Arggggh….first thanks everyone for your feedback…I really appreciate it. Unfortunately you guys are offering different view points, and all have great logic and reasoning behind your points.
To clear a couple of issues:
1) I do intend to bring protection and will be a respectful and gracious guest.
2) I am in my mid 40’s and they are the same age.
3) I plan to carry a bag with me pretty much all the time for general purpose use, hold my camera, carrying water, snacks, sundries, supplies, and for souvenirs. So I am comfortable with it holding a change of clothes and diapers as well.
I understand the point to just tell them and clear the air if/before an elephant shows up. Overall, I think that it would ease the stress of having to “hide” / be extremely discreet with regards to this. However, I do not want them to have to change things to have to be overly accommodating.
additionally, typically I am very discrete with regards to wearing diapers in public, and I would say a typical by standard wouldn’t even know anything different. Unfortunately, we will be in close quarters, and spending a lot of time together, doing various activities. They could possibly notice. If that were to happen, they probably wouldn’t say anything because they are adults and my friends. Albeit embarrassing, I think I would be prepared to tell them about my issues, if I was “found out.”
you guys bring up a good point about not knowing what I am eating or drinking or when a bathroom may be available. That all scares me to think I will want to have the needed protection.
maybe I spin that a little and tell them up front that I have sensitive intestinal/bladder with regards to an altered diet. I don’t necessarily have to go into the diaper/protection issue, but that would be an out / explanation if they were to happen to notice that I was wearing a diaper / pad.
once again thanks for your feedback. Maybe I am making this more of a deal then I should. However, I want to do the right thing so that we are all able to throughly enjoy our vacay and time together.