Need advice on sudden incon

[JoeyS]

Hi, first post here. Today is the third time this year my bladder has emptied without my control. The first time happened when I was at a bar at night, so I just threw out my underwear in the bathroom and went home. Luckily I was wearing black jeans so my friends didn't see. I thought it was just the alcohol as I have a sensitive bladder. Another time I was riding my bike home in the afternoon and it released, I thought it was a weird once off. However, today it happened again in the middle of the day. I was sitting a university exam and I felt an urge to go to the bathroom. Before I could raise my hand my bladder released and I COULD NOT stop. I had to sit there in a puddle until the exam ended and I hid amongst the crowd as we left. The entire front of my jeans were soaked down to my shoes. I walked to the shop in my drenched jeans and bought some tracksuit pants. It was terribly embarrassing and I was crying softly the whole way. I don't really want to wear diapers during the day (embarrassing) but I'm scared my bladder will give up in front of my friends while in class. It might be due to me getting older or increased stress in my degree.

Is anyone in a similar boat? I'm not sure if I need diapers because it happens only once every 3-4 months, but I empty my bladder completely when it happens. Should I bother with light daily protection, or would this be useless for a complete wetting? Im pretty scared. Right now I just carry spare underwear and tracksuit pants in my locker and car.

About me: 23, boy, student, I wear drynites (or overnight pads) at night as I dribble when I sleep.

(I'm not sure if this is right forum location sorry!)

Edited November 5, 2019 by JoeyS
Clarification

[DL-Boy]

28 minutes ago, JoeyS said:

Hi, first post here. Today is the third time this year my bladder has emptied without my control. The first time happened when I was at a bar at night, so I just threw out my underwear in the bathroom and went home. Luckily I was wearing black jeans so my friends didn't see. I thought it was just the alcohol as I have a sensitive bladder. Another time I was riding my bike home in the afternoon and it released, I thought it was a weird once off. However, today it happened again in the middle of the day. I was sitting a university exam and I felt an urge to go to the bathroom. Before I could raise my hand my bladder released and I COULD NOT stop. I had to sit there in a puddle until the exam ended and I hid amongst the crowd as we left. The entire front of my jeans were soaked down to my shoes. I walked to the shop in my drenched jeans and bought some tracksuit pants. It was terribly embarrassing and I was crying softly the whole way. I don't really want to wear diapers during the day (embarrassing) but I'm scared my bladder will give up in front of my friends while in class. It might be due to me getting older or increased stress in my degree.

Is anyone in a similar boat? I'm not sure if I need diapers because it happens only once every 3-4 months, but I empty my bladder completely when it happens. Should I bother with light daily protection, or would this be useless for a complete wetting? Im pretty scared. Right now I just carry spare underwear and tracksuit pants in my locker and car.

About me: 23, boy, student, I wear drynites (or overnight pads) at night as I dribble when I sleep.

(I'm not sure if this is right forum location sorry!)

I'd recommend talking to your urologist. It might be nothing serious but the doctor should be able to help determine if there is some physiological issue that can be addressed. It sounds to me like you may have OAB (overactive bladder). There are medications too treat that.

[mundane]

At 23, I would say you have oab. Or else there are some other environmental issues at play (medications,stress etc.) Definitely take some time to see your doctor, gp, a nurse. As DL-Boy said, if it is oab there are meds for it that you could try first.

[rubbersheetmike]

On 11/5/2019 at 9:00 AM, JoeyS said:

Hi, first post here. Today is the third time this year my bladder has emptied without my control.

Three times in a year doesnt seem very frequent. Wetting after drinking isnt all that uncommon either especially if you got drunk. The episodes sound like OAB or urge IC and like other people here note that are meds for this. You indicate too that you have night leakage as well so this might indicate bladder sphincter weakness. For older guys like me this can be a sign of prostate problems but would probably be less common for younger guys. Anyway a doctor can fairly easily test for prostate enlargement and can refer you to a urologist if theres no enlargement. In the meantime wearing daytime protection isn't a big deal these days.