Diaperman1995

I think you are giving yourself solid advise here. If you can not commit 247 with 100% zero cheating never using the potty to go wee than you are not ready to live life that away. Are you willing to have incontinence be center stage during sex with your partner or future partners. Have to lay down bed pads possible even pass a catheter first to make sure you are starting out complete empty. That's what I have to do. Then If I do manage to have orgasm with my wife before pissing on her or the bed I would love to be able to just fall a sleep in her arms. But nope as soon as I am done she is telling me to hurry and put a diaper on before I ruin the bed. I do not see how people cant just enjoy without losing control. Reddy was talking like he was not going to wear a diaper down on his flight to get surgery. It was not until someone told him if you have diapers in your bag TSA is going to wonder why you do not have one on. If you guys think having to need them is going to make you feel less embarrassed to wear them you guys are flawed in your thinking. Only thing that makes you gain confidence is time. I have been wearing pads or diapers 24/7 pretty much from middle school and I am 47 years old. I still to this day have nightmares a few times a month of being found out by people I would never tell. Especially after developing fecal incontinence. I am not saying that you or Reddy could never handle it But it is a hard life and I wish to hell I get my continence back. Truth is diapers are part of me now and i would not feel right in underwear. But a cozy dry diaper would be heaven. I cant really swim or enjoy myself. I cant go into the water with a diaper but as soon as I am out of the water I take a chance of people seeing me wet. So you either have to stay in the water or stay out. Now all the loose stool I am having I would never even dream of getting in the water. When your bladder shrinks and the walls become thick and hard from not working and stretching it becomes very painful and spasms. This can lead to cystitis and and ever cancer. If yo end up in chronic pain everyday or with bladder cancer can you live with the Idea that you did that to yourself. What If 10-15 years from now because of the bladder shrinking and getting tumors the doctors want to remove it. I have never heard of them just hooking your kidneys up tp drain in a diaper. You either end up with tubes coming straight out the kidneys going to bags or they fashion a bladder from part of your colon you have to either empty with a catheter through a stoma or you wear a urostomy bag. Then you never get the sensation of peeing yourself again. I love how people tell him not to listen to the nae sayers when they are not the one scheduled for surgery. Also when the majority of the nay sayers are incontinent and the people cheering him on are clueless to what incontinence is and the negative health issues it can have on your life. Not to mention $3500 a year for the rest of your life. That is if they do not keep going up. cathdip I know you guys are passionate about wanting this but I am glad to hear that you have set some standard to not taking suck a drastic step until you 100% know in your head you are not making a mistake. If you cant stay in them day and night 24/7 for no reason cheating you really are not ready. thank you for sharing that

Wow that was a lot to read. As a incontinent member for almost 3 decades I really think you are about to make a really big mistake. But it is your life and if you are willing to live with the mistake then so be it. /i can tell you it is no fun at all when you can not turn it off. YOu may be excited now but you will one day regret this. Even if you do accept being incontinent and the surgery goes well you are going to have days you will feel so stupid for doing this to yourself. Think of all the times you have wet your diaper already and then get the urge and you know your diaper can not hold it so you hold it in until you can go change. That is never going to be a option. You will leak in public and you will have to change in public spaces around people you know. When I am sick and hurting I just wish I could not move but I have to change my diaper. Diaper rash will happen especially in the summer months and you will want a break. But your only option for that break will be a condom cath or foley. Skin heals so much faster when not wet. I am spending over $250 a month on diapers and I never get a break from that either. With incontinence comes bladder infections as well. They can turn ugly and become life threatening kidney infections and then turn septic all in one day. I have lost count the number of times I have became septic and in the hospital even the ICU. Your bladder size will shrink the walls will become thick and covered in cystitis. It cause horrible bladder spasms and burning much like a infection. That can turn into a bladder cancer. I am not making shit up or trying to scare you into doing something different but I really hope you do some real research on the negatives and why only a hack for hire in mexico would do this surgery. Scar tissue forming in strictures is very real and can even block off things. I have had stricture surgery a couple times in my life. I am 10 years older than you and I do have a lot of other health issues. But Incontinence brings a lot in it's self more than I have seen anyone here post. I had a bladder stim put in to try and help mine and it is a simple out paitent surgery. Only mine got infected badly and I became septic twice from it before it had to be removed. The last time the infection settled around my heart. Any surgery no matter the path taken and procedure used are able to cause infection and tissue death. I just want you to really study up on the negatives as much as you can in the next week. If you decide to go through with it at least you have a idea. What is the longest you have went wearing a diaper 24/7? The fact you was thinking about flying down un diapered makes me wonder if you are really mentally prepared. Also You have worn diapers knowing you did not need them and it makes you feel wrong. How are you going to feel when you know deep in your heart you never needed them and you created this issue? How are you going to feel if it becomes a life threatening infection? To answer your question if you do this or when you do this should you tell your american doctor the truth if you have complications? Yes 100% you should tell him. What you tell him he can not share with your family or anyone that is not treating you. Do not be ashamed of what you did so bad you would over look telling someone your full medical history. I can assure you he will without a doubt know that you are not being honest when he runs a scope up you and sees what has been cut. Having a surgery to loosen for retention is not the same as cutting both bladder sphincters and the inside of the prostate. He will know you had a hack job done and he will want to see the medical records of the surgery you told him you had done. He is going to want to know what hospital and why it was done. If you are not honest you only stand the chance of getting inadequate healthcare for the complications you are having. It is not like they can do a surgery to reverse what is done without your consent. Anyway these are my thoughts as someone who has lived 30 years bladder incontinent and the last 5 with fecal incontinence getting worse yearly. Please Promise you will never go for loss of number 2 because you 1000% have no clue what you are asking. I apologize if it sounds like am am busting your balls for fun. I just want to make sure you really know what you are asking. Unless you have went 3-5 years 24/7 you have not got a clue & even then it is not the same as being incontinent. I want you to be happy so I will not keep busting your balls. But if you have this done be honest to the group over the next few years if you was right or wrong to want this and if it was as easy and great a life as you imagined. That is what I ask. You have my best wishes and I sadly look forward to reading how this goes long term.

Someone can change you from male to female but could not or would not make you incontinent? Or did the desire com after surgery

You guys think that.. but much like incontinence it is not nearly as fun as you might think. I very seldom get erected and when I do it is a very soft one. The wife and I cant hardly be sexual. If I do want to orgasm I have to watch porn and use a tens unit that can take hours to reach while soft. Being duel incontinent is one of the worse things it is not fun when you have zero control because you may be around friends and family and your diaper may not be able to contain another void but you do not have access to go change, well it is not going to wait. Anyone that wants to loose number 2 control has no clue what they are asking for. I have been bladder incontinent 30 plus years but the last five I have been loosing my bowel control. You guys enjoy what you have and your diapers when you want on your own terms.

I would of just said allow me I am not crippled or unable. Then If it was a clean diaper I was going to put back on I would of just slid it down let her check and pull it back up. I did this a few months ago but it was for the old finger up the but. I have to admit the giant skid mark and liquid shit around my ass was a surprise to me and the doctor. He just got me some baby wipes when done. They also put all that lube up in there but is gloved fingers had shit all over them. He said I am going to step out a minute when you are cleaned up and ready open the door. Not a big deal to him at all. Even in the hospital unless I am just deathly sick or ha a big surgery I do it myself and tell them when I arrive I am incontinent and have all my supplies and don't need help other than asking for a reusable bed pad to lay on. I mean if you was not able then I get it but does she help all the guys take off their underwear? it seams weird. But Just thinking of it I had a weird one in the hospital once too. I have gastroparesis bad, like real bad. I had a NG tube was so weak from about 20 + hours of throwing up dry heaves every 5 min. I could not bend my stomach muscles was gone. Had what was a really sweat cute nurse helping sponge bath me. I had on a pull up at the time. she said lets get you changed I can tell you are wet and we will wash. So I told her wear a new one was in my bag. She reached in pulled out on and said "alright lets get those period panties off of you". Then helped me clean up and step into the pull up and she helps get them up and says "Oh I bet you feel better. All clean in a fresh period panty" I still don't know how to take it! If she was flirting in a weird way or belittling me? I was so damn sick it did not bother me at first but the more the night went on I just thought wow that was not professional. My chart says I have no bladder control most my life. I was not in a pink pull up. If she said granny panties I would of laughed. some people are just weird. But she was good to me and she kept my ass drugged up I never had to ask every 3 yours she was bringing me my meds and as sweet as can be.

I could have been a stuffer in a diaper and they pulled it out. No matter what it was they was a asshole for leaving it on the floor. I am incontinent and I find the energy to roll my products up even bag them most the time in public and dispose of them correct. I do all that and I have no choice but to wear. So if people are going to choose this as a life style they need to accept what goes with it. If they are incontinent they need to learn to accept it too. I stopped in to get fuel years ago when driving truck. I went in to change a take a poop. I reached for the top hats (seat cover) and some ass hole had shoved a shit filled tan diaper in the dispenser getting shit on everything. Maybe a previl diaper not sure it was 15 years ago. It was not even rolled up just had wipes tossed in it and doubled over and forced in the dispenser. What animals are among us are so worried what a stranger in a restroom might think if you carry it to a can? Like the can not hear you in their changing or see your feet when leaning against the stall to hold up the diaper while taping it on? That or smell the shit filled diaper mess? I have spent my entire adult life in diapers and I can say the only time I ever left one on the floor is if the trash can was missing all together. I have seen that a few times over the years. We all need to be respectful of those others using the restrooms. You would not do that at home. Or I would hope not.