hbic60

Hello @OAB-Need2Pee, I fully can understand your thoughts and see some similarity to my path - so maybe I can encourage you a little bit accepting and handling your IC! I have a combined dribble and urge incontinence since around 8 months. So, dribbling, which does not happen every day, I cannot feel and control at all, but the urge of course I feel coming. In the beginning of my IC I tried to use the toilet as much as possible when I felt the urge to go and let it flow only in my Tena Pants if I knew I couldn't reach one. The first step in the path to "why not simply accept..." was in the night. I first used some Tena Pants for my IC, also in the night. As from bad childhood memories I was really scared of wetting the bed, so I nearly didn't come into deep sleep and woke up with the slightest urge to pee - went to the toilet (sometimes not right in time before the flow started) and back into bed needing sometimes more that half an hour to get back to sleep - and this several times in the night. So, after a week I realized that I can't continue in this way without getting crazy with the lack of sleep and decided to give "real" diapers a try. First point was - I drove quick into deep sleep as I knew that the diaper has much higher capacity that pants and leaking his not such a big issue so my bed should stay dry. In the first two nights I also tried to reach the toilet as I woke up with the urge, but getting up. fiddling carefully with the tapes to be able to refasten them afterwards, led to the fact that most of my pee went already into the diaper instead of the toilet. So I decided as second step - if anyway my pee gets into the diaper, why to get up at all if the urge comes? So I got used to simply roll on the back when the urge comes and let it flow, and getting back to sleep within shortest time. This increased the quality of my sleep dramatically, so I accepted using fully my diapers (usually Tena Proskin Slip Maxi) in the night is far the best way of handling my issues. During the day I switched from Tena Pants over to Attends Flex type diapers. They have a much, much better capacity, are cheaper, are easy to open and refastening, also changing is much easier than with pants but are still discreet enough that nobody can see. So, generally I'm able (and still often do) to use the toilet, especially for #2 I always do. But, on the other hand, I must state that over the time I get more and more relaxed using sometimes my diaper even if theoretically I could reach a toilet. Sometimes it feels simply convenient to continue what I'm doing in the moment when the urge comes. On the other hand, being incontinent often is a burden; you have to keep an eye on your supplies and spend the money for it, have to plan when and where to change, handle the garbage, paying attention to be discreet - so why not sometimes enjoy the advantage of being in a diaper? I feel meanwhile absolutely no shame doing this! The point is that in the beginning of my IC I was more concentrated of handling my (in)continence but not living my life as I did before of it. It was a process of self-acceptance (and here my wife of over 30 years was a really great help by accepting and loving me fully, no matter if now diapered or not) until I was fine with the fact that diapers are a big help living my life as active and normal as I did before all of this!

Since nearly 8 month I live with a combined dribble- and urge incontinence. First Pants were absolutely OK for me, but in the nights a different problem occurred. From bad childhood experiences I’m panicking for a wet bed. So in my Tena Pants I was sleeping quite bad and the slightest urge of pee caused me to wake up and make it to the toilet. This happened 5-6 times a night and I roughly never came to a deep sleep. So after a week I decided to give „real“ diapers a try (meanwhile Tena slip Maxi). First night I started sleeping better (knowing that a diaper does not leak so easy), but the getting up with the urge, still half sleeping going to the toilet, fiddling with the tapes while I already couldn’t hold any more was not the game changer. So - if the diaper anyway gets wet - why to get out of the bed at all? In the next nights I trained myself that if the urge came simply to roll on my back and let it flow. Meanwhile I don’t really wake fully up any more and after wetting within a few seconds I’m back to sleep. So, now I’m comfortable with my situation and fully accept it - and I'm happy that I have a good, deep and refreshing sleep.

I have a combined dribble and urge incontinence. So, dribbling, which does not happen every day, I cannot feel and control at all, but the urge of course I feel coming. In the beginning of my IC I tried to use the toilet as much as possible when I felt the urge to go and let int flow only in my diaper if I knew I couldn't reach one. The first step in the path to "why not simply accept..." was in the night. I first used some Tena Pants for my IC, also in the night. As from bad childhood memories I was really afraid of wetting the bed, so I nearly didn't come into deep sleep and woke up with the slightest urge to pee - went to the toilet (sometimes not right in time before the flow started) and back into bed needing sometimes more that half an hour to get back to sleep - and this several times in the night. So, after a week I realized that I can't continue in this way without getting crazy with the lack of sleep and decided to give "real" diapers a try. First point was - I drove quick into deep sleep as I knew that the diaper has much higher capacity that pants and leaking his not such a big issue so my bed should stay dry. In the first two nights I also tried to reach the toilet as I woke up with the urge, but getting up. fiddling carefully with the tapes to be able to refasten them afterwards, led to the fact that most of my pee went already into the diaper instead of the toilet. So I decided as second step - if anyway my pee gets into the diaper, why to get up at all if the urge comes? So I got used to simply roll on the back when the urge comes and let it flow, and getting back to sleep within shortest time. This increased the quality of my sleep dramatically, so I accepted using fully my diapers (usually Tena Proskin Slip Maxi) in the night is far the best way of handling my issues. During the day I switched from Tena Pants over to Attends Flex type diapers. They have a much, much better capacity, are cheaper, are easy to open and refastening, also changing is much easier than with pants. So, generally I'm able (and still sometimes do) to use the toilet, especially for #2 I always do. But, on the other hand, I must state that over the time I get more and more relaxed using sometimes my diaper even if theoretically I could reach a toilet. Sometimes it feels simply convenient to continue what I'm doing in the moment when the urge comes. On the other hand, being incontinent often is a burden; you have to keep an eye on your supplies and spend the money for it, have to plan when and where to change, handle the garbage, paying attention to be discreet - so why not sometimes enjoy the advantage of being in a diaper? I feel absolutely no shame doing this!

having a combined dribble- and urge incontinence I started first with pants and found them, although very comfortable to wear and giving easy toilet access if I get it in time, very uncomfortable to change - and they are quite expensive, especially if you want those wit a higher capacity. So I tried out the Tena Flex, first the "Super" ones, then I switched over to the "Maxi" ones - being nearly the same as discreet but hold a little more, so that I can go through the day with using only two of them. Yes, they are a very good compromise between pants and a full diaper! Easy access if you can get to a toilet, very quick and easy to change without unclothing trouser, maybe shoes, underpants. And they hold more as a pant and they are less expensive. The Tena flex Maxi hold around two of my full wettings without leaking. I also tried out meanwhile the Seni Optima Trio (Flex) and the Attends (10) Flex. The Seni is very comparable to the Tena, but while also very comfortable as long as dry it gets quite "hard" and uncomfortable between the legs when getting wet. The Attends is in my opinion the best one. Very soft and comfortable, no matter if dry or wet, discreet enough, and the Attends is the only one which is able to spread the wetness even quite high to the back of the diaper, so it can hold even up to three of my wettings without leaking. I switch over to those ones for daily use! Anyway, for the night I still prefer the full diapers (Tena Slip Maxi). They hold all my nightly output without any danger of leaking and in the night I don't need the quick toilet access as I gave up jumping out of bed and trying to reach the toilet and afterwards trying to get back to sleep for half an hour and this three times a night... If I feel the need in my half sleep I simply roll on my back, let it flow and I'm back to sleep within seconds.