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ok, well since you brought this back. I will finish what I started.

To bad you don't know someone in the military over there it would have been free!

It's not just the wearing.

Botox, you are right on both counts. Stand up for you rights and risk being put down- hard. Or, stand in line like a good little sheep while you wave your rights goodbye. I believe it was Ben Franklin that originally quoted those who are willing to give up their freedoms for security deserve neither, bit I'll let you decide that for your self.

My recipe for success is to feel the person out in terms of understanding and openness to new ideas. Generally I broach the topic of alternative lifestyles and Bdsm as it's more mainstream. If the lady I am talking about shuts down that conversation I shut down our dating and move on to another woman. I did this early in the dating. It allowed me to feel out how open the other persons mind is and how well they deal with different ideas. It also allows me to broach a touchy subject without incriminating what I am into. My number one requirement to dating is that the person I date has an open mind and a willingness to accept things that are different. It's pretty easy to tell early on who is and who isn't. Generally it comes out in the first dinner. If the person I am potentionally dating is open then I will dive in a little further. To this day I haven't had too big of a trouble opening up and sharing my side with people. Granted a few have had bad experiences. What I've witnessed in those situations is the Abdl had been dating someone for quite some time and then laid it all out on the line. Gotta ease into most situations. If you have to keep a secret from your spouse then maybe that isn't the person you should be with? I mean seriously, if they cannot or will not accept your authentic self what sort of miserable love is that? I'd rather be alone than with someone I can't share myself in my entirety. Sorry to de-rail the topic OP. I will never support the ideal some people have on this site that hiding who you are from your spouse is a good thing. Hiding who you are to your loved one is a travesty and I feel sorry for those who have to stay closeted in their own homes.

Very true Christine, but how can anyone think some one else loves them if they don't completely know who you are? Being an AB, DL, TG, etc is who we are. Hiding that means you are hiding a part of your life from your partner. To me I see this a recipe for a bigger disaster than the potential of being rejected by someone EARLY in a relationship (when you should be telling them).

I'm a member of the 501st Legion.