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An incontinence on/off switch might become an option in the future, if this product gets approved: https://www.reliefsrl.com/#product A simple use of a magnet to open/close the valve to be continent/incontinent. And my guess is, it would require "maintenance" every 2 years, with a simple procedure through the urethra to remove and insert a new. But it will never give you the same feeling as being incontinent for real. You choose to make the diaper wet, like you do when you actively empty your bladder. So I bet it feels a lot "same-same, but different" But at least it might give you more sleep at night as the bladder will not wake you up when its full.

The worst parts I feel: 1. Traveling. Going for a 2-3 weeks holiday by plane, requires a full suitcase extra just for diapers. Its expensive and annoying, and have altered the way I do vacations. I now drive by car/caravan, instead of flying. 2. Disposing used diapers, when not home. (workplace, friends, family visits, vacation) 3. This is more on the "lifestyle of a DL" issue, and not a lifestyle of an incontinent: I had no interest in trying to save my marriage, due to the way she "discouraged" me to use diapers. I did nothing to try and save it, and my reasons was purely because I looked forward to going back to diapers on a daily basis. She knew I was DL, as I told her when I had known her for 1 month. I knew I could not suppress my feelings for diapers. So it was a disaster waiting to happen. - I held out for 8 years with only sporadic diaper use. That's the experience I have, after 4 years of 24/7, where I now have 2-3 wet nights a week, and cant handle daytime for more than 30 minutes, without diapers.

My experience with that is: Don't write it directly in your profile. But tell before or on the first date. Consider writing a hint in the profile to make it easier to open up about. I had something like this written in my profile: "I accept people for who they are and prefer people to be honest with everything from the beginning. Physical or hidden disabilities don't scare me. Humans are package deals and nobody is perfect." It worked for me, and I've been in a relationship for 8 months now 🙂

I envy you, Reddy And I fully understand you. I am very seriously considering the surgery as well. My own biggest worries are: 1. Side effects, especially the approx.. 10% risk of getting ED. 2. I have type 2 diabetes, and combined with this surgery, kidneys are double-exposed to issues. 3. I get another injury that combined with this, makes diapered life horrible. (Think: loosing an arm, so you cant do diaper changes yourself) 4. My mind. I would be at the end of the road of a journey that lasted 40+ years. Its taken up a lot of space in my mind for so long. What will be next? I've been wanting to use diapers since I was 4. Always looking for a reason for it. Always hiding it. I've had my own suicide planned when I was a teenager. A plan I would execute if my DL interest was ever discovered. When I in the late 1990'ies found others with AB/DL interest and realized I was far from alone, those plans got scrapped. When I moved to my own place at age 21, I started using diapers pretty much every night, and every weekend. But never at work, or near friends/family. Right up to my marriage, that stopped my diaper usage almost completely. (She never supported it) When I got divorced 4 years ago, my ex' started threating about telling everyone about my DL interest. So I suddenly became "real incontinent", with everyone knowing about it, and started using 24/7. The second-best thing that happened in my life (Getting a son being the best): Being "forced" into diapers very suddenly and not having to hide it. Something similar to what you will soon experience, Reddy. And I promise you: You will cope. And You will love it. Its not "that big a deal" to go diaper dependent overnight. I bet most people who wears diapers (for real reasons) start using them pretty suddenly. At least you have time to mentally prepare. So good luck, and enjoy the journey. I look forward to your story post-op. Especially about how #4 on my list hits your mind. /D

Is the 25.000 USD for both bowel and urine incontinence? Did you get prices individually? (I'm only interested in the urine part) Touching and removing some of the prostate is risky regarding sperm quality and ED. Did you consider those factors? I strongly suggest you freeze some sperm before the operation, in case you ever want kids in the future, unless you already have multiple kids. Or at the very least do some serious soul searching on what is important in life and what you want to accomplish in your life, and are very very sure you'll never want kids in the future. Its too late when some of the prostate is removed, and your sperm quality suddenly is degraded to useless. (The diapers themselves also does their part, keeping the testicles too warm permanently) /D

I'm very serious to be honest. I've been a DL all my life. My first memories of diaper loving feelings goes back to when I was 4. I'm in my forties now. The last 4 years I've been diapered 24/7. And I love it so much that I'm never going back. Everyone that knows me thinks I'm incontinent the last 4 years after "an accident". Including my doctor, my mom, my girlfriend and my child. I want a safe option. The self-made stents is not for me. I looked at the professional stents, as I thought they were very safe. What is the problem with them? The surgery. Can you give a description of what was done? Sphincter muscle and prostate altered? Was local anesthesia used, or something stronger? Where was it done? Mexico? Also thanks for the replies everyone. /D

I'm thinking alot about getting a Memokath or similar stent inserted by a professional to create a permanent, but reversable incontinence. (that might needs replacement every few years) Thinking about the one mentioned in the big "stent thread" - https://pnnmedical.com/memokath/memokathtm-045-urethra/ Have anyone ever done something like that? Are doctors willing to do it? I'm "officially" fully incontinent because of an accident. So my medical journal does not exactly fit in with getting one inserted, so I'm considering doing it abroad, maybe as "medical turism" out of country. But it might get expensive, and a problem if the stent starts migrating! Anyone have any experience with this, or some of the same thoughts?