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I'm in Burlington County - Delran, Moorestown, Mt. Laurel, etc. I'm an hourish from Long Beach Island. I'm and hour from Princeton and I'm less than half an hour (depending upon traffic) from Philly.

Daddy doesn't think we'll be able to make the August 12th one, either. It's at least an hour away from us (I'm in South Jersey, of course, so every munch has been at least an hour away from me) and Daddy has to work Thursday night and I have to work Friday morning, early. We'd only be able to spend an hour there, for a two hour drive. Daddy says that's probably a "no go". We'll see as it gets closer.

As of right now, Daddy and I will not be coming. Daddy has to be home by 11pm to go to work and I work the next day. NY is a long drive for us. We think we'll be there on the 12th. I'll update you if it changes over the weekend.

There is a great restaurant on LBI called "chicken or the egg" - it's laid back but very fun. It's got a silly menu. There is also a restaurant called "Daddy O". There are some nice places in Cherry Hill. Atlantic city has some nice places too - there is a 'ferry' from Atlantic city to LBI. LBI has an old fashion toy store. I know more about LBI than Atlantic City. I know quite a bit about Princeton and Cherry Hill too. I have a feeling I wont be going to the June munch though, since I have a wedding to attend on the 26th and that is the last weekend.

I have been diagnosed with many things during my life, but I never reached the point of DID. My mother was told that if, after a traumatic experience, you feel as if you must hold the experience in, you are more likely to develop multiple personalities, as a defense. Perhaps this information is the thing to blame people pestering me all of my childhood to "Talk". LOL. I do have a little mode, just like I have a work mode, a serious mode, and a silly mode - this does not mean I have multiple personalities, it merely means that I know when certain actions are appropriate. "By definition we all do, as in anyone who engages in age play is dissociating from their standard way of life." - No offense, Curi, but this is a big statement that, if made in such a way, should have back up. By whose definition? What studies? What gives you the right (however casually you meant it) to say everyone who engages in ageplay is "dissociating from their standard way of life" and suffering from any form of multiple personality disorder? I know what dissociation is. I do not dissociate or deviate from my standard way of life at any time while engaging in age play. I stand in toy isles and wish I could hold a stuffed animal to me like I do at home (and sometimes I do!) but me muttering, like you, doesn't mean that my little is separate. All of me wants to play with that toy, but all of me also knows it may not be the right time, or place, or company. Even young children know this feeling. By three years old we are (beginning) to understand that other people can know different things from us about a situation, rules, or in general. By four and five we begin to define emotional characteristics and often apply them to things that are not human (a crushed cup on the floor may be a "sad cup" to a four year old). As an adult it is still a sad cup, but we have realized that it cannot have feelings and so we say instead "it looks like a sad cup". By six and seven we have developed the ability to understand that other people have perspectives that are different from our own and that we may need to take these into account. What I mean to say here is that we never "grow up" we just learn more about our world and we alter our words and actions to more specifically communicate our ideas to others and to ourselves. Ageplay is about relaxing our filter. Of allowing ourselves to forget the "it is like" "I think" "maybe" "it looks" "it is as if" and just saying what we think, specifically. My Daddy knows I know that a cup isn't human and cannot be sad, but that doesn't stop me from (when in the right place and company) saying "oh no, you dropped the cup. What a poor cup. It's all hurt now" and insisting that Daddy glue it back together! With different company I may say "Oh no, that was my favorite cup. I think I can still glue the handle together - it will look wounded, but oh well!" I liked you post and understood the concept you were thinking of, in terms of yourself. As a general rule, don't make sweeping statements about other people unless you want to be able to back them up (it's the readers choice if they want to read the material, but provide it, if you feel firmly in it's accuracy). Normal human characteristics can become twisted, dissociated, and altered in the face of genetics and or traumatic experiences, but that doesn't make the normal part (like me with the cup, or at the toy store) the altered form. Just because wolves split off and some of them became dogs, doesn't mean that a wolf is a dog or a dog is a wolf. Just because you experience a normal feeling of wanting to play with a toy that you consider stupid at the same time, doesn't mean you are experiencing the same thing as someone with multiple personalities, at any level. There is almost always a spectrum of NORMAL ------- ABNORMAL in psychology - what you described to me, at least, would be on the NORMAL end, which doesn't mean it is going to be ABNORMAL. Wow, it's hard to explain it that way.... WOLF ---- DOG....if wolf is normal (being the beginning species lets say) and dog is abnormal (being the changed due to environmental conditions) then you are a Wolf, which doesn't mean you are related or will become a dog. A dog, on the other hand, is always related to the wolf, however distantly. See what I mean? BLAH! You're making me discuss my PHYCH classes again! lol! You know, tomorrow I will have thought of the perfect essay to explain this whole thing, and then I'll just think "oh well, who over there wants to read a 20 something page essay?" Anyways, good thoughtfulness, but I wouldn't jump to any conclusions or think about it too deeply. Sometimes I think that you put up too many road blocks in your way to just getting in touch with your silly mode, your less critical mode, your playful mode, your "who cares what anyone thinks about me playing with cookie monster at Target" mode. You would like Jean Piaget's work. If you haven't read him, I recommend him. I recommend a specific author that explains his work (Piaget didn't write in English and the translations can be hard to understand sometimes). But I would rather not put that name up, since it is professor of mine. If you're interested, message me. I took a course that really looked into the development of the mind, through infancy and adulthood.

Daddy and I won't be making it to this one. We'll miss all of you and hope everyone has fun. This weekend we have to explain everything to the doggy babysitter and fix things around the house before we leave on the 28th...it won't be THAT fun..so this little bug really is gonna miss not going to the munch. Again, hope everyone has fun!

I donno if Daddy and I will be there. It's almost 2 hours away from us and we'll be leaving for a car trip a couple days after that. I'll ask Daddy and get back to you officially.

I have a Daddy. He reaches way up high stuff for me!

I had a great time! It was so loud that I couldn't hear anyone who wasn't next to me...okay so I really like talking to Pi... *sticks her tongue out at glenn again* it's a little girl thing! Those mini milk cartons are left overs from a sale, so if anyone felt left out and wants some, just tell me. I always have two or three because I have to take pictures of some and then I don't sell the 'model' ones I think we should have NJL pins, different from the ABDL ones And hand stamps so if someone bumps into someone without knowing, they can look when they shake their hand or something! Super excited!

*does the yay for girls dance* *laughs* Sorry just had too...homework makes me goofy...okay too much of it does. *goes back to working hard so she can go to the munch*

I used to use Playtex for Older, before that MAM. Now I use NUK Genius size 3 (I can't have latex), but I broke it and put it back together again so I could have a cute MAM shield, which are also comfier.

That sounds really fun! If it weren't my birthday weekend, I'd drag Daddy to do it with me. Hope you get lots of buddies to come and join.

I love rock candy Okay I love lots of other things, but I can eat rock candy so

I call mine a "silly". I kinda go through pacifier stages, sometimes I don't really want one for weeks or months, or years and when I met my Daddy I was in one of those "eh, not really" sorta stages. But then I really wanted it again, so when I went to tell Daddy about it, I said it was something kinda silly, but I really wanted it. The name "my silly" has sorta stuck ever since. I usually call them a pacifier or binky whenever talking to someone other than Daddy.

I'll pack the stuff I've been using to do it. I took apart all of my MAM's and now whenever I wanna just change my style, I do