I'm aware of this, and no, I do not consider lying to my doctor. However from what I have heard about urodynamics, the tests might be so flawed, that they cannot come up with any firm conslusion on what's causing it. what's the most important for me, is to know, that nothing serious is wrong with me, that is cancer, diabetes, or something other serious decease.
Although my leaking is annoying I have learned to deal with it, and honestly, I don't see it as a big problem....don't get me wrong, I was in a pretty bad mood, when it started and the embarrassment of needing to wear protection did make me feel less of a man - there is a stigma to diapers, whether we like it or not. However my wife have been a great supporter, and although it does annoy her somewhat, mainly because my private parts aren't readily accessible as they used to - as she puts it, it's kinda turn-off for her, if she should open my diaper in order to have it her way. Besides this, she's still there for me and as said a great support.