Jay-in-Pampers

Got ours up a few days ago... Still have lots more ornaments to put on it, though (we go for the "can't see the tree" look )

I've started to put up announcements here in this forum as of late (others can be found over at ABY in their events forum) for the larger parties. Next one will be around Christmas (TBA) as a sort of "homecoming" for a few college ABDLs that have been away at school, and the New Years party (which will be in Springfield, MA this year... Always a big one... Last year we had about 35 people). Smaller g2g's happen randomly all the time... Just last night my partner and I met Babyadam21 for the first time for some dinner. Great guy (and a car nut, too... woohoo!)!

K-san, a few of us are meeting up this evening to play some pool and hang out for a bit. If you can make it down to Tewksbury (about 40 mins from you... you're in Concord, right?) we'd love to have you.

You're missing my point, and believe it or not, you're missing your own point and turning this discussion into a mudsling about the definition of "transgender". The point here is... People shouldn't misrepresent themselves to the rest of the ABDL community. Men should say that they are men, Women should say that they are women, trans people should say that they are transgendered, and so forth. A man posing as a woman (for example, Diaperdragon) is wrong IMHO. Same goes for a woman posing as a man, or a male or female posing as transgender when they really aren't. The "law" doesn't apply here. Do you have a "D" restriction on your license because you wear diapers?

That really isn't fair. There is no option for "transgendered" on a driver's license application, regardless of the fact that transgendered people actually are... Transgendered. Sarah has it clearly stated in her profile that she isn't claiming to be male or female, and as such she isn't being deceitful. This is very different from your original argument in your OP.

And you are clear that you are transgender. Kudos to you for being truthful.

A large portion of people from this website (and ABDLdom in general) leave the anonymity of the internet occasionally to socialize with their ABDL peers in real life. It is important to be truthful with whom you are meeting. Heck, it's important to be truthful regardless... Internet or not. Nobody likes a liar, and this isn't a fantasy or roleplaying forum.

Wsdler, thanks for the head's up. The people (like Nick here) that lie and misrepresent themselves actually bother me more than the ones that insist on a sexual overtone. At least with the latter you know what they're about. I can see now why he is so insistent on not meeting people, as his gig would be up.

I guess what I'm saying is going over your head. We do not fit that stereotype. That said, if you really do think that "all guys see is a piece of meat" (even gay ones, like me), I agree... Your personality wouldn't be compatible with most ABs and DLs around here, male or female. We tend to be a friendly group, and give people the benefit of the doubt first, and condemn last.

Sounds like you'd fit in just fine.

Ahh... I didn't catch the fact that Diaperdragon was female. I can definitely empathize with her in the respect that she probably gets a lot of flak online. The good thing is that most of the weirdos out there seem to be antisocial, and stay cooped up in their homes glued to their computers. I haven't ever been pressured for sex or diaper changes by anyone in person, and I've never had any feedback from the females in the group as such.

For those interested in attending that have NOT met with me or attended another gathering in the area... As a rule, and for the safety of everyone attending, I always meet new ABDL people in a public place before inviting them into my home. I will be organizing a brief meet this Friday here in Haverhill (most likely at the 99 Restaurant), for anyone wishing to meet us in anticipation of attending the party on Saturday. If you wish to meet up on Friday, please PM me for a time to meet. So far we have about 20 people confirmed, 5 "maybes", and I'm sure a few stragglers... Everyone has listed some really yummy stuff that they will be bringing, in addition to the turkey and all the usual fixins. It should turn out to be a fun, and filling evening! -Jay

Hi awakeanddreaming... The people that come are from all walks of life. The majority are gay and in their 20s, but there are also a good amount of straight people, a few girls, a couple married couples, etc., etc. Just in this household, my partner and I are gay, and my roommate and his girlfriend are straight (duh ). K-San, we'd love to have ya! PM me if you're still interested.

Nah, not a NECC student... Just put two and two together. We'll have to meet up sometime if you're game. I'll give you a yell via email. You sound exactly like someone that has never met another AB or DL. In the instances I've seen (and I've met TONS of ABDLs, from here, across the US, and western Europe), sex has never come up. Anything of the sort is NOT allowed at anything I organize, and isn't allowed at any of the other parties I've attended elsewhere. In short, PDA (displays of affection) are a big no-no. In addition, a private changing area is always provided, so you can change on your own accord, on your own. Nobody has to change you, and you don't have to change anyone else. Heck, even diaper wearing is optional. Some choose not to, and just come to hang out. My apologies for being frank, but when one insinuates that diaper parties are nothing more than a sexual melee among a pile of freaks, it couldn't be further from the truth. There are rules at these parties, and everyone is expected to abide by them, and respect their peers. If they don't, out the door they go, and they won't be invited back. In the 3 years and 30+ events I've planned, this has only happened once. I encourage anyone to come out and meet some people. We get together to have FUN together, as friends. There is no sex involved whatsoever.

Haverhill. You go to NECC? Gimme a yell if you want to meet up somewhere for a beer or something sometime.

For the second year in a row, I'll be hosting a mega-pot-luck Thanksgiving dinner for us local ABDLs. Last year we had over 25 people attend, had a TON of great food, and everyone had a great time! This year should be even more fun! Who: Anyone into diapers and good food! When: Saturday, November 24th, 4PM Where: Haverhill MA Why: Why not? I'll be cooking a turkey (or two, depending on how many are coming) and a few other sides, but the rest will be pot-luck. Last year everyone that came brought some really good food, and we had so much I think we all weighed considerably more by the end of the evening (even in addition to our soggy diapers ). This event is 18+ (obviously) and is open to anyone wishing to attend, space permitting. If you wish to come, and we haven't yet met, contact me ASAP to arrange a public meeting to introduce ourselves before the party. As always, parties are BYOB and BYOD. For more information, just shoot me a message here. Cheers, and Happy Thanksgiving! -Jason

It's just you. There are a lot of people from the area that get together to hang out pretty often. You anywhere near Haverhill?

Valentine, it seems you and Tris have different opinions on what the definition of "dope" is. Perhaps it'd be better to just agree to disagree rather than playing the semantics game and calling people "an uneducated jerk". Derogatory name calling has no benefit to this discussion. Tris, I'm a Maintenance guy, and believe me, I've seen it all. A year or so ago, we had a drain pipe leak in one of our tenant's apartments, in the wall inside a bedroom closet. I shoveled the pile of stuff out of the bottom of the closet, and under a pile of clothes in the back corner was a half-gone pack of Goodnites, among some loose baby diapers. Considering there wasn't any small kids living there, it made me think for a second. I've also seen quite a slew of drugs/paraphernalia (it's amazing how many people call with an issue, knowing we're coming, and leave all their bong/hookah/bag/plants/etc. laying around). I just look the other way... If we made an issue out of it, half our tenants would be gone. Fine by me, anyway, as the pot smokers generally tend to be the quieter, more respectful tenants.

Hehe... You guys sound like you're waiting for a girl to be served on a platter... Couple questions... How many large scale ABDL events have you attended recently? How many thoughtful, descriptive, and precisely worded (with a tasteful pic or two) personal ads do you have in circulation? How many non ABDL girlfriends have you brought up the ABDL thing with? If you can't answer all of these questions positively, you aren't trying hard enough. Relationships that coincide with ABDL life require networking, and A LOT of effort on your part (heck, the same could be said for regular 'ol dating). There is no reason why anyone wouldn't be able to find a suitable partner, but it takes motivation. The "it's so hard to meet girls" desperation threads don't do it.

Hey Elo... Maybe you should hang out with this guy... Closed minded people tend to get along quite well.

Why do you need to explain why you wear diapers to anyone? Like any fetish, it is a private thing. Embrace it for what it is... An enjoyable experience that you do on your own time.

K-San, in addition to the store in Concord, any Walgreens can order Attends for you, to pick up at the store. I've done it once or twice before, and they usually have them in a day or two after you call. Also, there is http://www.continenceconnection.com/ in Newburyport, MA, which sells Abena, Tranquility, and a few others. They are a new store, and I haven't given them a try yet, but Robin, the proprietor seems very nice, is ABDL aware, and is prompt with returning emails. Obviously the best way to get good diapers is to order them. If you need them sent somewhere, I'm very willing to help out. Wsdler and 4wet, plans for the Halloween g2g are not yet set in stone (I've been busy with normal-life stuff lately), but ideas thus far are attending the Halloween party at Hobo Cafe in Newburyport on the 27th, or a trip to Machine in Boston on the 3rd. I'll post up in the Meeting Place forum here in the next few days with more explicit details. Cheers, guys!

39 ABs and DLs of all walks of life met yesterday in Revere, MA for a pot-luck dinner and evening on the beach. Lots of food, great people, and fun! Hope you guys can make it out sometime... More parties are planned for the coming weeks (trip to NYC Oct. 6, Halloween party Nov. 3, and probably a dinner out somewhere in between), so give me a yell if you're interested in attending, or looking to meet up for some dinner some night. -Jay

I just think the money thing shouldn't come into play... We're all here to form a community, and financial gain shouldn't be part of it. There is no doubt DD is "for profit", but there are better ways to go about making a few bucks than sending soliciting emails to your members. It's sad. Especially when people themselves are breaking away from the keyboard to plan and produce IRL ABDL events, whilst not looking for any more profit than the camaraderie of friends. Advertisements? Sure, why not? Every website does that, and they make a killing. I see this as the "grab for the last buck".

I got an email from DD tonight asking for money to verify my age. How me paying money to prove my age works, I have no clue. Personally, I have over a hundred members of the ABDL community in and around Boston (and man the world over) that will attest to who I am, my age, and that I'm a beneficial member to the ABDL community. I think it's a real kick in the teeth when someone as myself, who has paid out countless hours of time, not to mention money, to provide the Boston community with events and gatherings, gets solicited via email for money to become "one" with ABDLs online. I sent this in response: I'm not going to pay any money to be "verified" in the abdl community... Especially considering that DailyDiapers is known to steal content from other ABDLs. The fact that I spend literally thousands of dollars hosting AB gatherings, trips, cookouts, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years parties, etc., and then am asked to "verify" my status is very patronizing, and the primary reason that for the past several years I've chosen ABY as my primary means of communication. If you wish to solicit money from the ABDL community because you don't have the knowledge to run a free site for profit, don't look to me. I'm not willing to pay for whomever runs DailyDiapers' inadequacies. How the hell does paying a dollar via credit card guarantee someone's age anyways? Aside from collecting info from them, which you probably sell for profit, too. In other words, the people behind DailyDiapers can go screw themselves. Anyone that is into this fetish should be a COMMUNITY PLAYER, and not be out looking for a buck off their peers. Go to hell... Money grubbing whores. -Jason Am I wrong? Isn't there enough advertiser revenue to combat such sad attempts for grabbing $ from our community? Will this be deleted immediately? I'm sickened that people in this genre are looking to make a buck off us. You?