WetterGuy

When I was in college I'd have to take either the bus or subway to a drug store to buy Depends. I would simply put them in a backpack before I left the store. Sometimes I'd have to open the package and arrange them inside the bag, but I never had a problem. Simply zipped it up and made it safely and discreetly back to my dorm room. I always went to a drug store away from campus, too, just to be safe.

Well, I told my gf now wife, and I was Sooooo nervous. But as soon as the dating started getting serious, I let her know that this was a part of me, always has been and always will be. I said that I would honor her and include her in it, but I did not want to make her uncomfortable. To my surprise, she was OK with it and is happy to talk about it with me. She doesn't want it to be something I have to keep private or hidden from her. Once in a while she even diapers me, and we've gradually made that time more playful. I think she's getting more and more used to it, and even enjoying it. It's taken two years to get this far, though. It's good that you're scared. That means that you recognize the seriousness of the situation. As stated above, absolutely make sure this guy is someone u can trust. Make sure u present yourself in a way that's respectful to him. If u do that and he walks away, he's not the guy for you. My guess, though, is that if u do it lovingly he'll at least respect you. He may dive right in and play with you, he may just be curious at first, or he may prefer not to partcipate. As long as he is honestly accepting at some level, u need to be respectful also of him. Peace to you, and let us know how it works out!

I'm really pleased that my wife is OK with it, too. I think I have asked myself most all of the questions listed above, and it's really good to know I'm not the only one who's asking them. More than anything, I'm surprised at how many of us have accepting wives. It seems to be more common than I would expect. Perhaps a support group of some sort might be a good idea. I'm still trying to figure out how to do this in a way my wife might somehow enjoy, even if it means that when I wear a diaper we do something differently. I do try to be extra "cuddly" during that time, and she does enjoy that very much. I look forward to reading more in this topic.

Brian, This is a great post and one I will continue to read with interest. I'm sure there are other people who have kids or who plan to have kids who are watching this closely, too. Please keep us up to date and let us know how things work out. I hope that nothing more comes of it, but if it does, many of us could learn from it. Keep up the good work!

ItsABoy, Your thoughts and fears are not at all unique. I have shared many of them; you're not alone. You've expressed your need both for intimacy with a woman and intimacy with diapers. I've found that I have both needs, myself, and they come and go, with each taking "center stage" at different times. When I'm totally into one, I often find myself with little desire for the other. Other times I want a bit of both, and it all depends on my mood and on what's going on in my life. It can be very hard, though, to reconcile the two, especially when there is enormous peer pressure and societal pressure from both sides saying we have to be exclusively one thing and identify with only one pleasure. (If you're heterosexual, you had best be masculine and find your only pleasure in women, if you're ABDL you always need to be diapered, if you're gay, you always have to play to society's "gay norms," etc.) The truth is that none of us ever really fits these molds. So when you're with a woman, explore and enjoy your feelings with her. When you're in diapers, explore and enjoy those feelings, too. Your own sexual desires and pleasures will be unique: everyone's desires are different. Relax, have fun, and explore what really works for you, because the more you know about yourself, the more you can articulate to others. Also listen closely to what your partner has to say and respond appropriately. The most important part of any relationship, whether it's with a woman, or even with yourself, is honesty. Let your girlfriend know early on what works for you and what doesn't. If your religion has guidelines about sex, follow them as best you can and be honest about them. Also be honest with yourself (and anyone whom you are dating seriously) about your diaper side. Don't try to deny it or make it into something it's not. If the person you're dating really cares about you, she will honor your need for diapers, even if she doesn't wish to participate, herself. She might tell you about her own unique sexual need, too. It's all about trust (in others and in yourself) and communication. You're no weirder than me or a lot of folks on here! Hope this helps a bit.

BBoy, I'm a DL and my wife isn't into diapers. Thankfully, she accepts me for who I am. If I had my way I would wear all the time. Out of respect for her, I fight my desire to wear, and I usually wear only 2-3 days a week. Before I met her I wore diapers in bed every night. Now I wear in bed very rarely. The best thing you can do is show some compromise for your gf and make sure to give her plenty of the things she loves about you. Show her that diapers, while part of who you are, don't define you. She is already giving of herself by being around you with diapers under your clothes. I'm sure that was a big step for her. For now be accepting of that and let her know your appreciation. As you both talk about it and work through it, it will become less of a big deal. And if she leaves you because of it, then your relationship was probably not meant to be. Peace and best wishes to you.

I had one of the adult ones that I bought at Walgreens several years ago. I don't think they still carry them. At the time it was good cuz I had an apartment mate who didn't know I wore diapers. I could dispose of them in my closet with a reduced smell, and wait until he was gone to empty it. It was hard to use, though, didn't always work just right, and only held 5-7 Depend briefs (can't imagine how few x-plus or Molicares it would hold). The size and weight of a soaked adult diaper is much more of a challenge to the mechanical principles of the diaper genie than a baby diaper is, even though it's supposedly "adult-size." So if you're in a situation where you need to be discreet, it's OK, but if you're in a place where u can just put your dirty diapers in an outside trash can or dumpster daily, that's much better.

DiaperLover 24/7, At age 18, you're probably just getting ready to start out on your own, and you probably haven't figured out yet what role, if any, diapers will have in your life. When I went to undergrad, I swore off diapers. I was moving to a new phase in my life. That lasted for about three months, then I was back in them. When I went to grad school, I swore off diapers. Being a few years older I was able to make it a full year and a half without wearing. Then, under the pressures of grad school and a recent marriage I couldn't fight my need to wear any more. My wife has been great about letting me wear from time to time and even helping to diaper me. Ultimately, you have to be true to yourself. If you are able to quit wearing, good for you. If not, figure out a way to be yourself beyond the diapers, and any respectable gf will be happy to like you for who you are. Peace.

I had been worried about that, too, but I quickly found that no one noticed or cared: they were all too intent on the exams, themselves, trying to remember information. I've worn to a couple exams and classes, and I've never yet had anyone seem to notice or comment. Of course, I've also tried to be discreet about it. If you're worried about noise, just wear a jacket or something else crinkly.

As a grad student I wore a diaper for an exam today and found it really helped me relax and concentrate. Are there any other DLs out there who find the same? I wonder if diaper sales go up in college towns around this time of year. Is this a trend? I'm curious about your thoughts or if you've had any experiences like this.

Hi, I'm a DL who sometimes has small leaking accidents, especially under stress. I first got interested in diapers as a kid partly because I had some burning and dribbling - the doctor said I was just hyper-sensitive as all tests checked out fine. Is there anyone else here who isn't incontinent but sometimes has discomfort and minor accidents? Does that put us somewhere between wanting diapers and needing them - sort of a half-need?