MommyK80

Kids should play with whatever they like. My daughters like hot wheels and transformers as much as Barbies and makeup.

I'm a babysitter based in Riverside.

I spend weekends in Glendale

Yeah I know all the safety guidelines. My bf being involved just isn't a possibility. We already have a nice public place picked for meeting, at his request, so that's a positive. Could have been picked for false security, but my boyfriend, best friend and husband all know where I'm going. I'll set up calls every 15 min

Having my boyfriend come with isn't an option. The guy had a pic of a nice nursery on his ad, but idk if it's his or just a photo he pulled off the web. I'm thinking I'd like to stay at $100., but my bf says take anything over $50. Which I get, that's still twice as much as the average job in our area. But I looked up ab babysitters for our area, and all that came up was his ad. So I'm thinking I'm probably the only serious response he got. Which puts me in a good position, assuming he has the money to pay me. If that was his nursery, I'm thinking he does. But I'm wondering if I should even do it. My bf goes back and forth from encouraging to jealous. :/ he knows the job would be good for me financially, and hopes spending more time in a caretaker role will help with some of anxiety I have. All of which I agree with. But then he worries that I may be too stressed from the job to be his mommy (possible) or that I'll fall in love with this guy (not likely, since the dude is 23, too young for me). The other touchy issue is that my husband has no idea my bf and I are into this lifestyle. I've told him I'm looking into a babysitting job (not a total lie, and believable because I've done babysitting on and off in the past). But how do I explain making $100/hr babysitting? I can't. So I'd be hiding money from my husband. I really don't like that idea, at all. It's hard enough to hide pacifiers, diapers and bottles. I know a lot of this goes beyond abdl issues. It's an ab issue, a poly issue and a trust and honesty issue. I just really needed to let it out.

So I was browsing for jobs and came across an ad looking for an ab babysitter (non-sexual). Never really considered this but my bf encouraged me, saying I'm an awesome mommy (blush) and that babysitters are in high demand and charge up to $200./hr in our area. I think for that kind of money, I can give it a try. Except I still consider myself new to this lifestyle and am by no means a pro babysitter. Currently I'm making plans to meet (in public) for an interview later this week. My bf says if it doesn't work out, I could run an ad and seek out ABs, although I'm not really sure about that. There's a lot of weird people out there lol. Any advice on how much I can charge, being this will be my first babysitting job? Really any advice would be apriciated!

I haven't thought about that.. When my dad passed, my mom, my husband and I had to go through all his stuff and we learned all his secrets, some good, some not so good. Thank god my hubby found his porn stash and was able to get it to the trash without Mom knowing. I don't even want to know what was in there! So when I think about it that way, yeah I'd have to say Id prefer if my kids didn't have the added stress of finding out my kink at a time when they'll be overwhelmed with emotion anyway. Maybe when I'm older I'll tape a note to the box. "Some things are better left secret" or something like that. Or maybe will it to an abdl friend. If I pass before my bf, of course, he'll know what's in the box and handle it properly. Although I'd like for my husband to keep the actual box itself since my dad made it... Hmm, got me thinking now. Something I'll have to talk to my bf about. If he were to go first... Well I have all his keys including to his stash, so I'd high-tail it to his place and take the trunk, take the other key and idgaf what anyone would say about it. I'd mainly want it for sentimental purposes though, since it's a lot more than just diapers.

Thanks for sharing! Looks like a fun time!

Ok to be even clearer when I said kids clothes I meant like jeans and t shirt with maybe hello kitty or Care Bears or something along those lines, or pjs with a children's character, but covering everything. I live in California and as far as I know, that's not illegal. And I doubt wearing diapers (as long as they are covered) is illegal in most places because some people do actually need them. So I didn't really mean to start a legal debate, although I know some places in the world do have strict fashion laws. I wouldn't break the law, that's not the kind of thrill I enjoy.

Yeah I'd like to read it. I'm starting to get it. I'm still not good at diapers I always get nervous and do something wrong. But I know he appreciates the effort and I'm sure I'll get it eventually. I just feel so bad sometimes like he deserves a better mommy. I've even encouraged him to look for one but he doesn't want to and on the one hand I'm glad because I'd be so jealous! But on the other hand I'd be happy he was getting his needs met. :/

*opinion

Wow! Thanks for all the responses! Too many to reply to all, but all very appreciated! It didn't occur to me to say it, but just to clarify, I wasn't thinking of doing anything illegal. Anyway, I didn't go through with it. After some thought, I realized that my baby experience is far more emotional than sexual (although not entirely) and it would probably be more of a turn on for my bf than me. To me, it seems pointless. Not to mention that I don't have much in the way of loose fitting clothes lol. And as far as the whole baby thing in public, I think it would be more of a thrill just knowing I'm doing something extremely different that people don't normally see. It would be the same if I wore a Batman costume. I'd be doing it simply to get the reaction. But in reality, I don't think I'm gutsy enough to do it! Probably wouldn't be worth the risk, unless you look at it in the scope of changing public opinion, but that's a whole other discussion in my option. I appreciate all the feedback. Thanks again!

I'm somewhat new to abdl and this site. My bf and i switch it up, sometimes he's the baby, sometimes I am, sometimes we both are. So I know a lot of people wear diapers out, and I'm ok when my bf does it.... But he wants me to do it tomorrow. We planned tomorrow would be my baby day, but we do have a little shopping to do, so he suggested I wear a diaper out, and hinted I may get a toy if I'm good. How do I get over the nerves!? I'm already planning if I go through with it, I want to go out of town, to stores I normally don't go to. Am I paranoid? Another thing is I'm not into diapers as much as he is, I like it when I'm a baby at home, it just seems weird to have a diaper, dress normally, drive to the store and do the grocery shopping. Also on the same subject, I posed a scenario to him a couple weeks ago, and id like some more opinions: what if I were to go out as a baby? I mean jammies or kid-like clothes, paci, stuffy, diaper, sippy cup and all, and do something like go out to lunch or a movie? Has anyone tried this? I just thought it would be interesting to see people's reactions, but I'm also a little scared the reactions could be very bad. Thanks in advance

I think of the paci as a small thing too. If you're really that concerned, maybe you should talk to her. Tell her i bought pacifiers, is that ok with you? Hopefully she'll appreciate your honesty and asking permission, and be open to it. And IMO nothing is too far as long as no one is hurt.

My bf and I are planning on stashing some stuff at my place tomorrow. Excited to have access, but nervous too. A lock is a must since I have children and a husband. But the only good place to store it is a box/trunk type thing hubby and I use as a tv stand. He knows I have a bf, he doesn't know we're abdl. A little worried he's going to notice a padlock appeared.

I have bits and pieces but nothing clear. I've always had memory issues. I can tell you every detail of the movie I watched last night, but I forget things like paying bills or phone calls I should make. I have very few memories of anything. Major life events I sort of hang on to, like my wedding, kids births, and highly emotional events (good or bad) but even then I know I'm missing a lot of details. I can be reminded though, if someone reminds me by telling the story. But my mom also has a terrible memory and will tell me the same stories several times over, sometimes within weeks. So I wonder if listening to that fabricated some memories.

This made my day! I've struggled with diaper changes and needed to read this. Thank you for sharing

Lol thanks but he's my bf we don't actually live together yet. Plus he has cerebral palsy so giving him all the domestic duties would be unfair. But I see your point. I do still struggle with some "mommy" things but now that we haven't made mommy/baby time in a couple weeks, I'm starting to miss it! It seems like there's never enough time!

http://www.the-all-in-one-company.co.uk This site sells custom jammies. They have tons of options for styles and prints. I'd be surprised if they don't have teddy bears.

Since then he's become much more comfortable in the daddy role and has gotten used to the title. I think it helped when I told him I don't ever remember calling my actual father "daddy."

I agree, just ask him.

Mommastephanie, I'm glad you got something out of my ranting, even if it wasn't my intention! I've just always tried to be open minded.

I have a new issue and since I don't know where else to post it, and the history in this topic is relevant, I'm updating and hoping someone reads it. So last week the bf and I were having a rather intense conversation, and I could tell he needed serious comforting, and offered to rock him. The mommy thing clicked for me. At least I feel like I finally "get it." It was very intense for me and I was excited to really start persuing this! Until, over the weekend, he told me that he understands now that it's stressful for me and he doesn't want me to be his mommy anymore. He likes it more when we're both babies. (He also played daddy for me one day and I tried my first diaper! He said he enjoyed that a lot, I know he did, and so did I!)Talk about not being on the same page. I can't seem to get through to him that the only thing now is my issue with diapering him, and if he'd be patient with me, I'm sure I'll eventually get there. It's just going to take some getting used to. It seems to be so all or nothing with him. I don't understand his mindset of giving up on the whole thing based on one detail. I don't mind him wearing it, wetting it, changing in front of me or anything else he does. I'm so frustrated. I guess I don't have a question, I just don't have anyone to talk to about this.

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I'm new to the AB life but I gotta say my bf created a monster when he gave me a paci! I use it practically every time I'm alone or alone with him. The emotions range from calming to horny depending on the situation, lol not sure what it is but I love it!