You're right about the footed pajamas, they've become more mainstream lately. I guess if she's already tolerant and accepting of me wearing diapers then this shouldn't be too much more. I sometimes wear diapers outside the house though I keep it discreet which is easy to do with a tena slip maxi. I'd never think of using a pacifier out in public, Im far too introverted and shy to do that. Thanks for the advice!