Explain Please

[wolfwood390]

I am glad to see that you are seeking advice on the subject, as many others have said. What I suggest you do, and this is only a suggestion, it to try out the fetish for yourself. Not even going as far as wetting a diaper, just try one on and see how it feels. The main reason, at least for me to wear diapers is because it feels good, plain and simple, just like people like to have sex because it feels good. This is most likely the same reason your husband likes them because he is a diaper lover and not an abult baby. You should at least try it because it is such a big part of your husbands life, and yours, because he is your husband. It would make him extremely happy to share his fetish with some one in real life, especially his wife more then anyone else. If you decide dont like it, but tried it it would show him then you are at least trying to accept and not trying to forget which is the most any one could ask of you.

I wish you the best of luck.

[SoCalGav]

Wow, Dill Pickle said it all! Good job man.

[Morv]

My husband says that he likes it because diapers turn him on.

My husband is a dl not and ab.

Going off of these two things, please ignore anyone that mentioned being a mommy or buying pacifiers and crap. They obviously missed the part about him NOT being an AB.

Okay and someone asked me to list what scares me about it so here it goes

The one video that I saw (when I found it on the comp) Showed a girl who had acctually pooped in her diaper. To me this is disusting I believe we are potty trained for a reason. (my husband told me he wouldn't want me to poop only pee. However I still feel that its wrong. I mean thats what I have been told since I was three its how my body is programmed. I mean if you have a medical thing its understandable but when you are a healhy adult.

Honestly, I wouldn't worry about the pooping video. If you've got your husband being remotely honest with you, I'd venture to say he may have just been curious about the extreme end of this fetish. It is possible to be curoius about something that goes further than you're comfortable with... after all, you are visiting this site, despite your discomfort. (For which I applaud you.)

As far as peeing in a diaper... and the matter of "right" and "wrong," that's one where I guess I have opinions. I'll try and be brief -- I usually fail at this. Stop thinking in terms of right and wrong with this. You, me, all of us are conditioned to societal norms. The act of peeing in a diaper does not hurt anyone -- unless you leave it on so long you get a rash (which is the act of wearing a used diaper for an extended period of time, not the act of peeing in it.) I submit to you that nobody is harmed by an adult peeing in a diaper.

Now, wearing a diaper in public, being caught using a diaper by a neighbor, friend, or family member can be problematic. It can cause embarrassment. But that is beyond the simple case. I now submit to you, sans extrenuating circumstances, if proper care and respect are taken with this fetish, others will not find out. (If you repetitively found diaper porn on your computer, either your husband wanted you to find it, he wasn't careful enough, or you really know what you're doing on a computer -- or a combination of any of those factors. Before or as part of your discussions with him, you may want to, to ensure your saftey and comfort (emotional) by making him agree to "security" restrictions so as to ensure nobody finds out about his fetish.)

There are many things in this world that we are told are "right" or "wrong" and a great many of them have no basis in actually causing harm to an individual. One hundred years ago, in the United States," blacks couldn't vote, women couldn't vote, interracial marriages weren't allowed in most States, black men were lynched for talking to white women, homosexuality (when acknowledged at all) was considered a sin, and in most places was simply illegal. (By law in many states it was, and in many it still is, illegal to commit "sodomy" which includes all anal and oral sex (even between man and woman), and in the strictest interpretation of the phrase "unnatural or abnormal" would preclude all sexual contact except the missionary position.) Legal is not always right, illegal is not always wrong, and just because society tells you so doesn't mean you must accept.

What you feel comfortable with, only you will be able to determine. There's nothing wrong with you if you come to accept this all, or if you do not ever feel comfortable with it. But, it is all in your head, and if you choose to overcome it, you can.

It does not hurt to pee in a diaper. It does not hurt to change a diaper that's been peed in. In fact, they really don't even smell that bad. (A hundred years ago, a diaper was just a piece of cloth -- they've come a long way.) Just wash your hands afterwards.

Also when I was younger I saw an episode of some talk show and they had an ab on and he freaked me right out. I was weirded out. He scared me.

They scare me too . (j/k folks -- you know it.) Nothing to be worried about -- your husband explained to you he is a DL, not an AB. Unless things change for him, what he likes is wearing diapers, and perhaps occasionally using them. From the sounds of things, his big ticket item is being in them, being sexually aroused, and having sexual interest in a partner who is wearing a diaper.

He is not interested in a mommy, a pacifier, baby clothes, a giant crib, or any of that.

Here's my last piece of advice:

Remember that you are safe. Nothing here is dangerous to you. Your husbands interest isn't dangerous to you. (Hey, aren't you glad he didn't, say, have links to the mob, or a gambling problem that could cost you the house?) Your husband loves you very much. He's probably anxious -- telling you about this is at about the same level as a teenager talking about sex with his girlfriend for the first time, and having the realization, that maybe, just maybe, this wonderful magical thing just might happen to him. Be patient. He'll probably step over the line a couple times, and may annoy you. Don't let him pressure you into doing anything unless you are comfortable with it. And, there's nothing wrong with you if you choose to indulge him.

(Suggestion: set aside a time when you will talk about it. Lay down a line-- until you say otherwise it is only discussed on Tuesday nights after dinner, because then you both know when the "appropriate time" is to discuss it. And yes, whatever time you set can be changed if there's a good reason. If you ever decide to indulge him, set limits and let him know those too. My guess is that you may be concerned you won't have a normal sex life if you indulge him. I suggest you discuss this, and set limits to ensure this is not the case.)

[tuffy]

You say your Husband..in the forum

You say YOUR SON in the chatroom..which is it??

I think you're confusing curiousgirl with curious_mom.

curoius_mom is the one asking about her son in chat.

[tuffy]

It's the same person Tuffy.

Well, I guess the fact that the names aren't the same would be the first clue. Given that we don't have access to server logs with their IP addresses we'll never really know for sure. I'd rather not jump to conclusoins with incomplete information.

[FunTime]

I think it's good that this question is here and all the responses followed ... showed that people really do give a damn!

I've always had a hard time dealing with this fetish (for me), sometimes wanting to hide it or forget about it, can't believe or understand why its even in my thought process ... but it is, and I've done much better with it as soon as I was willing to not stress myself out and be casual about it (have fun when I want to, not ALL the time, but whenever I want/can)

I think your best resource base is right in front of you. This site (or sort of site vs. extreme porn), the members of this site who know first hand ... you can see that many hold conversations, have pictures up, very "normal" people who have an interest in the obvious.

I think anyone can work through it just as they can work through anything. If you're helpful, open and you have open communication between you and the one involved, things will be fine.

I wouldn't stress out about it.

[edlomon05]

I do think this is one of the misunderstood fetishes out there.

mainly due to the talk shows that the user talked about and the sick people that push the thing way too far and gives the rest of us a bad name.

honestly if shes looking for advice(not sure based on an earlier post) make sure you & your husband are in aggreence on the terms or rules and dont be freaked out by it, i mean if hes doing it 24/7 and he actually believes hes a child, then its ok to freka out and would serious call a doctor for mental help.

now most of the users here have loved the idea of diapers since childhood. I know I can remember wanted to be in diapers since I was 5, I regressed the thought around 9 when my folks found out and it just came out of nowhere one day when i was on google.

me personally wont do any of the acts as I still live with the folks and also I like to see adult girls in diapers rather than be in them myself, i think the gals look better in them anyway but if a girl wanted me to wear one, i wouldnt say no.

if your asking about your son? thats just sick, but we(or at least us reg. members) arent sure if you and that other user are the same person. until then I'll just believe your asking for your husband.

[wettomm]

I have a couple of thoughts on your questions. First, you have every right to set limits with your husband. If you do not want to participate in his diaper play or have contact with this behavior tell him. You need to sit down and tell him what you can and can't tolerate. As almost everyone has said this fetish doesn't go away. If you expect your husband to quit then you will have to seriously consider ending the relationship because despite what he says he may not have the ability to quit. I suspect it would take a 12-step type program to quit and even then there are no guarantees. If you decide to stay in the relationship then you will have to accept the fact that he has a diaper fetish and is going to act on it. The challenge you face is finding an acceptable compromise that both of you can live with. Let me give you an example. My wife and I have been married for 25 years. For most of that time she has known about my fetish. Her reaction is similar to yours. As long as I keep my activity private and don't confront her with it she is fine. I have a storage locker in the basement with all of my diapers. My wife knows what is in the locker but she respects my privacy and doesn't look in the locker. (One has to ask why you spend so much time looking at those pictures if you find them so revolting.) Fortunately, my wife has to travel on her job allowing me time to enjoy my diaper fetish. We have a don't ask don't tell type of policy. As far as the computer is concerned use different browsers and have private files. Don't go looking for what he is doing on the Internet. You have a couple of choices. You can find a way to acknowledge his fetish by giving him some space to pursue it in private or you need to terminate the relationship. Don't play the game that if he really loves me he will quit. That is a prescription for self-deception, denial and misery for both of you.

[Dill_Pickle]

Morv, well said....all of it.

As far as peeing in a diaper... and the matter of "right" and "wrong," that's one where I guess I have opinions. I'll try and be brief -- I usually fail at this. Stop thinking in terms of right and wrong with this. You, me, all of us are conditioned to societal norms. The act of peeing in a diaper does not hurt

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Here's my last piece of advice:

Remember that you are safe. Nothing here is dangerous to you. Your husbands interest isn't dangerous to you. (Hey, aren't you glad he didn't, say, have links to the mob, or a gambling problem that could cost you the house?) Your husband loves you very much. He's probably anxious -- telling you about this is at about the same level as a teenager talking about sex with his girlfriend for the first time, and having the realization, that maybe, just maybe, this wonderful magical thing just might happen to him. Be patient. He'll probably step over the line a couple times, and may annoy you. Don't let him pressure you into doing anything unless you are comfortable with it. And, there's nothing wrong with you if you choose to indulge him.

(Suggestion: set aside a time when you will talk about it. Lay down a line-- until you say otherwise it is only discussed on Tuesday nights after dinner, because then you both know when the "appropriate time" is to discuss it. And yes, whatever time you set can be changed if there's a good reason. If you ever decide to indulge him, set limits and let him know those too. My guess is that you may be concerned you won't have a normal sex life if you indulge him. I suggest you discuss this, and set limits to ensure this is not the case.)