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Breeze1
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11 hours ago, Little Sherri said:
It's a tough situation to navigate, for sure. If it becomes intractable, you may have to decide if your ABDL side is more important to you than the relationship, just as she has to make the same decision, more or less - does her rejection of that side of you eclipse the value of the relationship as a whole? If this is the most important factor to her, then the relationship may be doomed, and that's not necessarily a bad thing, because if she's willing to sacrifice everything on this altar, then ultimately, she's telling you by her actions that she wants complete control over her partner, and if her partner isn't willing to submit to her vision of how they should live, then she's not going to stay invested in them. That's actually good information to have, because then you can evaluate if you are willing to have aspects of your personality subsumed by the relationship, or not. There is no "right" answer to that question, and only you can answer it for yourself. I'd just suggest that you don't "live a lie" for too long - don't pretend you're okay with it, if you're not, while quietly suffering, because that will become a cancer to the relationship eventually. In my opinion, you might as well rip that bandage off quickly, and move on.
On the other hand, if this person shows any willingness to work with you, then that should be embraced and cultivated, and nurtured - and the nurturing means working with her, both to define boundaries that are acceptable to both of you, and, critically, to make sure that you indulge whatever is important to her, so that she feels cared for and valued as well. You've indicated that she doesn't have any passions that rival yours in intensity, but, there must be things that bring her joy or satisfaction or relaxation. Maybe she doesn't have a hobby or a fetish, but, whatever it is she wants to do with her downtime - be it reading, watching movies, knitting ferret costumes, growing cacti, baking, whatever it may be, make sure you make space for it in your shared world, would be my advice. If she feels like she's valued and accommodated, she'll be less likely to get irritated by the fact that boxes of diapers are taking up space in the closet or whatever.
You also need to set reasonable expectations for what someone who's not "into" the ABDL thing would likely be willing to accept. You may not reach the point where you have a nursery set up in the spare bedroom and you wear rompers all day, everyday, but, maybe you can quietly wear diapers most of the time, and on special occasions, get to completely indulge your little side. Just as, if your "thing" was Civil War reenactments, you wouldn't likely dress in uniform and carry a musket everyday.
I see. This person is very willing to work with me which I’m thankful for I just need to know the right way to go about it. I think i should focus more of my time to making her happy and satisfied with me as a bf and just ensuring her needs are fulfilled. I’m not perfect so there’s always room to do better.
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5 hours ago, feralfreak said:
she seems like she isnt fully into diapers, what does she have that you arent fully into? if you want her to get more into your interest, you need to show interest in whatever it is for her that diapers are for you.
There’s nothing she is into that I am not. I don’t think she has anything for her like I have diapers for myself.
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Just need some advice on being able to make diapers a more normal thing between me and my gf. It doesn’t make her uncomfortable but we are certainly not at a “comfortable” point regarding diapers. We don’t talk about them often but I want to be able to wear more often and have my gf be comfortable with that. We’ve established that we need to talk more but I have failed to do so as I don’t really know where to start. Open to all advice. Thanks.
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Only my gf knows and we only discuss it when need be. Don’t see much reason to attempt incorporating it into the daily small talk, unless you’re trying to build a level of comfort and or familiarity with diapers.
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1 hour ago, Dee Cee said:
For me it isn’t sexual , not at all ! And if you put a gun to my head , I couldn’t tell you why , and that’s no shit !
Well I wouldn’t expect it to be sexual for everyone. It’s prolly just doesn’t fit your sexual interests...nothing wrong with that.
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1 hour ago, Cute_Kitten said:
Some social groups say clothes know no gender. Don't feel ashamed for liking something just because it's traditionally "girly" or associated with females. It's not hurting anyone and it's not illegal (though that does vary depending upon your country of residence). Boys can wear pink and have tea parties if they want to. Those are outdated gender/ social norms IMO. If you like the aesthetic, go for it! Rock it and do you. If you're worried about your gf/ friends etc you can start off in private so you're in a judgement free zone. You can give yourself some time- you don't have to rush to tell anyone else, so take your time until you come to understand and feel comfortable with it. Then when you're ready you can tell others, who may have questions etc you'll be more confident answering when you accept it/ understand it better for yourself.
I agree but I think it’ll take awhile to kill the shame completely.
2 hours ago, Snugglebear_69 said:There is a very big difference between gender identity, who you are, and gender expression. Being a male and man (I assume based on what you wrote) you can still have a desire for a more feminine gender expression without it having anything to do with your gender identity. Look up the terms and get to know the distinction and thst may help explaining things to your girlfriend.
For example a tomboy is a female, woman with a more masculine gender expression, they don't desire to be a man. Same but in reverse for a femboy. Also concepts you may wish to look up and understand.
Thanks for the advice we had a nice long talk and I’m not sure if we made any progress or not but I think we both feel better.
51 minutes ago, ~Brian~ said:@Cute_Kitten is correct! Guys can wear pink very well, purple very well, and other colors. Just because something is pink or purple or looks like something a girl would wear, that doesn't necessarily mean that a guy can't wear it . She says the truth when she says that these are old norms that have gone by the wayside as far as I'm concerned .
for your information: I have several pairs of trifecta diaper covers: about 14 of these our pink ones, 14 of them are blue ones, five of them are white, and several of them are blue. I would follow her advice. I don't think masculinity has anything to do with the colors you wear, because there are a lot of strong men around here that wear differing colors, and it makes them look good. She says that guys can rock pink as well as anybody else, so I wouldn't worry about weather a color is girlier not, because any color can be done correctly and rocked if done right.
I would also probably tell your girlfriend not to worry: there are plenty of guys out there that probably sneak into their significant others underwear drawer, and probably there isn't a guy alive that hasn't tried their girlfriend's panties or maybe they like pantyhose or silk or something else, and they might even like a pretty dress. Just like there probably isn't a person around that hasn't tried a diaper every once in a while in secret, and liked it. There are a lot of things in life that are a little more risque, trying on women's clothing is not considered risque, and some people like it, but that doesn't necessarily make you any less a man than you are.
If guys can wear jeans or T-shirts,girls can wear the same thing . If guys wear girls clothing it is not illegal, so don't worry about that . This would be an opportunity to show your girlfriend that you can wear pink and other girly colors , and show her that you can look handsome in those colors. If I can wear pink trifectas over my pink diapers, you can wear pink or purple , and experiment with the girl's clothing, you just have to make sure that your girlfriend is OK with it. It might take her a little bit of time to warm up to the idea, but it doesn't make you any less a man if you like pink purple or other color dot was formally associated with the ladies .
good luck!
Brian
I know I’m not hurting anybody but I worry that I’m hurting my gf. I don’t want to make her feel like I’m just gonna do what I want all the time, but on another hand do I just deny my interests and forget them??
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1 hour ago, Rachael-Little said:
So maybe being a little more girly while in a diaper will help you get into little space,
I know for me I very much prefer being a girl, and well I am gender fluid so that is prob why but without a doubt baby girls are cute in their pink frilly dresses and outfits
I just find the aesthetic so pleasing…
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So as of late I’ve tried my first diaper and it was amazing, but I’ve been looking around online and I’m finding myself to be more and more attracted to frilly, pink, cute and soft things. Now by no means am I a sissy(I’m a diaper lover), but when it comes to my diaper play I feel like I want everything to be cute and pink. I’ve looked at diapers, diaper covers, cloth diapers, dresses and everything (not that I would go as far as to wear a dress) and anytime I see it… I want it badly!! Now as you can imagine this hasn’t been entirely easy for my gf but we haven’t really talked about it. I just don’t know what to tell her to help her understand why I’m feeling the way I do. I’m not gay nor do I want to feel like or be a female or even a sissy for that matter, but pink, girly, cute things… yes please!! But how do I explain it to a gf that’s afraid to see me without my masculinity…please help.
PS: I don’t mean to shame sissies or gays in any way, power to you all!!Thanks
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I’ve been with my gf for almost 3 and a half years and we just diapered up with each other for the first time about two days ago. I think it being my first time I was nervous, but no part of my nervousness comes from the fact that she is there. She partakes in my wetting activities (not messing) which I understand so we can at least find common ground as far as willingly wearing diapers, although she isn’t a “diaper lover” like me. All in all I think having somebody there that you love and loves you can make the experience a lot more fun!!
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On 9/21/2022 at 4:43 AM, DiaperLover77 said:
The more you mess, better is the feeling.
Messing your diaper severals time is not an issue, but the time yes.
Some people has a more sensitive skin than other one. We are all unique.
For exemple I like to wear my diaper more than 30 hours. It's extrem but I never had a single issue with my skin.
Double diaper
Double booster
Plastic pant
and a big enema+psyllium
Here you will mess your diaper more than one time. And the feeling is incredible.
I look forward to it ?
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On 9/26/2022 at 3:49 PM, IminWetPampers said:
Hope you don’t mind me chiming in here. I’d just like to welcome you to diapers and to answer your question about diapers with higher absorbency being floodable, yes it’s true. I’m a very heavy wetter and I find that most (if not all of the ABDL diapers) can withstand flooding, as that’s my favorite form of wetting I do it frequently (but then again I don’t mind a leaky diaper either). But either way, enjoy your new diapers and happy wettings to you.
Thanks!! That’s good to hear, especially considering that I plan on buying abdl diapers to use at some point but I’m currently prioritizing other things.
On 9/26/2022 at 3:57 PM, olympus said:Regarding the flooding, that is one thing you just have to experiment with. It actually all "depends" (no pun intended) on the way a diaper is made. You kind of need to determine for yourself which diapers work best for it.
It seems like most things to do with diapers are subjective to the situation in which they’re being used. So many variables constantly changing… ??
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8 hours ago, feralfreak said:
i dont know if messing is your thing(personally i cant stand it) but if you do that, make sure you change immediately
We’ll I guess I don’t know for sure yet but I’d always assumed it’d be.
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8 minutes ago, feralfreak said:
i dont know about all diapers, but i like to operate on the thought that "if you have to ask, you've answered your question", best not to flood it unless you have a bedpad under you or you are in a tub so its all contained if it leaks, and dont stay in it too long when its wet, more than a few hours you better change it, you could get a rash.
Okay man I appreciate the info, thanks!!
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30 minutes ago, feralfreak said:
this may be difficult, but try to not get,,,, "arroused" when you go to put one on, because you should be able to point your,,,,, member down so it lets the urine go where its suppose to, but if you cant no big deal, just tuck the waist band down to help with containment, and dont flood it, dont go like you do when you stand at a toilet, just let out squirts at a time until you get a feel for wetting it, and dont try to stretch the material, just pull it and wrap, make sure the bottom tapes are pointed slightly up and the top tapes are pointed slightly down.
Thanks a bunch!! Do all diapers require you to wet in small intervals to avoid it flooding or leaking out? Or do diapers with more absorbency wick away the urine fast enough for you to go as you would standing at a toilet?
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After being an inexperienced DL for over a year I’ve finally ordered my first ever pack of diapers!! Some Abena Abri-forms and I’m more than excited to actually try them. If anybody has any advice or tips(or really anything)for a noob feel free to let me know. ??
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Couldn’t agree more. Nothing beats the sight of a diaper used past it’s capacity.
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23 hours ago, id0ntknow said:
I have recently been having a weird issue with the alarm on my phone. I have it set to wake me up, only to not hear it at all causing me to oversleep. One time this caused me to be late to work, and today it made me late to go help dad with something. I look at my phone when I do get up, and I don't see anything about "Missed alarm" or something similar. It's almost like the alarms are shutting themselves off on their own. I've even set 3 alarms for 5-10 minutes apart, and not heard any of them.
Me and my gf have the same problem. I’m not sure if we’re simply not hearing the alarms or not but this usually doesn’t happen to us until recently. We have had alarms set to go off in the morning for our regular time to work but slept right past them after over a year now of waking up at the same time 5 mornings a week. Sometimes when this happens the alarms are still set as if the time for the alarm hasn’t passed yet.
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13 hours ago, feralfreak said:
martial arts would also be good for an example, "its the artist, not the art"
It’s the player not the game ?
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A blades worth isn’t determined by how sharp the blade, but how skilled the swordsman. Diapers are good, some people make it bad for themselves. Can be perceived as either bad or good depending on the person “wielding” them.
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On 12/13/2021 at 11:51 AM, AbabeBill said:
Ya think someone could come up with a diaper, that could counter hot stuff!!! ? Like if it have an antacid layer built into it. Maybe they could be marketed as, “Bottom Tums” diapers??? ? ???
Huge missed opportunity for you to say “Bums”
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I’d assume most people here are both, but I feel the sexual gratification you get is just a package deal with the comfort. More-so a comfort than a sexual thing for me personally.
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Me personally I’m not an AB or little in any way (no shame to anyone) but I’ve always thought that it was simply easier to be in a diaper. You don’t have to get up and walk to the bathroom and you can simply go about your day. And also who doesn’t love the feeling of a diaper ?
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5 hours ago, Spanky said:
Multiple messings are totally fine. They feel incredible. The messier my diaper, the better. The biggest problem with multiple messes would be a messy leak that could ruin clothing or furniture.
As far as UTI's, yes, it's something to be concerned about, but I have never had one.
The problem is worse for females, I think. The male nut sack acts like a diaper dam, if you will, that usually keeps the poop towards the back of the diaper. At least my diaper. I really have to have a huge, soft load in my diaper for the poop to squish up to the front of my diaper.
Unless you're on a bouncy horse, or a dirt bike or a bicycle with a banana seat, it's actually pretty hard to get poop up to the front of the diaper.
When it does happen, though, it's an absolutely amazing experience. A little massage of the front of your diaper and you will have a poogasim. I change soon after that, though.
Drinking plenty of fluids will flush out your urethra and you shouldn't have an issue.
Yeah that makes sense id think it’d be pretty hard for your mess to slither past your nuts. Everyone seems to agree that having your mess up front is worth the risk. I’ve always wanted to try it.
3 hours ago, christi said:UTI is definitely worth considering but I'm ummnn... A fan of messy so tend to squirm and squish a lot. I don't wear very often and haven't had a UTI but that doesn't mean it can't happen. It's my understanding boys are a lot less prone to get a UTI due to the length of the urethra. A boy can put on a condom if seriously worried about it. Girls... I think you're kind of out of luck on this one as I have no idea how you could protect that little opening, and sadly, you need it more than the guys do.
I don’t think I’d be doing it all the time but I definitely want to experience it. Also a huge fan of messing (more than wetting) so I want to figure out the most effective way to enjoy everything.
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6 hours ago, Moochie said:
Not guaranteed, more at risk. If a UTI, however, goes untreated, sepsis could develop which can be life threatening, I think about 50% mortality depending on other risk factors.
Well that sounds scary so I think I’d stick to just keeping the junk in the trunk.
Poop up front
in Stinky, Squishy & Proud
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How do people go about getting their mess to the front of their diaper? I know it’s easier for women than it is for men, as we have testicles creating a barrier. Anyone have any methods or advice?