Hey Mr.Otter,
That really does stink. I was in a similiar isituation, My wife of 10 years left me for another family member. I was a mess for a long time. I couldn't do my job, I couldn't eat or sleep and was having panic attacks. For a few months I drank a lot and did a lot of drugs just to get away from myself. I would start fights at bars hoping that someone would beat me up. I ended up finding a therapist because my wife talked me into it, I thought this would get us back together, it didn't. I went to therapy weekly for 2 years and just took things slow. Everyday was a struggle but with time and learning about myself things are better. I guess I wrote this so you realize you're not alone. Don't look for a quick fix because that won't work. Time is the only thing that will help you to move on and feel better about yourself and where you are in life. I do believe that everthing happens for a reason even though I'm sure that reason isn't clear to you at this time. Good Luck and if you ever want to talk or vent just email me. Ken