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The mediums are like having a parachute between my thighs. Everytime I sit down, the rush of air inflates the parachute and makes a sound like a whoopie cusion! It can be funny, but not usually desireable

yeah, it is the age old question - to poo or not to poo! I don't mind the clean ups so much myself, although kitchen paper and shower is definately the way forward. Shaving the hair from downstairs can also make things a lot easier but then it comes with its own set of (ver itchy) hassle

I am 5'9". Mediums ride waaay too high to wear indiscreetly . The smalls are actually more comfortable once I get the taping right. Wetting at night isn't a problem, it never happens ... execpt on purpose

I've always had issues with adult nappy sizes, and now they've just gotten worse! *sigh* I am quite slim (29" waist, 36" hips), which means I should fit fine into most brands' "small" sizes, but being male means I usually need a bit more room in the crotch. This leaves me with two options: a ) Wear the small sizes lower down. b ) Wear "medium" sizes. Neither solution is perfect. Wearing small sizes around my hips means being quite precise with tape positioning, and can lead to them slipping off when soggy The mediums are really too big for me, they fit up to like 40" waist! It is easier to get a snug fit with ample croth room but the excess of material means they usually leak anyway and are pretty hard to stuff into trousers (pants) comfortably. I've always gone with solution a) using abena abri-form, once I know where to place the tabs to get a good fit they're perfect. I'm just finishing the last of my previous batch (which have lasted me for ages) and opened one of the brand new ones I got today. I noticed that the marked size range was 5cm wider (60-85cm, instead of 60-80cm) but yet oddly the nappies are actually smaller!!! I can still get a decent fit but it's a little bit more fiddly than before. As if I don't have enough trouble with sizes, does anyone else have this problem?

Congrats! I agree with all the advice given so far, though one thing I would add is, when buying ABDL stuff think about where you're gonna put it. I once bought 3 cases of nappies and realised when they arrived I couldn't store them all in my bedroom (I had to be creative there!!!). Living alone means you have a lot more freedom and privacy but there will always be times you'll want to have friends / family round and need to hide your ABDL stuff. I always try to find places that only I would go to, that are preferably easy to get to but also completely out of sight. Good luck!

I live in East London, near Essex but is also quite close to Herts

I find that this technique works best if you mention it as a third person experience. Saying something like "I saw this TV show where this guy dressed as a baby and wore a nappy" allows you much more flexibility then talking about your own sexual fetishes/fantasies. If you phrase it as something that doesn't really concern you but you found odd or amusing then the focus is not on yourself. Other people will inevitably offer their opinions and be candid about it. This way you get to hear what people think without putting yourself out there. I did exactly this once with a group, and most people laughed thinking it a joke. This one girl acted totally disgusted though and had a go at me for even mentioning something so vile Luckily for me I didn't even like that girl to start with. Had it been a girlfriend though, I would have known that telling her would have a) ended the relationship and b ) been used as slander. So I would have kept quiet and ended the relationship some other way instead Discussing sexual fetishes and fantasies with a lover, however, is a perfect moment to say it with something in your defence (as oppossed to just coming out with it out of the blue).

I was trained very early, at about 2yo. The only thing I remember about the process was complaining one time when my mum got some nappies out of the drawer while explaining "if you can't keep your pants dry, you need to wear nappies". I was obviously keen to be a "big boy" then but I can remember being fascinated by nappies and wanting to wear them again as young as 3yo, less than a year later. I'm not sure how I transitioned so quickly, but I was totally obsessed. I would think about it a lot and even just the mention of the word "nappy" was enough to get my attention. There used to be a kid at nursery who still wore nappies and sucked on a dummy (paci). I remember feeling jealous about the extra attention he got when the carers changed him. It was also normal when a kid wet themselves for them to be put in a nappy for the rest of the day. I used to get quite excited whenever this happened and considered wetting myself on purpose - I never did as I was too afraid of what my mum would say. I always managed to satisfy my obsession somehow. I used to sneak out my old cloth nappies and try to put them on. Whenever someone with a kid in nappies came to stay or if we went to visit I would always try and find a way to sneak a couple of nappies out of the pack. It was a major blow to me when I got too big to fit into any kind of nappy or pullup available at the time. I felt like that was finally it and I had to accept growing up. It was a long time from then until recent years when I discovered the internet, the AB/DL community and online purchasing .

I never set out to tell people, when I told the few people that know it just sort of happened. Since then I have realised I feel differently about things. Previously, when the only people who knew about the ABDL in me were here online I felt like I had a deep dark secret. Even though I knew it was nothing to be ashamed of, the fact that no one in my life knew and as far as I knew would not accept it, made me feel that way about it anyway. Since telling a few people and them being accepting, it feels more like a special secret that only special people are allowed to know about. This is a far more positive state of mind and this shows in my day-to-day life. Obviously the majority of people in my life still do not, and never will know. Most of those who do know, do not know the full details. There is no need. It isn't important for my friends to know the details, anymore than you would expect to know about anybody's private sex life. The simple fact that they know and don't care is enough to change how I feel inside about it and that is what's important. Clearly from what I've read this hasn't been the same for everyone. I couldn't imagine what my life would be like if my best friend of over 20 years had suddenly rejected me, but ultimately I felt that I had to take that risk at some point. Never knowing would have been almost as bad IMHO. If I'd never told him, I'd always have assumed that he would not have accepted me for who I was and that our whole friendship was a lie. Even if that were true, at least in telling him that would have been confirmed - but luckily for me it was disproven .

Hehe. The first time I went to see a movie in a nappy that was my reaction; "Wow, this is great, I'm never doing this without one again" (and I haven't ) Not seen Avatar yet, guess I really should as everyone's been saying positive stuff about it

I was gonna get a pair of those, they're out of my size atm tho

I came across this not long after it was started in 2002 but I've never really seen it out there. This could be because I live in the UK. I saw it the other day as someones avatar on here and wondered if anyone has come across it in the "real world". This is the symbol in case any one isn't familiar with it: http://babypridestore.com/

I ordered some of these along with some Bambinos (both printed and plain white) a while back. They are slightly different, mainly the tape position and the filling, but apart from that they are pretty much the same. Since I made that order, Cuddlz appear to have stopped selling Bambinos - figure!

So far I'm inclined to agree - if my close friends have got my back, then I don't need to worry about what anyone else thinks. Gotta agree on that one - relationships are built on trust and honesty. Even if you do not expect or want your partner to participate, to keep something like this a secret could easily be interpreted as betrayal and end up being (even more) damaging to a relationship. Thanks for the advice, and Janis rules I quite agree, there are far too many "crazy" dl making exhibitions of themselves inapropriately out there. As for moving out, that is good advice but unfortunately I did that already when I was 15 after my mother passed away Independant is my middle name That's a real shame, I am quite surprised at your friends reaction especially as it's medical / car accident related. Most people are far more understanding than that. Maybe it showed what sort of friend they were in the first place (obv only you can decide on that).

When I was a kid I used to dread nappy advert coming on tv. I always used to feel really embarrassed. I would always blush and felt certain that everyone knew what I was thinking (I want those! )

@Depends1578 - I couldn't agree more, I guess I'm just musing whether the cons will eventually outweight the pros. The problem is that you can never know without taking that chance, and I have taken it, and hope not to regret it. @mischa - I'm sorry to hear that being out to your mother made things worse between you. This is the sort of thing that scares me, souring relationships which I depend upon. I couldn't imagine going through it with my parents (although I wish I'd had the chance). I hope you can get it sorted one way or another. Have you tried to talk to her about it? It's might be worth a try although I know some people just don't seem to respond to that.

It was supposed to be Dr Strangelove / Peter Sellars I guess it does look a bit Agent Smith

Hi Dodi, I assume you've got the 8-15yrs size ones. I've tried those, they only just fit me as they aren't designed for adult males and their packages They used to fit my gf perfectly as she's quite little, so they're awesome for role-playing. They still leaked even on her though so they're lousy for wetting.

Like most ABDLs I have had a lifelong fear of being "outed". That is until recently. When I was at Uni I ended up telling two people, pretty much by chance. The outcome of these events has changed my outlook on the whole thing. The first was my (then) gf; she took it well, didn't flip out or act disgusted although she refused to have anything to do with it. I was fine with this, I was just glad that she accepted it. I would previously have expected this to be a complete disaster. I would have thought that would be the end of our relationship and that all our mutual friends (which at the time was everyone I knew at Uni) would know about it. The second time was after my gf and I had split up. I told a female friend as part of a drunken bet. I knew this girl well and knew she was open minded enough to accept it, which she did. What I did not expect though was that this conversation actually led to a relationship, one which involved various forms of age play and nappies (Heaven!). Sadly this couldn't last due to circumstances in both our lives, but it was so worth it. Since then I have pretty much lost the fear, I no longer care really within reason). Obviously I don't go around shouting it from the rooftops, or even purposefully starting conversations about it, but if the subject happened to arise, I'd probably say (unless I knew someone would definitely react badly). This has also led to me telling my best friend. We've known each other since we were 2yo, my fascination with nappies started when I was about 3yo and yet I only told him last year. It is immensely liberating to let go of something you've kept a secret for over 20 years. However, I have read on here many horror stories of this sort of thing going wrong, or that liberating feeling fading like a novelty. I hope this doesn't happen, though I suspect one day I will say something to someone that I regret and think to myself "I should never have started this". Either way the truth is I cannot regret the fact that I have been able to truly open myself up to my closest friend and also had the pleasure of acting out my fantasies with a sexual partner. Given these benefits, would being completely "outed" be such a bad thing? NOTE: While I hope this inspires others, I understand that my experience is only due to my circumstances. I would advise anyone thinking of telling friends or family to be very careful. I am lucky to have some very open minded friends, but there are still some people I will never ever tell, such as my entire family!

I agree with Boby. Peeing little and often will shrink your bladder, but retraining is as simple as he has described. I've used nappies for retraining before, and very successfully

Thansk for all the Welcomes guys Repaid1 - I can't even remember the email address I used, let alone the login and password, so no chance of getting it back. It's cool though, I'm happy to start over with this log

Hi Everybody, Just wanted to say a quick "HELLO" here. I used to have an account years ago but forgot all my log in details I've just set up a new account, boy things have changed quite a bit round here!