ABDLincontlady

Just not being able to wear a diaper when you craved doing but couldn't for some reason so is punishment enough. A punishment for not wearing one when you could have and you spent all your time thinking about wearing a diaper when you should have done other things is very deserved. You need to get back the time you lost. First, get diapers you can wear all the time in and out of the house and wear them 24/7. But you cannot use them, they must stay bone dry. You must keep them on when your mother comes as well.

If I were you I would be happy just to be triple diapered so I waddled all weekend, but I would want quite a few changes. Damp diapers are fun but soaking wet ones are cold and uncomfortable even if one doesn't get a rash.

This is for people who have no one to safely spank them and feel wierd spanking themselves. This is where we can talk about why we need a spanking, what kind of spanking we administered to ourselves and how we feel. As for me I have no one to safely spank me but I just need a spanking to feel the sting to get going on work I need to do. I pulled down my pull up and bent over my bed on pillows for a better reach. I spanked myself very hard five times on each cheek with a hairbrush, a kind of humiliating instrument used on little kids. Now I am back feeling the warm softness of the pull up everywhere but my cheeks where the sting is sharp and I need to adjust how I sit to feel comfortable. But I feel good about myself, that I am able to be a discplined able to accomplish things adult. I have a lot to get done. I feel like a student at a fancy prep school who assumes the position and accepts the cane as a way to move ahead in his/her life, learning life's lessons anyway he/she can to move ahead of the game. My discpline also includes a time limit on my time here on this posting board, just one day a week. So have a good week or so everyone.

You also asked about changing while you are still dribbling. I don't have this problem but you could change standing over a toilet or sitting or lying on a plastic sheet placed on your bed or chair.

Just so I am not a lurker today, I can go for periods when I just wear pads for stress incontinence liking the softness also as a DL and go about my life, not coming to this screen name and posting site. Then I just feel an urge to just be as I am now in a pull up with nothing else on, that I can dribble in but not soak, sucking on a binky as the pre-schooler I am in my AB life. Usually it is because I am tired and overwhelmed. As long as I keep a balance and not isolate all day here avoiding people and obligations I feel I am OK. Also it was interesting that on a "Las Vegas" rerun on NBC Friday night one of the hostesses had a guest who did not like her being nice. Finally he was happy when she told him to go stand in the corner. She said to another hostess "He's a CEO, a big shot during the day who wants to be in a diaper and spanked at night."

Yes, I agree. A preschooler is more able to do things for him/herself and wants to do them and is more able to empathize with people and not want their own way crying, throwing tantrums and doing things just to annoy to get attention. But he/she still likes comforting through young things like pacifiers, bottles and soft diapers and likes to play more than work. He/she is expected to play more than work. His/her work is helping out like putting his/her toys away or fetching things easy to carry. A preschooler has control of his/her bowels and a lot of control over his/her bladder. But sometimes he/she gets busy or involved playing or helping with easy work and needs to dribble or doesn't run/walk fast enough to make it to the toilet and dribbles. A preschooler also needs to be protected from him/herself when playing or going about as he/she doesn't have a sense of safety, though he/she knows not to play with electric outlets. While a preschooler doesn't need to be put in a playpen, when playing outside he/she needs to be in a fenced area or tethered by a rope or chain to a pole or tree. When going places he/she might need to be on a leash or harness as he/she might get so involved in what he/she is seeing or doing he/she might run ahead into traffic or fall. Preschoolers also need to learn things to be ready for school and need to be in a discpline situation to keep still to do this work.

Once I went to have my haircut at a unisex barber shop and a man was there with a boy about 6. He had his hair cut and then sat perfectly still on a chair while his father or uncle had his hair cut. He didn't wiggle around, talk to any one, just sat up straight obedient to the core. I like the idea of being that kind of pre schooler too. And I have the privilege of wearing pull ups I can dribble in so when the adults are busy when we are out shopping or the like they don't have a whiny kid wanting to disrupt the flow needing to go to the toilet. I can dribble until it is convenient for them to take me. At first I didn't like the wetness of the dribbles but now I like it, it is warm. Of course, if I get upset and disobedient and just soak myself making a mess I get spanked. I obediently assume the required positions for my spankings as I know they are deserved. I hate messes as much as them.

Long posts are OK. They just need to be broken up into a lot of little paragraphs. I had the embarassment when I first went on the Internet and to alternate. newspostings of having one of my postings come up on a net search using my full name, not my screen name. It was because the ISP put one's full name in parentheses next to one's screen name. And someone put my posting on his website. I got him to take it off. Also I got a search engine for news groups to take off all of my postings that showed my full name. That happened 10 years ago and I never posted on such a news group since. I use a different screen name here that I use for other things I do on the net. I will do a googlesearch of my screen name I use here and see what comes up. Thanks for the warning.

Wearing a diaper because one dribbles justifies them as necessary to a diaper lover that is to be sure. As the preschooler I am I can dribble when I want and keep my diaper dry when I want. I will never get spanked! Yeah!

As a woman, I like to see other women just be themselves content and relaxed in their diapers not caring to pose in a sexy or cute for anyone else. I like to see men that way too. The Club Diaper picture of the woman with her bottle in today's picture gallery is what I am talking about.

I like the relaxation of dribbling when I am concentrating on "my work" as a "big person" but don't like the feeling of soaking my diapers. Spankings for soaking when I am fortunate to have some continence are justified, for dribbling not. I think a lot of people would like the comfort and security of being able to dribble in a diaper. I think parents who let their older children wear diapers/pull-ups all the time (that they of course change themselves) are being kind to their kids.

A Depends adjustable pull-up over a Tena Serenity Discrete Activewear that were on sale but I don't like very much. I do not have permission to get dressed in big people clothes, a t-shirt and shorts-- as the preschooler I am because yesterday I soaked my diaper. I am only allowed to dribble. The hairbrush spanking still stings but I need this further reminder that I am not a baby who can do whatever she likes.

I always worried about my family finding out about this if I died/became very ill suddenly. I am not lying to them except when I say I am doing useful, productive things and I am spending that time on the Net. However, I put a note in my AB/DL drawer saying how I read in Anne Landers how this was a way to cope with stress instead of drinking, shopping, gambling, etc.

What is the lie about? A lie is usually defined as when another person thinks something you tell them is true, but it really isn't. So I don't see anything about my AB/DL stuff a lie to anyone. I think that I don't need to know everything about everyone and no one has to know everything about me especially if it doesn't affect them personally. Like to read posts in response to my thinking about this.

I can see now when I was a kid, I also wet my pants a little when I was anxious. Now I realize that I have a little incontinence as an adult when I am anxious and then the idea I could wet/dribble increases the anxiety. So I can see that my wearing diapers 24/7 as someone prone to anxiety (I don't want to take medication for it but use other means to not have it overwhelm/paralyze me) is not a bad idea.

Right now I am in a t-shirt, bra, diaper, Depends adjustable, and shorts. I went out to do errands like that. If I stay on line too long like last Sunday and not do things I need to get done, I will be back in just a diaper nothing else the times I need to be in the house. At first that was freeing, but as time wore on it was humiliating in a way. That is a consequence if you will of my hiding out here not taking care of my life.

Yes, I am doing what I need to do just like others do what they need to do to relieve anxiety. I guess my problem is neglecting my other things when I am anxious, hiding out here on this site for hours and hours losing time I need to keep my life going. I need some controls. So I put on parental controls to limit the time I can spend here, not all day like last Sunday and to have unpleasant consequences if I don't keep that promise to myself. Does anyone else try to limit their time here to not let it get addictive? How do you?

I wish more people would post here. Anyway, I have a whole new attitude towards my diaper wearing. I saw someone from church, a person with a good sense of herself, dressed in shorts at a picnic and though I wasn't looking for it, she was definitely wearing disposable diapers. I just want to be careful that I don't spend a lot of time here at my only DL/AB website so I don't get important things done. I felt really bad that I was here all afternoon last Sunday. I punished myself by making myself only be in the apt in a diaper for three days during the week, not allowed even to get the mail. I hated that. So today, Sunday, I plan to do work and come here. Other days I have a time limit.

The people here who are wearing diapers for incontinence aren't wierder than anyone others going to posting areas for medical problems. Nor are people who are acting as AB's from time to time to relieve stress wearing diapers, sucking on pacifiers, and if they are lucky enough getting someone to change them. Anne Landers says a lot of people do that. I also don't find people into spankings weird though others might. Then there are people who try to become incontinent when they aren't or people who want others to see their diapers or people into punishments that make them go in their diapers. I personally find their posts weird and depressing.

That's a good idea for pools, plastic pants. I need some anyway, wish I hadn't thrown the others I had out thinking I was done with this. As for the main topic about risking going without a diaper after one has lost control issues, that's what it is a risk. But there are different types of protection for different situations where discretion might be needed--thick pads, undergarments, pull-ups etc. And they are all so soft and comfy so they can be enjoyable.

Welcome from another "older lady." Feel free to message me if my profile looks OK with you.

I found once one shows signs of lost control, willingly or for many of us unwillingly, it is risky to go about for very long without protection, even if only an underpad. Since I developed stress incontinence 12 years ago, I have worn something 24/7 except when swimming. If there were discreet "little swimmers" for us adults I would like to know.

I have worn Depends undergarments under shorts. In the summer, I can just be in my apt. with only a diaper on. It is on a high floor so no one can see in.

I have stress incontinence and then learned to like and even get comfort from the feeling of the softness and security diapers provide. Many people wear something for incontinence, it is a big market. Once I saw a photo of women lining up for a marathon race and almost all were wearing diapers of some kind like Depends undergarments.

No, but I wouldn't like anyone to know about my AB/DL life. This is my own special private area I share with you all.