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I'll agree that everyone wants to see an underdog succeed in the end and get their happy ending, but if that happens too quick then that just ends the story. E.g. if the protagonist in a horror film kills (or otherwise stops) the villain in the first 10 minutes, they saved themselves a lot of misery which is great irl but absolutely boring for a story.

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Definitely a primary consideration.  In most relationships, having a secret, other relationship is lighting the fuse for an eventual explosion, and one that will occur, most likely, at an inopportune time and place. My advice would be, if the relationship with your wife is worth protecting, then don't do this. If the value of the "diaper dalliance" opportunity outweighs the value of your marriage, then, end one before starting the other. That's the most respectful approach you can take, and, you also get to choose the time and place for a "controlled detonation", rather than throwing fuel and air into a compression chamber and waiting for a spark to come someday - because it will come.  Also, picture this scenario in your mind's eye: you cheat on your spouse with the diaper lady, who says upfront that she just wants a fun, on-the-side thing, but then her feelings change and maybe she's in love with you, or maybe she wants money, or maybe she's just malicious, or maybe her ex is crazy, or her sister is a troublemaker - who knows. Anyway, at some point someone notifies your wife, and now you have a very pissed off wife who also has within her possession some very weaponizable information - that not only have you cheated on her, but, you were wearing a diaper and snap-crotch short-alls while you did it (for example). It's best to either try and work this into your relationship with your wife, or, go find someone to share this side of yourself with, after respectfully discharging your obligations to your wife. And probably not this person, because, as @Snugglebear_69has pointed out, relational fealty is evidently not a priority for her, so be prepared to be cheated on, at some point in the future, if a closed relationship is what you're after. 

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