well babylexi ive lost two wonderful people whom i thought would be ok with this and they werent,and let me tell you that hurt like hell,so do i keep getting hurt until i find some1 whos into this,and what about the two women who were involved they were hurt also,i think it probably affected them worse,to have there big strong boyfriend who was into this,and no i didnt mean to offend the incontinent people here,i dont even know were i offended them??.............its just my opinion and everybody is made different....,it has effected my personal life and probably 99 percent of people here also,it cant but effect relationships and personal lives thats just the nature of it.diapers are not totally responsible but they have a contributing factor here,and for you to say that diapers have nothing to do with goes to show how young and naive you are,you have a medical condition and i dont,so which of us is ok to wear diapers,in a normal person view of things,im a weirdo and its perfectly fine for you.......im sorry that your incontinent by the way............