Incontinence And Erectile Dysfunction?

[DartDodger]

Does anyone else here have the same problem?

First off this realy was hard for me to sit down and write this and see it on paper{realy screen}

A small Bio:

I started with the need for pads, Then ended up with diapers once things got worse. My primary care doc has sent me to a urologist and they said OAB and URGE INCONTINENCE. Was in vesicare and few others and make me sick{all the side afects they list}Plus they did not work.

Now I am wearing 24-7{yes I have posted this before sorry}

I do see a Nuroligist{sp?} Hand they have found that I have 4 dish in my neck that are pinching the nerves ect.

I have neck,upper,middle and lower back pain. And take pain and muscle meds and meds to sleep.

For quite awhile now I have had erectile dysfunction before on the meds. I talked with the Nuroligist and told him I was having problems with incontinence. He just said the meds I was taking should not have anything to do with it or the problems with my disk.

It takes 10-15 min be able to get an erection, somethimes not at all. When I do get one,it’s not hard enough for sex or get a hard erection but lose it during sex. My Primary doctor gave me Viagra and they work 50% or the time but are 18 bucks each.

Effort to maintain it will end in early finish or loss of it. Yes it is possible to finish limp at times but is not realy good!

This is realy not good for her or I She aways says it is ok that it is more important to me and it is 100% ok.

At Two-Three Different times she went over the top and massaged my prostate and it helped some and was great. But that was realy over the top for her to do so not like she will be doing it again any time soon. She thought doing that to me nasty/dirty.

I am at the point now where I could care less what is done as long as it works and will not harm me. I am at wits end here!

[DartDodger]

Many Years ago she did use a Dildo on me {a once and thats it crazy thing} it milked My prostate so bad it was unreal.

I have asked for it again or a small butt plug and she just says no so thats that! Guess to her that is Gay and I am not so no. I have never been with a man or find them good looking and in no way think that ribbing and pushing on the prostate is a bad thing.{sorry I do not intend on saying gay is bad! what ever floats your boat}

My point is she feals as though that is a gay thing and since I am not then no. Like I said I will try anything and told he more than one stick the butt plug in and see if it helps and then "do it yourself"

To me that is realy ok you can do it but you are on your own if you do it.

{ie} She will back off 100% if I stuck it in. Not sure if that would even help me but can not get it out my mind that the dildo was tha bomb when she pegged me with it.

[Dougie]

Your ED is directly related to the spinal nerves. The same cluster of nerves controls the bladder and the sphycter muscles. You need to get the spine problems resolved quickly before you get permanent nerve damage. Then nothing will work well. I'm having similar issues and I don't need to wear 24/7.

[sarah_ab]

I cannot speak to the ED/incontinence issue except to say if you have discs pressing on nerves i'm sure it is possible that is related to the ED.

as to sex... there are so many many ways you can have sex without penile/vaginal intercourse... for one i would suggest pleasuring her in other ways, mouth, hand etc...

and for yourself, buy a prostrate massager and use it when you are alone to relieve some 'tension' and have a good time.

also find some websites that are not gay orientated that are about straight men enjoying anal penetration it is very very common, maybe by having your wife hear of other men who are also straight who like it, she will come around... maybe not... maybe you will just have to do it on your own.

[Pudding]

It's also worth noting that all that time in a warm; and potentially damp; environment can cause all sorts of issues with boy-parts. Puddin' recommends that you at least look into upping your intake of arginine, which is an antioxidant that helps things keep working downstairs in a long-term-warmer state of being. You can get a good dose of this in almonds and some other nuts, seeds and legumes. Of course; the spinal nerve issue is probably at fault but upping your arginine levels probably couldn't hurt, regardless~

[ranger]

Did the urologist check your prostate or scope you to check your bladder neck?

[SoCalAB]

That is very good advice. I would suggest scheduling an appointment with your urologist. At 45 you might be discovering signs of BPH or Benign prostatic hyperplasia.

Did the urologist check your prostate or scope you to check your bladder neck?

[babykeiff]

Constant diaper wearing (in males) tend to increase the heat within the testes, and reduce / eliminate sperm production. Increases of Zinc within ones diet will counteract this effect. However, due to the nervous connectivity of the urinary sphincters etc, urinary incontinence also has the secondary effect of reducing sexual functionality. (both sexes)

[DartDodger]

That is very good advice. I would suggest scheduling an appointment with your urologist. At 45 you might be discovering signs of BPH or Benign prostatic hyperplasia.

Yes I have had the whole list of things done{full battery}

Dye in Kidneys, Scope with Camera way up in there to see whats up{like a cath} MRI's ect. they also did a drain the badder and refill to see if I had a loss.

Manual Prostate check showed no bumps ect but was enlarged. They do a blood test every year for the BPH.

As mentioned Was just told by the Urologist I had Urge and Over Active Bladder And was given quite a few differant types of meds but they were not working and made me sick. So Diapers/Condom Caths are my only way.

I would like to try a Real Cath but scared of the hurt/damages. Be great to Drain 100% before leaving home in a freash diaper.

Every time I have had one in the hosptial It hurt for 1-3 days after.

I have brought up my Incontinence with the Neurologist on the 1st visit and the 2 and 3rd. He said that my Medications I am taking should not add to more loss of control. He was stright with me and siad he does not know huch about Incontinence and has never even looked into the meds given for Incontinence.

So what I have is each one saying see the other.

Taking:

Lortab for pain http://www.rxlist.com/elavil-drug.htm

Soma muscle relaxer http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Soma

Diclofenac sod ec as anti infalmatiory http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diclofenac

Elavil to sleep if not I sleep 2-3 hours but will sleep the whole 8-9 So if I wet during the night I am wet and will not wake up. Doctor says this should clamp me up and help with night time wetting. It has some but is hit and miss I wake up really wet some times and just lightly wet others on this. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Amitriptyline

[DartDodger]

I cannot speak to the ED/incontinence issue except to say if you have discs pressing on nerves i'm sure it is possible that is related to the ED.

as to sex... there are so many many ways you can have sex without penile/vaginal intercourse... for one i would suggest pleasuring her in other ways, mouth, hand etc...

I already do

and for yourself, buy a prostate massager and use it when you are alone to relieve some 'tension' and have a good time. Also find some websites that are not gay orientated that are about straight men enjoying anal penetration it is very very common, maybe by having your wife hear of other men who are also straight who like it, she will come around... maybe not... maybe you will just have to do it on your own.

Fear of being walked in on while doing so! It would be bad!