’m always wetting at night without waking up. I still primarily wear cloth diapers for cost reasons. But more often now I’ll wear some cheap disposables like Depend Underwear Super Plus absorbency with a baby diaper as an insert. Since I leak very often, the baby diaper can soak up its full amount. Those Pampers hot a TON! Here’s the exciting thing and then the REALLY exciting part. Now that I pee without any effort or thought, sometimes I’ll just wear some sweatpants or regular jeans around the house and wet them. Believe me, THAT is really cool. But even better than that by a million is this: I’ll put on my usual Depends Brief and Pamper insert and then a regular par of underwear over the Depends with some heavy denim jeans. I go out to Wall Mart, Borders, HomeDepot, Giant, the mall, wherever. I find a restroom and I take off and throw away the Depends and Pampers! There is NO going back after that. Eventually I’ll leak some more and start to wet my underwear. It takes about 45 minutes to an hour for it to start to show on my pants. The underwear absorbs most of it. Usually only a little will ever reach the outside of the jeans. I can go for a while before it becomes a problem. Talk about a thrill. It is so wild to be walking around and feeling me wet knowing that I have no diaper at all. It is just a tiny amount but I can feel the wetness spreading. I usually carry a spare Pampers and after a while I’ll stuff my underwear with it. That will hold a lot for awhile. I don’t really care about small leaks at this point. The really funny part is that my therapist recommended it! Not really, she just said I should try not wearing a diaper. Now she meant that I wouldn’t use a diaper and that I wouldn’t wet myself but once I got the picture of it in my mind, I had to try it. It’s not something I can do all the time but it is very thrilling.

I use papers Cruisers size 6 as stuffers sometimes. I take the back end, fold it and stuff it in my butt crack so it stays in place. I them make sure the front is open and where it needs to be. As you do this you'll know where in your butt crack the back has to be. If the tabbs bother you, you can cut them off. The folded diaper stays in place quite well for me and a baby diaper hold a lot of pee if you trickle or pee very frequently these days. If you pee heavily, or lots at once, don't use it in a Depends or other cheap diaper. It will leak out. They work great in a real adult diaper like Abena or in a cloth diaper. I don't cut them or anythign else. Once they are full I throw it away. Very simple.

I 've seen a shrink about being an DL. I've posted about some of my sessions here. Now I wasn't going to be cured or anything. My wife suggested it as a way to have my DL desire recorded and genuine. In otherwords, its not a sexual thing and is a real dependency on diapers. Simply put, I am happy, at peace, calm, relaxed and life is just better now that I'm wearing diapers all time. Actually, thats not quite accurate. I'm really wetting myself all the time. I don't poo in my diapers. I just pee in them. It was because of the shrink sessions that I realized it wasn't the diapers that I needed, but the wetting. Of course you really can't do the wetting without the diapers in today's World. I wear diapers because I wet myself. I wet myself because I like/need/want/must. It just feels right for me. The shrink was of no use. It was really my wife getting me to probe myself that I began to understand things better. By me understanding myself better, my wife can accept and understand my need to wet myself and therefore to wear diapers. She now knows it isn't just a "phase" but how I will live my life from now on. Soon I will have been wearing 24/7 for a full year. But it feels like like I've always been here.

Speak for yourself. My sex drive has been going downhill for years and since I've been wearing 24/7 its reall way off. I think in the last year, I may have wanked 2 or 3 times I'm sure I haven't since July of last year. Just not interested in sex that much. I'd much rather wet myself.

I did this at first and it seemed like a good way to wear around my wife. But my wife was concerned that I might have a serious medical problem or even cancer. While my wife was shocked that I wanted to wear diapers, at least she knew that I didn’t have a serious illness. I don’t tell others that I’m incontinent. If really pushed I will say that I have a condition that forces me to wear diapers. This is very, very close to if not actually the truth. I just don’t say it’s a compulsion to wear a diaper. Or more accurately, to wet myself.

I'm still 24/7. Comming up on a whole year at the end of March. My wife is still ok with it. I'm nearly always wetting at night without waking and I'm also mostly peeing involuntarily during the day.

Primarily cloth and plastic pants. When I do were disposables it is Abena Abri-Form. I seldom use any skin care product but when I do its just a very small amount of petroleum jelly. A VERY small amount will go a long way. You should try not to use it when wearing plastic pants.

Just normal clothes. I'm not out to show off a diaper so it would have to be an unusual situation for my plastic pants or a disposable to be even slightly visible. If I have to were a suit or something other than denim, I just wear a very thin diaper or a snug disposable like a large Abena instead of an extra large. I've worn diapers at weddings and funerals and no body could tell. During the summer, I usually wear shorts over my daipers. Works very well and no one notices at all.