superdiaperbaby

Ok, I have read all of these posts and I have to say, What is up with the noobs attitudes? These forums have never been a swearfest or mean to our members. I have stayed on them for years because everyone around here is generally respectful to others. Welcome to boards but please be respectful. Now to the topic at hand, I think it has been handled well. I mean sure at the beginning it seemed like she was overreacting, but there was no chance for meaningful communication so I think a bit of mercy is warranted on both parties. Sure the ultimatum was given, but then retracted. It shows you that she was not the bad person everyone thought she was. However, on the flip side the fact that you were ready move out for your fetish shows that you were more convicted than her. This kind of shows us what kind of relationship you have. You have the capability of guiding her in this journey. Now that you have explained, stop wearing so much and don't press anything. Let her just get used to the idea first before walking in front of her. Maybe once in a while wear under your clothes. Relationships are a two way street and if there is no respect by both parties then they will surely end. I think it is on the right track, just take it easy and don't press anything and maybe show her that she is important to you as well. Now if she is well under the importance range because you had everything packed and weren't mourning the loss of your relationship then maybe it is time to part ways. SDB btw: Loose is something that is not tight. "Lose you" is when you don't want someone to leave you. Spellcheckers won't find that.

Give it time. You may be suffering from depression if you can't identify a source. If you are and don't want to go through the whole therapy/meds stuff try taking Chromax(chromium picolinate) - studies show it has turned around some depressions (like mine). I used to not get out of bed and now I just have to. Even though the doc just started me on zoloft as well and I have to say it has been a long time since I have felt this good. SDB

This thread gives some insight into some of us perceive ourselves and not how others perceive us and it is scary. Think about it. If you never knew about abdl and read a story about a kid who was a bedwetter who was forced to wear diapers you would not see it as sexual. A normal person would see it as maybe psychological abuse but not sexual. If you never knew about abdl and read a story about a preteen wanting to wear diapers and wet them you would think that the story is weird, but not sexual. What I am saying is, because we are sexual in diapers we assume that stories involving minors in diapers are sexualizing children even though from an outside perspective it does not. Maybe those who read stories of kids in diapers are really confused and feel guilty for tieing the two together. I agree it is best to stay away from them just so we don't get confused. SDB

I think a 2 tape system would be possible, the tapes would have to be around 6 inches wide and would have to start in the back and be able to be pulled to the front of the diaper, basically look proportional to a baby diaper. Maybe have the kind of velcro system as well so that you can adjust it easily. Maybe that is the next step for Bambino's. Make a diaper that is proportional to baby diapers of today complete with the cloth feel and velcro tapes. SDB

Wait until you have told her you love her. I waited with my girlfriend after 6 months when I told her I love her and then told her about me liking diapers 3 months later. It worked out well because she is now my wife. Now I did this based on experience. Being a closet AB/DL is as serious as being in love. If you are not willing to say I love you then you should not be willing to share your biggest secret. Some people say you should do the reverse, but what if you don't love her and tell her your secret. Then you realize you need to break up and she tells the world your secret. Being in love impacts how she reacts to your secret very much. If you are sure she loves you then this is a test of that love. I know it may seem cruel because it would hurt alot if she says no. But, it is a good test. IMO wait for the I love you back. Then later on you are going to have a very hard time telling her, but when you do it will bring you closer than you can imagine. SDB

That happened to me once back when I really tried the ole squat and poop and was constipated. I went to the doc and acted like it happened while moving something. He gave me some antibiotics since my stomach muscle area was hot and eventually the swelling went down and it was all back to normal. I would go to a doctor for it. He may be able to fix in 2 days what would normally take 2 weeks to heal. SDB

1. Adults are hypocritical in a way. And I don't mean just diaper wearing. We drive, we tell our kids not to drive. We can drink and smoke we tell our kids not to drink and smoke. We can vote, our kids are not allowed. We can do alot of things our kids can't do and all of it could be said to be hypocritical. I don't see why adults who wear diapers by choice can't limit their kids use of diapers. It is a right of every adult to do stuff our kids are not allowed to do. 2. Bambinos specific intended purpose is for adults who enjoy wearing diapers. Case closed. 3. Hygene? I guess babies are unhygenic. The only thing we have to worry about is diaper rash and if you take care of it you are hygenic. Pee is not unhygenic and in certain situations is an antiseptic. Now poo is unhygenic and care must be taken in disposing of it as bacteria can spread. You need to explain to your wife that sometimes things don't make sense to people yet they are still done because it makes sense to the person doing it. No AB ever says "I need to stop cause its unhygenic." All of the arguments presented are what they call "straw men" arguments. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Straw_man SDB

That is another reason not to want to be incontinent. I enjoy the relief of peeing a really long pee. It's like aaaaaahhhhhh... SDB

Let's see. Here all the celebrities that have rumors. Rumors IMO are all false but their existence entices the gossipers. There is a rumor that one of the writers for Nickelodean's Rugrats is an AB. Judging by that show I can definitely see how that is possible. The Brad Pitt thing makes sense too as he apperently doesn't shower and uses baby wipes instead. That sounds like a good excuse to wear diapers. Also, any one notice how David Vitter rumors are all over google for diaper fetish? There might be some truth to it. I kind of thought Ozzy's kids had some tendencies when I watched the Osbournes. Then there is Suzanne Summers admission of wearing diapers for bedwetting. Rumors were also that Larry King wore diapers, probably for incontinence. There is a famous musician called diaper man. Also, one of the guys from No Doubt wore diapers on stage during an awards ceremony. There used to be a band called "Diaper Fetish" back in the day. Now the writer of Family Guy either is one or knows someone. Too much AB content in Family Guy. There is also another actor in England who came out about being an AB. And of course rumors that the belated Micheal Jackson is an AB will probably forever be a rumor. Can anyone think of any other common ones? SDB

For browsing history download google chrome: http://www.google.com/chrome Always browse using an "incognito window" or ctrl-shift-n - there is no cache or web history For documents I like using google docs and put my pictures in picasaweb. Basically everything important is in the "cloud" so that I can go to any computer and access it and I don't have to worry about the computer crashing and me losing valuable family pictures and docs. For music, keep it all on an mp3 player and your computer so that if one of them dies you will be able to still have it. Even having a encrypted flash drive can help, but they can get lost and are not easily synced. SDB

One of the things my mother thought about me was that I was lazy, even when I told I liked to wear for fun when I was 24. It got to where I would have to say "The only thing I am lazy about is things that don't matter." There is one thing. Does he clean it up or does his parents? If he cleans it up then it definitely isn't laziness because it is way more work to clean up than to go in the potty. Laziness is a possibility if parents clean him up. So are the medical possibilities. There is also a psychological attachment/fixation to diapers that could be the problem. He is too young for a sexual fetish. If a medical evaluation turns up negative and the accidents keep happening I would take him to a therapist. I believe if the psychological reasons are taken care of you could avoid a diaper fetish in the future. SDB

Should we have key like #ABDL or something so that when people search they will find the messages related?

As far a hygienics concern it is a legitimate concern. My wife had some UTIs when we got married and I know in the back of her mind it was because of me. She now showers after sex and is ok with it. I think it is a good practice anyways. We also play in the night when my diaper is dry. I usually wear it to sleep and wet it in the morning. As far as cost I guess it depends on your budget. If you ever have any extra spending money you should lay diapers out as a priority in your entertainment category. SDB

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Ok avoiding the flaming nonsense I am also wondering about what to do. My first baby is due in September. I think the diapers will be a non-issue for the first year and a half. Then when the kid notices things I will hide it. Now the liberal side of me says be yourself and teach him that he should be himself. But the conservative side of me says it could scar him in the future. I remember reading a story about a famous musician who was scarred by his father crossdressing around him. By scarred I mean he ended up killing himself. I am sure that was not the only reason why, but from his autobiography he was deeply troubled by it. My wife also thinks hiding it is best, so that kind of makes it an easy decision. I think if I was truly open with the world about being a DL then I wouldn't mind who knew and I could teach him to be totally honest about everything. However, as an adult I recognize brutal honesty is brutal and one thing I do not want to be to my own child is brutal. Now maybe when he is older and if I deem him capable of understanding the whole thing with an open mind I might tell him. Who knows what he will be like? I think always measuring the pros and cons will be a lifelong endeavor. SDB

How about just use real pee? I am sure you have an endless supply of that. Just pee in a lab jar and measure the amount each diaper holds. SDB

I tried it to lose weight. One week and I had hurting hemmoroids and had to go to the doctor and get him to look at it. It was embarrassing. If you want to lose control all the way for a day do the deep hypnosis thing. SDB

How about these proofs: Anything that touches sex organs is sexual. Diapers and Underwear touch sex organs therefore diapers and underwear are sexual A fetish is something nonsexual, such as an object or a part of the body which arouses sexual desire or is necessary for one to reach full sexual satisfaction; A diaper is sexual since it touches sex organs Therefore a diaper is not a fetish, but is sexual SDB

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About half of all my dreams I am wearing diapers. It has been like that since I was a kid. Usually it is a normal dream and then halfway through I realize I am wearing diapers and I see how whomever is in my dream reacts. Most of the time I dream that people accept my diaper wearing and they noticed it all along, way before I noticed it, and never said anything. Other times I run and hide when I realize it. SDB

Dude, Be honest. If you are not an AB, don't play like you are. It seems she is confused about everything. My wife knows I am an AB and a DL and the AB stuff she doesn't like to do but the DL stuff she does, like me wearing diapers for sex and to bed. However, it is a rare moment when I pull out a pacifier and she reads to me. It happens about once every two to three months. I know I am one lucky person. But in order to get the spot where we are now I made it a point to tell her that being an AB was nothing compared to my DL activities. I don't have to have a pacifier for the rest of my life, but no diapers would cause severe depression. You don't seem to be happy in what is occurring. You don't seem to be able to communicate why you are unhappy. You are building up a wall of resentment that is the cornerstone of divorce. If you don't come out with how serious it is that you need diapers it will only get worse. This is an argument that needs to be finished and needs compromise. The original argument was never ended. You are not happy. Don't give her an ultimatum and don't let her give you an ultimatum. On the other side it seems she thinks she is satisfying your desires without diapers. So it seems like she can tell you are not happy and is trying to compromise. The problem is it in the wrong direction. How about plastic pants? Will she go for that? What about cloth diapers? Or how about old school multiple layers of underwear? Even though it is not the same it might appease some of your desires. Bottom line is, you need to communicate. SDB

I am a fan of fark.com - so seeing the Utah story appear there makes me think about what could happen if something like that was headline news and my family and friends saw it and how they would judge us based upon the acts of idiots... http://www.fark.com/cgi/comments.pl?IDLink=4392232 SDB

Yes, if I knew someone was wearing diapers at work I wouldn't say anything, obviously. One time I had coworkers talking about some other guy who is in our building who wears diapers. The women noticed first. They were talking about how he smelled like diapers and pee in the elevators. He is older and bigger and walks with a cane. I heard them discussing this and they said if they had to wear diapers they would not show up to work and how he should have permission to work from home so as not to gross others out. A general "gross" feeling was purveyed in the conversation. When I was wearing to work many years ago I knew people knew that someone was changing their diapers in the stall and I think they knew it was me, but I was never sure. I think me taking a backpack to the restroom clinched it. Either way I really didn't care at that point. People who judge someone as gross for wearing diapers are no friends of mine. I had to accept the fact that as time went on the probability that people would notice would continue. So basically I had to determine if it was worth it and at the time it was. Now that I am married with a kid on the way it is not worth it to me to get politics against me. SDB

For those tired of spam calls hook your phone up to a fax machine for a couple of months. I did and get 90% less calls now. Apparently when a fax machine picks up they delist the number. Unfortunately I did not pickup legitimate calls as well so in the end I decided to use my home as a fax and my cell as my home. SDB

Here is the thing. If your intention is to be seen in a diaper to get your rocks off it might not be illegal now but it will become illegal. There was a news story about a guy who exposed his diaper to kids and he kept on getting away with it. During the news story they interviewed various people and they were talking about making it against the law because they were uncomfortable with it. There is no possible way for it to be considered normal to wear diapers out in public sans the costumes. It is wrong. Our laws are made to protect people against the wrongs of society. Because it is socially unacceptable it very well could be construed as lewd. Just the fact that you are thinking about doing it gives credence to recognizing that it could be lewd. It is lewd. Put yourself in their shoes. Image if a gay guy decided it was ok to wear a speedo that displays his weenie encased in speedo(I've seen it before) around you in a public restaurant with your kids at the table. I'd leave the table and get the cops. SDB