Stashu

Being switchy is fun because you get to see exactly how it looks from the other side and make it more awesome for your partner. It also removes a lot of the "bad vibes" that can develop in a standard D/s relationship. You won't be a bad Dom because you know how it feels when things go sideways as a sub. And let's face it, even the best relationships have their moments. It's how we get through them that matters.

Now that I think about it, I did kind of stack the deck by dating more counterculture people. Come to think of it, every woman I've been with has been weird to some extent.

I will say that I've told 2 partners about my kinks and two have been receptive. I've told other people who are more casual and they've been hit and miss, but none ran away screaming, or outed me, or made fun of me. None of them had expressed interest before I told them, and both serious partners had baggage with wetting. One is incon and wears pads 24/7 now (after we broke up. It was getting worse as she got older). The other was abused for everything as a child.

I will agree with "talk to her" and add a caveat. Think long and hard before you suggest anything to her that she has not done with you the other way. E.g., if she doesn't take you out in public, you might want to avoid that the first time. If she lets you use the potty for pooping, you may want to extend the same courtesy to her.

I've seen 3. One 40 year old woman in a mall, one 30 something woman on the street with her mother (obviously wet, there was a sag), and my 70 year old neighbor.

CPR for the thread. I'm outside of Pittsburgh now. Let's us get together at eat n park or summat

The unisex pull ups with the tapes aren't terrible. You may need auxiliary tape to make them right enough in the legs.

Nobody's mentioned the "get the diapers and check out with the girl/guy with the most body mods" method yet? It's what I use, and I've gotten a few smiles/winks out of it. Seriously, they don't know your name unless you tell them, and why pass up an opportunity to meet open-minded people?

Tonight I decided to do something I don't do often. I woke up and felt the urge to go. I felt like putting a diaper on, but decided I'd have a few glasses of water. Then I let time and nature take its course. After a while, I started to feel quite desperate, then I felt a little twinge of pain. That was when I knew I had to do *something*. I put my coat on and went outside for some air. Just as I'd hoped, it got MUCH harder to retain control, and the slightest little drip escaped into my diaper. Then another . . . Now I was at the point where I had to use voluntary muscles to keep from wetting. They got tired, and a gush escaped. I stopped it again, and things didn't feel so urgent anymore. A few seconds later I realized that I was peeing again, this time without all the "urgent" feeling, but just letting go. I tried to stop and was able after a few seconds. I came inside and had a little more water, sat down on the computer, and began typing this post. Not feeling any urge now, but really full. Maybe I let enough out? Maybe I won't wet myself uncontrollably any more this morning? Check the weather as there were snowflakes in the sky . . . ok, nothing serious going to happen. Look at the clock, gotta leave for work in about an hour. OK Check the news . . . and all of the sudden it hits, the feeling is uncontrollable. Like a wave it comes up, and my body lets loose. I try to stop the flow, but any effort is met with spasms forcing more out. There's no stopping this now, and I know it. I let my diaper fill up. I have that nice warm squishy feeing now. My diaper is soaked. My bladder feels unstressed, but I know better than that. I get another wave but can stop it, and do so. When it seems like it's passed, I relax a bit, and the "non-urgent" peeing returns. I resign myself and let things flow.

Stateside, guys don't really have any alternatives either, unless you have a container in the car and a blanket. Just about anything else will get you arrested. I go for the diaper.

Been caught twice in public. First time was the first time I changed in public, when I had the UTI, when I was trying to put on a taped diaper for the first time. I was in the only stall, and a guy was waiting for it. Second time was today, when I'm certain the girl outside the unisex bathroom at the grocery store heard the tapes on my diaper. When I started the hand dryer she knocked on the door again, (at which point I left with wet hands, rather than leave someone with wet pants) and she didn't stare at me in the checkout line, so I'm guessing she was sympathetic.

I'll bring enough to share (8 for the trip, which is my stock of the tri-tapes right now). We both have the same size hips, and while she's a bit fuller in the backside, I don't think that'll be an issue. As far as going to the mall, I really have no problem with it, as long as the trip isn't so long that it causes my joints to ache. The younger daughter would be carried the whole time. She has to know that I have some motive for agreeing to goto the mall with her to look at a million things.

Most of all you've got to hide it from the kids ;-) So do you think that me wearing Saturday at the mall, when it's crowded as anything, and needing to use the bathroom once to her every four or so times will be looked at as flaunting it, or as convenient for all involved? Obviously I'll take care of the kids when she's waiting for/using the bathroom. I already told her that I'm willing to walk around the mall with her and look at stuff, to which she inquired about my mental state.

So the wife has no problem with me wearing for comfort, provided I'm not obnoxious about it by rubbing it in her face, and that I don't do it so often as to be unhealthy. She says she thinks it's a bit odd but she understands the concept. I really do enjoy wearing while out, given how inconspicuous it is. I'm thinking I'm going to wear when we go out shopping all together if we'll be gone for several hours, or if it's likely that I'll be watching the children while she goes off somewhere (kinda hard for me to watch 2 girls and use the mens room at the same time. I don't know how she does it, and she's got problems with control, whereas this is almost all fun for me). This happens about once a month for us. I'm perfectly content with this situation. As far as wearing at home, I'll do that sometimes too, mostly when I will be spending the day around the house working on stuff. If I'm wearing, it's one less distraction from what I'm trying to accomplish. Again, this is a once a month thing that I actually get a whole day to work on projects around the house. I don't plan on telling her, as I can "pretend to hide it" from her by not being obvious. I'm sure she'll figure it out sometimes. I hope she figures it out sometimes and is accepting of it. And she's the original one who told me that "nobody's going to notice that you're wearing a diaper unless they're familiar with them, and nobody is going to say anything to you".

Pullups are *very* discreet. I put one on today when I got out of the shower, made breakfast with the wife, did a bunch of other stuff around the house, went out to the post office and hardware store . . . changed a little while later My wife didn't even notice. If I were going out and not planning on peeing much, or not planning on being out long, I'd wear a pull-up and bring diapers. If I knew I was going on a long car ride or another demanding situation, I'd put the diaper on straight away.