Willow, I couldn't agree with you more. I personally came to these forums to learn how people live and react with others regarding diapers. It bothers me that some people are so caught up in the sexual aspect that is all they will focus on and not having a solid relationship or conversation. I have noticed this not just with diapers, but many other aspects of dating as well. I am happily engaged and my fiancé and I decided to take sex out of our relationship until marriage for a few reasons. We are religious and that does play part, even though we did when we first started dating, which brings me into my second part... I used to be (5-6 years ago) the same person that people are talking about in this thread wanting sex with my fetishes driving people away because of them. Respect others and good things will happen. I am not saying that the other person will have a desire for diapers but something really good may come out of it. If they want to participate great...who knows they may end up liking it, but if not, just respect the person for who they are and don't try to change them (no pun intended) If meeting another DL, don't just assume sex, sex, sex... Many wear diapers without any ounce of sexual pleasure involved...more for comfort and security. It all comes down to respecting others and putting personal urges or desires aside.