To be honest I have long forgiven my poarents and we all have moved on in our lives, rpetenance and all that jazz. I don't hold things against them but alas yeah abuse messes you up, emotional more than anything. As for making people have diaper fetishes, I really don't know but it would be an interssting study.
I understand that it is hard for people to forgive abuse but holding onto the pain and anger will only hurt yourself. There's an old adage of let Go and Let God. Not so easy to do but it took me several years to let go but I'm glad I did. The pain still haunts yah sometimes though, especially when confronting failures and your childhood 'encourahement' comes to mind. I let it fuel me, persever, prove people worng and all that jazz.
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