Diaperfox792

Well dang, dang, and dang! Darn weather is going to keep me from getting my diapers until Friday! Grrr! Stupid snow! I was really looking forward to a nice diapered night tonight...sigh. Oh well. I suppose good things are worth waiting for.

Oh I totally understand square_duck! I know women have been harassed to the point of wanting never to come back to sites like this again and I feel bad for them. I really do appreciate Honu's defense of me. It's very gallant. And yes, I think sometimes those HNG's could tone it down a bit. If a man wants a one-night stand or a "lady of the night" there are other sites for them and they don't need to be bothering the ladies who come to DD for serious community and assistance.

Hmmm... Diapers are sexy! Who needs any other reason? I swear, to me

Pretty much everything I do when I'm not in diapers! It just adds a little thrill to everything else.

Hi NewGuy20, I read the blog you posted the link to and the below comments. I think you may have found some pretty sound evidence there of underlying psychological needs that in some people may come out as AB/DL-ism! I'm not a psychologist though so this is an uneducated opinion but I think your theory may be fairly sound. You may want to take into account, though that this is just one guy's take on what men really want and how they are inside.

First, I would like to thank everyone here for their responses, ideas, thoughts. That's why I keep coming back to this site, because it is a non-judgemental community of peers with the same interests who have had various levels of experience.

Sigh. Confession time! At the end of this past

ROFL! I'm 33! I don't "go to class." If I did it would be college (which I've already been through) and there aren't any "bells" in college. I'm sorry, I just found that hilarious since the little blurb under my non-picture clearly states that I'm 33 and I have mentioned in this thread that I do go to work. As for the incontinence thing, as previously stated in this thread I really don't want to fake incontinence because then I would be expected to wear diapers every day. I want the freedom to wear often but I'm not too crazy about going 24/7 for the rest of my life. Thanks for the imput though.

Has anyone ever thought of writing a book somewhere along the lines of "When Someone You Love, Loves diapers"? I'm just curious and I was thinking about it the other day. It would be like a Q/A book for the parents/friends/realtives, etc. of DLs and ABs. It might make it easier for people who want to come out of the diaper-closet but who just don't know what to say. Comments? Questions? Imput? By the way, I don't feel I have the ambition to write such a book so if someone wants to use the idea, please feel free. I'll buy a copy!

Oh I had a complete checkup (including blood tests) at the beginning of this summer and everything was fine (except my cholesterol). My doc didn't seem to be too worried about the dry mouth. I'm on 150 mg of sertraline (brand name Zoloft) for anxiety. Ever have a panic attack? NOT FUN! Anyway, one of the side effects of sertraline is dry mouth. I also looked up online to see if it could be related to my OAB and the general answer was yes. Thanks for being worried about my health, though. You're a sweetie!

Thanks pampers212. I read the article. I gathered from the topics of some of her other posts that she is traveling around the world over the course of a year and might have control problems as she mentions fearing having a "puddle" under her on the bus. Might be a good excuse to wear, but I'm not traveling around the world! I do have access to clean bathrooms everywhere I go. I'm pretty sure if I lived away from my parents that I would have a more open outlook on the whole diaper-wearing thing. I'd certainly wear more often! I don't want them to worry about me or think that I'm strange or that they did something wrong when they raised me that turned me into a weirdo. Thus, the topic of this thread: An Excuse to Wear Diapers. I would never want my parents knowing I loved diapers in a sexual way. It's fear of that discovery/disclosure that keeps me thinking about "valid" excuses.

My diaper dreams usually revolve around me being found out by my parents. I call them nightmares! It's the worst thing about being in the closet because I'm in constant fear that my stash will be discovered or I'll be wearing a diaper and they will notice. This translates very easily into some nasty dreams.

Thanks. I checked out these two websites yesterday. The prices are somewhat intimidating but the pants all seem to be high quality and comfortable looking. I like the idea of the terry-lined ones Babykins sells. This weekend was interesting. I had almost all of Saturday to myself. I had worn a diaper over night, woken up several times to wet it, then back to sleep. (Still hard to do without some kind of mental distraction like my MP3 player.) I crept downstairs early to do my morning routine and was able to stay in my overnight diaper until about 7:30 a.m. Then for the rest of the morning no diaper. Then my parents left the house around noon. I diapered up around 12:30 and went out shopping. I discovered the most wonderful garment for keeping the diaper snug to my body: lady's shapewear pants! They're deliberately tight to keep your tummy nice and slim and are much more supportive than the cotton bicycle shorts I'd been using. They also reduce the noise of the diaper more effectively, though I was also wearing jeans over this so that helped in the noise arena as well. As I was shopping I peed several times in the diaper. Then I drove to a local trail system and had a good half hour hike, going as I went. Then I drove home and stayed in the diaper. Unfortunatly, when I got up from resting on my bed I noticed a wet spot on my sheet! Grrr! I guess I had overloaded my diaper again! WTF? I really have to start either a) changing more often or wearing plastic pants! I stripped the bed, poured baking soda on the mattress cover to absorb any remaining dampness or smell, and promtly threw my sheets, pants, and shapewear into the wash. I'm glad no one was home! All in all I spent about four and a half hours in that diaper (without booster I might add). I think I'm going to have to start changing them after about three and a half hours which doesn't help me for daytime wear at work much. I just have such a hard time knowing when the diaper is full, or ready to leak unless I deliberately flood and feel the pee trickle down my leg!

Acutally, rusty pins, I try to stay away from as much caffeen as possible! I ususally have my morning cuppa joe but after that, nothing. But I do drink a lot of water. I used to drink more but then I was running to the bathroom every 20 minutes or so. Sometimes I still do when I've drunk "too much" (which seems to be anywhere from 16 to 24 ounces in a 4 hour period). I have tried the Priva pants before, just not out and about yet, and all three pairs split at the seams even though they were the correct size and not over loaded after just one or two wears. I have a snap-on pair of Leakmaster pants but the elastic at the leg cuffs chafes horrible! Maybe I just got a defective pack of Privas last time? Who knows. Maybe I'll try them again because they were softer around the leg gathers than the Leakmaster. I agree Craisler, I wouldn't go all day without changing my diaper. I was thinking of changing at lunchtime anyway. Thanks Square_duck for the suggestions. I actually wanted to wear a booster for two reasons: one, extra thickness cause it feels nice, and two, exactly what you said, the cloth-backed products suck so I figured I'd need some extra protection. My theory now is that I just didn't have the diaper on propperly around the legs. Like you also mentioned, it's difficult to get the cloth-backed products to fit well. Abena made a huge mistake making those Air Pluses without a rear elastic waistband! The wings on them also seem to be cut differently or something compared to the plastic M4s, which fit me perfectly. I was going for discretion but I guess I'm going to have to re-think things a bit. Thanks, everyone for being so helpful!

Woke up twice last night/early morning and managed to wet my diaper but it is still a huge concious effort to just relax and let go. I wonder if I just stick to wearing diapers every single night if wetting will get easier? I also tried the positive self-talk like Howdy, telling myself I'll wet in my sleep. Well, silly me has to go and wake up every time I get close to the urge to pee!

Right now: Abena M4 with maxi booster pad, status: wet and loving the bulk!

Thanks Craisler, I might order a pair. I order all my diapers from them anyway! I purchased one of the body stocking/onesies from them but it was too long for me even though I ordered a medium. I can probably tailor it to my size but I just haven't gotten around to it. I have some bicycle shorts that might do the trick in the meantime. I've worn them before but never all day with a fully-loaded diaper so I'll see how they'll hold up. And you're right about women's underwear, they couldn't hold up ***t (which is why I prefer diapers, cause they do hold ***t)! LOL! Anyway, have a nice day!

Ok, today was the day I was gong to try and wear diapers all day long without anyone around me noticing. I had made up my mind last night to try it. A little background for those of you who haven't read all my posts: I live with my parents and until now, never had the courage to wear my diapers around them for fear of discovery. I've worn at work before but only in the afternoons when I knew I was going straight over to my DL-aware friend's house. So, got up this morning after a night in an Abena M4 with their abri-let maxi booster in it. Braved going downstairs in my diaper (under nightgown) and doing my normal morning stuff since normally my parents (who are retired) do not get up until after I've left for work. So far, so good. I changed into an Abena Air-plus with abri-let maxi booster and just before it was time to go to work I went back downstairs to browse the DailyDiapers forum for a few moments before I left. At this point, Mom decides to get up and come out to the kitchen for some coffee... GAH! Stay cool, I said to myself. She won't notice. I took my own advice and made it out of the house with her not noticing a thing. Yay! I was wearing a size too large pair of jeans with a long t-shirt and x-large sweatshirt over it so I was covered. Work went well first thing and I felt confident that my diaper could get me through to lunch time when I intended to change in the work bathroom before going home for lunch. *sigh* I went, and I went, and went, three or four times in my diaper while I sat and worked. So far so good, no leaks. I got up a bunch of times to walk across the department for various things and no one screamed out, "She's got a diaper on!" Still I felt dry and confident. Then, about fifteen minutes to my lunch time arrives and I decide it's now or never to go change in the bathroom. The diaper was getting a little heavy, and the wet had wicked up the back of the booster. I stood up and felt my seat and GODDAMNIT! I had leaked! Ticked me off really because I had made a conscious effort not to flood the diaper. I had also trusted the booster pad to be like an added catch-all. Nope. Luckily, the leak was a tiny one, just around the middle of the crotch line of my pants. I took off the diaper and bagged it in a waiting kitchen trash bag from my purse, struggled to get the huge soaking bundle back into my overloaded purse, all while trying to be as descrete as possible in a busy-as-Grand-Central bathroom! I'd spent so long in there I didn't dare try fiddling to put on my fresh diaper. My panties and jeans were almost dry by the time I got to my car but still damp-ish. Decided to change at home. Luckily I have an identical pair of jeans to the ones I was wearing. I went upstairs and took off the damps, put on the drys, ate a quick lunch, and dashed back to work. Mom and pop didn't notice anything weird. (Thank God for long shirts!) My confidence is shattered though. I deliberately chose the thick air-plusses by Abena for their descreteness and also they seem as thick as the regular M4s. I really don't think I could get away with a plastic-backed diaper even if it would help with the leakage and even though I LOVE my M4s. Any thoughts, ideas, suggestions? I don't mind trying this again at some point as it is my goal to spend some quality 24/7 time with my diapers in the near future. I just don't want another near-disaster again and I kind of don't want to wear plastic pants over my diapers because I don't like being too hot. Maybe someone has had better success with a different cloth-type-backed disposable? I'd like to only have to change once or twice at work so I would need a diaper that could last me about four and a half hours without a change.

One word: Jealous!

Jeff, have you tried replacing soda with seltzer water or perrier water? I used to drink tons of soda when I was younger, several times a day, but now I drink almost exclusively seltzer water. It's more fun and tastier (in my opinion) than regualr water. Polar Seltzer comes in a large array of flavors. They even have an eggnog flavor around Christmas time that is pretty good (not that it will ever replace real eggnog)! There are also a lot of calorie-free, sugar-free drink mixes out there that can be added to water to make it taste like not-water. If you really HAVE to have your daily soda fix then go with diet, always. Or, once a week, splurge and have the 1 can of sugary soda but make it diet the rest of the time. Find your own balance. Also, I don't think anyone has mentioned the two words that are pretty much the greatest killer of Americans these days: Saturated Fats. These little buggers cause plaque to build up in your arteries resulting in heart attacks. I was diagnosed recently with high cholesterol and had to cut WAY back on this stuff. It's in practically EVERYTHING! Ignore the cholesterol measurements on the nutrition labels. Choloesterol in food doesn't necessarily convert into cholesterol in your body. What does it is the saturated fat. Cheese, I believe, was my killer. I used to eat a good hunk of cheddar every single day. If you read the label on most cheeses you'll find that a 1 inch cube (1 inch!) has about 1/3 of your allowed saturated fat for the day! Holy crap! I switched to low-fat string cheese so I could get my daily "fix." I also switched to zero-saturated-fat/zero-sugar creamer for my coffee. I eat lean meats. I stay away from baked goods except for bread and when I eat bread I make sure it's whole wheat instead of white. ANYTHING with added sugar is going to make you gain weight. Why? Because if your body dosen't burn the sugar off then it's going to store it as fat. Fat = an increase in your cholesterol = and increase in the likelyhood you will die of of a heart attack. I agree with you about the exercise. It's HARD when your body isn't able to do the things it used to be able to do, especially if you're in pain. Start slow. Walk a regular route 15 minutes a day without stopping. Bump it up to 1/2 hour daily. Exercising heavy several times a week is great but it's hard to stick to. Doctors recommend AT LEAST 1/2 hour of moderate exercise 5 to 6 days a week JUST to MAINTAIN your current body weight. If you want to loose weight it's gotta be more like an hour of SUSTAINED exercise (not just walking while you shop which involves a lot of stopping, looking, resting, etc.) daily. Walking is free. You don't have to join a gym. If you're looking for a cardio workout in the winter time, purchase a compact exercise bike. I bought one from Amazon for $210. I use it all winter long when I can't get out and walk. It sounds like a lot of money but if you use it regularly then it will pay for itself and is a LOT cheaper than joining a gym in the long run. I've had mine for about 4 years now. It's a Schwinn and it's got different settings so you can start out very easy and work up to difficult. AND it's low impact! Best of luck, Jeff. I hope you find a system that works!

Speaking from a female perspective, it is very difficult to trust anyone you meet online, especially guys, because no matter how nice he seems at first, there's always the potential that he might be the next Craig's List serial killer. It sucks bigtime that women (and men) have to be so damned cautious these days. I think the media is partly responsable for hyping the few incidents of violence that result from one person meeting physically a total stranger they encountered online. But the effect has been such that no logical-thinking lady wants to be the next victim. Distance, too, is a huge factor. For example, sweetandsensitiveguy, you live in Texas, I live in New England, totally opposite side of the country. Even non-Ab/DL relationships have a hard time functioning over that kind of distance. Cripes, if I can't drive to someone's house in 1/2 hour or less I tend not to keep in touch with them, regardless of our relationship. I also agree with the aforementioned idea that one can't build a relationship just around diaper-wearing. There has to be something more there first, sexual attraction, romantic interest, common likes and dislikes, just like in any normal relationship. Expecting a woman to fall in love with you (or even want to go out on one date) sight unseen through an online encounter is just expecting too much. Even after long-time electronic communication, it may feel to the woman like they are still talking with an anonymous stranger because online we can pretend to be whoever we want to be. There are trolls out there. Finally, many females probably don't come to sites like this to meet their future mates. Personally, I came to this site for support from fellow Ab/Dl's because I needed to know I was not alone. I needed a place where I could talk freely about my fantasies and my diaper-wearing and not have to censor myself or hide. It's a relief to have access to a sort of "shadow" community of folks who don't know you but who will listen to you and give you all kinds of advice. It's a lot easier to tell a stranger about stuff like this than to confess to people who are invested in your physical and psychological health and who care deeply for you. It's kind of like talking to a panel of amature psychiatrists (no offense to any actual psychiatrists on here). Meeting someone who becomes one of those very important people in your life is a rare side benefit. I think trying a dating website for relationship finding would be more appropriate than a discussion site like this. Many dating sites have people who are interested in things like diapers and such. Just do a search. But be prepared, the above cautions apply to dating sites too. Women are still cautious and suspicious of ANY male who comes on too strongly.

My trick with two tape diapers is to always fasten the top/waist tabs first. This is when I am lying down on my bed or other flat surface. Then I can adjust the leg section better. I also tend to put my diapers on in a "dead frog" position, i.e. with my legs wide open to the sides, knees bent. Also, try sucking in your belly a bit so that you are "thinner" right where the top tabs are, fasten the tabs, and then release your hold on your belly. I find that takes away the extra space and leaves the diapers nice and snug all night. I tend to wear my normal panties and jeans/shorts/skirts below my naval so I used to fasten the diaper that way too but I found that the front of the diaper actually has to be almost even with the back of the diaper so it now comes up just over my belly button. One more tip, be sure you pick a disposable that fits you. It took me years to find the right disposable that didn't leave a gap in the back where my spine is or not have a good grip around my legs. Not all diapers are made the same. Some wing designs are not made for people with no back/hip/buttocks. Others are made for people who basically have no curves! Try different brands/sizes, etc. until you find the fit that's right for you.

Wow, I didn't extpect this to be such a hot topic! I also didn't expect the multitude of suggestions for keeping diapers hidden/secret, or openly wearing. I have worn the cloth-outter-style Abena M4s before in front of friends/co-workers with a pair of cotton stretch bicycle shorts over them under jeans with a long t-shirt on top. That seemed to do the trick well as far as no noise but I would still hesitate to wear around family at home since those diapers are pretty thick and create bulges when wet that are not hidden well by clothing. Luckily I do take care of my own laundry and as far as I can tell my parents are not so invasive as to go into my room and actually dig for anything unless I told them they could. It really wouldn't take much digging to find my stash (back of closet and between mattress and box-spring of bed)! My ready excuse would always have to be something like, "I started wearing those when I was having those bouts of IBS a while ago, just in case," which I have suffered from occasionally so there would be some truth in the statement. And of course the OAB excuse. For now I think keeping things a secret still is probably the best. I just don't have the guts to come out!