Told Another Friend

[Nangza]

Okay, so for those of you who dont know me that well (thats probably most of you), I used to live with a girl named Misha. She was my best friend for a year and a half and I liked her a lot but was never in love with her. A few months after knowing her, I told her that I like to wear diapers, but could give no explaination. She was ok with it, and was always willing to talk about it if I wanted. I guess I had hoped she might be into it also which she never was. She moved up to san fransisco a while ago so I was without a good friend for about a year. Now, I know a girl named Leanne, who I am in crazy love with. The only problem is she is Lesbian. She knows Im in love with her, and she doesnt mind and still hangs out with me all the time, so it works good there. So last night, we were at a bar, and Id had a few. I told her how good of a friend she was, and my exact words were, "You are about the best friend I have right now." there was more to it than that, but anyhow, she kissed me on the cheek, then later, she made the excuse she was teaching me how to kiss and kissed me on the lips four times until I got it perfect. So Im thinking, 'wow, Ive made headway'. I even asked her if she really wanted to before she did it, just to make sure she didnt do anything she wasnt ready for or wanting to do. She had told me earlier that she knew me pretty well, and I told her there were still things she didnt know and didnt want to know, but she was still curious. Well, after she kissed me, I told her what it was she didnt know and of course it was my diaper thing. I dont know how she reacted only because our other friend came back to soon to continue the conversation, but she seemed cool the rest of the night. My concern is this, I just got her to kiss me, she may have been getting over the fact that someone that loves her so much is a man, and willing to try, I feel like I just put up another blockade, created a new obstacle, and its killing me. So, someone tell me it gonna be alright, cuz I gotta have someone else tell me, Im not convincing enough.

Collin

[DIAPERPHANTOM]

Hi Nangza, interesting reading! I have a little harder time relating with those who can be so open with their lifestyles. I'm not saying it's bad, it's just something I wouldn't even consider, and still don't. Then again, I'm twice your age and each generation tends to be more open, which is a good thing when you think about it. The evolution of mankind sort of thing I guess. Anyways, the good thing is that you got the hardest part out of the way, she knows about your lifestyle. Unfortunately, I'm not totally convinced that she is going to switch back over a few kisses. I have no doubt that the relationship has potential and your lifestyles could create a very special bond, but you have to acknowledge up front that something is driving her lifestyle too. Like diapers, people just don't wake up one day and decide to put one on for the hell of it. I assume she is around your age, so she is probably still discovering her sexuality, nothing is written in stone yet, so she might be willing to explore a relationship with you. You'll just have to sit down with her and discuss it. Keep us posted!

[Nangza]

Thanks for the reply, its good to know I have friends here, even if they have no faces that I know of. I know she is attached to her lifestyle, she is 26 and just got out of a 7 year relationship, but she has never dated a guy she actually liked, and has never had sex with a man. I know up front that her sexuality is deep rooted, and the chance of changing that is a job that only true love has a chance of accomplishing. I dont expect her to change, I hope she does because I cannot help myself. I guess thats what love is, senseless, mindless devotion to a person for absolutely no reason, and there is no controlling it.

Collin

[wolfwood390]

I agree with you, just like you are really into your life style with diapers and all, she likes hers unless she has as strong feeling for you , as you do for her she probably wont change. one thing I can suggest is ask her how she feels about diapers, you never know maybe she would try them out and get into them, its better then nothing, but again its a chance but its one worth taking in my opinin.

[bobbyc]

I wish you luck. I guess if I were in your shoes I wouldn't put any hopes into her changing. She might for a little while but at her age she's probably getting more comfortable with who she is and what she is attracted to. A best friend is almost, and possibly more, difficult to find as a romantic partner. If you can get that from her consider yourself to be very lucky. I have one or two friends who I feel I love so much that I often wonder if my love isn't more than that of a friend. It can be easy to confuse the two at times.

[babybrian1973]

hi there, interesting post to say the least.

it's been my experiance that with every

generation people get more and more

sexually open minded. that is to say that

people nowadays tend to try "batting for

the other team" so maybe she is interested

in trying to have an intimate relationship

with you. then again, maybe youre such

a good friend that she is just comfortable

around you.

i am a straight man myself and i worked

in a gay bar. i had almost 50 gay/lesbian/

bi/transgendered friends and i would hug

or kiss each of them. granted i never

slipped the tongue to any of them lol!

well, best of luck however this all turns out

and keep us informed!!

[diapereddave]

It sounds like you are in an interesting position. I dont know what to say. I lucked out when i got with my new gf, she is very open minded and will try almost anything twice. Shes now interested in diapers herself, I think what helped was the fact that I knew she used to be with girls, and that I had known that she was very openminded. I wish you th ebest of luck. Sounds like you might have something going there with your friend, it never hurts to try, and who knows she might be a little stright curious.