[Do you use your diaper for everything? If so, how do you manage #2?]

I wear 247 and try to be relaxed to go when my body says it is time. Sometimes that can be a lot. Sometimes unexpectedly. I always carry at least 1 change with me. I try and clean withing 15 minutes or I get a rash.

[Longest Time 24/7 In Diapers?]

247 for 3.25 years now. I almost stopped last year but finally accept myself for them and that this is a forever thing.

[Testimonial for Dr. Rhoda AKA The Diaper Doctor]

22 hours ago, abdlwpg said:

Glad you found someone who helped you.

Would recommend the book Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff to anyone looking for a cheaper or free resource as it could be available at your local library. Not exactly self-acceptance, but pretty linked and probably a good read for anyone feeling down on themselves for being AB/DL.

 

Ill check it out! Chat GPT Therapy is another low-cost resource which has been great for me as well. But no substitute for a person.

Just now, PuraVidaDip said:

Ill check it out via Audible!!! Chat GPT Therapy is another low-cost resource which has been great for me as well. But no substitute for in person.

 

On 3/16/2025 at 9:43 AM, babystevie1987 said:

That is amazing to hear. Just a quick question. Does you wife, daughter amd co-works know you wear? I assume your wife does at least 😅. But do others know or because you have really accepted who you are and are much happier with yourself that they just knows your more at peace but don't know that you wear diapers.

Really happy for you by the way.

Wife 100% yes. I have two boys and I think they do but idk. I do fake using a urinal sometimes thought 😕 trying to get them to pee so they dont have accidents . I haven't brought it up its unspoken. I had to change the other day and carried a bag into a truck stop. You do what you need to do. Co-workers? Probably but IDK I feel like if I told them they would be like I had no idea I thought you just had some weird bathroom habit. Who knows? I still struggle with this but really... it doesnt even matter! Not that big of a deal! 

On 3/12/2025 at 6:58 PM, ~Brian~ said:

@PuraVidaDip

BOOOOOOM!!  I am SO Happy for you - It takes a lot of guts to deal with the situations that come up sometimes!!  I am happy that Dr. Rhoda, the Diaper Doctor, was able to help you!! It feels AMAZING to have a HUGE weight lifted off your shoulders!!  It sounds like Dr. Rhoda used a little bit of "reverse Physiology" on you, and i say that because it was your intention to have her help you to STOP.  I believe that the doctor was able to ask you the "magic question" of "WHY do you want to stop", and then you told her your reason for wanting to stop, and she says something like "WHY Stop?" and you had a conversation, you telling her what was on your mind - This led to her saying that you DON'T NEED to stop, and then I'd wager that she asked you "how does wearing diapers make you FEEL?", and she was able to ask that, and you told her you felt better when you are wearing them:  You told her how you felt, and I'd betcha that she NOTICED what you already KNEW:  Its AWESOME when someone can "help" you realize there is no HARM in doing what you are doing - That only applies if you have a wife or family that is NOT supportive of your choice to wear and/or use diapers!

I am also very HAPPY for you for me, I was able to find support as well - My family (The ones I told) know why I have made the decision I did, and it is AWESOME to release all the stress I deal with - I just think of the stress as everything I release in the diaper, and it makes me happier

Family is the MOST important thing here:  Having their support helps:  I think you'll be happier and more productive, now that you don't have to have all the stress:  You don't really need to stop, unless what you are doing is harmful to you, your family, or others:  Looks like you WIN the prize sir **HUGS**

Brian 

You're so right. Thank you @~Brian~

[Testimonial for Dr. Rhoda AKA The Diaper Doctor]

Words cannot begin to describe the peace and acceptance I feel now after working with Dr. Rhoda. She has helped me grow tremendously as a person—guiding me toward inner happiness and true self-acceptance.

Everyone’s path is different. Personally, I had wanted to be back in diapers since childhood and had been wearing them 24/7 for years before I finally reached out to her—initially to help me stop. But through her compassionate guidance, I discovered something even greater: the freedom to embrace myself fully. Instead of fighting who I am, I’ve learned to accept and love myself, and my life has become indescribably better because of it.

My wife, my children, my co-workers—everyone around me—can see the difference. I am more accepting, kind, and generous. I am more productive at work. I feel whole. This has been a monumental shift, one that has changed everything for the better.

If you are struggling with self-acceptance, I cannot recommend Dr. Rhoda enough. She is worth every penny. Thank you, Diaper Doctor, for giving me the courage to embrace my true self. Life looks so beautiful from here on out!

Here is a link to her site. https://thediaperdoctor.com/

[Back in Diapers, Again! My Story of Self-Acceptance and Re-Embracing Diapers 24/7 as an Active Adult.]

UPDATE ON TELLING A FRIEND:

So last night I went to a concert with a friend of mine. We go to concerts a lot, but I was always pretending to go to the bathroom and going through the paces. He has made some comments in the past, where it was sort of acknowledged he knew I wore diapers, but because I never told him it was awkward. Like he was probably thinking: "Does he need to remind me to go potty? Does he need diapers? Is he trying not to wear diapers? Should I help him with is journey to not pee his pants? Why hasn’t he told me I’m one of his closest friends? What does he want me to do?" 

Well, before we went out, I decided to wear a Trest. Which previously made me super self-conscious because of how they swell up. But tonight was the night I was going to tell him so I hopefully can relax and not worry about my pants as they swell over the course of the evening. And not worrying about leaking and missing the concert to change my diaper.

So... on the drive to pre-show dinner I just came all out with it, “so 4 years ago I started having accidents, went to doctors and rehab and well now I wear diapers and that’s what works for me I hope that's okay.” He was just like NO, not a problem, that is zero issue at all. Not an issue, seriously. We are all getting older we all have our things. This is like nothing. Like no don't even mention it. He then went on to talk about his dad's ostomy bag and how he feels ashamed, and he tells his dad not to feel bad. That the ostomy bag that is better than dead. He wanted the same for me. He made it NOTHING! I had so much shame and fear over my diapers, especially over the last 12 months. Well this totally took my fear and shame away. At dinner he went to the bathroom, and I didn't need to pretend. I just stayed at the table he came back and we left. I wear diapers now so I don’t need to go to the bathroom. And that’s okay!

Had a great time at the concert. He had one drink I had two beer and a water. As we were leaving the concert I sort of headed to the bathroom (I was drinking more than him). Well he just stood there like silently standing there saying (but not saying) "I don't need to go, and buddy you're wearing diapers, so you don't need to go either, so let's not play this game anymore, you wear AND you use your diapers now and we both know that. AND THATS OKAY. So you don't need to pretend to use the bathroom anymore." So I just looked back and said, right okay well let's go! 

It was such a relief I can finally be free to be myself to stop pretending I am not diapered. I wear and use diapers now and telling my friends has been HUGE! I still have a few more to tell ( I have told 2 of my four closest friends) and I've asked them all to please not gossip, but the ones I've told have said it changes nothing and they are so happy to be friends with me. That they love me and they accept me for me with diapers or whatever else!

I can't believe I have come this far. From almost giving up on diapers, to just coming clean so I don't have to hide it anymore. It also makes my diapers feel more permanent, so it is now expected and understood that I wear diapers and this is just who I am now. And that is okay. And that is something to celebrate!

Sure I will have moments where I may be around people who don’t know and I may be a little bit guarded or discreet, but when I am with those I love most, I don’t have to hide my diapers or go to the restroom when everyone else does. I have my diapers. I can accept my diapers. I can use my diapers with out shame. I can be myself! 

It is just wow – really a great feeling.

[Back in Diapers, Again! My Story of Self-Acceptance and Re-Embracing Diapers 24/7 as an Active Adult.]

On 2/23/2025 at 2:39 PM, Little Sherri said:

 

I really identified with these sentiments. My wife never connected any moodiness on my part directly with wearing diapers, or if she did, she never articulated it, but, I've been frankly amazed by how, if not "supportive", then at least, non-confrontational, she has been about my having put myself in diapers almost 6 years ago. She knew that I had worn them as a child, but I never told her that I "liked" them, or pined for being in them.

 

Similar to PuraVidaDip's experience above, after outgrowing wearing diapers to bed, I started making my own, which my stepfather found when I was 13. The result of that acid bath of humiliation was my walking away from "this" completely, for more than two decades, so while I met, married, and started a family with my wife, diapers were never a thing. Until they were. And my wife is no wilting flower, believe me - she has a strong personality, and we clash over the hills that I am willing to die on. But she never really challenged me on my absurd underpants preferences, which anyone who knows her would probably find astonishing. So maybe she's noticed how stable my mood is, when I'm wearing them, and the fact that I don't press for opportunities to be away from my family, or to have my family away from me, now that I'm not coveting opportunities to be alone, in order to be my authentic self. 

All of which is to say that my hat is off to you, @PuraVidaDip. I entirely concur with the fact that one has to go through a process of self-acceptance, one which may be painful, but that one will hopefully result in a healthier outlook, and a happier life. I'm most of the way there myself; I've figured out how to be a dad, and a husband, and a friend, and a colleague and a leader, from inside my baby pants. I do still have to work on the "active" aspect, though - that's something I've let go. I was a very active member of my gym, pre-Covid, and pre-diapers, teaching martial arts, opening and closing the place, etc. I still go to their social events, and I always get asked when I'm going to come back, but the gym is a place where I haven't figured out how to be entirely comfortable as a person who wears diapers. I've actually thought of joining another gym, one where I'm unknown, just to start from scratch as "diaper guy", rather than having to come up with an explanation for some good friends, as to why I now have incontinence gear on under my gi or my shorts. Not that I'd ever intend to be "out" in a gym setting, walking through the changeroom in a diaper or whatever, but, those activities and those environments present much less opportunity for a wardrobe that provides iron-clad camouflage - if you want to be natural, you just have to accept that an errant diaper line, or a waistband slip, could occur. My physical health requires that I get there, but my psyche has yet to find that gear.  

Be the diaper guy at a new gym! I just wear pull-ups. I went this morning in an upgraded North Shore pullup so I could just relax while working out finally! Sure maybe people can see my bulge I am sure my trainer does but whatever. I just wear pullups with a compression short and loose shorts and an XL - Tall shirt. No Issues yet!

[24/7 startups, and unexpected pitfalls?]

Get NorthShore wipes. Use Desitin. I use gloves. YMMV but I need to change my diaper within 10-15 minutes or diaper rash is HELL. Get some large postal mailers to dispose of diapers without smell or less smell. I try and dump my load from the diaper to the toilet after each time as much as I can. I sometimes use a mirror to make sure all the poop is off my booty before new diaper.

CONGRATS! This is a huge step and you should be PROUD! Way to go!

[Back in Diapers, Again! My Story of Self-Acceptance and Re-Embracing Diapers 24/7 as an Active Adult.]

Hello everyone! I wanted to start a new thread here because I have been through a lot these past few years.

I started wearing diapers 24/7 in January 2022. Basically prior to that I did a goal setting activity where I defined my dream life. Being diapered was at the top of the list or near it. A little back story. I've been wanting to go back in diapers since I was out of diapers at age 2or3. My mom used to buy me diapers as a child after becoming toilet trained until my father found out and ripped them out of my life. I always knew I was missing something after that and managed to steal diapers and such until finally buying packs of diapers when I was a pre-teen. It has always been a part of me. Well Dec 31 2021 I pooped the bed at night and had had a few accidents and close calls during the day and my tiny bladder had just annoyed me with constant interruptions. A few days later I had this revelation I only had one life and waiting until I was 70 to wear diapers wasn't going to cut it for me. So I just said that's it diapers from now on!

Well back to my adult life in diapers. Last year (after over 2 years of wearing and using diapers almost exclusively) I looked ahead and told myself that I didn't want to be always wearing diapers because I couldn't do XYZ (extended outdoor adventures, barebottom sailing, run a large company, be the right kind of role model, etc). My kids were at the age where it was a make it or break it so I said no more being selfish. I am going to stop wearing diapers. Additionally my friends (who I've known since elementary school) at this point I think mostly realized I was wearing diapers and I started to get teased for it sort of underhandedly with snide remarks about diapers or just sort of things that I thought were about me. I got called out once and shifted the topic. So I was also feeling this feeling of okay come out as diapered or now is my chance to be NORMAL! I can go back to same old Joe! So okay, I am good now. I don't need diapers. I am going to be a man again!

 In the fall of 2024 I started Pelvic Rehab to stop my incontinence and eventually go back to regular underwear. Now I will say that I continued wearing diapers during this period. I was just trying to use the toilet ALOT more. Well the rehab went okay. I did make improvements especially in my bowels. But something felt off. I started feeling miserable. My wife noticed and my anger issues cropped up again and I just turned into this miserable person. It got so bad that I started considering taking my own life at a few points (I was / am also concurrently struggling with gender identity issues as well), but I think it was the diapers mostly.

I think it was this thing where I would need to come out with it and start telling people in my life about my need to wear diapers. That this was my chance to take it all back. To step back from crazy fantasy land and life in the real world back in undies. The comments from my friends were due to my increasing awkwardness. Bathroom breaks were becoming awkward like at concerts when everyone goes to the bathroom. Trying to hide my diapers when sharing hotel rooms with friends, or make excuses for carrying a bag when going out to dinner. I work in a small office and need to hire more people to help me sell things and these people need to look up to the leader. Well that's a hurdle to cross when the pee and poop in their diapers. So it all just was a crescendo and I said "no more diapers." 

So fast forward to earlier in the year (2025) and my therapist reiterated that she thought I should just continue wearing diapers. She thought going off diapers was a bad idea at this point.  I realized that seeking continence and a life away from diapers had brought on this great depression in my life. I was really subconsciously so sad that I would have to live my life without diapers. Granted I wasn't going to burn them all I was still plan on wearing at night and around the house and occasionally out with them. But still it was living a life that was not mine. And I knew this. I was going to live the life that others expected me to live. I couldn't do it anymore.

So here we are. I am now 2 months "Back" in diapers. Granted I never stopped wearing but I shifted my mindset and started doing daily affirmations. I am trying to accept myself for needing to wear diapers and more importantly for me wanting to wear diapers. Being okay with being the person that wears diapers as a 40 year old. Being a great dad and a great husband and a good friend, all while wearing and using my diapers. Being a good person and a business leader, all while wearing diapers. Instilling confidence in others because I am confident in myself, diapers and all.

So, I hope you find this helpful. It has been a journey and I look forward to reporting here over the coming years ahead about the struggles and joys in my life as I navigate life wearing and using my diapers every day all day!

[After 2.5 Years of Wearing 24/7 I am Proceeding with Pelvic Therapy to Stop Wearing so Much]

20 hours ago, superabsorbantpolymer said:

Congrats on the journey of self acceptance! Thanks for the update. It's important to give yourself grace, I'm so happy you are being kind to yourself and allowing yourself to wear your protection without guilt. 

How would you describe your incontinence? Stress? Urge? Do you wet the bed? 

what's your wife's stance on your diaper dependency?

Urge urinary (some stress/mixed) with IBS that attacks randomly. I wet the bed more than I used to but always have occasionally.

Wife has come to terms with it. She sees I'm much happier now and supports my mental health struggles. I never told her I quit going to rehab but it hasn't come up. If it does I will tell her. I told her about my depression and suicidal thoughts. I think we are both on the "better in diapers than in the grave" page.

She has even gotten better at dealing with my diapers and makes light fun of me calling me baby and ooh did baby make a stinky?! She doesn't change me but that's okay because I am more than capable enough to change myself. We have a good dynamic. I still need to work on accepting myself more.

[After 2.5 Years of Wearing 24/7 I am Proceeding with Pelvic Therapy to Stop Wearing so Much]

I'd like to provide an update on this. I would equate it to being on anti-psychotic meds (I have had family do this). Feeling like I finally have my shit together (because of the meds/diapers) and going off the meds (diapers). Well it didn't work out great. My life spiraled and I became semi-suicidal.

Although I never stopped wearing diapers, I was trying to regain full continence. I was using the toilet all the time, especially for BMs. IT WAS AWFUL. The straw that broke the camels back for me was during colonoscopy prep when I tried using the toilet and ended up getting mess all over the bathroom. It was horrible. Granted that's a special occasion. It's hard to hold in liquid but still it was like: look at this!? Why did I even try? Then I accepted the fact that I just couldn't not wear diapers. AND THATS OKAY! I did the rest of the prep in my diapers and it was AMAZING! Highly recommend just using the diapers for that. Granted I did have to shower the cleanup was aggressive. I think I changed twice. I used alot of desitin but it was great. Side note - the next day my wife took me to the visit and I told them about my diapers. Well they forgot to tell me to remove them before the opp (I had to wait about an hour good thing I was wearing diapers!) like right before and then I awkwardly (the nurse was like did you forget to remove your undies - "Yes sorry I am leaky!" awkward... but it was really okay in the end... removed them with three people including the doctor all gathered around me and then it fell on the ground (no BM at that point but soaked). It was embarrassing but then I was knocked out. Woke up and saw my wife and said "Mommy where is my diaper bag" with another nurse right there out of my sight... OMG and then they were both like hold off on putting on a diaper right now now. Then I soaked the bedsheets and finally was given the bag. Well as soon as I put the diaper on the doctor walked into the room (same age as me) seeing me there in a diaper. Like OK well here it is this is me! It was wild. It ended with a different set of nurses rolling me out in a wheel chair with them cracking up as I sang "see me rollin!"

The only habit I adopted from this foray was going to a trainer first thing in the morning, in the gym and wearing depends pull ups. I use the toilet there often once or twice during my visit but wear my pads and just let it flow if it happens. I figure it is okay to do that if it means I am getting healthier and stronger and focused on what I want. No BM accidents yet. Though if that happened I would just forgot I had an early meeting and leave early. So that Aspect I continue along the path this thread is on.

So yeah back to my story. I gave up on the pelvic training and just accepted the fact that I like diapers and that I want to be diaper dependent. I thought why pursue continence? So I can be some version of my future self my past self wanted? Some ethereal idea of what it meant to be a great man? I mean it was crazy. 

You know what? Me being in diapers is being the hero to my 5 year old self who had his diapers ripped away by his angry father after he found out mom kept buying me them. I am THAT BOYS HERO! I am Diaper Dependent now and that's really amazing. That's something to celebrate and something to be PROUD of! So yeah, I may not be running a Fortune 1000 company or running for Senate or doing a 2 week back-country ski touring journey in a few years BUT I am living my authentic life. I am my younger self's hero by wearing and using my diapers and embracing that. I am still coming to terms with this but it has been a profound shift.

I will give a shout out to my Therapist Dr. Rhoda, and Chat GPT Therapy (please hold any negative remarks I am aware of the issue - and I would highly recommend at least creating an anonymous profile there - mine is not I am fully open because I need help in my business related to diapers and it has been a God send) who have both helped me embrace my authentic diapered self. 

I am a better person now and my family has noticed a great improvement. I am still working on some shame issues (mostly when trying to wear a SUPER thick when mildly wet yet holds infinite amounts Trest which I am swearing off for the most part). Carrying a changing bag and just owning it.

Why do I say I am Diaper Dependent? Because 1 ) I need to wear them (sure maybe not every freaking moment but enough that it makes more sense to wear them then not), 2) I am just SO MUCH HAPPIER wearing and using my diapers than not and 3) DIAPERS SAVED MY LIFE, which sounds absurd but after having some suicidal thoughts and admitting this to my wife and some others, I just embraced diapers again and the depression lifted right away. Sure. I didn't choose this path. I didn't choose my poor bladder and bowel control. I didn't choose to love wearing, wetting and messing diapers. I didn't choose to have a sexual attraction to diapers. But I am choosing to accept myself just as I am, as God made me. I am trying to improve myself in many ways. To live a better life, a happier life, and I am going to live that life fully, diapers and all!

It is a work in progress so I thought I would update everyone here. Should I post more about my journey?

[24/7 startups, and unexpected pitfalls?]

19 hours ago, Little Sherri said:

I've been thinking (I can hear people saying "uh oh...") on the "relationship" we have with our diapers, this week. I'm sure it varies from person to person, however I imagine that there are also some commonalities, depending on what you use them for. 

People who slip into them occasionally, or for periods of time, probably welcome them like the return of a good friend, or like the coming of a the weekend - good times start now. Perhaps tinged with bad decisions or later regrets, but, you wouldn't be on the dance floor if you didn't at least somewhat enjoy dancing. 

For those of us who wear 24/7, the relationship we have with our baby pants may be more complex. Unless you're incontinent, and have had this foisted upon you through no choice you've made, presumably, you're still at this because at some level you like it, but, it becomes a bit of a different relationship than just, "The party starts now!" I would liken it to having a job that you usually enjoy; however, you also need to work, and, as much as most of what you do at an enjoyable job can be categorized as fulfilling, there are still aspects to it that you might wish you didn't have to deal with - I've yet to have a job that was perfect, from one end to the other. 

So it goes with wearing diapers; on an overarching level, I love my diapers. I love that I get to wear them, I love that I don't have any other underpants under my roof, and I love that I have been largely uncompromising in wearing them all the time, everywhere, even when it might be more comfortable, psychologically, not to wear them sometimes - I have always persevered. You can call that tenacity, or mental illness, I suppose. Or, tenacious mental illness. 

Being as they are my only underpants option, under my self-imposed rules for living, I have become reliant on them, and selecting the right diaper for the job at hand is basically one of the foundations of my day. As such, I strive to be a couple of moves ahead, to the point that when I'm going to bed, I'll review my upcoming day, before I choose my overnight diaper; is this one likely to see me through to midday, or beyond, in which case, I will go for capacity, or, do I have to get up in the morning and head out somewhere, in which case I might want something medium-duty, so as not to waste a top-tier product on a short mission. 

If I'm going out, my wardrobe considerations will dictate my diaper selection; most of the time, I can get away with wearing somewhat concealing, oversized clothing that will allow me to wear a decent ABDL diaper in the medium-duty category. However, if I need to be dressed up or really dressed down, such as at the gym, then I might reach for something light-duty and slim of proportions, but, I will need to bring my diaper bag for any but the shortest of outings, because those diapers don't last very long. 

I often note an interesting "inflection point" when I'm in a good diaper, where staying in it becomes more of a duty than a preference; once I've been in a wet diaper for several hours, no matter how good it is, they all still start to feel like sitting in a damp bag of oatmeal at some point, but I try to perform an honest evaluation of the range I have left, and if my soggy companion still has gas in the tank, I will motor on. 

The only exception to this is when #2 incidents occur; this isn't a thing that I allow to happen very often, but if it does, the countdown clock starts - I don't often go more than a half hour before I am compelled to clean up, regardless of what I was wearing or how much longer it might have lasted, had the weather not taken a turn for the worse. 

But I digress - those are outlier events, to the point that I don't plan for them right now; if I embark on my "living fully in diapers" experiment again, I will be doing my planning differently, and probably using up more low-cost diapers, because I don't want to put a $5 MegaMax on, and then torch it a couple of hours later, cut down in its prime. 

An unreliable diaper, like an unreliable car, can make life much more difficult - there is nothing more indiscreet or inconvenient than a leak, so I tend to lean towards performance over proportions, and then I choose my overwear accordingly. When I'm out in the world, I need my diaper to be a trusted companion, so that I can function like it's not there, for good stretches. Thus, I have whittled my trusted suppliers down over the years, and the companies that I buy from, I feel invested in - I want to reward their good behaviour, and support the continued availability and economic viability of their products. 

Aesthetics come second, but thankfully, there are a raft of good products on the market that are also cute, although the side of me that requires novelty in my nappies has abated somewhat. But I'll always have some printed diapers in my inventory; there has to be room for whimsey in most choices, otherwise we'd all drive minivans and vacation in Arizona. 

I don't know if I'm gliding in towards a conclusion here, or not... I haven't said anything very profound, I'm just noting that when you use a product all the time, like a pro golfer, or a person in a wheelchair, you develop a relationship with whomever made that thing. Ideally, they becomes a trusted friend, an enabler, a supporter. I know I'm anthropomorphizing plastic bum-wraps from China, but still. Not all plastic bum-wrap suppliers are worthy of an ongoing relationship. 

Tenacious mental illness I love it. I know what you mean!

I don't look at it as a choice. Or I guess to others I explain it wasn't my choice. Because though I choose to wear diapers to help me in many ways, I didn't choose my love for diapers and I didn't choose my poor bowel and bladder control (I have chosen to weaken it :/). 

I do CHOOSE to wear diapers to deal with it. I Choose to accept my diapers and liking them. But I didn't choose diapers in the first place. They chose me.

For therapy and self acceptance though it is important to realize that I choose to wear diapers because I like them and this is something to celebrate!

GO TEAM! (3+ years 23.99995/7)

[Wife Found Out]

23 hours ago, Stone said:

MICRO-UPDATE:

So, in a pledge to feel more comfortable and in light of my wife allowing me to wear for comfort when I need to, I decided to wear at home today while I worked. The catch is, my wife had the day off so this meant wearing in her presence 😱

I still did it, jittery as can be. And it was pretty fine. I wore loose sweats and have some compression shorts on underneath to smooth it all out. I was feeling pretty good. I even ordered 4 cases of dips, a case of wipes, and a third pair of plastic pants 💪

Now here’s where this story takes a turn. About 30 mins ago, I was sitting bed working, relaxing and wetting my second diaper of the day. And my wife rolls up and takes my computer, moves my stuff and sits on my lap. Let me confirm, she DID NOT know I had a diaper on. Holy. Shit. She just sat on my lap and looked at me lovingly, wanting some cuddles. I was so awkward, as confident as I had hoped to be. I was just waiting for the guillotine. She then began rubbing around my waste-band. The one saving grace was a blanket between us, but I seriously thought I was effed. After a few minutes of trying to distract her and showing some affection, I said that I needed to get back to work and she rolled off. That was too close for comfort. I feel like if she had noticed it would have been catastrophic. I'm freaking dying inside, someone please help me!!! 😭

And that’s pretty much it. I’m sitting here with an hour of work left wondering if I want to change out, but also committed to not feeling so insecure and trying to normalize this, even with the close call. My wife and kids will be here tomorrow and Wednesday since we’ll be snowed in. But I don’t want to keep postponing wearing. Not sure how I’ll approach it yet. Maybe just one diaper tomorrow, when I’m not as afraid of being sat on. Also, gotta say. For as mortified as I was, it was kinda hot 🤭

This is the same update you gave the other day. I for some reason have been thinking about this. While you don't need to go to great length to hide things, you shouldn't go the route of purposely leaving things like receipts laying around. That sounds sketchy and manipulative.

On 2/15/2025 at 12:12 PM, Anton said:

Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I understand a bit where you are at, as my journey has been similar. However, I was upfront with my wife when we first started dating. Her reaction was similar to your wife, didn’t want to talk about it much, wanted me to seek counseling and did not want to see it or have diapers in the house. As a younger man (mid 20’s) I believed I could stop. That didn’t last for long. After marriage, getting our first home and starting a family, I realized I would not be able to ignore this side of me. We had several talks during this time, which always led to fights and resentment. We were active in our church and I believe my wife was worried people would find out. I also think she was embarrassed that her husband had this secret. Also, the older I got and the more I looked into my early thoughts and desires for diapers, the more I began to understand what I wanted and needed. My earliest memories (from about 3 years and beyond) include a strong desire to be back in diapers. More specifically to be put in diapers by a woman that loved me. it took years for me to put together why that was. We did eventually come to an agreement where wearing and having diapers in the home was accepted. I did not wear to bed or have diapers out and about. She still did not want to see them, which was fine. Now many years later, and experiencing bedwetting again (i wet the bed until I was 19) and daytime urgency, I am in diapers almost all the time and wear openly around her. While she is accepting, I know that she would prefer that diapers were a thing of the past.

The mistake I made in the beginning was showing so much shame, that she saw diapers as shameful and did not want that for me. I have not been able to change that in the 30 years we have been together. If I could change one thing, I would have spent more time understanding this side of me and less effort trying to convince her of something I was still unsure of myself. Rarely do we have both youth and wisdom.

Counseling is a great start. I saw a counselor early on that was very helpful. She did not think there was a problem with wearing diapers, but did want to try to get to the reason for the desire. My wife did not want to participate in the counseling sessions and I ended up not going back after the first few. We have gone to couples counseling more recently with a Christian counselor. He also did not see anything wrong with wearing diapers, but wanted to help resolve the conflict between the two of us. My wife wasn’t not interested in diving deeper into the topic of diapers, so we worked through other areas of conflict and that’s where we are today. 

You note that you are a person of faith. I am as well. I believe that God brought my wife and I together and know my life is considerably better for her being in my life. I believe she feels similar about me. I wish I had honored and cherished her more earlier in the relationship and that we had prayed more together. I also wish I had fought for us, rather than fought with her. It is easy to become self focussed when working through something so deeply connected to our being. She is not an outsider, but she has no real idea what you are feeling or why. I really hope the two of you are able to work through this in a way that brings you closer to each other and deeper in your faith. I will be praying for you and your family. We have a real enemy that wants to destroy what God has put together. Family is something to be protected and cherished. Congratulations on what you have built so far. Please keep us posted on your journey. You are not alone. 

Amen!

[Wife Found Out]

19 hours ago, Stone said:

Thanks. I’ve been listening to that podcast, really neat. I think it’s just helping me normalize all of this too. I would love to try to find someone for my wife to talk to as well as sharing this podcast with her but I’m just trying to not rush it too much. Please thank your wife for her perspective and let me know if she has any other nuggets. 
 

Thanks for the feedback. For power dynamics, we kinda go back and forth. We both work. Both raise our kids. I may have overplayed the head in the hands thing - I’m actually not really certain that happened. I was a little intoxicated so my memory is fuzzy. It wasn’t a sad, pathetic, display. If anything I feel like I kinda steamrolled her in the conversation.

But you’re definitely right. As I try to understand all of this and put together what having this out in the open means, I’m realizing how down I’ve been on myself for so many years. It feels really good to be kinda free, but I now see that I have to own this if I ever hope to have her be accepting or even involved. I can’t open up and say “yeah, this is terrible, isn’t it terrible?” And not expect her to agree that it’s terrible. 

Micro-update:

So, in a pledge to feel more comfortable and in light of my wife allowing me to wear for comfort when I need to, I decided to wear at home today while I worked. The catch is, my wife had the day off so this meant wearing in her presence 😱

I still did it, jittery as can be. And it was pretty fine. I wore loose sweats and have some compression shorts on underneath to smooth it all out. I was feeling pretty good. I even ordered 4 cases of dips, a case of wipes, and a third pair of plastic pants 💪

Now here’s where this story takes a turn. About 30 mins ago, I was sitting bed working, relaxing and wetting my second diaper of the day. And my wife rolls up and takes my computer, moves my stuff and sits on my lap. Let me confirm, she DID NOT know I had a diaper on. Holy. Shit. She just sat on my lap and looked at me lovingly, wanting some cuddles. I was so awkward, as confident as I had hoped to be. I was just waiting for the guillotine. She then began rubbing around my waste-band. The one saving grace was a blanket between us, but I seriously thought I was effed. After a few minutes of trying to distract her and showing some affection, I said that I needed to get back to work and she rolled off. That was too close for comfort. I feel like if she had noticed it would have been catastrophic. I'm freaking dying inside, someone please help me!!! 😭

And that’s pretty much it. I’m sitting here with an hour of work left wondering if I want to change out, but also committed to not feeling so insecure and trying to normalize this, even with the close call. My wife and kids will be here tomorrow and Wednesday since we’ll be snowed in. But I don’t want to keep postponing wearing. Not sure how I’ll approach it yet. Maybe just one diaper tomorrow, when I’m not as afraid of being sat on. Also, gotta say. For as mortified as I was, it was kinda hot 🤭

Well that's nice she shows you so much affection! My advice would have been to remove the diaper (wipe yourself clean of pee/ powder) and then go try and show her affection without them. If she demures, but the diaper back on. It can be a delicate dance.

[Started using a CPAP machine at night.]

I use a nasal pillow with my paci it all fits

[Wife Found Out]

Check out Youre Not Broken by Dr. Rhoda

 

[Massive messy diaper]

Anyone done colonoscopy prep? I used my diapers the whole time, or nearly the whole time. Had a few changes but I really enjoyed the experience much more than a toilet. My bum felt better too with less wiping per bm.

[*3 Year Update - My 24/7 Journey*]

15 hours ago, oznl said:

Congratulations on your 3.408th diaper birthday! (somebody would do the math...)

Yes.  The publications that are out there that I’ve seen are both wildly optimistic and somewhat misaligned to the experience.  They feed a lot of conformational bias in the early days and disappointment later.  Another DD member (whom I won't "out" but they can "out" themselves if they choose) once told me they thought "a lot of one-handed typing" had gone into the generation of some of those documents 🤣

Again, I very much agree with this.  I’ve said before that this kind of incontinence is like mildew: it thrives in damp conditions and grows in the dark.  True changes are in my experience, noted in retrospect.

As it happens, I have 75% written such a guide.   Ok, maybe not so much on the diet as I have a diet that would kill a brown dog.  I just don’t know quite what to do with what I've written.  It still needs work.  It’s too long for a post and too short for a book.  Answers on a postcard please…

Anyway, congrats again and thanks for the longitudinal chronicle!

 

Someone gets sexually aroused at the thought of losing their continence and needing to wear diapers?! What sort of weirdos are out there!?? 😅😂😉

[Wife Found Out]

It's positive she mentioned a kink-affirming therapist. My only recommendation is to not dive in too deep and don't bring it up a bunch. But this is coming from someone who calls their wife mommy in front of nearly everyone (we have kids which is when she started allowing it). So not sure that's helpful. I was 100% open about this during our dating. I am glad you mentioned it to her. That will help. Perhaps the therapy will turn into some couples therapy and hopefully she can open up! My wife doesn't really share this desire at all but she wears occasionally. I wear all the time for a variety of reasons but effectively really leaned into a bout of incontinence I had.

[For the males- when going with the "Open Sphincter" approach, how do you manage the "equpment"]

On 10/15/2024 at 6:02 PM, Enthusi said:

Came here to say this.  It’s the best way to ensure things are pointed correctly. 

Any recommendations? does it add extra bulk?

[*3 Year Update - My 24/7 Journey*]

2 hours ago, Beccathelittle said:

Hey DD,

Today marks 1,245 days in diapers That’s 3 years, 4 months, and 27 days… nearly 41 months in total as a happily padded woman.

I like using this blog post format to share little updates, but I feel like I struggle to write meaningful things if I post too frequently, especially when so many days just blur together. Reading about other people’s journeys on this board is always fun, and it’s comforting to know I’m not alone in my unique desires. When I first started down this road, I relied on others' experiences for guidance on what to expect. I read “guides” and had this desire to achieve diaper dependency as quickly as possible. This board is filled with a lot of common questions, and it seems like some people shared my early desires—wanting to become “incontinent” as if it were as simple as flipping a switch.

It’s also challenging because AB/DL is a kink, and I feel like some posters delve into fantasy rather than reality. While every person is biologically different, some paint a picture that you’ll reach your goals within a few weeks or the first year, exaggerating effects that can make others worry if their experiences don’t match up.

In reality, progress is subtle and slow, but it sneaks up on you over the years. Eventually, you reach a point where you realize, “Hey, these diapers I’ve been wearing for so long… I actually need them now.” I think guides should focus more on practical advice like skin care, clothing choices, diet, and other things people often overlook, rather than just how to achieve dependency as quickly as possible.

For me, and I’m sure for others who decide to go down this path, simply putting on a diaper and using it for its intended purpose, and choosing to void as soon as the need arises is more than enough to get there. I’ve read about others who opt for surgical routes, some who never even tried wearing diapers for an extended period, and it makes me wonder why. It’s like buying a new car without ever test-driving it. Why do that to yourself if you’ve never experienced it firsthand? For those who have been wearing 24/7 for years and choose surgery, I can understand—they know what they’re getting into, and there may be biological reasons for it. But for most, why not start with the simplest option.. just wearing and using diapers?

The slow march of time when it comes to wearing diapers 24/7 is subtle, but I wouldn’t trade it for the world in terms of the joy and happiness it brings me. The changes in your body are gradual but build over time, and eventually, you’ll find that your body truly has a mind of its own. Your brain starts rewiring itself, and you’ll wet or mess as soon as the urge strikes. Mentally, it’s also important to make peace with who you are and what you desire. When I first started, I felt silly, anxious around others, and like I was faking it. But over time, those thoughts faded as my body adapted, and new experiences solidified my identity as incontinent.

I also think our perception of “control” is an illusion after many years. In stressful or uncomfortable situations, our fight-or-flight response can make it feel like we have more control than we actually do. In reality, after years of wearing, you’re voiding continuously, and outside of stressful situations, you’re often wetting unnoticed or all the time. It’s amazing how the body adapts, but there comes a point where it no longer functions the way it used to. Eventually, even in stressful situations, you don’t have a choice—something I experienced in a slightly embarrassing situation yesterday.

Yesterday, I had to go to the office to meet with a vendor and a few colleagues. After a long meeting, they took us out to lunch, and since we were returning to the office, we all carpooled. I grabbed my laptop bag, which had a few diaper changes, and off we went. Lunch was delicious, but on the ride back, I felt a strong gut feeling, followed by a few uncontrolled toots, leaving me slightly embarrassed. There was no stopping it—I struggled to even remember how to hold it in. Whether it was the way I was seated or the movement of the car, I thankfully didn’t think I’d fully mess, but I could feel the need and was worried it might happen in the car.

When we finally got back to the parking lot, as soon as I stepped out of the car, it happened. My gut clenched, and I felt the drop. Thankfully, no one noticed, but my anxiety left me bright red. I quickly made my way to one of the private stalls in the office and spent the next 30 minutes carefully cleaning up. It made me reflect on how far I’ve come—I’m past the point of control. My body is now operating the way I’ve been living for years, and it’s on autopilot with little regard for my desire to temporarily stop it in uncomfortable situations.

Anyway, I felt like sharing a longer update because it’s a great way to clear my mind and reflect on my thoughts. I figured others might want to comment or get something out of it too.

My body is still changing every day, and I’m happy about that. Later this month, I’ll be flying out of state for a vacation with a friend to see some sights. She knows about my incontinence, and I’ve made plans to ship a case of diapers to the hotel where we’ll be staying for nine days. I’m excited to see where life takes me in the future, and I hope everyone has a wonderful week. If you have any questions, let me know I hope you’re all doing well out there in these tumultuous times. 

Thanks for the update and great job at the success :). Have so much fun on your vacation!

[Who Masturbates in Diapers?]

On 1/20/2025 at 3:06 PM, foreverdl said:

I used to rub my diaper a lot, till I got carried away a few times and rubbed myself soo sore that I had to not use a diaper for days, I had to medicine up till he healed up.. I love to rub it, but just don't do it for a long time, see, with all my pain meds I can't feel the good stuff as much as I like to, so rubbing to completion is more rare..

I use AMPLE vaseline.

[Faith got stronger after 24/7]

Oh wow so this message popped up and I forgot I wrote it! It's gotten better. I still have doubts sometimes but retain my faith and go to church with irregularity. I pray to God and Jesus and pray nightly with my family and at meals out and stuff.

I have been reading the bible and biblical content more around this and LGBT identity and ABDL. My church is supportive of LGBT issues. Jesus never spoke out about LGBT people. Maybe it is my ASD but people wrote the bible, yes faith inspired but still.

And Paul, I mean I know he was converted and a huge reason why the faith spread but I still don't really trust him fully. I have always been a good person and he was pretty evil as Saul before. I just have a hard time with people that were so bad before. So, I am not sure I can take his words at face value, as from Jesus. I'm not "Gay" but I fall under the LGBT umbrella in some ways for my gender identity and expression. Most (almost all? - all the explicitish versions) of the anti LGBT teachings are from Paul I believe.

And of course, there is Paul's famous: 1 Corinthians 13:11: "When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put away childish things." which I take as not literal but figurative. But then again, Its SAUL!!! Sorry to dead-name you Paul!

So yes. I do. I believe in Jesus as my Lord and Savior.

https://abdiscovery.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/a-christian-response-to-being-an-adult-baby.pdf

Jesus speaks! Not literally about ABDL obviously but it is comforting:

• Matthew 18:3 states, "Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven."1
• Mark 10:15 echoes this sentiment: "Truly I tell you, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it."1
• Luke 18:17 repeats the same message: "Truly I tell you, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it."1

And the MOST IMPORTANT Christian Principles. FROM JESUS' MOUTH:

• Mark 12:30-31 reads: "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.' The second is this: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' There is no commandment greater than these."

Lastly, don't forget:

Psalm 139:13-14 "For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well."

["Wannabe Betwetters" who started their journey 5+ years ago, where are things now?]

15 hours ago, Little Sherri said:

This is very similar to my distribution pattern. I'm on the doorstep of 6 years being at this, whatever "this" is. I'll add one more category to the list. 

 

A) 0%. I never get up and use the restroom. That's why I sleep in nappies. Getting up causes the dog to stir, and it's cold out there, and possibly, there are monsters. 

B ) 30% - Wake up, use diaper, fall asleep

C) 30% - Vaguely recall or may have imagined recalling the "go"

D) 10% - Slept like a baby, woke up wetter than I was when I went to bed

E) 30% - Wake up when my alarm goes off, needing to pee, but not having done so earlier, as far as I can tell, and not having been awakened by that reality. Pee while walking downstairs for coffee. 

 

I am like this as well. Been wearing diapers most nights for 20 years or so been wearing 23.9975/7 for 3 years.

[Capcon]

Who all here went to CapCon? What did everyone think? I thought it was amazing! Going back to real world after seeing diaper booties all day has been an adjustment. I am 100% going back next year 😊

[Another diaper podcast episode]

This person seems fairly conservative. Are they trans too? I am a genderqueer person who is also fairly conservative but scared of some of the policies of the new administration and liked a good deal of how the biden admin was accepting of genderqueer people. Anyways my 0.02. Gonna have a listen later.