[diaperguy68]

I work full time and would like to add what is missing in my life... a mommy.

if i lived in canada i would be at abdl montreal nursery every friday or saturday night.

how can us lonely ab/dls have a mommy without paying an escort $200/hr? i know many of you will reply to this and say get a girlfriend, date, meeting ppl etc. but lets just say that i've been trying to do this for several years now with no luck.

[messyman]

CraigsList

[diaperguy68]

I tried there but the escorts seem to charge about this price.. i'd rather pay lower and have an on going type relationship

[sarah_ab]

lets not call it a relationship, lets call it a contract, thats what it is. Or at the very least a business deal, you want to pay a woman very little to cater to your needs which are very unusual. If you want top quality care, you are going to have to pay top dollar.

Not sure what else to tell you except put up ads on diaperspace, diapermates alt, fetlife etc... saying what you are looking for. but for the love of god don't outright say you are willing to pay, as in many states and countries it is illegal to pay for sex and all of these sites are 18 and older and therefore imply adult/sex etc...

[Vic]

There are proffesional dominatrixes out there, and no it isn't prostitution as long as sex is not included. Many of them advertise in the BDSM community, and to many of them diaper play is just an offshoot from the BDSM community. You might want to look there. Expect to pay handsomly for this service though, as they don't come cheap.

Peace,
Vic

[belinda_sue_fox]

Line linety line, you pee longggggggggggggggggg time.

[Vic]

belinda_sue_fox, on 08 November 2009 - 07:47 AM, said:

Line linety line, you pee longggggggggggggggggg time.

Change for a hundred?

Peace,
Vic ....Stop me before I jest again!

[JeiSiN]

There are MORE guys/girls who have find the ABDL/Mommy love of their life by dating normally. All of the only communities scare away many decent people (its not you, its me hahahaha)


Step by Step Trial-and-Error Guide (those who cannot get to #1 have problems beyond the fetish, but you gotta start somewhere):

1. Get Girlfriend/Boyfriend.
2. Treat her/him wicked-awesome.
3. Utilize a balance of masculinity and cuteness.
4. Have *smart* conversations about the concept of fetishes and how common they are, citing examples of things you have randomly read online, friends, ex girlfriends/boyfriends, etc. Talk about vanilla fetishes to the most extreme (eg. Handcuffs --> being electrocuted in a bunny suit)
5. If she inquires, don't give in easily. Don't deny it, but don't let her think its something big. Kinda brush it off and say you'll tell her when you are ready. This will spark her interest hopefully instead of weirding her out. When prepared for weird, it won't be so weird.
5. Give *smart* subtle hints over time if you want. Or just come out with it at an appropriate time when you can explain yourself. You have to understand that you are a victim of the fetish and also the master of it. It is a burden and a gift, and explain it to her as such. Its a love hate relationship for a lot of people.

The next steps can vary. What could happen. If she breaks up with you, you have either explained it horribly and weirded her out for not being smart enough to explain your desires in a respectful manner, or she is a dumb bitch and you don't need that. When I hear stories of older dudes who hid this from their wife for years, it sounds like a horrible way to live life. Divorce is likely cause you keep it in for so long. When I told my girlfriend after 6 months, she was 1. Relieved I wasn't going to tell her I've been cheating on her and 2. Pissed that I kept it from her so long ---> but a KEY is to explain why you haven't told her or what its so hard on you. Use your real life examples growing up; feeling alienated from society, worried that no one could ever understand it. Once again, we are victims and masters.
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Easier said than done? Yes, definitely. Maybe I'm just lucky? I don't know. But it is a good process to attempt. Its a long shot for those who have never had a real relationship, and there's a ladder to climb to feel confident enough about yourself to go after some women.

I don't appreciate the "OOOOH POOR ME!" Approach many of us take, but I think its part of the psychological affect that the desire to be a baby comes from. We are babies, so we SHOULD HAVE MOMMY! Get in shape, get smart and go play the date-lottery. the Jackpot isn't as hard to find as you'd think, and its a fun journey going through it (Note: telling a girl within 2 weeks of dating her and having her tell all of her friends when I was in high school was a good lesson, don't you go and fuck that up! 6 months might be too long. Be the judge.)

If she peaces you out, go find a cuter and better girl. I believe that it can be unlocked in girls, and there are MANY who have yet to have someone to 'unlock the treasure chest' (of diapers, bottles, pacifiers, and more).

Woo Hoo. I've left out various things because I was back and forth on this. I reckon its good enough to post. PLEASE DEBATE THIS WITH ME, but cite some real life examples.