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Well I just paid this month's rent and my bank account is a lot closer to zero than I'd like it to be. So unfortunately that means giving up some frivolous items, diapers included, for the next couple of weeks. I'm too broke to wet the bed. Anybody else have the too broke for diapers blues this week? Or last week? Or ANY week?

I had struggled with this for years (over 30) until I went on line and discovered that I wasn't alone. When I was younger, I would wear when I could, though i had the privilege of living alone in my own place. I still thought I was qwazy but I never purged. I would binge, especially on weekends when I didn't have anything to do, and would wear at night. But when things settled down and the interest /desire/urge passed, I would just leave everything alone and wait. Then the cycle would start over again. never tossed anything out, just had it in my closet where I knew it was waiting for me today, now that I am *ahem* 'older' I manage this thing by wearing when I want. I have also come to accept myself for who I am and that my diaper interests are just a part of my whole, and with this came a lot of inner peace. I know that they are just underwear and my choice to wear in order to fulfill what ever 'need' they serve. This is part of the secret that I have found, just accepting this part of you as you are. There's no harm in it and, sure it's "odd' but nothing bad can come of it. The other part was just putting together a type of management program for this, in order to keep the binge/purge cycle to a low level. Also knowing whats driving it or it's origins helps, but if that info isn't available, then you have to figure something out. As a D/L myself, I have found that much of this is driven by hormones and sex drives, and can be satisfied or managed by what ever gratification you might derive from wearing or other activities Basically what it amounts to is self acceptance, and this helps with guilt, and management, so you wear when you want or need to keep the cycles to a low level. Also, when you do hit a low level or 'purge' in the cycle, just put everything away where you know it is, and leave it there until you want them again. If it's in a secure place (and you don't have nosy family) you should be OK. Fear of discovery (potential embarrassment) can be managed with a smaller stash, and keeping them somewhere you know is safe. For example, my room is rather cluttered (stuffing a 2 bedroom condo into 1 bedroom of my bros house) so I have stuff in boxes and such, so my diapers are also in boxes amongst the rest, so I hide stuff in plain sight and don't worry. My bro doesn't snoop so again, no biggie. I don't feel guilty or bothered, I wear when I want, and move on. When the interest wains I just leave everything where it is, knowing it's there for me, and go about doing what ever it is I'm working on or just carry on with life. So just relax....keep a small stash safe, wear when you want (or need) and keep it to yourself. You are an adult, and what you wear for undies isn't anyones business....unless you like to share such info Staying with family as an adult is a pain, and Living with my bro is driving me nuts but at the moment I don't have an alternative to go to, which hopefully will change. I hope this helps you get through these cycles, I know as do most of the people here, that it's not a fun part of this 'interest' but it too can be managed with a little thought Good luck with this and if you have any other thoughts or something happens feel free to post it here and ask any questions and maybe we can help

I just talked to someone at one of the medical supply outfits, and he confirmed that they're back ordered till March. He said that they are relocating manufacturing from Israel to America. Also, he told me that they're putting the waistband back in, I hope they put it in front and back.

Having known someone younger who died of a simple kidney stone that got infected has shined a whole new light on catheters for me. If death is "that easy" and quick??!! Walked into the hospital diagnosed, prepped for surgery, went septic, crashed, coma and few hours later, wheeled to the morgue... Just sayin'.

Your post makes no sense. Been wearing for a year 24/7 but only for pee for a few months. To me equals must wear do to bowel incontinence or bowel issues or wear it but don't use it. I'll assume, wear but don't use. Now you say since you've been wetting them for a few months its easy to go. Before you had a choice, now you fear of it becoming permanent. Well there again, you are wearing a diaper already and you decided to pee in it for a few straight months now you're worried of incontinence??? Is that not the achieved result you were looking for??? If it is, continue, if not, stop wearing or at least stop intentionally wetting them. Just as you stated, you have your options. I've been 24/7 for nearly a year and find incontince is not easily achieved. Everyone's different but I think "being incontinent",if you aren't truly physically incontinent as in, medically altered due to injury, damage, etc., is then a mental state which can be altered again to achieve continence. A person who is in a coma for a decade can still achieve walking, talking, etc after regaining the strength of all those muscles. Why should the bladder be any different?

Yeeah, I have been out of work for 5 months once. I used cloth diapers, but I had to stop because I could not afford the laundry expense. Food is more important.

Welcome, there are many friendly members here to chat with, so you won't have to feel alone. ^.^

I have kids. One old enough to potty train. We did so the month of the second birthday. We did a three day potty training program where you go from diapers to underwear over night. No pull-ups to bed, no diapers again....ever. You are literally suppose to throw away unused diapers. The guide says, this is more for the parents, than the kid, to not be able to take the easy way out and go back. I got the book after several coworkers have used it with success. I will tell you, It is the biggest commitment I have ever done and it was stressful, mainly for me. It sucked for the first two days but by day three, we were free sailing and no diapers since the start, not even at night! Not to say we haven't had an accident along the way but often it was our fault as we didnt read the signals right. I've been told by coworkers, as far as their kids go, some got it day one, others took til day three but all in all, I wouldn't change what I did. The kid was a bit stressed at first, but only because the kid wanted to please me or at least do a good job. Kids thrive on praise. Trust me, dragging it out over months is way more stressful on the kid. Example, would you rather me slowly stick you with a needle, or fast, slowly rip off a bandage, or fast? Also, I should state, I truly believe kids are ready, younger then you expect. The book suggest 22 months as a good starting point. It's when they're most eager to learn and prove themselves. The older they get the harder the habit dies. Kids realize they pee and poop, and they can hold it...if the want. They are NOT incontinent unless they have some sort of disability. Potty training is just teaching the kid what to do when they get the signal to go and understanding the signal. Their body is fully capable holding poop or pee and the sooner a parent realizes it, the easier it will be. Its teaching them to not just go in their pants, now we go to the toilet. A short rundown of how this method works is here. You put underwear on your kid. You are by them side by side, the whole day for up to 3 days so plan on it! Every second, every second, every second!!! Get it. This way when they start to pee, they instantly realize something's happening(spent lots of time on the wood floor and cleaning up accidents). You quickly run them to the potty and sit them down (even though they've finished) and praise the ever living hell out of them for being so big, awesome, great job, etc. What you're really doing is teaching them, to avoid wet pants, we go to the potty. They associate the two. Kids don't like wet pants. You load them up with liquids all day to keep the, peeing almost hourly (except night), so the get the signal to pee a dozen times a day, load em with fiber and other stuff to poop. They may train in hours or three days but trust me, they'll get it, even when you're about to give up, keep on. Think of it as condensing months of on off training and back and forth from diapers to underwear over months to a short moment in time 3 days, oh and no diapers. Less confusing don't ya think! There are ups and downs and good times and bad, all happening in those few days. Stressful, hell yes but mainly on me getting frustrated and wanting to throw in the towel but ya see that's the big problem!!! It's usually the parents fault!! We give up on our kids or aren't spending the time to understand them and work with them to get it right. Commit to the plan and stick with it through hell and high water!! Don't give up. Ever watch Ceasar the dog trainer guy? Usually a dogs bad behaviors and habits are a product of its owners. Ceasar is often training the owners of what to do more then he is the dog. (Not saying treat our kid as a dog but ya know what I mean here?) Before people condemn me for this training method, know that I have yet to know someone who used it who's child failed. The parent will say, they almost failed. You are training each other. The kids aren't in rehab over those stressful days don't show signs of mental trauma either over potty training. Kids are tougher then you think. My kid enjoys the cool looking underwear now and is so independent goes to the potty without being asked. Proud to poop and pee. Diapers are gross, diapers are for babies. (All hypocritical to most of us to say) So to answer, confusing, if you make it confusing and are wishy washy and don't stand your position and are back and forth then YES!! You confused the crap out of your kid!! At first it may be confusing for the kid, I have to go potty and poop in this toilet thing now vs the diaper, yes, but teaching them it's this verses that is like teaching them anything else. Now you drink from a cup, to a bottle, now you sleep in a bed, not a crib, now you use a spoon, not your hands, etc. You teach, you're the parent! The person they look up to, the person they want to be like, the person they want to please...until they're a teenager that is...

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I feel very similar. I tend to inject myself into people's judgments of Abdls. After all I am one! But I've learned that they have to deal with that issue not me.

I guess it depends on what you prefer to "feel".