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Australian I'm going to have to wait. They look terrific/amazing/awesome/thick/comfortable/fun and all

Only 2 stores (pharmacist + decent specialty store) I'm aware of have proper diapers at all in my town/city (really a town by today's standards 1.2 million is nothing much at all). Supermarkets sometimes stock tena pants and the like.

My suggestion is simply to hold as much as you (reasonably) can while still nappied and let some out when it gets too much. Kegel excersizes are also goo. Of course if you enjoy wearing 24/7 you might as well do it.

I've had 2-3 friends/acquaintances who I've seen with dummies/pacifiers and people don't seem to care. Actually it's odd because an odd friend who I now suspect of being AB had one and was acting strangely (she always does) with it. Regrettably I downplayed it trying to avoid the subject because there was no way to be sure and it would have been very awkward if she wasn't. Then again she was also one of the few girls I've considered getting involved with, so probably that was a wasted oppurtunity Although the stigma against this is strong, it is also a good thing people don't know about it. Even if there is a small bulge on your bum most people will not assosciate this with wearing one. I usually wear a coat and loose jeans/whatever (in winter anyway) so even something quite thick would probably just be taken for me having a big ass. People just don't think that way; it's a totally foreign concept to very many. In summer wearing is annoyingly hard here in 'Oz

My plan is to, at the right, calculated moment (no hard-and-fast rules on this) approach this in the most honest and tender way possible in either: 1) Clear and proper conversation one-on-one, probably at her place to make her feel it's on her terms. I will specify that I am coming specifically to tell her about it and that it's a big and potentially difficult topic (but also one potentially rewarding) and give her probably my toughest and hardest conversation ever, but without desperation or force, outlining everything and not stopping until I am satisfied everything is perfectly understood 2) IM conversation - just lacking in depth, prone to failure I believe but if I don't have the courage, might have to. Benefit of being a little less confrontational but generally considered perv-y and scary/odd. In rejection, let it go. Nothing was lost. Except time, but that's how life goes. You will always be better understood in a proper conversation on this and I strongly reccommend everyone do so. There have been countless posts on how to do this but as long as you think everything through first and really just be fully prepared for 'coming out' to her and any possible fallout. I like light and almost informal relationships anyhow - I would hate a clingy, demanding partner (although spending quality time together is great) - and so I plan to take things slowly and only after establishing clearly that it can work in the first place (seperating logic from those chemicals is a soul-wrenching thing to do but one of the only ways to be sure a relationship can last in the medium-long term). I suppose to give an indication I often come across cold and calculated but I always say what I mean and mean what I say and people who know me know I'm actually pretty soft and I expect would not leave me after being told how I am and what my expectations (quite minimal) are. Basically I expect them to let me wear under most circumstances, but with complete caution and safety (I take this very seriously and nobody has found out or can find out, as far as I'm convinced) and not to involve her at all beyond eventually considering trying them on in a non-sexual context (eg cuddling together, or some other likeable, ordinary thing) some months after telling her and talking about it in a friendly, clear way. The more I think about it the more confident I am that it can be done. I know a proper understanding can be reached if the situation is right. If not, well, another ~300 million where that came from

Disposables do seem to be inferior at night. I'd like to get cloth someday, especially if I choose to wear a lot. A good idea is to get a disposable slightly too large and fold the top over your 'equipment'. When doing this I think guys have a slight advantage over girls in wetting since (during the day) girls concentrate urine all at the middle and back which is much more likely to leak whereas guys can more easily use more of the pad - at night it is the same situation for either, really, even using that technique. Worth thinking about; it makes a difference. Of course both are greatly reduced by using stuffers - something everyone should consider if not wearing out. Baby diapers or cut pullups, or a smaller adult one (inferior and cheap, eg depends or tena) are all good suggestions - but more expensive and not really worth it, as people have said, especially if you don't get rashes cloths are superior. I wear at night, typically abri or molicare (few others are available or practical to get here) and considering my situation I'm glad I don't wet at night. If I choose to, I do so only if I have a slightly worn one (that should be used) and the time to enjoy it the next day and deal with it.

The new design looks great, possibly the best now. Thicker and more comfortable and easily one of the most absorbent (only competitor is molicare super xplus or possible tena super plus or secure xplus). I would try them but ordering is too risky in my case (they unfortunately don't ship outside the continental US and if they did getting caught is too much to risk on something like this).

20+ is absurd. Shower. Of course. I also suggest getting adult wipes if you can but they are tricky to find sometimes. Using clean parts of the diaper is also something I would suggest. Then you will need usually <10 baby wipes or only a few adult ones. Toilet paper is often okay to begin with, then finishing with a few wipes. Of course a quick shower takes care of all of this in only some 10-15 minutes (roughly the time you might take to change even with someone else's help) so I would very strongly suggest that if it is possible. The simple solution IMO is not to mess. Messing is pleasurable but just not worth the effort and is disgusting as far as most people are concerned.

She's obviously experimental anyhow, so my advice is simply to give it time. But my suggestion as usual is that if you spend a lot of time cuddling, cuddle non-sexually, both diapered and in the most comfortable way (bed, maybe sofa or something or just some ordinary but likable situation). This way you can both relax and get used to it in a non-sexual context first, which with time makes it easier to be comfortable with it in a way which isn't as objectionable. Talk about anything of this kind first, of course and politely, forthrightly and agreeably. Always a good place to start with someone not into it and if they are (tacitly) then it will speed things up a little (it always takes time even for people with the fetish - remember your own experiences, it isn't overnight or even after a year or two that you really become content with it. Have patience.) BTW urine is sterile to begin with... if it isn't you've got problems

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Best of luck to you and congratulations on finding someone who (at least) isn't too offended. Sounds like you're off to a good start, even if it's slow. Keep in mind how long it took you to reach the stage you're at in this (years and years) and that even after a year it will still be sort of a novel concept to some people. I plan to be just very slightly more insistent on trying to open up the possibility of my (hypothetical, future) girlfriend trying. Most people are not against the comfort factor once the initial shock eventually goes. Cuddling together trying to appeal to the comfort/relaxing factor rather than the (perceived) 'scary' sexual side is the way to go - and that would be great for both of you without pushing too hard (after breaking the ice and discussing it properly, of course). I can not see that being awkward when it is something you would probably do anyway (but now in the comfort of a powdered molicare super xplus!). I would suggest talking about this in that sort of context to begin with and let her know how much something simple like that, even for only 30 minutes, would mean to you but also to her in letting go of that awkwardness. Keep us posted

I'm a humble deist; I do not believe in any particular god or gods but fully support the idea of there being one. I'm not convinced we can know (how could we? It's simply above us). Regardless of our spiritual side we are all with you and hope you can find a way to resolve this. It is really terrible waiting until your late 30s or 40s to find 'the one' and worse still to find they'll break up with you over something that is pretty trivial (anything a good partner is into, pretty much anything at all, I would allow and most likely play along with... tension or conflict in bed is one of the worst things that can happen since, like it or not, it is critical). You're wearing a diaper? So what?!? Consider how she would feel if you hadn't told her at all. She probably wouldn't know yet at all. Then let her consider how she would react if it weren't sexual. Probably she would sympathise. Lastly, have her consider that as a fetish there is actually very little you can do about it and that provided you are keeping it sensible and moderate there is nothing to really worry about (I assume you aren't going incontinent - this is going too far but just wearing carefully during the day and to sleep is no big deal). In doing so you will keep things transparent and honest - and it will be viewed as such on her part as well. All you need to do is get her to accept, not engage. You can always agree to disagree on that and keep your fetish out of sexual activities. That's not so big - you will get what you want in sex (fundamentally), she will get what she wants and things can roll along. This should all be straight forward enough. Try to get her to realise how trivial really everything is in life and how absurd it would be to break up when you can (especially with time) reach an agreement that both of you can work with. Remember with time (talking in the ~5 year term here) it will become second nature, as well

My advice is to continue hiding them and not tell anyone unless they find out. Then tell them the truth. That's just common sense, to me.

I think this is a silly topic, but I agree having a strong fetish decreases the desire to cheat. There is some credibility to that. More than that though, it is our individual morality. I've only had two love interests in my life (neither of which actually got going to any meaningful extent) so I would be thrilled to even have a girlfriend - who would then be so important to me that it would take something very serious to split us up, I expect. Cheating is dishonest either way. If your relationship for any reason is not working you talk about it; you don't go throwing the whole thing out the window over some petty dispute or issue. If you can not make up your differences it is better to end it. Cheating will end badly for everyone, ultimately.

Never known it to snow here except for on my state's two highest mountains

Abena xplus right now but partial to molicare super-plus.

I did for an exam. Peed gradually answering a tough question. VERY unnerving doing that in total silence like that though, but I didn't make a single sound. I had drunk a lot and so my urine was dilute/didn't smell. I pretty much go into a total control-freak mode for exams. Not a hair out of line.

I honestly wonder about this. It seems the fetish is slowly permeating into public consciousness (at least with younger people). In time that might actually be put into question and statistically there are many fetishists compared to young incontinent people, as conditions are relatively rare while the fetish is gaining in popularity

My suggestion is simply not to marry. People can and do run off with your assets over some very trivial causes and it is truly terrible when children are involved too (remember the divorce rate is in the majority!). There are many reasons for all of this, but this isn't the place. I have several friends who are emotional wrecks from divorce trauma. TBH it even makes me a little angry this is what marriage and family have come to (and it is still getting worse) People get desperate towards their late 20s/early 30s when they begin to realize that if they want a partner and to raise a family that time is ticking fast! And so a lot of people make some rushed and regrettable relationship decisions. Relationships must be reciprocal and these days more often than not they are not. All I can really stress on this topic is honesty, tolerance and mutual behaviour (this is the hardest part these days). You generally know soon enough (<4 years) if something isn't right, either after the love chemicals stop or your tolerance runs dry, whichever comes first. Finding someone with the right common goals and views with the right personal chemistry is painfully hard (would you believe it? I have never had a remotely reliable girlfriend despite doing as much as I can! and I am a moderately outgoing sort of guy). It is a good idea to talk about sex approximately 6-9 months into a relationship (maybe less, depends). Any longer and it becomes more and more uncomfortable; any less and you will usually end up rushing things. It's usually good to talk about something like foot fetish or suchlike first to 'test the water' a little. Take it as slowly as you can and make sure you are both being absolutely honest on this. Getting her to wear one and simply laying down together for a cuddle a few times can take a lot of the toilet-trained-knee-jerk shock factor out of it. Similarly be ready to engage in something she likes in return (if any). I find that's the most reasonable sort of approach - denying each other sexually automatically spells an unpleasant relationship. For everybody in every case this is different, so of course know how to adapt things.

My spending habits are Spartan with the exceptions of my computer, clothes and education. I have little money even living with parents (for a few years to come still, this is okay) but enough to buy a pack from time to time. I can hardly complain but I know in future good adult diapers may become scarce with tougher economic times and various turmoil. Still, always live for today and contentedly.

I must admit to being fond of gin and rum, but nothing is quite the same as some good, ice-cold vodka either in drinking or urinary pleasures

I buy from a local incontinence/diaper specialty store. It's a while away away from where I live but well worth it. They have Molicares and by request would probably stock Abenas or Attends too.

Hello! First post for some months, forgot my old account Currently not wearing one, but yesterday wore a molicare super plus. So comfortable and surprisingly stealthy; absorbant.